FabSwingers.com forum: Not a bbc

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im starting to get fed up with being referred to as BBC. My colour doesn't define me at all. Yes it is annoying when people contact you because you automatically see you are black and dismiss you before seeing you for the same reason. Prob just me but I'd rather just someone say he's alright cus of just that ...

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By *xfordiceCouple
over a year ago

Wendover

yes, I agree. Categorising you. It's wrong.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I've met many a man in my time and not all black guys have huge dicks. The same way not all white guys have smaller dicks. Dicks come in all shapes and sizes. But some people will always assume. And assumptions are the mother of all fuck ups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Typical stereotype mate, don’t think there is any escaping it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the issue stems from so many black men that DO define themselves this way.

Doesn't make it right.

*sigh*

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"Im starting to get fed up with being referred to as BBC. My colour doesn't define me at all. Yes it is annoying when people contact you because you automatically see you are black and dismiss you before seeing you for the same reason. Prob just me but I'd rather just someone say he's alright cus of just that ...

Just block them and move on. I've been contacted by a few couples where I get asked for photos and all sorts.

You can usually tell they are full of hot air.

Block and move on

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

As a bisexual guy, I have met many guys over the years, a few have been black, but I wouldn't say that a measurement of your cock defines you. It's more about how you feel as a person inside and not how other people perceive you because of your colour. I suppose It's just an obstacle that you'll have have to overcome.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Just be selective. Ignore those who treat you like a piece of meat.

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think the issue stems from so many black men that DO define themselves this way.

Doesn't make it right.

*sigh*

It is something, you see a lot on profiles. Which probably does not help. Guess its one of those things that some people will stereotype. It's a term, I've always wondered if some people don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea pisses me off when I get called ITV

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm not keen on labels for anything or anybody.

I just know if you've got 'it' you've got it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ARE defined by your colour though, just the way that others are defined as being fat, tall, short, old and so on

Whether it's right or not is a different subject altogether

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You ARE defined by your colour though, just the way that others are defined as being fat, tall, short, old and so on

Whether it's right or not is a different subject altogether"

I have often wondered whether black guys got fucked off with being objectified on here in the way they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish the term would disappear from the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re right, objectifying somebody is not a good thing at all as we’re all humans and have emotions and feelings, but doesn’t bbc mean big black clock? If you are going to get objectified then having a massive dongal is a good thing right, definitely better than sbc

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"You ARE defined by your colour though, just the way that others are defined as being fat, tall, short, old and so on

Whether it's right or not is a different subject altogether"

Not many people are defined as being white.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"You ARE defined by your colour though, just the way that others are defined as being fat, tall, short, old and so on

Whether it's right or not is a different subject altogether

Not many people are defined as being white."

You haven’t seen me dance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy women get labelled bbw mature women as MILF so it’s not only a racial thing. strange that a white guy with larger cock isn’t labelled bwc though??

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Curvy women get labelled bbw mature women as MILF so it’s not only a racial thing. strange that a white guy with larger cock isn’t labelled bwc though??"

Have on occasion, heard the term BWC used

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Curvy women get labelled bbw mature women as MILF so it’s not only a racial thing. strange that a white guy with larger cock isn’t labelled bwc though??

Have on occasion, heard the term BWC used

XX "

Usually by white guys with average cocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish the term would disappear from the site. "

Yes so do I the problem is like mentioned before there are a lot of men calling themselves that which doesn't help the issue.

And also people on here assuming all black men have big cocks..

I think the best thing you can do is ignore it I'm not sure how it will disappear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bbw I get labelled we all have labels try not to take it to personally we all aren't like that on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It appears as though the majority of women in my area (on fab) only want bbc (they state it). Surely you can’t complain. Though I should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the same way about the BBW term and instantly reject anyone who calls me that. Yes, I'm a big girl but that doesn't define me and I refuse to be fetishised and made to feel that it's outside of "the norm" to be attracted to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You ARE defined by your colour though, just the way that others are defined as being fat, tall, short, old and so on

Whether it's right or not is a different subject altogether

Not many people are defined as being white."

We live in a predominantly white country though

In a predominantly black one, the term would change to suit surely ?

Used as a solo word, it is no more than a descriptive

Adding things on to debase it is where it often becomes unsavoury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel you. I'm fed up with the "God of Love" label (think Thor with a vibranium love hammer) Fab puts on me, simply because I've got hazel eyes.

It's a curse.

We're all different, but sex is always better with someone who fancies YOU.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"I've met many a man in my time and not all black guys have huge dicks. The same way not all white guys have smaller dicks. Dicks come in all shapes and sizes. But some people will always assume. And assumptions are the mother of all fuck ups

THANK YOU for that I have been saying this for ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it when I'm with a black man and he doesn't make any references to his colour or the colour of his dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You ARE defined by your colour though, just the way that others are defined as being fat, tall, short, old and so on

Whether it's right or not is a different subject altogether

I have often wondered whether black guys got fucked off with being objectified on here in the way they do "

Some of them love it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not keen on labels for anything or anybody.

I just know if you've got 'it' you've got it

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I'll see you next week missy and as you said before you know I've got it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You ARE defined by your colour though, just the way that others are defined as being fat, tall, short, old and so on

Whether it's right or not is a different subject altogether

I have often wondered whether black guys got fucked off with being objectified on here in the way they do "

I do man like really. When I went to bmfc i felt like a object. Weird feeling.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't know why I love bigger women I just do but although I love them I just love women in general so actually I never turn down someone naked who I fancy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bbw I get labelled we all have labels try not to take it to personally we all aren't like that on here"

I don't think it's the label making me think that as we use labels to describe people . I think it's the narrow minded approach to it as in closed off to the idea or thinking that with certain labels come certain guarantees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep its just another silly label

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel the same way about the BBW term and instantly reject anyone who calls me that. Yes, I'm a big girl but that doesn't define me and I refuse to be fetishised and made to feel that it's outside of "the norm" to be attracted to me. "
oh and because in outside the age range let it be publicly know that unlike what I see and fancy you - it's the nakednedd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the late 90s/early 00s, I don't recall hearing/seeing the term. People seemed to just get on with either playing or communicating in a happy, pleasant, label-free manner...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone wants a person of a certain colour who is let's say well endowed there is a way to put it that treats the person so endowed with respect. I met a female in a couple who requested just that it was a great meet and I was treated with warmth and respect. I've been to BMFC at Eurekas twice never felt objectified and played with those who wanted to play with me (not everyone I approached wanted me). You go where your wanted if you don't like any designation they give on that journey don't go. Now

having said all that BBC is not my favourite term, I think of it as a shortcut absolutely clear term to get a point across regarding wants. Also the funny thing for me is most profiles I've engaged with that actually request mainly that fizzle out into nothing. I suspect there are a lot of vested interests who also make money by the idea of BBC.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the late 90s/early 00s, I don't recall hearing/seeing the term. People seemed to just get on with either playing or communicating in a happy, pleasant, label-free manner..."

I think porn is the reason why it’s used more now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the late 90s/early 00s, I don't recall hearing/seeing the term. People seemed to just get on with either playing or communicating in a happy, pleasant, label-free manner...

I think porn is the reason why it’s used more now "
and it's on the increase too in porn. It's where the money is at because it's more accepted these days and nearly every site always showcases it somehow so it's widely available and there's a larger number of women watching porn these days ... Which unfortunately it leads to unrealistic expectations...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply or wink back to those who have BBC on their profile. I have to accept that I will be stereotyped as that's natural. I'm also judgmental as that's normal and judge those looking for BBC as it states what they are after beyond the physical. The whole BBC is more than just dick size otherwise they would only refer to size. Those who are attracted to black culture are not attractive to me. But who cares, I'm just a friendly negro from the block with an empty opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You ARE defined by your colour though, just the way that others are defined as being fat, tall, short, old and so on

Whether it's right or not is a different subject altogether

I have often wondered whether black guys got fucked off with being objectified on here in the way they do

I do man like really. When I went to bmfc i felt like a object. Weird feeling. "

Why did you go then, playing in to the labelling?

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By *lly24Man
over a year ago

Manchester.

exactly, you're simply fuelling what you hate to be labelled as. You cant say you haven't benefited from the labels.

I have no doubt you come across as a great guy, but ultimately you're complaining about the advantages you have over many guys on the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You ARE defined by your colour though, just the way that others are defined as being fat, tall, short, old and so on

Whether it's right or not is a different subject altogether

I have often wondered whether black guys got fucked off with being objectified on here in the way they do

I do man like really. When I went to bmfc i felt like a object. Weird feeling.

Why did you go then, playing in to the labelling? "

Well I had never been and wanted to see what it was like and that's how it left me feeling so I wouldn't go again. I guess I thought it might be more relaxed because sometimes you can feel like the only poc in the room but it was worse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"exactly, you're simply fuelling what you hate to be labelled as. You cant say you haven't benefited from the labels.

I have no doubt you come across as a great guy, but ultimately you're complaining about the advantages you have over many guys on the site. "
er no actually I haven't benefited from any label.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I salute you thank you very much but unfortunately this is how the world is like not just in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally see your side on this one. It’s something we personally dislike too.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

You are defined by your actions, always, be you black, white, skinny, bald, fat, man or woman;

blind are the fools that look without for satisfaction; look within

Be the man you want to be OP, those that crave an acronym live an abbreviated life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wowzer! Bumping up this powerful post.

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By *otownbroMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

This is BBC is available!

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