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By *enegadelovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Circa Faro & Seville

We're in Spain. although our profile says London. As we were there when we created the profile. But we do say clearly on the profile we're in Spain. But I swear almost every message is from men who have not read the profile, And what the fuck is with a wink, message and friend request, all at once. Most of my time spent just deleting the junk. If you know there is no chance of a meet, why bombard people with crap?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They look at pictures thats it.rare anyone ( not just men ) read them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read profile and those who I've messaged will vouch for that... I think its just lazy if you don't.

I'll be in Spain in couple of months.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Couples can be just as bad - 'here's my hairy, short husband full of piercings, would you like to play with him?'

I think we can safely say, there are lots of people who don't read profiles.

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By *eandHim2019Couple
over a year ago

preston

Think we can safely say they dont read them

Maybe they do and are just bad mannered

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By *kbradMan
over a year ago

thurrock

I quite like reading them, for me it's fun to have an idea what people are into, but I will admit to having the odd occasion I just send a message and hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't tar us all with the same brush lol I read all profiles I click into. You took the time write about yourself so I will take the time to read what you've written

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By *enegadelovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Circa Faro & Seville

Of course, there are exceptions. I am not suggesting men shouldn't take pot luck chance or whatever. The messages range from 'hows U' with 'wanna fuck now' And everything else in between. Not to mention the blokes who periodically strike with the wholly trinity, wink message and friend request. 99% of the messages were sent only on the image. Gives us men who have a little more respect for members a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be arsed reading the nevative profiles, you know the ones what tell you what they don't want,soon as I see... "i do not want......." I'm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem isn't limited to single men.

I've had messages from women and couples who clearly haven't read mine

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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The single men get it again

It’s not just them, it’s a fab wide thing.

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By *enegadelovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Circa Faro & Seville

Agree, it is not limited to single men. But they are by far the most prolific offenders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men are all responsible for all the plastic in the ocean, oh and don't forget that tsunami in shri Lanka....single men, global warming......single men,the decline of the bee population.....single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy reading them as it gives you a but of an insight into what they like etc and weather it is worth you messaging them in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much wanking our mums were right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't be arsed reading the nevative profiles, you know the ones what tell you what they don't want,soon as I see... "i do not want......." I'm done"

Why do people do that? Put yourself forward, tell people about yourself and give them a little bit to go on so that they might have other reasons to like you rather than just your pictures. Put up a a list of negatives/things that you don't want only, you'll likely come across as a negative person or possibly someone who is seen as "hard work". I'm not saying put it on a plate either and be easy, just write a blooming description of yourself for dear sake!

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

It ain't just single men. I've had the same from couples.

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By *enegadelovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Circa Faro & Seville

A woman standing up for single men. How refreshing. This was a pointless post. I realise it in retrospect. The point is, it is single men who message us on the vast majority. But as a man, I guess I should know better how men think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to start a thread on entitled couples just to even things out, you know couples who ask for a face photo in their first message without sending you one, cause they assume you will bow down before them and jump through hoops because, you as a single man have been Chosen and you should be honoured.

Just as a side note, the men you speak of don’t read profiles and they certainly wouldn’t read the forums so you’re shouting into the void.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"A woman standing up for single men. How refreshing. This was a pointless post. I realise it in retrospect. The point is, it is single men who message us on the vast majority. But as a man, I guess I should know better how men think. "

I stand up for single men because I think they get singled out a lot as being the issue. It may the case in your experience obviously but in general I don’t think it’s gender specific

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A woman standing up for single men. How refreshing. This was a pointless post. I realise it in retrospect. The point is, it is single men who message us on the vast majority. But as a man, I guess I should know better how men think. "

Cause all men think the same, cause we are collective unit.

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By *enegadelovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Circa Faro & Seville

I agree. That's why I have accepted that it was pointless to post.

I never ask for face pics.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

We look at pictures and thoroughly read the profile before contacting anyone with a view to a meet

Why waste peoples time

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

I always slip to the end of a profile to see what silly word they want you to put in message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always slip to the end of a profile to see what silly word they want you to put in message "

Always thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard enough to keep up with all the mails from single womem and couples....

all the random pussy pics...

Really dont have time to read profiles too ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they do or I have seriously been thrown from ugly tree and hit every stick on the way down, on my single profile I am lucky if I get one message a day, I state quite clearly I am looking for women.

Danish x

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"The single men get it again

It’s not just them, it’s a fab wide thing. "

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"The single men get it again

It’s not just them, it’s a fab wide thing. "

True story.

The sense of self importance and entitlement from some couples is astounding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos i never needed to or wanted to good reading doesnt equal good sex

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By *enegadelovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Circa Faro & Seville

Glad you said 'some'. Truth be told we're here now only for single men. We have a very specific requirement for them. At the start of our fab journey messaged a few single women, now don't even look single women's profiles. Meeting single women in real life is so much easier and fun. In any case with respect, most of the single women on here wouldn't get look. Sorry but true.

But as we're in Spain and can only meet if anyone is close to us. I log on every now and again. As soon as I do, get everything but none of them have read where we are. It was a momentary thing. My bad for posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it's not compulsory.

They don't have to read profiles any more than we don't have to reply to their messages, and there's nothing anyone can do about it.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I perv the pictures...try to send a wink ...if the site lets me because I'm not too old ..male or any other impediment... I will read the profile ..if I'm still not to short ..tall hairy beardy or any other reason not to write.. I will send a nice non copy paste message... which will probably get ignored or deleted

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By *LawMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I always read profiles. Theres no point trying to go any further if you're not what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why people don't just use filters if the messages they receive are annoying them enough they feel the need to complain.

Just block them and do the looking and approaching by yourself?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I don't understand why people don't just use filters if the messages they receive are annoying them enough they feel the need to complain.

Just block them and do the looking and approaching by yourself? "

Too simple, too much like hard work and way too sensible.

It's much easier and satisfying to bitch and moan.

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By *iyuWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Because a lot of single males just copy and paste messages to everyone in the hope that someone replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people don't just use filters if the messages they receive are annoying them enough they feel the need to complain.

Just block them and do the looking and approaching by yourself? "

Perfectly put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're in Spain. although our profile says London. As we were there when we created the profile. But we do say clearly on the profile we're in Spain. But I swear almost every message is from men who have not read the profile, And what the fuck is with a wink, message and friend request, all at once. Most of my time spent just deleting the junk. If you know there is no chance of a meet, why bombard people with crap? "

Some single women and couples don’t read too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Cant be the only person who genuinely reads everyones profile? Rest assured I’ve read your profile if Ive messaged you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God gave man a knob and a brain, sadly he didn’t give the capacity for both to work at the same time.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Why put the effort in when you don't get the response, which most men would say and he was probably so shocked he got one, he got flustered he made a rookie mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Cant be the only person who genuinely reads everyones profile? Rest assured I’ve read your profile if Ive messaged you."

Lots of men read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Cant be the only person who genuinely reads everyones profile? Rest assured I’ve read your profile if Ive messaged you.

Lots of men read profiles. "

I’m sure they do, I like to read a lot anyway so i read everyone’s I cross paths with, male or female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God gave man a knob and a brain, sadly he didn’t give the capacity for both to work at the same time.

"

Sassy. How come women can’t reverse, is that cause they’re always thinking about shoes ?

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By *J11Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We find that both men and couples don’t read the profile before embarrassing themselves with a wink or a misguided message, after questioning them as to why they winked/messaged they tend to block us, which we find quite amusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course, there are exceptions. I am not suggesting men shouldn't take pot luck chance or whatever. The messages range from 'hows U' with 'wanna fuck now' And everything else in between. Not to mention the blokes who periodically strike with the wholly trinity, wink message and friend request. 99% of the messages were sent only on the image. Gives us men who have a little more respect for members a bad name. "

We give up just does not work for us

1000s of messages and no one reads profile just a waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zzzzz zzzzz zzzzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find that both men and couples don’t read the profile before embarrassing themselves with a wink or a misguided message, after questioning them as to why they winked/messaged they tend to block us, which we find quite amusing "

Yes we find the same lots of sad people out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP is lost, claims to be in Spain or London or France..

There are words on a profile?

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By *ral ExtraordinaireMan
over a year ago

Kent

Just remember this site wouldnt exsist if wasnt for single men

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By *ussiebritMan
over a year ago

Billingshurst

It's a shame that such a flippant use of the winks has ruined it for genuine people that want to say hi in a non invasive or push manner to other members as a form of interest in their profile that could lead to starting a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just remember this site wouldnt exsist if wasnt for single men "

how do you work that out really funny that you think that .says a lot and really makes a point .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos fanny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read profiles. That's why I message so few people....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just remember this site wouldnt exsist if wasnt for single men "

What bullshit.

Single men came into the mix late on.

Swinging or wife swapping existed very well without single guys.

Being blunt, some couples wish that it WAS still couples only.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Just remember this site wouldnt exsist if wasnt for single men "

Of course it would...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a shame that such a flippant use of the winks has ruined it for genuine people that want to say hi in a non invasive or push manner to other members as a form of interest in their profile that could lead to starting a conversation"

We see your point but please rember single girls and couples can get about 80 winks a day every day

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Not reading profiles isn't just limited to men by the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not reading profiles isn't just limited to men by the way. "

Agree totally, but more a single guy thing in our humble opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not reading profiles isn't just limited to men by the way. "

Really if that is so does it help.NO we get about 500messages a week most single men.couple and girls are leaving becausits just not working for most been doing this a very long time .

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

As you probably can see, it’s not just single guys...

Not sure if it’s helpful to you, but you can change your location from London in your profile settings...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Not reading profiles isn't just limited to men by the way.

Really if that is so does it help.NO we get about 500messages a week most single men.couple and girls are leaving becausits just not working for most been doing this a very long time ."

I think placing the blame solely at the feet of men is unreasonable.

A lot of people here, male, female, couples, and TV/TS, are entitled and lazy. They'll exist. Not sure that a lot can be done about it. Question is whether you think it's worth putting up with.

I read profiles. I'm not the problem.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Read the first line then got bored.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

My profile is never read, or if it is, all I attract is in hotel now or abuse! Tinternet is a great anonymous thing to be used and abused by men with no back bone lol but you get used to the same shit but different day shite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just single men who do not read profiles but couples aswell, from my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not reading profiles isn't just limited to men by the way.

Really if that is so does it help.NO we get about 500messages a week most single men.couple and girls are leaving becausits just not working for most been doing this a very long time .

I think placing the blame solely at the feet of men is unreasonable.

A lot of people here, male, female, couples, and TV/TS, are entitled and lazy. They'll exist. Not sure that a lot can be done about it. Question is whether you think it's worth putting up with.

I read profiles. I'm not the problem. "

We do not get many maybe 1 every few weeks from someone that is not a single male .So yes single males are the problem for US

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Not just single men who do not read profiles but couples aswell, from my experience "

It's everybody. Some women really get upset with me when I apply the same rules I apply to everyone else.

I'm equal opportunity over here. Read my profile or gtfo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're in Spain. although our profile says London. As we were there when we created the profile. But we do say clearly on the profile we're in Spain. But I swear almost every message is from men who have not read the profile, And what the fuck is with a wink, message and friend request, all at once. Most of my time spent just deleting the junk. If you know there is no chance of a meet, why bombard people with crap? "

Ich bin in Deutschland lust auf einen fick! xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Not reading profiles isn't just limited to men by the way.

Really if that is so does it help.NO we get about 500messages a week most single men.couple and girls are leaving becausits just not working for most been doing this a very long time .

I think placing the blame solely at the feet of men is unreasonable.

A lot of people here, male, female, couples, and TV/TS, are entitled and lazy. They'll exist. Not sure that a lot can be done about it. Question is whether you think it's worth putting up with.

I read profiles. I'm not the problem.

We do not get many maybe 1 every few weeks from someone that is not a single male .So yes single males are the problem for US

"

Their bulk makes them look like a problem. But I'd be willing to bet that couples are worse, proportionally, than men. And women much worse. (while 90%+ of my messages are from men, I get enough from other demographics to feel able to generalise)

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

A good female friend of mine on here, has it in her profile that unasked for Winks, Friends Requests and so on, will lead to an automatic BLOCK.

Still, the messages flow in from Males, Females and Couples, all of whom have ignored her requests.

It's not just single males who are at fault but most people in all demographic groups.

But as Single Males are in the majority, it probably appears to be them largely to blame.

From my perspective, I read all profiles; those who don't match me even in one aspect, will be ignored and I will move on to the next one that draws my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're in Spain. although our profile says London. As we were there when we created the profile. But we do say clearly on the profile we're in Spain. But I swear almost every message is from men who have not read the profile, And what the fuck is with a wink, message and friend request, all at once. Most of my time spent just deleting the junk. If you know there is no chance of a meet, why bombard people with crap? "
have you never heard of the saying a nods as good as a wink to a blind bat or Un guiño tan bien como Un guiño a Un muriélago ciego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men can't read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They send a lot of messages out, in hopes of procuring a shag. It's likely a waste of their time to read profiles, only to know nearly every message will get ignored. They then blanket message a group of people and hope they get a bite

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They send a lot of messages out, in hopes of procuring a shag. It's likely a waste of their time to read profiles, only to know nearly every message will get ignored. They then blanket message a group of people and hope they get a bite

Holly"

I started laughing when I read that, they probably joined and read every profile and got no where so tried a new tact of. Hi, how’s you’re night going then that doesn’t work a catch 22 lol

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By *m389Man
over a year ago

Bromley

Maybe they read but just don’t care.

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

we are single for a reason

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London


"They send a lot of messages out, in hopes of procuring a shag. It's likely a waste of their time to read profiles, only to know nearly every message will get ignored. They then blanket message a group of people and hope they get a bite

Holly"

Yeah. The numbers game might work but I'd doubt any success. It's unfathomable. I get bombarded by blokes also with one-liner messages. Comes with the terrain I suppose so just block and move on. I'm not bothered by winks too much but when I reach out with a friendly albeit unsolicited message it can be hit or miss.

Anybody complaining should really fix their settings and gear the site to their needs and wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They send a lot of messages out, in hopes of procuring a shag. It's likely a waste of their time to read profiles, only to know nearly every message will get ignored. They then blanket message a group of people and hope they get a bite

Holly

Yeah. The numbers game might work but I'd doubt any success. It's unfathomable. I get bombarded by blokes also with one-liner messages. Comes with the terrain I suppose so just block and move on. I'm not bothered by winks too much but when I reach out with a friendly albeit unsolicited message it can be hit or miss.

Anybody complaining should really fix their settings and gear the site to their needs and wants."

I had to block all men even though I stated I’m straight, everyone to their own but I can’t be swayed into being gay it’s not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because cocks can't see, just think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course, there are exceptions. I am not suggesting men shouldn't take pot luck chance or whatever. The messages range from 'hows U' with 'wanna fuck now' And everything else in between. Not to mention the blokes who periodically strike with the wholly trinity, wink message and friend request. 99% of the messages were sent only on the image. Gives us men who have a little more respect for members a bad name.

We give up just does not work for us

1000s of messages and no one reads profile just a waste of time."

Why don't you go looking for profiles you like and mail them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just looked at your profile, it mentions nowhere about you being in Spain. The majority of couples/females never read nor reply to messages, thus it’s a numbers game. To get annoyed at men for not reading profiles is in itself hypocritical as, it’s for the very same reasons as you don’t reply to all messages.

Enjoy Europe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They like to cut to the chase

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By *inja 636Man
over a year ago

Grays

Hope your move too london was a smooth one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They send a lot of messages out, in hopes of procuring a shag. It's likely a waste of their time to read profiles, only to know nearly every message will get ignored. They then blanket message a group of people and hope they get a bite

Holly

Yeah. The numbers game might work but I'd doubt any success. It's unfathomable. I get bombarded by blokes also with one-liner messages. Comes with the terrain I suppose so just block and move on. I'm not bothered by winks too much but when I reach out with a friendly albeit unsolicited message it can be hit or miss.

Anybody complaining should really fix their settings and gear the site to their needs and wants.

I had to block all men even though I stated I’m straight, everyone to their own but I can’t be swayed into being gay it’s not for me. "

That is what they all say until the man puts a wig on, at least on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't and chance it they do and chance it anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not all the same like a lot of guys here I always read the profile before messaging

Would be good to get a few more replies, but get that the odds are stacked against that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't and chance it they do and chance it anyway "
they like the ABBA song maybe

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