FabSwingers.com forum: Do you like it here?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I like fab mainly because of the forum banter but i think it would be best if we left would you miss me if I left

Mrscxxx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I would

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

i wouldn't because i dont know you... but if i did im sure i would

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I like it here, I never leave

No I wouldn’t miss you

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it here. Enjoy adding my bit to the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?"

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx "

Then yes, I’d leave.

I’d personally never risk my relationship over a swinging website x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx "

To me it is a no brainer. If you value your marriage, log off here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x"

Yes that’s what I would miss more than anything else but is it really worth running our relationship running what little I have left I love this man with my heart and my soul and the fact I hurt him kills me

Mrscxxx

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

If you both want different things and can't find a way to meet in the middle I'd leave

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx "

So if you left would you then both want the same things?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx "

No. Nothing is worth losing that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx "

Do what's best for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The banter I feel is going down hill my personal view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The banter I feel is going down hill my personal view "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx "

No, forums are not worth ruining a relationship over. You’d be crazy to even consider it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a no brainer. Press those UNLOS buttons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx

So if you left would you then both want the same things?"

Probably not it wouldn’t change it really I think I may ask if I can keep it just for the forums. Because I Love the forums

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx

So if you left would you then both want the same things?

Probably not it wouldn’t change it really I think I may ask if I can keep it just for the forums. Because I Love the forums

Mrscxxx "

Block everyone from messaging you and change your age filters from 98 to 99 like i have if you just want to be here for the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Once agen thanks all

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx "

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx

So if you left would you then both want the same things?

Probably not it wouldn’t change it really I think I may ask if I can keep it just for the forums. Because I Love the forums

Mrscxxx

Block everyone from messaging you and change your age filters from 98 to 99 like i have if you just want to be here for the forums

Didn’t realise you could do that but does it include the ones you all ready have a conversation with

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some crap times, but some fucking amazing ones too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx

So if you left would you then both want the same things?

Probably not it wouldn’t change it really I think I may ask if I can keep it just for the forums. Because I Love the forums

Mrscxxx

Block everyone from messaging you and change your age filters from 98 to 99 like i have if you just want to be here for the forums

Didn’t realise you could do that but does it include the ones you all ready have a conversation with

Mrscxxx "

Ah no it doesn’t include friends and people you have replied to previously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

As Nora said, could you change your filters and show your partner that you are here only for the forums then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx

So if you left would you then both want the same things?

Probably not it wouldn’t change it really I think I may ask if I can keep it just for the forums. Because I Love the forums

Mrscxxx

Block everyone from messaging you and change your age filters from 98 to 99 like i have if you just want to be here for the forums

Didn’t realise you could do that but does it include the ones you all ready have a conversation with

Mrscxxx

Ah no it doesn’t include friends and people you have replied to previously. "

But that works for me. It may not for you. Or you could delete this profile and set up another then set filters. Nobody can message you then but you can message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spit it out OP, what is the problem?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

So you’re not here purely for the forums then? #suspicion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you feel it would be best to leave?

Causing to many arguments. We both want different things and I most definitely don’t want to loose him

Mrscxxx

So if you left would you then both want the same things?

Probably not it wouldn’t change it really I think I may ask if I can keep it just for the forums. Because I Love the forums

Mrscxxx "

What wouldn’t change?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to me that the choice is staying on line talking to people you don't actually know or making your relationship with a guy you profess to love work? The choice is yours to make and whatever you go with do it wholeheartedly because if you don't hen it won't be worthwhile. Can you talk to a friend or family member about any decision?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

So you’re not here purely for the forums then? #suspicion"

I think she meant the issue isn’t with the forums but something else. Therefore staying for the forums would be fine. That’s how I interpreted it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like bants and lols

And yes a would notice if you left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it here for the forums and yes I’d miss you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like it here for the forums and yes I’d miss you

I don’t know them so can’t say I would but yeah I like the forums (sometimes!!)

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Anyone who contributes to the banter on the forums will be missed. The nit-pickers, we all wish they would go. But I wouldn't compromise a relationship over a bit of banter.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Reading between the lines you both want different things?Only you can decide which is more important to you, the swinging or the relationship.

If you gave up swinging would you be happy not to express your true self, or would regret and resentment take hold?

Is the issue over swinging just one element of bigger issues in your relationship?

Changing your behaviours to keep someone else happy (rather than because you both want to change) very rarely works in my experience.

Good luck whatever you decide to do.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

So you’re not here purely for the forums then? #suspicion

I think she meant the issue isn’t with the forums but something else. Therefore staying for the forums would be fine. That’s how I interpreted it anyway. "

I’m confused as she asked if existing friends could message if she changes the age range from 98 to 99 so maybe there is an issue with a ‘friend’ on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd sooner you had somewhere to express yourself

You sound like a lost soul at times

A marriage can be a lonely and exasperating place if you have nowhere to be you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like it here for the forums and yes I’d miss you

I don’t know them so can’t say I would but yeah I like the forums (sometimes!!)

I’d miss you

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I like fab mainly because of the forum banter but i think it would be best if we left would you miss me if I left

Mrscxxx "

I think fab can only be good for a couple if both are into it , and both agree that what happens won’t affect their relationship in any way other than to enhance it .

Clearly there are issues with you guys other than just the forum banter . And staying on the site when the cause of the arguments between you is still going to be there is not a good idea at all .

Leave the site , have a chat about whether you could have a new account just for the forums , and apply the settings someone else recommended . Don’t pm anyone and don’t answer any messages with the new account .

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

So you’re not here purely for the forums then? #suspicion

I think she meant the issue isn’t with the forums but something else. Therefore staying for the forums would be fine. That’s how I interpreted it anyway.

I’m confused as she asked if existing friends could message if she changes the age range from 98 to 99 so maybe there is an issue with a ‘friend’ on here? "

Ah I see. I think she just wants to use the forums and have no messages at all.

Oh I dunno lol. Pass me another gin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

So you’re not here purely for the forums then? #suspicion

I think she meant the issue isn’t with the forums but something else. Therefore staying for the forums would be fine. That’s how I interpreted it anyway.

I’m confused as she asked if existing friends could message if she changes the age range from 98 to 99 so maybe there is an issue with a ‘friend’ on here?

Ah I see. I think she just wants to use the forums and have no messages at all.

Oh I dunno lol. Pass me another gin

Easter egg with that my lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd sooner you had somewhere to express yourself

You sound like a lost soul at times

A marriage can be a lonely and exasperating place if you have nowhere to be you"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

So you’re not here purely for the forums then? #suspicion

I think she meant the issue isn’t with the forums but something else. Therefore staying for the forums would be fine. That’s how I interpreted it anyway.

I’m confused as she asked if existing friends could message if she changes the age range from 98 to 99 so maybe there is an issue with a ‘friend’ on here?

Ah I see. I think she just wants to use the forums and have no messages at all.

Oh I dunno lol. Pass me another gin

Is it Parma violet gin that’s bloody lush

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd sooner you had somewhere to express yourself

You sound like a lost soul at times

A marriage can be a lonely and exasperating place if you have nowhere to be you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

So you’re not here purely for the forums then? #suspicion

I think she meant the issue isn’t with the forums but something else. Therefore staying for the forums would be fine. That’s how I interpreted it anyway.

I’m confused as she asked if existing friends could message if she changes the age range from 98 to 99 so maybe there is an issue with a ‘friend’ on here?

Ah I see. I think she just wants to use the forums and have no messages at all.

Oh I dunno lol. Pass me another gin

Is it Parma violet gin that’s bloody lush

Mrscxxx "

I need to try that! I’ve heard it’s nice. No it’s pink gin

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

So you’re not here purely for the forums then? #suspicion

I think she meant the issue isn’t with the forums but something else. Therefore staying for the forums would be fine. That’s how I interpreted it anyway.

I’m confused as she asked if existing friends could message if she changes the age range from 98 to 99 so maybe there is an issue with a ‘friend’ on here?

Ah I see. I think she just wants to use the forums and have no messages at all.

Oh I dunno lol. Pass me another gin

Is it Parma violet gin that’s bloody lush

Mrscxxx

I need to try that! I’ve heard it’s nice. No it’s pink gin

It’s Devine even nicer with lemonade

Mrscxxx

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I like fab mainly because of the forum banter but i think it would be best if we left would you miss me if I left

Mrscxxx "

I would X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't miss you if you left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd miss the forums if I ever left x

Mrscxxx

As much as I enjoy the forums, it doesn't even compare to maintaining/salvaging a relationship if i loved that person

It’s not the forums the issue is with tho

So you’re not here purely for the forums then? #suspicion

I think she meant the issue isn’t with the forums but something else. Therefore staying for the forums would be fine. That’s how I interpreted it anyway.

I’m confused as she asked if existing friends could message if she changes the age range from 98 to 99 so maybe there is an issue with a ‘friend’ on here?

Ah I see. I think she just wants to use the forums and have no messages at all.

Oh I dunno lol. Pass me another gin

Is it Parma violet gin that’s bloody lush

Mrscxxx

I need to try that! I’ve heard it’s nice. No it’s pink gin

It’s Devine even nicer with lemonade

Mrscxxx "

Yeah I don’t like tonic anyway so always have lemonade with gin. I don’t like Parma violets but I’m told most people who don’t like them like the gin! So I’ll give it a go

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As your several threads over the past week have shown OP you obviously have a lot of talking and thinking to do between both of you.

I don't think this is a question of whether you will be missed by the forums so much as which is most important to you, your relationship or Fab/the forums? And that is what you need to ask yourself and take appropriate action whatever the answer is

Fact of the matter is a bunch of strangers on a forum won't miss you - you'll be forgotten very soon after you press the UNLOS button by the vast majority - I don't mean that harshly either, but it is the simple and honest truth.

Whatever you decide though, I wish you well.

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