FabSwingers.com forum: I remember when...

By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I first started using online sites and the very first insult I got kinda shocked me. I mean I didn't ask to be abused in any way,so why would a random person who I didn't know send me an abusive message I ask myself.

It's amazing how thick skinned and couldn't give a sh*t attitude I have towards them nowadays. Suppose in equal amounts that's sad,just thinking out loud. Technology eh it can be a wonderful thing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I've always had that attitude even as a kid. I have it double on line. I do think the net has given the poison pen letter writers of this world an easy and widely available outlet though. I think mostly they're lonely people with rock bottom self esteem or an inflated sense of importance.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I had to get used to it, too. It's a wild world. Very different to meat space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ended up fucking the first man who insulted me. I wasn't bothered by it and send an equally insulting, but very funny, insult back. That started the ball rolling and we met up for sex a couple of times.

I still chat to him on Facebook now and then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had to get used to it, too. It's a wild world. Very different to meat space. "

What's meat space?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I had to get used to it, too. It's a wild world. Very different to meat space.

What's meat space?"

The real world. Like, where we're physical bodies (meat) not images on a screen/ electronic signals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I first started using online sites and the very first insult I got kinda shocked me. I mean I didn't ask to be abused in any way,so why would a random person who I didn't know send me an abusive message I ask myself.

It's amazing how thick skinned and couldn't give a sh*t attitude I have towards them nowadays. Suppose in equal amounts that's sad,just thinking out loud. Technology eh it can be a wonderful thing."

I can't remember a time when I didn't think all the shite was 'normal'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had to get used to it, too. It's a wild world. Very different to meat space.

What's meat space?

The real world. Like, where we're physical bodies (meat) not images on a screen/ electronic signals. "

Oh crikey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keyboard Warriors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m pretty thick skinned but got insulted on here after fabbing someone’s pics which took me off guard. Pretty sad that she felt the need to message me to tell me how ugly I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get insults.

I feel left out now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont get insults.

I feel left out now

I’d insult you but I’m rubbish at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont get insults.

I feel left out now

I haven't had many on here and only two on Facebook apps.

I think I'm too old and boring to upset men when I say no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I'm of an age where I don't really know any different.

Social media has just always been part of my life so has the internet. That's why I never understand when people say it's only the internet, it isn't real because actually it's very real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go after folks with a barbed wire snare and a blowtorch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess I'm of an age where I don't really know any different.

Social media has just always been part of my life so has the internet. That's why I never understand when people say it's only the internet, it isn't real because actually it's very real. "

You see, I find that last comment sad and scary (not meaning to be condescending at all, it simply highlights the different eras we grew up in)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go after folks with a barbed wire snare and a blowtorch

You do not....you use teabags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot understand why anyone would insult people , we are all here for the same reason , although in different ways maybe,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess I'm of an age where I don't really know any different.

Social media has just always been part of my life so has the internet. That's why I never understand when people say it's only the internet, it isn't real because actually it's very real.

You see, I find that last comment sad and scary (not meaning to be condescending at all, it simply highlights the different eras we grew up in) "

What I mean is I think sometimes people forget that because the Internet offers a certain level of anonymity that actually there are real people at the end of these comments. They think by saying something on the internet isn't going to be as impactful or harmful as saying in person when actually I don't see the difference. But yes it's definitely a big shift in attitudes depending on The Generation I think.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I guess I'm of an age where I don't really know any different.

Social media has just always been part of my life so has the internet. That's why I never understand when people say it's only the internet, it isn't real because actually it's very real. "

I remember the Internet becoming more user friendly. We're about the same age.

I think there are just different norms across different media. I agree that it shouldn't be "oh, it's just the Internet", it certainly plays out that way and we have to adapt. I suspect the kinds of things I get in my inbox would get people flung bodily out of pubs if said in public. I'd certainly be a lot more shocked.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I guess I'm of an age where I don't really know any different.

Social media has just always been part of my life so has the internet. That's why I never understand when people say it's only the internet, it isn't real because actually it's very real.

You see, I find that last comment sad and scary (not meaning to be condescending at all, it simply highlights the different eras we grew up in)

I see it as a survival thing. I'd not last very long online, openly female, without developing an Internet specific thick skin.

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By *ust chilled out meMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

It's amazing how thick skinned and couldn't give a sh*t attitude I have towards them nowadays. Suppose in equal amounts that's sad,just thinking out loud. Technology eh it can be a wonderful thing."

Alot of people could t give a fk what they say to people on like and how it can make them feel some get off on making people feel bad because they have a crap home life no confidence ect it's easy online half of them wouldn't be able to look you in the eye in the flesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess I'm of an age where I don't really know any different.

Social media has just always been part of my life so has the internet. That's why I never understand when people say it's only the internet, it isn't real because actually it's very real.

You see, I find that last comment sad and scary (not meaning to be condescending at all, it simply highlights the different eras we grew up in)

I see what you mean, I agree with you about the anonymity and the different and often appalling attitudes online. It's when the boundaries between online and real life are blurred that problems can begin I think

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I dont get insults.

I feel left out now

I never had any

and I'm looking for a fight, besides I don't need to do it online I would gladly say to there faces if I had a problem with anyone.

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By *ream3.14159Man
over a year ago

Here & there

It was worse back in the days before the net, we used to get abusive messages delivered by pigeons, not only that they were trained to take a shit on us as they flew away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go after folks with a barbed wire snare and a blowtorch

You do not....you use teabags

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u do more tbagging than me at the minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was worse back in the days before the net, we used to get abusive messages delivered by pigeons, not only that they were trained to take a shit on us as they flew away

True fact.

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I ended up fucking the first man who insulted me. I wasn't bothered by it and send an equally insulting, but very funny, insult back. That started the ball rolling and we met up for sex a couple of times.

I still chat to him on Facebook now and then. "

Interesting,how bad was the insult though? I couldn't for one min imagine having sex with someone that starts off being a nasty git. I do like to play along for a while nowadays for amusement purposes,by totally agreeing with everything they say,in some respects it's true anyway.

The next minute I've turned into someone beautiful not some ugly bugger they originally said.

They bore me then so I tend to block.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

This is so sad..

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I had to get used to it, too. It's a wild world. Very different to meat space. "

I love that turn of phrase "meat space"

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"This is so sad..

For the person sending the abuse yes it is,they must be very unhappy souls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough had several today after having none for ages! I just give it right back. You better believe the fuckers will block before I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never really had many insults, but I've played online games long enough to not be offended by anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never really had many insults, but I've played online games long enough to not be offended by anything."

Angry birds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a fair few. Some of them are highly amusing, most predictable, highly abusive....all however deleted and moved past

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Funnily enough had several today after having none for ages! I just give it right back. You better believe the fuckers will block before I do

Yeah the recent git blocked me first,he must have thought he was at the top of his results what a let down that was.

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Had a fair few. Some of them are highly amusing, most predictable, highly abusive....all however deleted and moved past

Is that from women or men?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"It was worse back in the days before the net, we used to get abusive messages delivered by pigeons, not only that they were trained to take a shit on us as they flew away

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I think some folk are just thundercunts.

I went into the chat room this week and put my cam on (face only) and got insulted twice within an hour.

Granted i’m No Rachel Welch, but i’d assumed I didn’t look like Sloth’s long lost sister from The Goonies either.

How.wrong.was.I?

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I still chat to him on Facebook now and then. "

This is why I heart you, Kaitlyn. Turning every potential enemy into a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me" a teacher once said.

Wise words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a fair few. Some of them are highly amusing, most predictable, highly abusive....all however deleted and moved past

Is that from women or men?"

Both although not a lot of women. Found my filters now

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I think some folk are just thundercunts.

I went into the chat room this week and put my cam on (face only) and got insulted twice within an hour.

Granted i’m No Rachel Welch, but i’d assumed I didn’t look like Sloth’s long lost sister from The Goonies either.

How.wrong.was.I?

They're sad shits,I just don't get the mentality of some people at time's. Were the insults from men or women,I'm just wondering if women are equally as bad as men on here?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I think some folk are just thundercunts.

I went into the chat room this week and put my cam on (face only) and got insulted twice within an hour.

Granted i’m No Rachel Welch, but i’d assumed I didn’t look like Sloth’s long lost sister from The Goonies either.

How.wrong.was.I?

They're sad shits,I just don't get the mentality of some people at time's. Were the insults from men or women,I'm just wondering if women are equally as bad as men on here?"

A man and a couple.

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