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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire

I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

It’s near enough impossible to get meets & been picky is a curse!!! there is no one in my area or 75 mile radius that I have found that I genuinely am interested ( I adore gingers & brunettes pale skin & willing to travel for them that a worth it . If I do message a women and 9/10 the message is ignored. Then if she’s more than a few miles away she sees where you live an instantly deletes the message. Women get 100’s messages a day while the men struggle to even get 1. I message very little women only them I am attracted to if you are a man I suggest you do the same as what you are doing is messaging all the women in your area regardless if you actually find them attractive or not !! What that is doing to fab and all the men on here is actually making your chances less in favour !!! I have chatted to many men who have met loads of women on here who they never liked purely for sex they have all lied an said they like them, there attractive wen they never!! There should be a system where you go through all likes for instance wen setting up a page go through your hair colour, skin type, likes and if you are matched you can speak !! For instance pale skin gingers or brunettes are my type I would only be able to message them not blondes as clearly I’m not interested in blondes ( same principles as not looking for single guys ) this way if a man has open profile to he likes anything it’s a indication to women he’s pretty much no care where he goes an probably a good idea to stay away !! But if you are a ginger women ( as we all know most men like the tanned blonde ) to a ginger women reading my profile can clearly see I’m genuinely attracted to her. All this would cut out the pointless messages, the a-hole men who spoil it for the rest of us and would make this site honest an great again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Never say never though. There could one day be a blonde that takes your breath away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the down fall of having a specific type. You've narrowed down your search dramatically, and those you do find have to be attracted to you.

All you can do is keep searching.

And be patient

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Sorry to say OP, I'd delete any message you sent me, and it wouldn't be because of any body else's previous messages

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

maybe it’s just the way your profile reads.....

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire

I have been on fab a long time with the same profile and I have met lots of people not just for sex .... it’s completely changing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

For most women's the a-hole men actually highlight the decent ones making it easier to sort the sheep from the goats. As on fab so in life, *some* men will say anything to get sex and won't care if they're actually attracted to the women they meet but most women can spot those guys a mile off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

It’s near enough impossible to get meets & been picky is a curse!!! there is no one in my area or 75 mile radius that I have found that I genuinely am interested ( I adore gingers & brunettes pale skin & willing to travel for them that a worth it . If I do message a women and 9/10 the message is ignored. Then if she’s more than a few miles away she sees where you live an instantly deletes the message. Women get 100’s messages a day while the men struggle to even get 1. I message very little women only them I am attracted to if you are a man I suggest you do the same as what you are doing is messaging all the women in your area regardless if you actually find them attractive or not !! What that is doing to fab and all the men on here is actually making your chances less in favour !!! I have chatted to many men who have met loads of women on here who they never liked purely for sex they have all lied an said they like them, there attractive wen they never!! There should be a system where you go through all likes for instance wen setting up a page go through your hair colour, skin type, likes and if you are matched you can speak !! For instance pale skin gingers or brunettes are my type I would only be able to message them not blondes as clearly I’m not interested in blondes ( same principles as not looking for single guys ) this way if a man has open profile to he likes anything it’s a indication to women he’s pretty much no care where he goes an probably a good idea to stay away !! But if you are a ginger women ( as we all know most men like the tanned blonde ) to a ginger women reading my profile can clearly see I’m genuinely attracted to her. All this would cut out the pointless messages, the a-hole men who spoil it for the rest of us and would make this site honest an great again."

You *are* one of the men who spoil it for other men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually struggling to determine your point as you seem to have covered a lot of ground, determined that your lack of success is entirely down to geography and the behavior of men on the site.

You also allude to the fact that us men will flatter everyone for a fuck, but as you are the only genuine guy around here, you seem genuinely surprised that you aren't spaffing into a pale skinned beauty every other night.

Also, I really like your suggestion that Fab should help you target what you seek by effectively filtering you into ladies inboxes based on your requirements.

You make your own luck.

A bad workman blames his tools.

And paragraphs would have made the post more digestible (in my opinion).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

It’s near enough impossible to get meets & been picky is a curse!!! there is no one in my area or 75 mile radius that I have found that I genuinely am interested ( I adore gingers & brunettes pale skin & willing to travel for them that a worth it . If I do message a women and 9/10 the message is ignored. Then if she’s more than a few miles away she sees where you live an instantly deletes the message. Women get 100’s messages a day while the men struggle to even get 1. I message very little women only them I am attracted to if you are a man I suggest you do the same as what you are doing is messaging all the women in your area regardless if you actually find them attractive or not !! What that is doing to fab and all the men on here is actually making your chances less in favour !!! I have chatted to many men who have met loads of women on here who they never liked purely for sex they have all lied an said they like them, there attractive wen they never!! There should be a system where you go through all likes for instance wen setting up a page go through your hair colour, skin type, likes and if you are matched you can speak !! For instance pale skin gingers or brunettes are my type I would only be able to message them not blondes as clearly I’m not interested in blondes ( same principles as not looking for single guys ) this way if a man has open profile to he likes anything it’s a indication to women he’s pretty much no care where he goes an probably a good idea to stay away !! But if you are a ginger women ( as we all know most men like the tanned blonde ) to a ginger women reading my profile can clearly see I’m genuinely attracted to her. All this would cut out the pointless messages, the a-hole men who spoil it for the rest of us and would make this site honest an great again."

Few bits on the profile need changed you often seem hostile and the comment about women being niece on here wont go down well with a lot of females mate

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire

Well that’s your preference ain’t it that’s also what you have to go up against just like me with gingers an brunettes I may like them but they may not like me soooo I’m confused to why you commented that message.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well that’s your preference ain’t it that’s also what you have to go up against just like me with gingers an brunettes I may like them but they may not like me soooo I’m confused to why you commented that message. "

Use reply and quote so we can identify who you're replying to.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

Hey..

That's happened to me a lot....

All i wanted was an amazon woman of 7 feet plus!!!!

Nah seriously its hard work but it gets our skills better...anyway, half the fun is in the chase...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be focussing on the things that make me smile rather than the things that piss me off so I don't come across as ranty and negative... after all our profiles are read by those of the sex we would like to attract, not by the ones you're saying are ruining fab..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

It’s near enough impossible to get meets & been picky is a curse!!! there is no one in my area or 75 mile radius that I have found that I genuinely am interested ( I adore gingers & brunettes pale skin & willing to travel for them that a worth it . If I do message a women and 9/10 the message is ignored. Then if she’s more than a few miles away she sees where you live an instantly deletes the message. Women get 100’s messages a day while the men struggle to even get 1. I message very little women only them I am attracted to if you are a man I suggest you do the same as what you are doing is messaging all the women in your area regardless if you actually find them attractive or not !! What that is doing to fab and all the men on here is actually making your chances less in favour !!! I have chatted to many men who have met loads of women on here who they never liked purely for sex they have all lied an said they like them, there attractive wen they never!! There should be a system where you go through all likes for instance wen setting up a page go through your hair colour, skin type, likes and if you are matched you can speak !! For instance pale skin gingers or brunettes are my type I would only be able to message them not blondes as clearly I’m not interested in blondes ( same principles as not looking for single guys ) this way if a man has open profile to he likes anything it’s a indication to women he’s pretty much no care where he goes an probably a good idea to stay away !! But if you are a ginger women ( as we all know most men like the tanned blonde ) to a ginger women reading my profile can clearly see I’m genuinely attracted to her. All this would cut out the pointless messages, the a-hole men who spoil it for the rest of us and would make this site honest an great again.

Few bits on the profile need changed you often seem hostile and the comment about women being naive on here wont go down well with a lot of females mate"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Your negative vibes on your profile put me off tbh. Fair skin and red hair here by the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused OP. Are you saying that you struggle to get meets on here because you rarely find anyone attractive enough to meet?

If so, join the club. We have t-shirts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i searched for years to meet a woman with three breasts then when i did bloody arnold schwarzenegger beat me to it..might need to do a total recall of my preferences..

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire

Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Can you reply and quote please so we know who you are answering?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I would leave this thread now as you're becoming annoyed.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Whinging about it ain’t going to help op as you can see by some of the comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message. "

You're 32 so you were in school till at least 16. not sure what school leaves english till A level.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

He sounds very angry at the world or fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Patience is the key lol"
hes been waiting 6 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message. "

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"Well that’s your preference ain’t it that’s also what you have to go up against just like me with gingers an brunettes I may like them but they may not like me soooo I’m confused to why you commented that message.

Use reply and quote so we can identify who you're replying to."

Thank you

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I have been on fab a long time with the same profile and I have met lots of people not just for sex .... it’s completely changing. "

If the site is changing shouldn't your profile evolve with it?

You're driving a Model T while everyone else is in a Tesla.

I don't agree the site is changing by the way. Just people's perceptions.

More people are joining, there's more competition.

You have to stand out for the right reasons.......

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Well that’s your preference ain’t it that’s also what you have to go up against just like me with gingers an brunettes I may like them but they may not like me soooo I’m confused to why you commented that message.

Use reply and quote so we can identify who you're replying to.

Thank you "

Very welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very fair and a ginger here but as said it did come across quite negative and the naive comment wasn't great tbh

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You seem determined both here and in your profile that other men spoil it for everyone - sorry but that is completely wide of the mark, people only spoil the experience of the site for themselves no-one else, and they do so by having a bad attitude, approach and expectations.

Your suggestions for more search criteria I can see of being value to anyone that has very specific wants, but to use them to force who you can and can't message are wrong in my opinion. Besides what if, like me, you're looking for something more of a cerebral connection primarily and physical attraction, whilst important, is secondary to that? How do you put criteria around searching for that? I've found physical attraction to people with all kinds of different physical features, but that doesn't mean I would meet just anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

It’s near enough impossible to get meets & been picky is a curse!!! there is no one in my area or 75 mile radius that I have found that I genuinely am interested ( I adore gingers & brunettes pale skin & willing to travel for them that a worth it . If I do message a women and 9/10 the message is ignored. Then if she’s more than a few miles away she sees where you live an instantly deletes the message. Women get 100’s messages a day while the men struggle to even get 1. I message very little women only them I am attracted to if you are a man I suggest you do the same as what you are doing is messaging all the women in your area regardless if you actually find them attractive or not !! What that is doing to fab and all the men on here is actually making your chances less in favour !!! I have chatted to many men who have met loads of women on here who they never liked purely for sex they have all lied an said they like them, there attractive wen they never!! There should be a system where you go through all likes for instance wen setting up a page go through your hair colour, skin type, likes and if you are matched you can speak !! For instance pale skin gingers or brunettes are my type I would only be able to message them not blondes as clearly I’m not interested in blondes ( same principles as not looking for single guys ) this way if a man has open profile to he likes anything it’s a indication to women he’s pretty much no care where he goes an probably a good idea to stay away !! But if you are a ginger women ( as we all know most men like the tanned blonde ) to a ginger women reading my profile can clearly see I’m genuinely attracted to her. All this would cut out the pointless messages, the a-hole men who spoil it for the rest of us and would make this site honest an great again."

I’d agree , it is very difficult to find ladies who can meet guys , and if you have specific style of ladies too does narrow it down , maybe broaden you choice and hope something pops up ,

Your profile seems to prove that women arnt totally elusive to you x

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man. "

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me.

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

It’s near enough impossible to get meets & been picky is a curse!!! there is no one in my area or 75 mile radius that I have found that I genuinely am interested ( I adore gingers & brunettes pale skin & willing to travel for them that a worth it . If I do message a women and 9/10 the message is ignored. Then if she’s more than a few miles away she sees where you live an instantly deletes the message. Women get 100’s messages a day while the men struggle to even get 1. I message very little women only them I am attracted to if you are a man I suggest you do the same as what you are doing is messaging all the women in your area regardless if you actually find them attractive or not !! What that is doing to fab and all the men on here is actually making your chances less in favour !!! I have chatted to many men who have met loads of women on here who they never liked purely for sex they have all lied an said they like them, there attractive wen they never!! There should be a system where you go through all likes for instance wen setting up a page go through your hair colour, skin type, likes and if you are matched you can speak !! For instance pale skin gingers or brunettes are my type I would only be able to message them not blondes as clearly I’m not interested in blondes ( same principles as not looking for single guys ) this way if a man has open profile to he likes anything it’s a indication to women he’s pretty much no care where he goes an probably a good idea to stay away !! But if you are a ginger women ( as we all know most men like the tanned blonde ) to a ginger women reading my profile can clearly see I’m genuinely attracted to her. All this would cut out the pointless messages, the a-hole men who spoil it for the rest of us and would make this site honest an great again.

I’d agree , it is very difficult to find ladies who can meet guys , and if you have specific style of ladies too does narrow it down , maybe broaden you choice and hope something pops up ,

Your profile seems to prove that women arnt totally elusive to you x "

Thanks Paul it’s just shame like I said it’s just not the same women judge, men act silly.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me. "

"Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted." first impressions count.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me. "
I’d stick to going out to the pub if that’s proved to be more successful than being on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me. "

I do judge and always will. My safety is important. I'm sure many women are the same.

Would you advise a female friend to meet an angry sounding man?

So you must come across as friendly in person if they chat to you in pubs. Are you more chatty in person? Is it your smile that makes them melt?

What do you think they like about you when you meet in person?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

It’s near enough impossible to get meets & been picky is a curse!!! there is no one in my area or 75 mile radius that I have found that I genuinely am interested ( I adore gingers & brunettes pale skin & willing to travel for them that a worth it . If I do message a women and 9/10 the message is ignored. Then if she’s more than a few miles away she sees where you live an instantly deletes the message. Women get 100’s messages a day while the men struggle to even get 1. I message very little women only them I am attracted to if you are a man I suggest you do the same as what you are doing is messaging all the women in your area regardless if you actually find them attractive or not !! What that is doing to fab and all the men on here is actually making your chances less in favour !!! I have chatted to many men who have met loads of women on here who they never liked purely for sex they have all lied an said they like them, there attractive wen they never!! There should be a system where you go through all likes for instance wen setting up a page go through your hair colour, skin type, likes and if you are matched you can speak !! For instance pale skin gingers or brunettes are my type I would only be able to message them not blondes as clearly I’m not interested in blondes ( same principles as not looking for single guys ) this way if a man has open profile to he likes anything it’s a indication to women he’s pretty much no care where he goes an probably a good idea to stay away !! But if you are a ginger women ( as we all know most men like the tanned blonde ) to a ginger women reading my profile can clearly see I’m genuinely attracted to her. All this would cut out the pointless messages, the a-hole men who spoil it for the rest of us and would make this site honest an great again."

I don't get the "some men spoil it for other men" line.

If I send a woman a fancy a fuck message and a picture of my cock, how does that affect you?

Genuine question.....

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"You seem determined both here and in your profile that other men spoil it for everyone - sorry but that is completely wide of the mark, people only spoil the experience of the site for themselves no-one else, and they do so by having a bad attitude, approach and expectations.

Your suggestions for more search criteria I can see of being value to anyone that has very specific wants, but to use them to force who you can and can't message are wrong in my opinion. Besides what if, like me, you're looking for something more of a cerebral connection primarily and physical attraction, whilst important, is secondary to that? How do you put criteria around searching for that? I've found physical attraction to people with all kinds of different physical features, but that doesn't mean I would meet just anyone."

No mate there not force if you actually take the time an read an think it’s not force what you are doing is seeing what you want to see !! Many women and men both say don’t message without a face pic don’t message with a cock pick don’t don’t yet the still manage to get all them unwanted messages my profile is not force it’s straight to the point no rubbish in other words I’m been firm yet respectful with who I am what I want. That’s not forceful that’s putting it straight out there for no one to be messed about or wasting my time or anyone else’s. It’s absolutely not my profile or my attitude it is the kind of people that are coming on to fab. Like I said previously same profile writing for years, same location I might of made new profiles but everything is the same I got about 20 messages a day, I have met over 100 people not all for sex but friendship I stick to one person at a time My personal preference but had met many girls for friendship while I only had that 1. I do live in a small town where it’s a hour away from anything else that causes issues, but I have never had problem ever it’s just these last two years ..maybe lack of people in my area?? Maybe the types of people that are joining fab ?

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me.

I do judge and always will. My safety is important. I'm sure many women are the same.

Would you advise a female friend to meet an angry sounding man?

So you must come across as friendly in person if they chat to you in pubs. Are you more chatty in person? Is it your smile that makes them melt?

What do you think they like about you when you meet in person?

"

Probably as I’m honest friendly an fun and have respect for women. I have always been a straight talking kind of guy that you can trust women pick up on that. It’s completely different wen you txt. Plus wen your a cheekychops like me they know your good in public there’s some dark side that comes out in bedroom. It’s like the quiet girl that gets gangbanged if that makes sense.

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

It’s near enough impossible to get meets & been picky is a curse!!! there is no one in my area or 75 mile radius that I have found that I genuinely am interested ( I adore gingers & brunettes pale skin & willing to travel for them that a worth it . If I do message a women and 9/10 the message is ignored. Then if she’s more than a few miles away she sees where you live an instantly deletes the message. Women get 100’s messages a day while the men struggle to even get 1. I message very little women only them I am attracted to if you are a man I suggest you do the same as what you are doing is messaging all the women in your area regardless if you actually find them attractive or not !! What that is doing to fab and all the men on here is actually making your chances less in favour !!! I have chatted to many men who have met loads of women on here who they never liked purely for sex they have all lied an said they like them, there attractive wen they never!! There should be a system where you go through all likes for instance wen setting up a page go through your hair colour, skin type, likes and if you are matched you can speak !! For instance pale skin gingers or brunettes are my type I would only be able to message them not blondes as clearly I’m not interested in blondes ( same principles as not looking for single guys ) this way if a man has open profile to he likes anything it’s a indication to women he’s pretty much no care where he goes an probably a good idea to stay away !! But if you are a ginger women ( as we all know most men like the tanned blonde ) to a ginger women reading my profile can clearly see I’m genuinely attracted to her. All this would cut out the pointless messages, the a-hole men who spoil it for the rest of us and would make this site honest an great again.

I don't get the "some men spoil it for other men" line.

If I send a woman a fancy a fuck message and a picture of my cock, how does that affect you?

Genuine question....."

Ask the women that question they don’t like it wen they get loads of mails like that each day they get fed up with guys messaging the same thing. Because they give up and judge on profiles pictures and messages they to struggle to find the right guy even for them. Women get 100,S messages like this each they pick the ones that stand out. And some tend to bulk delete wen there just seeing hello, cock pic, fancy fuck then there’s guys like me who sent a decent message with respect who’s message gets deleted with all the rest a indication not interested in me. even though she’s bulk deleted all missing my chance am hers an I have the respect not to hound her again an again until she reads the message ( this is why guys loose out an women get angry )

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over a year ago


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me.

I do judge and always will. My safety is important. I'm sure many women are the same.

Would you advise a female friend to meet an angry sounding man?

So you must come across as friendly in person if they chat to you in pubs. Are you more chatty in person? Is it your smile that makes them melt?

What do you think they like about you when you meet in person?

Probably as I’m honest friendly an fun and have respect for women. I have always been a straight talking kind of guy that you can trust women pick up on that. It’s completely different wen you txt. Plus wen your a cheekychops like me they know your good in public there’s some dark side that comes out in bedroom. It’s like the quiet girl that gets gangbanged if that makes sense. "

No that doesn't make sense but it made me laugh.

What do you mean? She's feisty when you get her going?

See now you sound like someone I'd like to meet. The type of man to watch out for his mates, got their back.

Perhaps over the last few years you've been frustrated at no replies and the things you mention in the OP. People pick up on the general mood and react to that.

Being positive can attract happy people.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"You seem determined both here and in your profile that other men spoil it for everyone - sorry but that is completely wide of the mark, people only spoil the experience of the site for themselves no-one else, and they do so by having a bad attitude, approach and expectations.

Your suggestions for more search criteria I can see of being value to anyone that has very specific wants, but to use them to force who you can and can't message are wrong in my opinion. Besides what if, like me, you're looking for something more of a cerebral connection primarily and physical attraction, whilst important, is secondary to that? How do you put criteria around searching for that? I've found physical attraction to people with all kinds of different physical features, but that doesn't mean I would meet just anyone.

No mate there not force if you actually take the time an read an think it’s not force what you are doing is seeing what you want to see !! Many women and men both say don’t message without a face pic don’t message with a cock pick don’t don’t yet the still manage to get all them unwanted messages my profile is not force it’s straight to the point no rubbish in other words I’m been firm yet respectful with who I am what I want. That’s not forceful that’s putting it straight out there for no one to be messed about or wasting my time or anyone else’s. It’s absolutely not my profile or my attitude it is the kind of people that are coming on to fab. Like I said previously same profile writing for years, same location I might of made new profiles but everything is the same I got about 20 messages a day, I have met over 100 people not all for sex but friendship I stick to one person at a time My personal preference but had met many girls for friendship while I only had that 1. I do live in a small town where it’s a hour away from anything else that causes issues, but I have never had problem ever it’s just these last two years ..maybe lack of people in my area?? Maybe the types of people that are joining fab ? "

I didn't pass any comment on your profile - my comment was regarding your suggestion about search criteria and people *only* being allowed (i.e. forced) to message those whose criteria matched their preferences - it wouldn't work for the reasons I have stated.

You also seem to be ignoring any comments that go against your suggestion that others spoil the site for the "genuine" people.

Whilst I agree that there are a lot of people here who don't "get" the site and the best way to use it (men who think they just have to sign up to get a shag, women who don't use filters etc) - I don't see the point in getting worked up about them, as you seem to be, much prefer to focus on my own experience - is a lot more positive and less negative that way

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

You're 32 so you were in school till at least 16. not sure what school leaves english till A level."
from 12 I had a bad car accident and spent 6 months in the hospital and following 3 years in pain in & out of hospital you try an deal with school, a sick mum an consentrate on other things while fighting pain. ( this is soul reason why it’s difficult people who judge )

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"That's the down fall of having a specific type. You've narrowed down your search dramatically, and those you do find have to be attracted to you.

All you can do is keep searching.

And be patient "

Thank you

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

The irony of being called Mr Happy01

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By *opsy71Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"i searched for years to meet a woman with three breasts then when i did bloody arnold schwarzenegger beat me to it..might need to do a total recall of my preferences.. "

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By *essons in LustCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me. "

You do come across as angry and a bit aggressive in attitude

Yes there are idiots but tbh the guys we / I have any fun with have been approachable and upbeat in nature which is relaxing and sexy .

If a woman is to be alone with you she needs to feel safe , and to feel trust a girl needs to be relaxed first

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me.

I do judge and always will. My safety is important. I'm sure many women are the same.

Would you advise a female friend to meet an angry sounding man?

So you must come across as friendly in person if they chat to you in pubs. Are you more chatty in person? Is it your smile that makes them melt?

What do you think they like about you when you meet in person?

Probably as I’m honest friendly an fun and have respect for women. I have always been a straight talking kind of guy that you can trust women pick up on that. It’s completely different wen you txt. Plus wen your a cheekychops like me they know your good in public there’s some dark side that comes out in bedroom. It’s like the quiet girl that gets gangbanged if that makes sense.

No that doesn't make sense but it made me laugh.

What do you mean? She's feisty when you get her going?

See now you sound like someone I'd like to meet. The type of man to watch out for his mates, got their back.

Perhaps over the last few years you've been frustrated at no replies and the things you mention in the OP. People pick up on the general mood and react to that.

Being positive can attract happy people."

I have had nothing but insults of people since I left this message ( I have not insulted anyone but spoke the truth maybe I should of wrote it in better words & context like my profile ) but I kind of like it as I know if women do message me an understand it it shows the type of women she is an the ones I would like to meet. Maybe it’s the type of women that are coming into fab now that’s the difference.

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By *rhappy01 OP   Man
over a year ago

yorkshire


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me.

You do come across as angry and a bit aggressive in attitude

Yes there are idiots but tbh the guys we / I have any fun with have been approachable and upbeat in nature which is relaxing and sexy .

If a woman is to be alone with you she needs to feel safe , and to feel trust a girl needs to be relaxed first "

Ask my meets it’s aa simple as that they will completely say the opposite to what people judge an think about me. The term don’t nock it till you try it says it all.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me.

I do judge and always will. My safety is important. I'm sure many women are the same.

Would you advise a female friend to meet an angry sounding man?

So you must come across as friendly in person if they chat to you in pubs. Are you more chatty in person? Is it your smile that makes them melt?

What do you think they like about you when you meet in person?

Probably as I’m honest friendly an fun and have respect for women. I have always been a straight talking kind of guy that you can trust women pick up on that. It’s completely different wen you txt. Plus wen your a cheekychops like me they know your good in public there’s some dark side that comes out in bedroom. It’s like the quiet girl that gets gangbanged if that makes sense.

No that doesn't make sense but it made me laugh.

What do you mean? She's feisty when you get her going?

See now you sound like someone I'd like to meet. The type of man to watch out for his mates, got their back.

Perhaps over the last few years you've been frustrated at no replies and the things you mention in the OP. People pick up on the general mood and react to that.

Being positive can attract happy people.

I have had nothing but insults of people since I left this message ( I have not insulted anyone but spoke the truth maybe I should of wrote it in better words & context like my profile ) but I kind of like it as I know if women do message me an understand it it shows the type of women she is an the ones I would like to meet. Maybe it’s the type of women that are coming into fab now that’s the difference. "

It's got nothing to do with the type of women joining fab now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had nothing but insults of people since I left this message ( I have not insulted anyone but spoke the truth maybe I should of wrote it in better words & context like my profile ) but I kind of like it as I know if women do message me an understand it it shows the type of women she is an the ones I would like to meet. Maybe it’s the type of women that are coming into fab now that’s the difference. "

And what type of women would that be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There have always been idiots on here.. ultimately we are each solely responsible for our own profiles and who we choose to speak to. Filters can be used to stop unwanted mail and women are perfectly capable of making their own decisions based on what we see. Stop worrying about everyone else and you'll feel less infuriated with the place.

If I let idiots dictate my experience I wouldn't have stuck around so long to meet some fabulous people.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

OP, I wouldn't meet you even if you were local. I'd be too damned scared to quite frankly. You seem to have anger issues, I wouldn't meet anyone as angry as you for my own safety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your complaining about other men ruining your chances of a meet and then you suggest the site be altered in a way which may hinder other people’s chances of a meet? It’s a bit selfish isn’t it?

Women hold the power on here that’s clear for me to see and I can’t see it changing anytime soon. It’s all luck of the draw, and finding the right match, some will succeed most will fail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - I feel your frustration, we see this site as nothing more than a unregulated commercial enterprise whereby the owners are gaining profit from allowing a free for all in every sense, so you either have to roll with the change or decide to let go..you live everyday and only die once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, I wouldn't meet you even if you were local. I'd be too damned scared to quite frankly. You seem to have anger issues, I wouldn't meet anyone as angry as you for my own safety. "

I’m in agreement. It seems that you cannot take any responsibility for your lack of success and feel the need to blame the everyone around you. A bad workman blames his tools. Your attitude is scary to be honest. This isn't meant as an insult - it’s just the way you are coming across to me (and a few others going by this post).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - I feel your frustration, we see this site as nothing more than a unregulated commercial enterprise whereby the owners are gaining profit from allowing a free for all in every sense, so you either have to roll with the change or decide to let go..you live everyday and only die once "

I doubt the owners get much profit at all

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"OP, I wouldn't meet you even if you were local. I'd be too damned scared to quite frankly. You seem to have anger issues, I wouldn't meet anyone as angry as you for my own safety.

I’m in agreement. It seems that you cannot take any responsibility for your lack of success and feel the need to blame the everyone around you. A bad workman blames his tools. Your attitude is scary to be honest. This isn't meant as an insult - it’s just the way you are coming across to me (and a few others going by this post). "

Agreed. The guys that ate idiots ruin it for themselves and make it easier for the decent ones imo.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair OP, you seem like an easily angered man. Personally I wouldn't want to find myself in an intimate situation with a man who I perceive as being very quickly angered.

If fab is getting you angry, then I would personally step away from it.

It's literally a website and words on a screen.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP one thing I've taken from this thread is the fact you said you've met women out in the real world who liked you but they were not interested in you from your fab profile and messages.

This says to me that your profile and approach on fab isn't working in the way you hope it would. Something is putting these ladies off you.

If your current profile and approach isn't working effectively maybe it's time to change it.

It does sound like you are getting rather fed up with fab at the moment. Perhaps it would help to take a break for a few weeks. You can hide your profile and come back whenever you feel like it.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

OP I’m confused where you got this blondes are tanned, brunettes are pale thing from. Blondes are ojyst as likely to be naturally pale - I certainly take a week in the sun to go white from blue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I’m confused where you got this blondes are tanned, brunettes are pale thing from. Blondes are ojyst as likely to be naturally pale - I certainly take a week in the sun to go white from blue. "

Me too; I’m a natural blonde

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I think it's time to close this now.

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