FabSwingers.com forum: Organising a group meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've tried to organise a few group meets but find it's like herding cats. Maybe it's not my forte or do others feel the same?

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

It can be hard work and time consuming to wade through the time wasters, dreamers and wannabes. ..but worth it in the end once you get a small group of Males, ladies and Couples to invite regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've tried to organise a few group meets but find it's like herding cats. Maybe it's not my forte or do others feel the same?"

Are you trying to get them to meet blind? Or arranging a group social first? Lots of us want to know if there is chemistry before we get our kit off.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Your porfile is dreadful I'm not sure you can find any woman willing to commit a random group of men.

I think you're going about it wrong you have to secure the female frist this might be paying a prostitute as I'm not sure many will do it for free or look for a couple looking for this kind of play and join them .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you trying to get them to meet blind? Or arranging a group social first? Lots of us want to know if there is chemistry before we get our kit off."

Meet for action. The hardest ones are the keenest males who often at the last minute say something about work and try to rearrange the time to suit them.

I don't think I have the time for a social and then a real meet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your porfile is dreadful I'm not sure you can find any woman willing to commit a random group of men.

Nasty.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

This honestly sounds like it's guna be a group of males that end up meeting and wanking in a circle together

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This honestly sounds like it's guna be a group of males that end up meeting and wanking in a circle together

? Bi meet. All welcome. Couples were interested.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Your porfile is dreadful I'm not sure you can find any woman willing to commit a random group of men.

Nasty."

Truth.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you trying to get them to meet blind? Or arranging a group social first? Lots of us want to know if there is chemistry before we get our kit off.

Meet for action. The hardest ones are the keenest males who often at the last minute say something about work and try to rearrange the time to suit them.

I don't think I have the time for a social and then a real meet!"

Then make time. You don't work 24/7.

Plenty on here arrange group socials and they are very successful. They happen several times per year. I've been to one.

Many of those who attend arrange a hotel beforehand and make full use of it with another member or members of that group.

So far you're going about it the wrong way. I wouldn't be interested if invited.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nasty.

Truth.....

In a tiny mind maybe..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you would need to be a bit more well known really and have a pretty open and involved profile. Or you will just be another man with a fantasy and no experience to back up being able to organise something successful.

Im not trying to be mean but everyone and his dog on here is hoping to organise a group meet with little effort expended beyond messaging people from their sofa.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I have successfully organised parties at my house in the past. Focus on the word “party” not “meet”. I wouldn’t go anywhere where sex was presumed. A well organised party provides the opportunity for social interaction and sex if the mood and connection is right.

The host must do some hard work getting the numbers and balance right. Guests want to know who is coming and you must ensure everyone agrees to you releasing their profile names. You’ll need to provide a welcoming environment and tell people what sort of party this is. Word of mouth is important... friends tell friends and that’s how you get your guest list.

You invite people you’ve met before and clubs or parties. And always assume at least half won’t turn up.

Got to say. I wouldn’t be interested in an invite from your profile.. but I can’t tell you why because you’ve not asked for profile advice.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t go to a group meet full of strangers, unless it was just a social. I’ve found in the past, if you want to try an organise a group to play, form a group on kik and add people that may be interested. You can chat and get to know each other first and see if anyone wants to meet. It can take time but it may be worth it in the end.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think to successfulmy organise a group meet you need to post a date, time and location.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you would need to be a bit more well known really and have a pretty open and involved profile. Or you will just be another man with a fantasy and no experience to back up being able to organise something successful.

Im not trying to be mean but everyone and his dog on here is hoping to organise a group meet with little effort expended beyond messaging people from their sofa. "

Fair point. Am verified by twice. Sadly the best one removed her profile though I'm seeing her today. I didn't have much problem getting interest, just everyone wanted a time to suit then. Hence we cancelled.

I don't think group meets are for me really. And I have no time for meaness as we can see above in this thread.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Nasty.

Truth.....

In a tiny mind maybe.."

Ok Darryl no worries just trying to help.

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By *hiterabbit6Couple
over a year ago

Sexytown, Moray

"I have successfully organised parties at my house in the past. Focus on the word “party” not “meet”. I wouldn’t go anywhere where sex was presumed. A well organised party provides the opportunity for social interaction and sex if the mood and connection is right.

You invite people you’ve met before and clubs or parties. And always assume at least half won’t turn up.

Got to say. I wouldn’t be interested in an invite from your profile.. but I can’t tell you why because you’ve not asked for profile advice.

V x

Exactly this

Rabbit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My profile is paired down due to harassment. I think it's best to keep certain things like pictures hidden.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"My profile is paired down due to harassment. I think it's best to keep certain things like pictures hidden."

quite happy making hurtful joker comments on other threads but not willing to listen to people's advice and support on your own..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hurtful? Lol

Stalking now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hurtful? Lol

Stalking now?

How is that stalking? I hate when that word gets thrown around casually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hate is a strong word.

I posed an innocent question and received a nasty reply.

Then they state I was hurtful to someone else who actually found my comment funny.

I have had it before where someone trawls your back catalogue to try to discredit you. Why?

Sadly it makes forums horrible places really. But I'm thick skinned fortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate is a strong word.

I posed an innocent question and received a nasty reply.

Then they state I was hurtful to someone else who actually found my comment funny.

I have had it before where someone trawls your back catalogue to try to discredit you. Why?

Sadly it makes forums horrible places really. But I'm thick skinned fortunately."

Agreed. Dislike not hate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hate is a strong word.

I posed an innocent question and received a nasty reply.

Then they state I was hurtful to someone else who actually found my comment funny.

I have had it before where someone trawls your back catalogue to try to discredit you. Why?

Sadly it makes forums horrible places really. But I'm thick skinned fortunately.

Agreed. Dislike not hate. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate is a strong word.

I posed an innocent question and received a nasty reply.

Then they state I was hurtful to someone else who actually found my comment funny.

I have had it before where someone trawls your back catalogue to try to discredit you. Why?

Sadly it makes forums horrible places really. But I'm thick skinned fortunately.

Agreed. Dislike not hate.

I always check the green arrow myself if I’m not sure about the OP. It can tell a lot in some cases.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"My profile is paired down due to harassment. I think it's best to keep certain things like pictures hidden."

I think it’s very rare that anyone would meet someone with hidden pictures, I don’t even Look at a message from anyone that’s not trying to attract me with photos, you don’t need to show your face

Make a good solid profile both yourself and the female, promote eachother via your profiles then meet socially with people who you think would be a suitable

Then plan your party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your porfile is dreadful I'm not sure you can find any woman willing to commit a random group of men.

Nasty."

I haven't looked at your profile so can't comment on that. But the rest is true. Others have agreed along the same lines.

Most women and couples would not trust a single man trying to sort a group meet. That's not personal at you, just a fact.

Maybe look for parties where they invite single men. You could make friends and contacts that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes. Very true. But I did try to organise a meet stating as a couple. We got interest but as I say little agreement over tine.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

First full meet in a group setting, from someone who isn't an established organiser? No chance. And even if they were, I'd want to get a sense of them from friends. Social first would help, if you can get people to turn up.

Profile: it's been said, and I agree.

Then you've got the usual group problems, timewasters/ dreamers, those who lose their bottle or get better offers, you should expect a dropout rate of 50-75%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. Very true. But I did try to organise a meet stating as a couple. We got interest but as I say little agreement over tine."

Was it on your single man profile or a couple profile? We organised many group meets on our couple profile. Never had any no shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My profile is paired down due to harassment. I think it's best to keep certain things like pictures hidden.

quite happy making hurtful joker comments on other threads but not willing to listen to people's advice and support on your own..

Tbf he didnt ask for a profile critique and attacking his profile without him asking id against the rules

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think the profile critique might slip within the rules. He wants to know why he's struggling to organise group meets. The profile is actually part of the answer.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Hate is a strong word.

I posed an innocent question and received a nasty reply.

Then they state I was hurtful to someone else who actually found my comment funny.

I have had it before where someone trawls your back catalogue to try to discredit you. Why?

Sadly it makes forums horrible places really. But I'm thick skinned fortunately."

You didn't get a nasty reply.

You got a reply you didn't like.

They're not the same thing.

One thing guaranteed to boil the piss of the good people of Fab, being asked for advice, ignoring it and treating every suggestion as a personal attack.

Often simply because the advice didn't conform to what you wanted, which was positive reinforcement that you're doing everything right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My profile is paired down due to harassment. I think it's best to keep certain things like pictures hidden.

quite happy making hurtful joker comments on other threads but not willing to listen to people's advice and support on your own..

Tbf he didnt ask for a profile critique and attacking his profile without him asking id against the rules"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Hate is a strong word.

I posed an innocent question and received a nasty reply.

Then they state I was hurtful to someone else who actually found my comment funny.

I have had it before where someone trawls your back catalogue to try to discredit you. Why?

Sadly it makes forums horrible places really. But I'm thick skinned fortunately.

You didn't get a nasty reply.

You got a reply you didn't like.

They're not the same thing.

One thing guaranteed to boil the piss of the good people of Fab, being asked for advice, ignoring it and treating every suggestion as a personal attack.

Often simply because the advice didn't conform to what you wanted, which was positive reinforcement that you're doing everything right.

Quite. Nasty or unkind would be you've got no hope, you (insert insults here). Or something like that. Saying that the profile won't help is giving the OP something to help him succeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate is a strong word.

I posed an innocent question and received a nasty reply.

Then they state I was hurtful to someone else who actually found my comment funny.

I have had it before where someone trawls your back catalogue to try to discredit you. Why?

Sadly it makes forums horrible places really. But I'm thick skinned fortunately.

You didn't get a nasty reply.

You got a reply you didn't like.

They're not the same thing.

One thing guaranteed to boil the piss of the good people of Fab, being asked for advice, ignoring it and treating every suggestion as a personal attack.

Often simply because the advice didn't conform to what you wanted, which was positive reinforcement that you're doing everything right.

Quite. Nasty or unkind would be you've got no hope, you (insert insults here). Or something like that. Saying that the profile won't help is giving the OP something to help him succeed! "

She said he would have to hire a prostitute....

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Speaking as a bi guy, part of a swinging couple within an hour of your place, I'd suggest you start a thread asking for profile help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Profiles evolve. Mine is currently what it is due to past events. Pictures used to be on display but not anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles evolve. Mine is currently what it is due to past events. Pictures used to be on display but not anymore. "

If you click reply+quote we’ll know who you’re speaking too

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Profiles evolve. Mine is currently what it is due to past events. Pictures used to be on display but not anymore. "

I get that, mine evolves too, but yours is currently a frog trying to survive in a desert. There's nothing wrong with frogs! But not for a desert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've tried to organise a few group meets but find it's like herding cats. Maybe it's not my forte or do others feel the same?"

Its easier for the women involved to organise it they will have more credibility.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good quote. But I guess I'm not trying too hard. As I said I won't try to organise any more group meets. But it doesn't mean I'm not having fun.

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