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"I don’t express it. I just admire from afar and hope they mind read, like me and message me. It’s not very pro active on my part i’m aware. " . This is me too | |||
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"I just assume they wouldn't feel the same so look for tangible indications they feel the same. Then I declare and hope for the best. " Oh Lickety (in a not patronising way). A part of me did think this is how you viewed things. I hope your future declarations are matched. | |||
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"I don’t express it. I just admire from afar and hope they mind read, like me and message me. It’s not very pro active on my part i’m aware. " Yeah, not really? Does it work for you though? | |||
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"It would be a little easier if the ladies sent a wink or a message if they like the look of you as alot of it on the forums can be mistaken as light hearted fun" I have sent winks and messages and get the Fab male experience of no response, delete or block. | |||
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"I don't really know. I never considered myself flirtatious until several people pointed it out. But to actually express interest in someone, I either don't or I hide behind poetry. " Out of lemon flowers loosed on the moonlight, love's lashed and insatiable essences, sodden with fragrance, the lemon tree's yellow emerges, the lemons move down from the tree's planetarium Delicate merchandise! | |||
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"I don’t express it. I just admire from afar and hope they mind read, like me and message me. It’s not very pro active on my part i’m aware. Yeah, not really? Does it work for you though? " Suprisingly yes, more than you’d think it would really | |||
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"It would differ between the person surely. If you have alot in common then use that in your favour. I met my ex on an online site and we flirted by using shit puns and film references which to us was hilarious." Finding common ground is a great way of flirting - shared dorkery is lovely. Sometimes I quote lines at people and if they reciprocate in kind I know I've found a good 'un. | |||
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"On here I'm lazy and let them come to me." I see you do that a lot with Lib. | |||
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"I summoned my latest muse. " Teach me your ways O Wise One. | |||
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"I don't really know. I never considered myself flirtatious until several people pointed it out. But to actually express interest in someone, I either don't or I hide behind poetry. Out of lemon flowers loosed on the moonlight, love's lashed and insatiable essences, sodden with fragrance, the lemon tree's yellow emerges, the lemons move down from the tree's planetarium Delicate merchandise! " I do love when you Neruda me. | |||
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"I summoned my latest muse. Teach me your ways O Wise One. " You do just fine. | |||
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"I never assume anyone finds me attractive unless they actually say so (repeatedly, so I know it wasn't just bad lighting or one too many gins) I just try and make them laugh and hope they might come back again for the comedy value if nothing else " Sending lots of nudes works as well, yes? I get this. Sometimes I need the erm... reassurance that they do actually find me attractive me and have not been boobitised after a drink. | |||
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"Is ‘binary’ the word of the day ? " Shush James, it's too early for your wit. | |||
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"Is ‘binary’ the word of the day ? " Today has been brought to you by the words 'binary' and 'period poverty' and by the numbers '42' and '69'. | |||
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"In the past I've been fairly open about my interest, that's not to say that I have done my fair share of nervous dancing around the subject. I do think that passivity get you nowhere though. I always used to let my hotlist know that I was interested and engage with the people that I was attracted to. " Passivity is easier though sometimes. It can just be a harmless fap without the pressure of talking. Do you think people could/did misread your engagement as a sign of attraction? | |||
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"I have been proactive many times, introducing myself or commenting on pics or post etc, nowadays I have no confidence so I am happy to just let the lovely people flirt and play amongst themselves " I hope you find your confidence again soon, x | |||
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"In the past I've been fairly open about my interest, that's not to say that I have done my fair share of nervous dancing around the subject. I do think that passivity get you nowhere though. I always used to let my hotlist know that I was interested and engage with the people that I was attracted to. Passivity is easier though sometimes. It can just be a harmless fap without the pressure of talking. Do you think people could/did misread your engagement as a sign of attraction? " Maybe, I like to chat with people and will engage with pretty much anyone. I guess it's about intent and assumption at the end of the day though, it's a confusing dance at times! | |||
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"When I fancy someone i just threaten to abseil off their chimney into the bedroom and climb into their bed or i will tie them to the bed and throw fries at them while eating a bargain bucket!!!......or " well at least u can use all that grease as free lube | |||
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"Is ‘binary’ the word of the day ? " It either is, or it isn't. | |||
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"On here I just say it. In person I turn into a giggly girly mess and either get very timid and blush a lot or get extra sarky and take the piss. I've only once made the first move in person. He told me if I lost weight he would love to take me out. It kinda put me off " No don't do that. You're perfectly voluptuous as you are! | |||
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"Depends on the person but I wear my heart on my sleeve. I try to keep it one to one if it goes beyond a wee bit of public flirtation. I’m an incorrigible flirt at times so most flirting in public is precisely that. Recently I’ve been direct but then again I’ve not been casting a wide net more a kid’s pond net " I sometimes wonder if even though I think I’m being clear that it isn’t received that way or that it is off-putting. I think I’m more good friends and confidante material than sexual partner. However I think I’m too old to pussyfoot around. | |||
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"I'm not scared of a bit of public affection." Nor me but I think almost all of that affection is not sexual interest. | |||
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"I'm not scared of a bit of public affection. Nor me but I think almost all of that affection is not sexual interest." I fookin' luv you | |||
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"I'm not scared of a bit of public affection. Nor me but I think almost all of that affection is not sexual interest. I fookin' luv you" The feeling is mutual | |||
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"I'm not scared of a bit of public affection. Nor me but I think almost all of that affection is not sexual interest." I need some dodgy snake oil | |||
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"I'm not scared of a bit of public affection. Nor me but I think almost all of that affection is not sexual interest. I need some dodgy snake oil " Haha. I’ll put some through your letter box neighbour | |||
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities. " Couldn’t be doing with that either | |||
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities. Couldn’t be doing with that either " Oh, I'd suck your cock though x | |||
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"You could probably say I'm difficult,I probably talk too much,I over-analyze and over-think things.Yes it's a nasty crutch." I think you just think you're constantly being attacked. You probably think i hate you. But i enjoy you. I think you need a cuddle and a reach around. | |||
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities. Couldn’t be doing with that either " Exactly, I met a lady off here from the south coast, she was only supposed to stop for a couple of nights at mine, but ended up stopping for 4 and I think she was planning on moving in | |||
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"You could probably say I'm difficult,I probably talk too much,I over-analyze and over-think things.Yes it's a nasty crutch. I think you just think you're constantly being attacked. You probably think i hate you. But i enjoy you. I think you need a cuddle and a reach around. " I don’t remember those lyrics, is that in the extended version ? | |||
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities. Couldn’t be doing with that either Oh, I'd suck your cock though x " I’d let you | |||
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities. Couldn’t be doing with that either Oh, I'd suck your cock though x I’d let you " A gentleman and a scholar. | |||
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities. Couldn’t be doing with that either Oh, I'd suck your cock though x I’d let you " Get a room you two | |||
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"I just assume they wouldn't feel the same so look for tangible indications they feel the same. Then I declare and hope for the best. " ?+ 1 Face to face I would be hoping that the other person made the running until I was sure one way or another and then relax and allow myself to be a bit more candid. | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. " And I thought you saw me as unobtainable | |||
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"You could probably say I'm difficult,I probably talk too much,I over-analyze and over-think things.Yes it's a nasty crutch." I'm usually only waiting for you to stop talking So that I can Concerning two-way streets I have to say That I am not a fan You need to find a new song now Tame. | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. And I thought you saw me as unobtainable " I do | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. And I thought you saw me as unobtainable " Is this a public something? Well I never. | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. And I thought you saw me as unobtainable I do " Luckily clem isn't | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. " What? The direct approach isn't effective either? You neurotypicals keep changing all the rules! | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. And I thought you saw me as unobtainable Is this a public something? Well I never. " Nah don't panic. I'm not a changed person | |||
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"You could probably say I'm difficult,I probably talk too much,I over-analyze and over-think things.Yes it's a nasty crutch. I'm usually only waiting for you to stop talking So that I can Concerning two-way streets I have to say That I am not a fan You need to find a new song now Tame. " Rumbled. | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. And I thought you saw me as unobtainable I do Luckily clem isn't " Quite one out of two ain’t bad | |||
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"On here I just say it. In person I turn into a giggly girly mess and either get very timid and blush a lot or get extra sarky and take the piss. I've only once made the first move in person. He told me if I lost weight he would love to take me out. It kinda put me off " What a twatface, sorry you had that crappy experience. | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. And I thought you saw me as unobtainable I do Luckily clem isn't Quite one out of two ain’t bad " Can I have sticky seconds? | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. And I thought you saw me as unobtainable I do Luckily clem isn't Quite one out of two ain’t bad Can I have sticky seconds?" You may. | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. What? The direct approach isn't effective either? You neurotypicals keep changing all the rules! " There I was thinking that was the exclusive domain of the ladies... Every day is a school day! | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. And I thought you saw me as unobtainable " The unobtainable part came abit later on with you | |||
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"Going back to the Ops original question, i usually walk right up to the lady I fancy and say ‘Excuse me, has anyone ever told you, you’re stood right in front of the Dairylea Lunchables ?!’ Then I go home alone and cry salty tears into my cheesey dips. " You need new material, can't keep switching the item. Tut. | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. And I thought you saw me as unobtainable I do Luckily clem isn't Quite one out of two ain’t bad Can I have sticky seconds? You may. " Awesome dude, should I bring a serviette as well? | |||
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. What? The direct approach isn't effective either? You neurotypicals keep changing all the rules! " For me it doesn't. I've tried both ways, but like said it's probably just me being crap more than anything else lol | |||
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"I sometimes wonder if even though I think I’m being clear that it isn’t received that way or that it is off-putting. I think I’m more good friends and confidante material than sexual partner. However I think I’m too old to pussyfoot around." Everyone has those doubts at times, it doesn't mean they are true (also doesn't mean they are false but that's not the point I'm trying to make). Fuck pussyfooting around. Well kind of. It's sometimes safer and easier to do than putting your metaphorical cards out on the table. | |||
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"I sometimes wonder if even though I think I’m being clear that it isn’t received that way or that it is off-putting. I think I’m more good friends and confidante material than sexual partner. However I think I’m too old to pussyfoot around. Everyone has those doubts at times, it doesn't mean they are true (also doesn't mean they are false but that's not the point I'm trying to make). Fuck pussyfooting around. Well kind of. It's sometimes safer and easier to do than putting your metaphorical cards out on the table. " Yep that’s why I lay my cards on the table in my own inimitable way. Whether those cards are a winning hand is not as obvious as in a game of cards | |||
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"Going back to the Ops original question, i usually walk right up to the lady I fancy and say ‘Excuse me, has anyone ever told you, you’re stood right in front of the Dairylea Lunchables ?!’ Then I go home alone and cry salty tears into my cheesey dips. You need new material, can't keep switching the item. Tut." I will Persevere with that till I get a reply and quote with one of these . I will not rest till that day comes. Kind regards X | |||
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"On here I'm lazy and let them come to me. I see you do that a lot with Lib. " Yea, don't want to come over as too keen | |||
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"I was going to post this as a binary thread but clearly people are more complex. So, you fancy someone/they make your cock chunky/your quim quiver. How do you express that? Are you the sort to play it cool? Go in full guns blazing? Mockingly flirt with them? Test the waters with a light every now and again? Are you the sort who prefers the unavailability for safety or do you like people to declare their desire to fuck you to all and sundry?" On the rare occasion I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm attracted to them they usually laugh and tell me not to be so daft. I tend to stay shtummm and save myself the | |||
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"When I fancy someone i just threaten to abseil off their chimney into the bedroom and climb into their bed or i will tie them to the bed and throw fries at them while eating a bargain bucket!!!......or well at least u can use all that grease as free lube " It would make the oral taste of KFC great idea PMF LJ | |||
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"When I fancy someone i just threaten to abseil off their chimney into the bedroom and climb into their bed or i will tie them to the bed and throw fries at them while eating a bargain bucket!!!......or well at least u can use all that grease as free lube It would make the oral taste of KFC great idea PMF LJ" My impulse control about biting down and eating my favourite food, may have you turning into a Laydeeee though H x | |||
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