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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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Do you have someone you can speak to, about everything.

Someone you can unleash on and not feel bad or guilty that you have filled their ears with nonsense when they 'probably have their own things going on

I find it hard to talk about lots of things, my past isn't filled with much happiness- but I went for counselling and since then I feel lighter...is that the word?

So, do you talk? Or do you bottle?

Do you listen? Or just hear?

Are you able to respond to things or is it all a bit generic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk about how I’m feeling and I listen a lot to other people too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily i have 2 people i can be truly open with they no everything about me

I intern do the same for them

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Luckily I have a couple of very good friends one is on here too that I can talk to about anything and everything with. It must be really hard for those who don't have close friends.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I do have people that I can talk to now yes.

I didn't express myself well for many years and it led to awful lot of issues, many of which (like yourself) were helped through counselling. Bottling isnt good for anyone and in my opinion expressing yourself in a healthy way is essential for good mental health.

I do listen to others and I'm always willing to help whoever I see I need, you never know how important that may be.

On a side note, good on you for getting the support that has helped you and good thread too.

Mental health is something that I'm very conscious of and passionate about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that talking helps. It can also be extremely painful but the only way to truly heal is by being honest with yourself and with others.

People can't always help if they don't know the real deal, the depth of pain and anguish. They may also give the totally wrong advice/healing process help if they're treating the wrong thing! If you are seeking counselling, grasp it, be honest, brutally fucking honest or you're wasting everyones time.

Me? Yeah I've got people I can talk to, people who's opinions I value, who's life experience make them a fountain of knowledge, wisdom and depth.

We don't always need answers, sometimes we just need to hear "I understand" and to know they truly do.

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I do have people that I can talk to now yes.

I didn't express myself well for many years and it led to awful lot of issues, many of which (like yourself) were helped through counselling. Bottling isnt good for anyone and in my opinion expressing yourself in a healthy way is essential for good mental health.

I do listen to others and I'm always willing to help whoever I see I need, you never know how important that may be.

On a side note, good on you for getting the support that has helped you and good thread too.

Mental health is something that I'm very conscious of and passionate about. "

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I talk about how I’m feeling and I listen a lot to other people too "

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Luckily i have 2 people i can be truly open with they no everything about me

I intern do the same for them"

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Luckily I have a couple of very good friends one is on here too that I can talk to about anything and everything with. It must be really hard for those who don't have close friends. "

Can't imagine it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bottle it up, I’ve never been one for sharing my feelings as that just wasn’t done in my family. I tend to be the one that people come to me with their problems. X

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I've learned that talking helps. It can also be extremely painful but the only way to truly heal is by being honest with yourself and with others.

People can't always help if they don't know the real deal, the depth of pain and anguish. They may also give the totally wrong advice/healing process help if they're treating the wrong thing! If you are seeking counselling, grasp it, be honest, brutally fucking honest or you're wasting everyones time.

Me? Yeah I've got people I can talk to, people who's opinions I value, who's life experience make them a fountain of knowledge, wisdom and depth.

We don't always need answers, sometimes we just need to hear "I understand" and to know they truly do.

P"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was having this convo recently. For me talking doesn't change much it doesn't make me feel better or worse. The only thing that works for me is time. The amount depending on what's happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A regular injection of therapy every week helps me offload some of the detritus that builds up in my brain pan. Usually though I'm the go to for a lot of my friends when they have issues and, a forumite here pointed out, I dont exactly deal the best with stress. Still keep taking other peoples problems on though. It's definitely good to talk. I can advise that but never really take that same advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one person I can actually talk to (not that I do truth be told) and a few people who think I can. I suck at this stuff

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I think the only reason I’m not a completely crazy is because I talk... incessantly. It’s this that makes me process my thoughts and feelings. It helps me take the next step. The people I have around me know to listen to what I’m not saying and to give me time to spit it all out.

In turn I always ensure I have time to listen. My friends all have different ways of telling me they have a problem and not all of them are verbal about it. In order to be intuitive you have to know someone really really well. Sometimes you just know when someone needs a hug.

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I think the only reason I’m not a completely crazy is because I talk... incessantly. It’s this that makes me process my thoughts and feelings. It helps me take the next step. The people I have around me know to listen to what I’m not saying and to give me time to spit it all out.

In turn I always ensure I have time to listen. My friends all have different ways of telling me they have a problem and not all of them are verbal about it. In order to be intuitive you have to know someone really really well. Sometimes you just know when someone needs a hug. "

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Ive got friends I've know for over 35 years and they just aren't very good at discussing emotional stuff, and either avoid talking about it or change the subject. I've had 4 close family bereavements in the last 2 years and lost my mum to a very aggressive cancer 16 months ago, and I found i didn't really have anyone to talk to as my friends sort of avoided me as they didn't know what to say. So I organised to see a bereavement councillor which has helped a lot.

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!

I'm a bottler,but I have one friend I can talk to about ALMOST anything.She knows about Clare and gives me honest advice and opinions on things regarding my dressing, but discussion of anything sexual related is acknowledged to be out of bounds

Having someone who understands why I dress and attempt to become somebody else has actually helped me open up to my wife,who doesn't approve but reluctantly accepts it.Thr alternative was constant bickering punctuated by huge silences.

So,yes,someone lending an ear does help a lot

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Ive got friends I've know for over 35 years and they just aren't very good at discussing emotional stuff, and either avoid talking about it or change the subject. I've had 4 close family bereavements in the last 2 years and lost my mum to a very aggressive cancer 16 months ago, and I found i didn't really have anyone to talk to as my friends sort of avoided me as they didn't know what to say. So I organised to see a bereavement councillor which has helped a lot. "

Well done for arranging to see someone. It's shit when people don't know what to say and therefore avoid you. I have encountered that a lot this past year. Being there is better than not.

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By *iss.Honey OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I'm a bottler,but I have one friend I can talk to about ALMOST anything.She knows about Clare and gives me honest advice and opinions on things regarding my dressing, but discussion of anything sexual related is acknowledged to be out of bounds

Having someone who understands why I dress and attempt to become somebody else has actually helped me open up to my wife,who doesn't approve but reluctantly accepts it.Thr alternative was constant bickering punctuated by huge silences.

So,yes,someone lending an ear does help a lot"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have people i can talk to about something's.but theres pther things( like at the moment) that i cant talk to people about

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm better at listening and giving advice than I am at sharing my problems and listening/following my own advice.

I bottle problems up but I have 1 friend who knows when something is wrong and always seems to coax it out of me and make me feel better x

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I'm a talker and lucky enough to have a group of close friends who will listen and give impartial advice. I've also learnt to listen x

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Yes, I have a friends that I could talk about anything to. And they can tell me anything too.

It’s good to have people that don’t judge but try to understand even if they don’t share the same point of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not much of a talker about myself and my things. I’m more of a listener I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm great at listening. I'll always help people where I can.

I'm not good at talking about myself. I have people I can talk to, I just find it difficult.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’m far too insular to talk about my own problems to others although am happy to listen provided they don’t chat whilst Line Of Duty is on.

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone


"Ive got friends I've know for over 35 years and they just aren't very good at discussing emotional stuff, and either avoid talking about it or change the subject. I've had 4 close family bereavements in the last 2 years and lost my mum to a very aggressive cancer 16 months ago, and I found i didn't really have anyone to talk to as my friends sort of avoided me as they didn't know what to say. So I organised to see a bereavement councillor which has helped a lot.

Well done for arranging to see someone. It's shit when people don't know what to say and therefore avoid you. I have encountered that a lot this past year. Being there is better than not. "

Thank you. I wasn't in a good place mentally for about a year after my mum passed away. From diagnosis to her passing away was less than 2.5 months.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It’s never easy to talk but somehow in life you manage to find someone that you can consult with and talk to. About anything like me I’ve been told I’m a good listener and for some reason a lot of people come to me and talk about problem relationships to work problems it’s been like this all my life I don’t know why. As for me talking I can and I can’t it just has to be the right time

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

My best mate. Can talk to him about anything. Same for him with me. He knows I'm always on the end of the phone. Remember a few years back. He got booted off his uni course. Pulled a sickie, and drove 200+ miles to see him.

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