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Orgasm's YES/NO?

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By *athiaschristopher OP   Man
over a year ago

LONDON

Can sex still be 'good' if the person you are with gets pleasure, but doesn't cum?

Is it important that the person you are sleeping with orgasm's?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be disappointed if a guy didn't cum. I like seeing the fruits of my labour

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

No. I prefer men not to cum so that they're ready to go again when I climb on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cumming isn't the best bit tbh.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cumming isn't the best bit tbh..... "

Which bit do you prefer, cleaning up after ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, sex can still be good even if one of us doesn’t cum.

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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

As long as you’re enjoying the experience then in theory why should it be.

I really enjoy seeing my sexual partners orgasm but as long as they’re happy I’m happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think it’s better if we both cum , if I’m first to I go down with my tongue to make sure she does , if she is first I have to keep going to be sure I do and she quite likes it then because I can really speed it up and go nice and hard at it x

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Not sure, i prefer it if they cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be disappointed if a guy didn't cum. I like seeing the fruits of my labour "

This

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By *appy_hedonistMan
over a year ago

Islington

Seeing and feeling a woman orgasm is unbelievably sexy, so I definitely prefer it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I prefer men not to cum so that they're ready to go again when I climb on. "

I quite like your philosophy there hun xx ,

We tend to do the girl on top first then when she’s ready she get into missionary position to go to the time we’ve body cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing my partner cum... Especially multiples is such a turn on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing and feeling a woman orgasm is unbelievably sexy, so I definitely prefer it. "

I agree , feeling her tense up around my cock when it inside her feels so good and if I cum at the same time ,or almost it’s so so good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cumming isn't the best bit tbh.....

Which bit do you prefer, cleaning up after ? "

Nah, don't you dare laugh, but I like the initial penetration, and just being connected, I'm weird like that......

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Cumming isn't the best bit tbh.....

Which bit do you prefer, cleaning up after ?

Nah, don't you dare laugh, but I like the initial penetration, and just being connected, I'm weird like that...... "

My sort of weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby doesn’t come sometimes ..it used to really effect me, like I wasn’t good enough to get him excited enough. Turned out it was some meds he was on and that was a side effect. I learned to embrace it as it meant I could get a good hard seeing to and come maybe half a dozen times before I had to shout enough. It has never bothered him, he gets a kick out of just making me come. Didn’t beleive hi when he said he doesn’t need to, to enjoy it. But I guess there must be some truth in it

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By *athiaschristopher OP   Man
over a year ago

LONDON

So it's not selfish to ignore the other person's orgasm, so long as you know that you have given them a certain amount of pleasure?

Or it's just not the main focus?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we all focus on the orgasm and miss the bit which we crave. The getting there. I can happily play for hours on the edge and feel more satisfied then a quick 20 mins romp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cumming isn't the best bit tbh.....

Which bit do you prefer, cleaning up after ?

Nah, don't you dare laugh, but I like the initial penetration, and just being connected, I'm weird like that......

My sort of weird. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind so much if I don't cum but alike them to. Especially with a guy because it's like an end point.

I haven't been with anyone who struggles to cum though, I guess it wouldn't be a big deal if I knew in advance as long as they enjoyed it in other ways.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Yes,I've had a scenarios both ways where orgasm denial is part of the kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It pisses me off no end that no one can make me cum

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"It pisses me off no end that no one can make me cum"

If you can make yourself cum, you can show someone else how to make you cum...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be disappointed in truth. I love to give pleasure and I would feel I had failed if I couldn't make him cum

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By *LOVEpinacoladasWoman
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not bothered if I cum (mr) long as I’m getting mrs off that’s what counts and that gets me off knowing she’s satisfied and enjoying what I’m giving her.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"Can sex still be 'good' if the person you are with gets pleasure, but doesn't cum?

Is it important that the person you are sleeping with orgasm's?

"

When Domme fucks me I have lots of orgasms ... I don’t cum .... I never ‘finish’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 09/04/19 22:15:32]"

I was just about to agree with this and you removed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 09/04/19 22:15:32]

I was just about to agree with this and you removed it "

With what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 09/04/19 22:15:32]

I was just about to agree with this and you removed it

With what? "

Nobody will ever know now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 09/04/19 22:15:32]"

Brilliant profile pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 09/04/19 22:15:32]

I was just about to agree with this and you removed it

With what?

Nobody will ever know now! "

I'll l just have to guess and assume.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 09/04/19 22:15:32]

I was just about to agree with this and you removed it

With what?

Nobody will ever know now!

I'll l just have to guess and assume..... "

-l

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely cum during meets..only twice in 12 years..doesn't mean I've stop doing it. I enjoy it in other ways

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s important for the person I’m with to orgasms as this is turn for me knowing that I have flicked there switch so to speak . As for me coming , I can come watching watching the news so it’s not as important .

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Cumming isn't the best bit tbh.....

Which bit do you prefer, cleaning up after ?

Nah, don't you dare laugh, but I like the initial penetration, and just being connected, I'm weird like that...... "

I totally agree with this. That first moment of penetration makes me feel like I've died and gone to heaven

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Oh boy ..now I've got reverse performance anxiety

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By *LOVEpinacoladasWoman
over a year ago

East Sussex


"[Removed by poster at 09/04/19 22:15:32]

I was just about to agree with this and you removed it "

I realised I answered the wrong question - talking about my own orgasms rather than other people's! :D

But yes, pressure to orgasm makes it much less likely to happen. Sex is about far more than just climax!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cumming isn't the best bit tbh.....

Which bit do you prefer, cleaning up after ?

Nah, don't you dare laugh, but I like the initial penetration, and just being connected, I'm weird like that......

I totally agree with this. That first moment of penetration makes me feel like I've died and gone to heaven "

Faf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It pisses me off no end that no one can make me cum"

Give it 5 minutes and your inbox will be full of....promises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me the main things is that everyone has enjoyed themselves, it’s about enjoyment not the pressure of Cumming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It pisses me off no end that no one can make me cum"

This is why I don’t do one offs. Unless I know someone really well and I’m totally comfortable with them it’s not gonna happen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle due to meds. Probably 50/50 as to whether I do or not. Other factors such as tiredness have an effect too.

Doesn't bother me for the most part, can still have great sex.

I've slept with women who can't cum, again great sex.

It's not the be all and end all.

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By *appy_hedonistMan
over a year ago

Islington

We may have to stop calling it a "happy-ending" and rename it "don't worry, I'm fine-ending"

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By *athiaschristopher OP   Man
over a year ago

LONDON

Good points. Thank you all.

Final ask...

Is it that you should show a partner HOW to make you cum.

Or

Leave it to their best techniques and trial and application?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite often the journey can be better then the arrival.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Important to me that the person I’m with enjoys them self and if they cum even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never cum from penetration. And unless someone spends time giving me oral or using their fingers on my clit then I don't cum at all.

Occasionally it bothers me but a vast majority of the time it doesn't.

I prefer my partner to tell me if they have difficulty cumming so I don't feel I've done something wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can still be good, but not if it happens repeatedly with the same partner. I would prefer it if we both had orgasms but I'd still appreciate and enjoy the sex if it didn't happen on occasion.

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By *athiaschristopher OP   Man
over a year ago

LONDON

Do you show/tell a new partner HOW to best make sure that you cum?

Is there a responsibility to ensure they know, or just blame in possible disappointment?

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