FabSwingers.com forum: A question

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Heres a question and i will tell you why ive asked it when someone gives me the answer, its related to other threads.

Heres the question

There are two women at a party, very similar looking, both size 16, both 5ft 3, similar attractiveness.

One looks gorgeous in a glamourour little outfit, is up dancing life and soul of the party has guys all round her.

The other is sitting in the corner, nursing her drink, wearing some very non descript clothing and generally looking miserable.

Why are these two women behaving so differently

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By *illbillMan
over a year ago

dublin

one is pissed d*unk????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

different personalities??

i would head for the one in the corner and try cheer her up

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By *landPeggyCouple
over a year ago

Holland !

Hormones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One has confidence and the other doesn't

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sorry i should have said they also have similar personalities in general.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

different characters and personality

Ones happy with the way they look the other isnt

one is more out going

just a few answers

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"One has confidence and the other doesn't"

But why?

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

One is confident, the other isn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One is happy and confident in her body the other not so much so..

i would say the one in the corner is more confident and doesnt feel the need to dress up and put herself out there so obviously..

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By *landPeggyCouple
over a year ago

Holland !

Non religious / religious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go along their up bringing's and how they were raised one raised in a secure environment the other not.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ok, you kind of got the answer with the confidence.

The reason one is the life and soul of the party is because she has lost 2stone to get to the size she is. The other has gained 2stone.

The reason why i asked was related to the fat thread. I honestly in all my life have had little abuse to my size so is how we see ourselves reflected on how others see us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wrong week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One has confidence and the other doesn't

But why?"

the one enjoying herself is comfortable with her body and the other isn't! ?

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

scroll back ive given the answer lol

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

shes had some bad news and doesnt feel like partying really...?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

bugger.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because she reads to many magazines that tell her she is unattractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the boring one was my wife !!!!

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By *landPeggyCouple
over a year ago

Holland !

swinger / vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel good about yourself and that shows to others around you no matter what shape or size, then that confidence shines out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doh!

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By *landPeggyCouple
over a year ago

Holland !

It's the old half full / half empty chestnut.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

The one sitting in the corner was on here and took far too much notice of what others have said in the forum about "fat" people.....

The other one doesn't give a toss what has been said....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one sitting in the corner was on here and took far too much notice of what others have said in the forum about "fat" people.....

The other one doesn't give a toss what has been said....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"The one sitting in the corner was on here and took far too much notice of what others have said in the forum about "fat" people.....

The other one doesn't give a toss what has been said....

+1"

one is me ad one is you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One is happy and confident in her body the other not so much so..

i would say the one in the corner is more confident and doesnt feel the need to dress up and put herself out there so obviously.."

Good point.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

i would say the one in the corner is more confident and doesnt feel the need to dress up and put herself out there so obviously.."

So why she looking so miserable?

Shit party?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe knacked and been working to hard so happy just sitting there . Other one may just like to dance as love the music .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one sitting in the corner was on here and took far too much notice of what others have said in the forum about "fat" people.....

The other one doesn't give a toss what has been said....

one is me ad one is you

no as we get into trouble together

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The one in the corner is miserable because she's seen how many munters are at the party.... the dancing one is too pissed to notice.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

The one sitting down hates 'Agadoo' and is waiting for 'Come on Eileen'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, you kind of got the answer with the confidence.

The reason one is the life and soul of the party is because she has lost 2stone to get to the size she is. The other has gained 2stone.

The reason why i asked was related to the fat thread. I honestly in all my life have had little abuse to my size so is how we see ourselves reflected on how others see us"

what a brilliant question and how true. I've lost lots of weight to get to where I am and would be up dancing as I'm happy, even though I would be classed as fat from the other thread lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one sitting down hates 'Agadoo' and is waiting for 'Come on Eileen'."

much more believable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one in the corner has followed through and messed her knickers and daren't stand up

Good answer smiles.

Just goes to show how weight can affect a person when they believe what the media dictates what we should all look like.

Those that fit "The Look" think there is nothing wrong with them.

Do you understand where I was coming from in the fat thread?

Different people, different trains of thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny, the only time I feel fat and miserable is when my hair needs doing and my eyebrows waxing.

The second I've left the salon I feel hotter than Beyonce, Halle and Tara combined.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I can relate to the body confidence. I lost 3 stones and gained the body confidence to start going out again. I used to be the one in the corner but now I am the one on the dancefloor and wearing the short dresses.

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Was going to say the one in the corner has been shagged so much she's sore and can't walk!

The one dancing is still hoping!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"The one sitting down hates 'Agadoo' and is waiting for 'Come on Eileen'."

how ca anyone hate Agadoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"different personalities??

i would head for the one in the corner and try cheer her up"

ditto

im always that person too, unless ive had a few, which doesnt happen anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny, the only time I feel fat and miserable is when my hair needs doing and my eyebrows waxing.

The second I've left the salon I feel hotter than Beyonce, Halle and Tara combined.

i feel like that when my roots are due lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one in the corner sitting is off her head cant stand up and dance , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At my heaviest, I was 12 and a half stone.

I am just over 11 stone at the mo.

I do not believe I have changed in my outlook in life, or gained or lost any confidence between weight gain and weigth loss.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I said i wouldnt change by loosing weight, however, everything about me has changed, but i am ten stone lighter since i was at my heaviest. The reason why i have changed though isnt vanity reasons and thinking im gorgeous, i was always confident. What has changed is my outlook on life.

I set myself a challenge, a bit challenge and im 3/4 of the way to completing it, i can see the finishing post. Its opened my eyes to what i can achieve if i put my mind to it, it proves to me i have will power, that im determind, that i can complete goals. its completely changed my attitude to food, and most certainly health. I also know im an inspiration.

So its not about how i look but about the achievement that ive changed if that makes sense

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