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By *ood luking looser OP   Man
over a year ago

Town

This is not a rant. More of a realisation.

Having managed to talk to a few women. I've got them to screen shot their number of unread messages.

I've learnt that majority of women are getting over 100 messages a day. A few are also reported to have over 900 unread messages. And a couple of people I've seen have over 3000 messages.

I've realised probably 90% of my messages I send go unread. Some that have been read and shared a few exchanges of messages with girls rapidly then get lost within a mountain of others messaging or pushed further down the pages. Eventually being deleted through a clear out.

I kinda now understand it from a woman's point of view having to sieve through all the messages. And its not something wrong with me and shouldn't feel deflated about it.

I guess this is the reason why it takes us guys months before we get a foot in.

We have to either have something real special about us and stand right out from the crowd.

Or make up some huge lies and exaggerations on our profiles to be able to stand out and get noticed.

I have no grumbles, this site is awesome! And will continue to subscribe. I'm happy with my complete honesty on my profile. Maybe one day I'll stand out for the right reasons.

Good luck, you lucky buggers.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I'm looking at it like the grand national

With a hot filly waiting at the end, Hopefully a huge amount of the male runners will crash and burn through a combination of being attached, no photos, sending a cock photo first, txt style tlk innit etc etc

I'm going around bechers brook for the first time so I'm still in with a slim chance of getting a meet

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over a year ago

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

I don't know why they don't block men from messaging them and do the messaging themselves

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I don't know why they don't block men from messaging them and do the messaging themselves"

A big % of women still like being chatted up is my guess but hey who knows how there minds work

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I have to say im reasonably successful on here, im just honest with my approach, never mention sex and address the lafies here with respect, never sent a faf message or a cock shot.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don't know why they don't block men from messaging them and do the messaging themselves"

Careful now, that means being proactive... Heaven forbid that a lady should get turned down on fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that have loads of unread messages must be really slow readers

Single women get a lot of messages but it's easy to spot the ones you're interested in and bulk delete.

It's really not that hard.

It's attention seeking not to block or delete the people you're not interested in and then complain about it

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I don't know why they don't block men from messaging them and do the messaging themselves"

Ah cos then they can't say they get 1000's of messages a day. Filters sorts the problem out, some just like attention.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Filters simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People that have loads of unread messages must be really slow readers

Single women get a lot of messages but it's easy to spot the ones you're interested in and bulk delete.

It's really not that hard.

It's attention seeking not to block or delete the people you're not interested in and then complain about it

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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

It’s very quiet in our inbox as a couple in comparison to how crazy my solo profile used to get

Ratio won’t change so there’s no point in complaining just apply filters if you’re the one inundated or if you’re messaging out then work on your message and you profile - it’s genuinely not rocket science but effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people who are getting hundreds of messages simply have no filters in place, or a wide age range, but then that's their choice.

I worry when I'm approaching just double figures

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

The women who have loads of messages either

. Have no filters on (silly)

. Have been or are on pg 1 of hot pics.

. Like/crave attention

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I have to say gents that going by the quality of the messages I’ve been shown by a few Fab female friends it’s little wonder women don’t reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there were no chance, how do explain the men who do meet?

Slim chance would be more accurate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s why I wait for them to message me first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is not a rant. More of a realisation.

Having managed to talk to a few women. I've got them to screen shot their number of unread messages.

I've learnt that majority of women are getting over 100 messages a day. A few are also reported to have over 900 unread messages. And a couple of people I've seen have over 3000 messages.

I've realised probably 90% of my messages I send go unread. Some that have been read and shared a few exchanges of messages with girls rapidly then get lost within a mountain of others messaging or pushed further down the pages. Eventually being deleted through a clear out.

I kinda now understand it from a woman's point of view having to sieve through all the messages. And its not something wrong with me and shouldn't feel deflated about it.

I guess this is the reason why it takes us guys months before we get a foot in.

We have to either have something real special about us and stand right out from the crowd.

Or make up some huge lies and exaggerations on our profiles to be able to stand out and get noticed.

I have no grumbles, this site is awesome! And will continue to subscribe. I'm happy with my complete honesty on my profile. Maybe one day I'll stand out for the right reasons.

Good luck, you lucky buggers. "

It’s becausr there are a massive proportion of men on here and most of them want to shag almost any of the girls , hence they all message the minority gender on here

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"I think people who are getting hundreds of messages simply have no filters in place, or a wide age range, but then that's their choice.

I worry when I'm approaching just double figures "

I raised the age filter point on another thread and got shot down for it. Silly to complain about too many messages and leave age filters at 18-99 - and a waste of other people’s time too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why they don't block men from messaging them and do the messaging themselves"

Some do some also use filters to cut down the number of messages for others its an ego trip getting hundreds of unread messages.

In reality though the more confident self assured women often make first contact as its a quicker way of getting what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first 12 or 13 words can be read without opening the message so you can already see if its worth opening. If you really feel you must send messages (I doubt I would as a man) Make all words leading upto the 14 utterly intriguing so we need to see what comes next I cant resist opening those ones. Or as someone regulary does put lots of ...... to fill the space so my curiosty kills the cat seeing what he actually wants to say.

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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"That’s why I wait for them to message me first. "

All hail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why they don't block men from messaging them and do the messaging themselves"

This lass does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to say im reasonably successful on here, im just honest with my approach, never mention sex and address the lafies here with respect, never sent a faf message or a cock shot.

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I wish more men had that approach. I have to say the guys I’ve met over the last 2 years did exactly the same.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I'm looking at it like the grand national

With a hot filly waiting at the end, Hopefully a huge amount of the male runners will crash and burn through a combination of being attached, no photos, sending a cock photo first, txt style tlk innit etc etc

I'm going around bechers brook for the first time so I'm still in with a slim chance of getting a meet "

Great analogy

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By *juk72Man
over a year ago

Reading


"I'm looking at it like the grand national

"

As soon as you fall over they shoot you?

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Women do get inundated especially with a new pic.

Depends on your message, but if it's like your profile, way too long to be reading"

Don't listen.... everyone is different, be yourself. Not too long, it made me giggle

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"I'm looking at it like the grand national

With a hot filly waiting at the end, Hopefully a huge amount of the male runners will crash and burn through a combination of being attached, no photos, sending a cock photo first, txt style tlk innit etc etc

I'm going around bechers brook for the first time so I'm still in with a slim chance of getting a meet "

That sounds like just horsing around.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

They're under starters orders....and they're off...cock pic 1 and cock pic Two early fallers...wrinkly still wearing socks has been pulled up ..and the favourite .. guy in suit is among the leading group...dirty bog has gone.... along with skidmark

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By *lice_in_BlunderlandWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"I'm looking at it like the grand national

As soon as you fall over they shoot you? "

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By *winger212Woman
over a year ago

Live in spain

You can open a message, read it then click mark unread so it stays and unread instead of saying it was deleted, hence why women have tons in their in box still unread.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea


"You can open a message, read it then click mark unread so it stays and unread instead of saying it was deleted, hence why women have tons in their in box still unread. "

Why on earth do they have that feature, it’s like people are playing hide and seek

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

It’s obvious why women have such a huge inbox .

If they used filters , blocked those who didn’t suit , had age restrictions etc..... they wouldn’t get the attention and the fabs on their photos .

Remember that lots of these single women will have come from traditional dating sites , and the attention they will have had there will have been nothing like what they get here . All of a sudden they go from just another woman to the most sought after demographic on a site that rewards them with this inflated sense of importance . It’s addictive to feel wanted , important , and desired .

So the men who feel sorry for the women with hundreds of messages , save your pity . Look at the reality . They get what they want , and you rarely will . This is the wrong site for men who want a simple nsa fuck with a single women .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s obvious why women have such a huge inbox .

If they used filters , blocked those who didn’t suit , had age restrictions etc..... they wouldn’t get the attention and the fabs on their photos .

Remember that lots of these single women will have come from traditional dating sites , and the attention they will have had there will have been nothing like what they get here . All of a sudden they go from just another woman to the most sought after demographic on a site that rewards them with this inflated sense of importance . It’s addictive to feel wanted , important , and desired .

So the men who feel sorry for the women with hundreds of messages , save your pity . Look at the reality . They get what they want , and you rarely will . This is the wrong site for men who want a simple nsa fuck with a single women . "

I’m so thankful for filters. I couldn’t handle loads of messages. Would drive me insane.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s obvious why women have such a huge inbox .

If they used filters , blocked those who didn’t suit , had age restrictions etc..... they wouldn’t get the attention and the fabs on their photos .

Remember that lots of these single women will have come from traditional dating sites , and the attention they will have had there will have been nothing like what they get here . All of a sudden they go from just another woman to the most sought after demographic on a site that rewards them with this inflated sense of importance . It’s addictive to feel wanted , important , and desired .

So the men who feel sorry for the women with hundreds of messages , save your pity . Look at the reality . They get what they want , and you rarely will . This is the wrong site for men who want a simple nsa fuck with a single women . "

You were doing so well up until your last point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reducing messages is easy enough. Just use the filters. Those who don't but then complain about receiving hundreds of messages tend to be attention seekers who just like the thrill of seeming to be popular.

My single fem profile filters were always on and most of my meets came from me initiating contact first. We're not all drama queens who liked to be chased, I actually quite enjoyed doing the chasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s obvious why women have such a huge inbox .

If they used filters , blocked those who didn’t suit , had age restrictions etc..... they wouldn’t get the attention and the fabs on their photos .

Remember that lots of these single women will have come from traditional dating sites , and the attention they will have had there will have been nothing like what they get here . All of a sudden they go from just another woman to the most sought after demographic on a site that rewards them with this inflated sense of importance . It’s addictive to feel wanted , important , and desired .

So the men who feel sorry for the women with hundreds of messages , save your pity . Look at the reality . They get what they want , and you rarely will . This is the wrong site for men who want a simple nsa fuck with a single women . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The women who have loads of messages either

. Have no filters on (silly)

. Have been or are on pg 1 of hot pics.

. Like/crave attention

"

I have a few messages. Over 100 most days.

Have filters on

Not been on page 1

Attention isnt that what our profiles are for?

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