FabSwingers.com forum: Social first? Or Jump straight in?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I prefer to have a social first as it's not just about physical attraction for me.

What's your thoughts?

Also would you pass me by, meet for a social or Jump straight in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social first. Unless we attend a club x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree x thank you x

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Nearly always a social meet to start with usually for a coffee or a drink and no promises of more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Another great reply x thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done both

Never had an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done both in my younger days

Now older and wiser.

Social 1st always!

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By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I always meet at mine solo, so combine social into a meet if it feels right

Couples (on couole profile) we do socials first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was there a psychological attraction though?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

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"I prefer to have a social first as it's not just about physical attraction for me.

What's your thoughts?

Also would you pass me by, meet for a social or Jump straight in?"

Always a social first.

I've had a couple that have ended as more than just that, but on both occasions, were people I had chatted to a very long time before we met

Sorry OP, but I'd pass you by.

Too much sausage on display

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe I need to relax a bit more then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social first, people want to buy me tea, I can't deny them that.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"I like a social first, people want to buy me tea, I can't deny them that. "

I like to stroke your hair while you drink tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a social first, people want to buy me tea, I can't deny them that.

I like to stroke your hair while you drink tea

That is a popular request

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I usually arrange to meet for a social first, then see how things go from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials can be fun. Socials that lead to fun are better... but sorry OP, I’ll pass on you.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I like a social first, people want to buy me tea, I can't deny them that.

I like to stroke your hair while you drink tea

That is a popular request"

Am I the only person not to want to stroke your hair?

I have bought you tea, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a social first. Unless we attend a club x"

Ditto that!....you dirty bitch! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a social first, people want to buy me tea, I can't deny them that.

I like to stroke your hair while you drink tea

That is a popular request

Am I the only person not to want to stroke your hair?

I have bought you tea, though.

I'm sure there are others but I pay no mind to them.

You also bought me a book of poems on tea. Which ticks all sorts of boxes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social first, so that everyone is comfortable.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

When I started out I used to jump straight in. I had one very scary experience and now insist on a social first. If people are willing to meet me in a club they are more likely (not guaranteed) to get both in one meet.

Plus, I do socials with people where one or both of us is only interested in the friendship and to give single men a verification.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Straight in there of all's happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely social first

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Social first...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social, but I will have chatted for some time beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a social first. Unless we attend a club x

Ditto that!....you dirty bitch! Xx

Haha takes one to know one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done both . The meet straight away meets were explosive to say the least. We both wanted it soooooo bad

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It depends on the context - how long we've been interacting, where we're meeting and more.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Well I don’t just walk through the door and jump on someone but I have already decided before I agree to a meet if I am going to have sex.....I suppose I do my socialising in getting to know them through messages and the few minutes of polite conversation when I arrive. So no I don’t do socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends for me, I'd prefer to have a social 1st, but if you have spoke quite abit before hand and it feels right then nothing wrong with not having a social only meet before anything else happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer socials first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer sex as soon as possible

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We will always have a social before any sex play takes place. We like to see if there is chemistry between us all.

Mr2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have very limited playtime, due to having a family. We prefer to meet in a club, that way, if the original meet is a no show or we are not to each others liking we can go our separate ways and still have fun.

Works well for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social every time, what if they look nothing like their pics etc, what if there’s no chemistry? I would never do anything for the sake of it, I’d rather do without. Quality not quantity always....

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Sex please! If im taking anyone out for a drink, I would rather it be my wife to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex please! If im taking anyone out for a drink, I would rather it be my wife to be honest. "

What if you all go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social first unless in a club with friends, only had one spontaneous meet n it didn’t go well at all sadly, was left with bruises I didnt want so put me off.. its partly a safety thing, partly confidence because I’m a big girl I wanna know they’re still happy with my size before it goes further... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both. I like a social that leads to more if we both feel like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social with potential for more if it suits.

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By *harlotte SometimesWoman
over a year ago

Leafy Warwickshire

Social first always. I might be an axe murderer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A social with potential for more if it suits. "

My preferred option too

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Social ,as we enjoy meeting people an having a drink too

Plus it's less pressure and good way to make sure we are all attracted to each other

Miss

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

After following verifications on here very few of these socials seem to go anywhere and they often take weeks to organise so not for me

I’ll stick with what I have on my profile that I only meet in clubs.That said everyone’s different and if people want to increase the share value of Costa that’s up to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After following verifications on here very few of these socials seem to go anywhere and they often take weeks to organise so not for me

I’ll stick with what I have on my profile that I only meet in clubs.That said everyone’s different and if people want to increase the share value of Costa that’s up to them"

I don’t drink tea or coffee. Sharing a bottle of gin is more like it with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nearly always a social meet to start with usually for a coffee or a drink and no promises of more. "

Exactly that, a brew and a chat and go from there. No expectations

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

Always a social first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first. Although there are friends I would skip the social for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to have a social first as it's not just about physical attraction for me.

What's your thoughts?

Also would you pass me by, meet for a social or Jump straight in?"

Jump straight in but we insist on the right to refuse to play if we are not attracted.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

Has to be a social or at least I will tell a potential meet no point getting a man all excited as so many have short fuses and go off at the lightest tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a social first

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

Social first.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"I prefer to have a social first as it's not just about physical attraction for me.

What's your thoughts?

Also would you pass me by, meet for a social or Jump straight in?

Jump straight in but we insist on the right to refuse to play if we are not attracted.

Absolutely agree and refusal is always an option if you meet in clubs

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Normally I prefer a social first but where there's the possibility to fuck if we both want to. That's not to say there's expectation or pressure from either party but more because of when I meet, it's there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peach does a social first. Sometimes on own some time with Kong. She goes for coffee with them for a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social first. Agreed to meet a guy for coffee before Xmas as wasn't sure if I fancied him but agreed to coffee. He walked in looked me up and down, says your not for me and left. Can you imagine if had a hotel room booked and that happened. So always a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social for me.

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By *r loveslickinMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Social first it's not all about looking good - intellectual stimulation too

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By *rchid0103Woman
over a year ago

Southport

I always meet socially first.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Social first, always. As much a safety thing as anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials are very important. I could never jump straight in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social 1st but mutual no expectations go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first but end of social it can lead to fun back at my place it's happened on more than one occasion when both parties have clicked and can't wait to fuck

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Socials are very important. I could never jump straight in

not even if you both like each other ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social first for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Socials are very important. I could never jump straight in

not even if you both like each other ?"

I always find it ramps up the tension and excitement for when we meet again

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Social first but end of social it can lead to fun back at my place it's happened on more than one occasion when both parties have clicked and can't wait to fuck

Wow nail head and hitting come to mind that sounds like a proper social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a social first. Agreed to meet a guy for coffee before Xmas as wasn't sure if I fancied him but agreed to coffee. He walked in looked me up and down, says your not for me and left. Can you imagine if had a hotel room booked and that happened. So always a social first "

What a guy!

Lucky escape. X

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I prefer a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer a social first "

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I prefer a social first

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Social first unless I've met someone at a club - it's too hard to tell if online chemistry will play out in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first (although I have been known to end a social with snogging, rapid undressing and...

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Socials are very important. I could never jump straight in

not even if you both like each other ?

I always find it ramps up the tension and excitement for when we meet again

We'dd be gutted watching you walk away thinking how long before we'd meet again

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Sex please! If im taking anyone out for a drink, I would rather it be my wife to be honest.

What if you all go? "

I guess so. I think we did that once before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how sexy they are

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I always have a social now first and I make it clear that nothing else will happen.

After a bad experience a few years ago now, I'm not so naïve

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ve had success either way to be honest. It depends on the chemistry. I’d never promise a full on meet on the first encounter though on the off chance that we meet and one/both of us changes their mind. It’s good to have options if it works out well though.

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By *ewspinMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Like the social as well as the sex but if it just ends up being a social then still gets you out mingling with the Fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you guys who proudly state “social first”, its late ; I’ve been chatting to a drop dead gorgeous ( no strike that - just a lovely woman u are attracted to; the chat gets steamy, almost out of control; she lives a few miles from u; she invites u round there and then and u say “ sorry , but I must insist on a social/ coffee meet first”. Really ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had success either way to be honest. It depends on the chemistry. I’d never promise a full on meet on the first encounter though on the off chance that we meet and one/both of us changes their mind. It’s good to have options if it works out well though. "

What Mac said, just saved me writing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you guys who proudly state “social first”, its late ; I’ve been chatting to a drop dead gorgeous ( no strike that - just a lovely woman u are attracted to; the chat gets steamy, almost out of control; she lives a few miles from u; she invites u round there and then and u say “ sorry , but I must insist on a social/ coffee meet first”. Really ?

I wouldn’t meet someone that quickly but I’m sure many would.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Depends how sexy they are"

Ahem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all the single men that have contacted us, haven’t wanted to have a social first, we prefer them so we can see if there’s an attraction, the men that contacted us seemed happy to just fuck regardless if there was attraction or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've jumped in a few times & always told myself that I'd never do it again...until the next time

Its only ever worked out well once or twice.

I insist on socials now & I know going into it if I want to bring them back to mine, its just depending on there being that spark in person.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

So what’s the actual reality then ?

It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .

I reckon we’ve had well over 1500 meets on fab in eight years . Roughly 900 men , 400 couples , 150 single women and 50 tv/ts . And how many have insisted or even asked for a social first ? Not one !

Yet anyone reading this thread , and any thread on this subject would think the vast majority of swingers would insist or prefer to have a social first . Maybe that’s why less than 1% of the site use the forums . The other 99% are out there shagging

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"So what’s the actual reality then ?

It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .

2 females we've met never asked for a social and they were both in the day and they came to us

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"So what’s the actual reality then ?

It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .

I think the difference here is that you are both non judgmental genuine swingers not confusing sex with fantasy romance and Mr Grey.Happy shagging isn’t that what it’s all about?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"So what’s the actual reality then ?

It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .

I think the difference here is that you are both non judgmental genuine swingers not confusing sex with fantasy romance and Mr Grey.Happy shagging isn’t that what it’s all about?"

Well yeah , when we first signed up that’s exactly what we thought it would be . Happy shagging , and that’s exactly what we did , with so many other like minded swingers .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what’s the actual reality then ?

It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .

I think the difference here is that you are both non judgmental genuine swingers not confusing sex with fantasy romance and Mr Grey.Happy shagging isn’t that what it’s all about?"

Some of us like romance and filth. I had a nice drinks date last week that ended up in a swinging club. That was not planned at all. It was only drinks after work.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

I’d rush straight there only to find it was a single guy living in his mother’s spare room

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I like a social first but sometimes needs must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should follow the path that you feel content with OP.

After all that's what others will do

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I always prefer social first as I infinitely prefer face to face getting to know someone, but I tend to leave it up to who I'm meeting to decide if they want to move things on sooner rather than later, as ultimately the success of the whole experience for me depends on them having a good time and getting what they want too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo social, need chemistry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to start with an orgasm, move on to sex followed a couple of days later by a social. Then finish with a FAF message. But some prefer the alternate order

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By *auradCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We always need a social first to see if there is a spark and to ensure that you can string a few words together when there is some down time while playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really all depends.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Social definitely.

I've had some great ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a piece of meet OP, I want romance, wine........... ooooowwwww look at those boobies!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am easy with either. I have had a couple of socials already, broke the ice for me

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Hmm well I like to chat quite a bit via message and video chat - so I feel like I have a good sense of the person... but maybe just a coffee or a drink with a hotel room close by to end up 20 mins later if all goes well and the attraction and fire exists in person....

love that....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I like the idea of a video chat. Seeing them prior to a social would definitely allow you to get a better understanding of them and them of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both. I like a social that leads to more if we both feel like it "

This is the best way, you have to be open to all options

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A social with potential for more if it suits. "

Perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends ...we’ve had “stand alone” socials and socials that have naturally progressed ...even a few where there was clothes being flung the minute they walked through the door . On the whole, a social first is always best ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always social first if goes well...... then things can happen.

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