FabSwingers.com forum: Oral - to reciprocate or not?

By *ydnNancy OP Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Following in from another thread

Is oral part of your foreplay?

If you choose to perform oral in someone do you expect it back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to give not over bothered by recieving. Infact I find recieving frustrating I would rather a finger or two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my favourite activities I’m likely to go down first more often than the other way round. Either way I love it so wouldn’t want to miss out in it, except if a woman does not like receiving.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It doesn't have to be but they'd better be really good at foreplay if it's not going to be.

If someone doesn't wish to give it then I'd rather know from the start as I do feel a bit short changed if I spend a good while going down on them and really making and effort with it only to get nothing back and them wanting to move straight to fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do it to get it back, but it'd be nice.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I love to suck cock. I do it because I love to, not because I feel I should and I don’t do it to receive.

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By *ydnNancy OP Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I love to suck cock. I do it because I love to, not because I feel I should and I don’t do it to receive."

Amen to that

I also don’t give to receive. I also really enjoy oral giving and receiving so it’s rare it’s not on the menu

Nancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love to give not over bothered by recieving. Infact I find recieving frustrating I would rather a finger or two "

What about being fingered and licked at the same time?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"I don't do it to get it back, but it'd be nice."

This

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I love oral. Both giving and receiving. But there are only certain occasions I am going into something with specific expectations

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do it to get it back, but it'd be nice."

Oh and I agree with this too. I give oral because I love it not so I get a blowjob back, although I love receiving a good blowjob too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following in from another thread

Is oral part of your foreplay?

If you choose to perform oral in someone do you expect it back?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a bit rude to receive and not return the favour

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By *juk72Man
over a year ago

Reading

I give oral because i enjoy it (as long as it is something the other person likes to receive and it feels right in the moment)

No expectation for them to 'return the favour' if it's not something they are going to enjoy doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind giving but I don't like receiving. It's easy to distract them so they don't try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I thought that someone did that just to get it back, they definitely wouldn't! Should sex be different every time? Especially with different people... I've never been into prescriptive sex tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no.

I fucking love giving oral to the right man and I have previously done it with an established lover without receiving anything in return on that particular occasion.

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By *ydnNancy OP Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I love to give not over bothered by recieving. Infact I find recieving frustrating I would rather a finger or two

What about being fingered and licked at the same time?"

Yep, it’s best of both!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I thought that someone did that just to get it back, they definitely wouldn't! Should sex be different every time? Especially with different people... I've never been into prescriptive sex tbh "

Shouldn't***

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I like to give more than receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love to give not over bothered by recieving. Infact I find recieving frustrating I would rather a finger or two

What about being fingered and licked at the same time?"

Better than oral alone and I can enjoy that but I'm really nonchalant about recieving.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I really enjoy giving , don’t expect it to be reciprocated, would rather have an enthusiastic muff diver rather than a returning a favour diver.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I love to give not over bothered by recieving. Infact I find recieving frustrating I would rather a finger or two

What about being fingered and licked at the same time?"

My favourite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love to give not over bothered by recieving. Infact I find recieving frustrating I would rather a finger or two

What about being fingered and licked at the same time?

Better than oral alone and I can enjoy that but I'm really nonchalant about recieving. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I love giving oral, I don’t do it to get it back but it’s nice if I do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love to give not over bothered by recieving. Infact I find recieving frustrating I would rather a finger or two

What about being fingered and licked at the same time?

My favourite "

That’s my preferred way of giving too. I like to try to find a way to make my partner climb the walls and combination play seems to be the most likely to generate the desired effect. I still need more practice though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love to give not over bothered by recieving. Infact I find recieving frustrating I would rather a finger or two "
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Maybe if it’s done well you may like it’s more , my wife loves it , it works every time ,

Not trying to blow my own trumpet (pardon the pun) but I seem to do a great job xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind going down as I seem to do a great job for my wife , I love receiving too but she's not interested in giving me a bj , which does annoy me sometimes

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Love to give oral and no don't expect anything back

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It’s a bit rude to receive and not return the favour "

This is the way I feel. I do it because I care about the pleasure of the people I'm with. The fact that some don't feel similarly about me... it's just not a good look, you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the whole shagging by numbers thing a bit off putting if I'm honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a bit rude to receive and not return the favour "

Many 'bisexual' women are pillow princesses. They are only pretending to be bi to turn on the menfolk.

They close their eyes while a woman licks their pussy but there's no way in hell they'd do it back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do it to get it back, but it'd be nice."

I'd also find it a bit of a turn off.. if they showed no interest or desire to reciprocate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to give but it would be nice to receive it once in a while lol

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

Not at all, just love doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer giving anyway so it wouldn’t bother me. Although nobody has ever not reciprocated

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s a bit rude to receive and not return the favour

Many 'bisexual' women are pillow princesses. They are only pretending to be bi to turn on the menfolk.

They close their eyes while a woman licks their pussy but there's no way in hell they'd do it back. "

Lol! This is the total opposite of my experience. Every bisexual woman I've been with has been very giving and enthusiastic in the bedroom. Probably more so than many straight men who are very often more than happy to receive at length but give very little back in return. They're the real pillow princesses.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Oral is a big part of foreplay for me. If I don't get any oral attention off a bloke after I have given him a class A blowie I can't help but be a tad disappointed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a bit rude to receive and not return the favour

Many 'bisexual' women are pillow princesses. They are only pretending to be bi to turn on the menfolk.

They close their eyes while a woman licks their pussy but there's no way in hell they'd do it back. "

Maybe in a threesome but I’ve only had one to ones with women and it wasn’t like that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It’s a bit rude to receive and not return the favour

Many 'bisexual' women are pillow princesses. They are only pretending to be bi to turn on the menfolk.

They close their eyes while a woman licks their pussy but there's no way in hell they'd do it back.

I've not had a woman reciprocate orally yet, but part of the reason I get annoyed about lack of reciprocation is the guys who are incredibly vocal about exactly how you suck their cock, no matter what you think or even if it cuts off your breathing or makes you gag/ vomit, but think you're demanding for wanting them to even find your clitoris. Had quite enough of selfish.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s a bit rude to receive and not return the favour

Many 'bisexual' women are pillow princesses. They are only pretending to be bi to turn on the menfolk.

They close their eyes while a woman licks their pussy but there's no way in hell they'd do it back.

Maybe in a threesome but I’ve only had one to ones with women and it wasn’t like that. "

Maybe this is it. My play with other women has been mostly one to one and apart from 1 occasion, I've only had threesomes or moresomes with women I'd already played with alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give to receive, but it would be nice of the person showed and interesting in reciprocating once I had, but sometimes things progress past that before that point arises

Works the same both ways, sometimes both just get turned on to the point that no more oral is needed and sex just has to happen.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I very much enjoy giving. Receiving more often than not leaves me feeling awkward and meh. I honestly don’t mind if it isn’t reciprocated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love to give not over bothered by recieving. Infact I find recieving frustrating I would rather a finger or two .

Maybe if it’s done well you may like it’s more , my wife loves it , it works every time ,

Not trying to blow my own trumpet (pardon the pun) but I seem to do a great job xx "

Seriously I hate that statement. Do you know the amount of guys over the years who have told me that's because you haven't had it done well

I have deep set reasons for not liking it. Not something I'm prepared to talk about within the forum but I wish guys would go OK I get it its not her thing rather than trying to pursuade woman that if it's done the way they do it they will enjoy it

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I very much enjoy giving. Receiving more often than not leaves me feeling awkward and meh. I honestly don’t mind if it isn’t reciprocated. "

Twiddling your thumbs was a good pointer that you weren’t enjoying it much

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I prefer giving anyway so it wouldn’t bother me.

Step this way, it could be your lucky day

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

I think if your willing to receive then its good manners to give

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