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"I'm not having the sun in my browser history so I won't be reading." Go incognito | |||
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"Op, could you summarise the article? Can't quite bring myself to read it. " Of course lovely Women's bodies aren't the same - pregnancy ruined Children walk in during sex Men are made to feel second best Single women can't be spontaneous They don't like being father figures to others offspring Cliff noted version | |||
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"I'm not having the sun in my browser history so I won't be reading. Go incognito " I'd still feel super dirty | |||
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"I'm not having the sun in my browser history so I won't be reading. Go incognito I'd still feel super dirty " Go on, I did | |||
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"I'm not having the sun in my browser history so I won't be reading. Go incognito I'd still feel super dirty Go on, I did " Seriously, it'll mentally scar me | |||
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"Well he's a catch isn't he? I will spend the rest of my week rueing the day I decided to have children, since I am now undedirable and unsuitable for a man such as he. " So this is the view of one individual? | |||
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"Well he's a catch isn't he? I will spend the rest of my week rueing the day I decided to have children, since I am now undedirable and unsuitable for a man such as he. So this is the view of one individual?" There are a few individuals. Apparently A YouTube clip by someone called Richard Cooper on the pitfalls of dating single mums has nearly 600,000 views. One man says: "I don’t want to be second best," he says. “There’s a real trend in current parenting that the children always have to come first and women now seem to live for their kids” says Jonathan, who works in film and television and lives in Dunmow, Essex." And another says the woman should be focusing on her kids, not penis. So either way, single mums are undatable. | |||
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"Women's bodies aren't the same - pregnancy ruined Children walk in during sex Men are made to feel second best Single women can't be spontaneous They don't like being father figures to others offspring " Thank you Op, that was really nice of you. It sounds like a bunch of grown, probably middle aged men who aren't ready for relationships whinging and whining because they want to occupy the space of both partner and child to look after. I guess that's shaming them a bit; I can see validity but also can't. I could never spontaneously fly around the world even when footloose and fancy free, I was studying and working most of the time. Not wanting to be father figures to others. Ach, I get that. But why does a man have to become a father figure if he dates a single mum? He doesn't. Children walking in during sex - obviously not okay. Pregnancy can damage certain parts of a woman's body. Ruining? | |||
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"I wonder if any of those men are absentee fathers?" One of them is. He speaks of feeling guilty for spending more time with his girlfriends child than his own, and being perplexed that the girlfriend seemed to want to take a father figure role in the life of her child. | |||
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"He better go off to ruin a dumb virgin somewhere" Dumb virgin? | |||
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"What about single dads? Are they considered so undesirable that it warrants a YouTube video on the pitfalls of dating them? " I’d say they’re not in the same “undesirable league”, unless they’re the main carer of the children... | |||
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"Well he's a catch isn't he? I will spend the rest of my week rueing the day I decided to have children, since I am now undedirable and unsuitable for a man such as he. So this is the view of one individual? There are a few individuals. Apparently A YouTube clip by someone called Richard Cooper on the pitfalls of dating single mums has nearly 600,000 views. One man says: "I don’t want to be second best," he says. “There’s a real trend in current parenting that the children always have to come first and women now seem to live for their kids” says Jonathan, who works in film and television and lives in Dunmow, Essex." And another says the woman should be focusing on her kids, not penis. So either way, single mums are undatable. " Sensationalistic reporting by the Sun? Never! Again, the vast majority of people don't think like this, I'm sure. | |||
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"Well he's a catch isn't he? I will spend the rest of my week rueing the day I decided to have children, since I am now undedirable and unsuitable for a man such as he. So this is the view of one individual? There are a few individuals. Apparently A YouTube clip by someone called Richard Cooper on the pitfalls of dating single mums has nearly 600,000 views. One man says: "I don’t want to be second best," he says. “There’s a real trend in current parenting that the children always have to come first and women now seem to live for their kids” says Jonathan, who works in film and television and lives in Dunmow, Essex." And another says the woman should be focusing on her kids, not penis. So either way, single mums are undatable. Sensationalistic reporting by the Sun? Never! Again, the vast majority of people don't think like this, I'm sure." I've no issues with parents living for their kids. There's nothing I wouldn't drop if my kids needed me (they're too young to be independent), but any parent would do the same I believe. | |||
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"Liverpool has many flaws, but one thing we did get right us that nobody here will buy, sell or read the S*n." Hahaha yeah wish i hadn't | |||
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"What about single dads? Are they considered so undesirable that it warrants a YouTube video on the pitfalls of dating them? I’d say they’re not in the same “undesirable league”, unless they’re the main carer of the children..." I share the care with their Mum that's why I can only do meets alternate weekends | |||
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"I find the 'body is ruined after childbirth' attitude really odd. Is it really so bad to have a few stretch marks? Anyone can have those just from growing quickly as a teenager, or regular weight fluctuations. Bodies change due to pregnancy, for sure, but are they really that different? I get more sensation and pleasure now than I ever did before I had children so I'm very happy with that change. " I think the intimation is we have fannys like buckets...i dont count, i had two c-sections! In other news, dating men with an attitude like that only furthers the manchild phenomenon...surely single mums are ideally suited to cope with mothering another beastly child | |||
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"I find the 'body is ruined after childbirth' attitude really odd. Is it really so bad to have a few stretch marks? Anyone can have those just from growing quickly as a teenager, or regular weight fluctuations. Bodies change due to pregnancy, for sure, but are they really that different? I get more sensation and pleasure now than I ever did before I had children so I'm very happy with that change. I think the intimation is we have fannys like buckets...i dont count, i had two c-sections! In other news, dating men with an attitude like that only furthers the manchild phenomenon...surely single mums are ideally suited to cope with mothering another beastly child " Yes, he sounds like he could do with a few minutes on the naughty step | |||
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"What about single dads? Are they considered so undesirable that it warrants a YouTube video on the pitfalls of dating them? " When I was a single dad with children at home, yep it was an issue for some single women who wanted me available. | |||
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"I find the 'body is ruined after childbirth' attitude really odd. Is it really so bad to have a few stretch marks? Anyone can have those just from growing quickly as a teenager, or regular weight fluctuations. Bodies change due to pregnancy, for sure, but are they really that different? " I suppose we can't say everyone has little change to their bodies but for a lot of women no, there can't be that much change. I think whichever women he swiped left on had a lucky escape myself | |||
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"I find the 'body is ruined after childbirth' attitude really odd. Is it really so bad to have a few stretch marks? Anyone can have those just from growing quickly as a teenager, or regular weight fluctuations. Bodies change due to pregnancy, for sure, but are they really that different? I suppose we can't say everyone has little change to their bodies but for a lot of women no, there can't be that much change. I think whichever women he swiped left on had a lucky escape myself" | |||
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"I wonder if any of those men are absentee fathers?" I was a single dad 'til quite recently . My young lad always came first . Got to keep the priorities straight . | |||
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"What about single dads? Are they considered so undesirable that it warrants a YouTube video on the pitfalls of dating them? I’d say they’re not in the same “undesirable league”, unless they’re the main carer of the children..." Guess that explains a lot. Since when did being a single guy being a carer, ie father,to his own children make us so undesirable | |||
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"I wonder if any of those men are absentee fathers? I was a single dad 'til quite recently . My young lad always came first . Got to keep the priorities straight ." I don't think it wrecked my Dadbod either , lol , | |||
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"The bloke in the pics is a bit plastic, fake or photoshopped maybe? " Very photoshopped! | |||
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"This bit of the article made me smile..."There’s a real trend in current parenting that the children always have to come first" I didn't think that was a new trend, mine would come first. As much as the article could have maybe been written differently...most of what is said is true though, spontaneity goes out of the window if you have kids , if a man dating a single woman wants to go out it could involve taking the child so having to change where you go etc, bodies also change when you have children ( although it doesn't mean that a woman doesn't still look good )" I would be very suspicious of anyone that did not put their children before someone they were dating! | |||
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"I think the biggest issue for those blokes, is that they would see the child as competition. They need to bloody grow up!" Exactly this. People have competing priorities. Sometimes they're not you! Pass the salt. | |||
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"And anyone who thinks a dependent child's needs should take a backseat to their libido needs to take a long hard look at themselves. " | |||
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" I could never spontaneously fly around the world even when footloose and fancy free, I was studying and working most of the time. " Doesn't that make you question the point of working hard in the first place? For me the whole point if being "successful" is largely the ability to insulate my self from if the consequences of life and alow me to not have to worry but instead just do whst i want at the timr. | |||
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"Now we all know how outlandish and sensationalist the sun is..... the views of men though do seem to resonate. https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/6954040/men-refuse-date-single-mums/?utm_campaign=sunmainfacebook020419&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook#Echobox=1554195998 What's your views? No this isn't that anyone's is right, wrong or indifferent I am just curious " Made it about halfway through... fuck me, there are some twats out there | |||
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"Female journalism is very focused isn't it "Yet relationship psychotherapist Caron Barruw says the problem isn't single mums, but the immature commitment-phobic men who won't date them. "This is an immature and selfish way of looking at relationships", she says."" I'd prefer to date a single mum, she'd understand me and my commitments better than most non-mothers would, I imagine. | |||
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"Female journalism is very focused isn't it "Yet relationship psychotherapist Caron Barruw says the problem isn't single mums, but the immature commitment-phobic men who won't date them. "This is an immature and selfish way of looking at relationships", she says." I'd prefer to date a single mum, she'd understand me and my commitments better than most non-mothers would, I imagine." but understanding only goes so far between ehat is esentialy strangers. How many missed dates and opportunities due to both of your complications before one of you just finds somone more available | |||
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" I could never spontaneously fly around the world even when footloose and fancy free, I was studying and working most of the time. Doesn't that make you question the point of working hard in the first place? For me the whole point if being "successful" is largely the ability to insulate my self from if the consequences of life and alow me to not have to worry but instead just do whst i want at the timr." No. I enjoyed the studying and long hours. I'd go so far as to say loved it. I liked having it as a sort of obsession and being able to get gratification from measurable rewards in both academic and professional terms. I am aware I am bloody odd. I did what was necessary to get to where I am now. Where I can take jolly jaunts and have more flexibility in my day and still be financially stable and not worry. | |||
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"Female journalism is very focused isn't it "Yet relationship psychotherapist Caron Barruw says the problem isn't single mums, but the immature commitment-phobic men who won't date them. "This is an immature and selfish way of looking at relationships", she says." I'd prefer to date a single mum, she'd understand me and my commitments better than most non-mothers would, I imagine. but understanding only goes so far between ehat is esentialy strangers. How many missed dates and opportunities due to both of your complications before one of you just finds somone more available " C'est la vie. Most women I meet are mothers, due to my own age, it makes it more likely. Young sprogs (bar Queen Leviosa of course) show me very little attention. I'm in no rush, some things are worth waiting for.. if we move on to someone else whilst our schedules don't match (common occurrence given alternate weekends most split parents agree to) then we move on temporarily and hope the wind changes further on down the line. I'd disagree about ruined bodies though.. There are plenty of great examples of physically stunning MILFS and GILFS for this loveable DILF to admire on Fab. | |||
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"Female journalism is very focused isn't it "Yet relationship psychotherapist Caron Barruw says the problem isn't single mums, but the immature commitment-phobic men who won't date them. "This is an immature and selfish way of looking at relationships", she says." I'd prefer to date a single mum, she'd understand me and my commitments better than most non-mothers would, I imagine." I’d like to think most women without children would still understand commitments. | |||
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"And anyone who thinks a dependent child's needs should take a backseat to their libido needs to take a long hard look at themselves. " Unfortunately some men who become dads also think this way. | |||
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"I think that it’s been taken out of context drastically. Let’s not forget, the sun is a tabloid and not a real newspaper. They literally make these ‘studies’ up in a boardroom. I think that we (men) can all agree: we’d rather our partners had their first child with us. A single parent is hardly what we all DREAM of, though the majority would hardly allow it to put them off someone that they truly liked. " I don't think any parent, male or female intentionally has a child thinking the relationship might not work out, but things happen. In another 10 years my kids will be all grown up, and I'll be able to have as much unadulterated filth as I can handle! Ha ha | |||
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"I think that it’s been taken out of context drastically. Let’s not forget, the sun is a tabloid and not a real newspaper. They literally make these ‘studies’ up in a boardroom. I think that we (men) can all agree: we’d rather our partners had their first child with us. A single parent is hardly what we all DREAM of, though the majority would hardly allow it to put them off someone that they truly liked. " It's an attitude that crops up a lot, regardless of the reliability of the source this time. That women's histories make them damaged goods and unworthy of men. Funnily enough it rarely works the other way around! | |||
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"I think that it’s been taken out of context drastically. Let’s not forget, the sun is a tabloid and not a real newspaper. They literally make these ‘studies’ up in a boardroom. I think that we (men) can all agree: we’d rather our partners had their first child with us. A single parent is hardly what we all DREAM of, though the majority would hardly allow it to put them off someone that they truly liked. " Its not a study its from a thread on an internet site Like when the daily mail makes a story about this place | |||
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"I think that it’s been taken out of context drastically. Let’s not forget, the sun is a tabloid and not a real newspaper. They literally make these ‘studies’ up in a boardroom. I think that we (men) can all agree: we’d rather our partners had their first child with us. A single parent is hardly what we all DREAM of, though the majority would hardly allow it to put them off someone that they truly liked. It's an attitude that crops up a lot, regardless of the reliability of the source this time. That women's histories make them damaged goods and unworthy of men. Funnily enough it rarely works the other way around! " Well by the articles own statistic only 9% of men get custody so obvipusly its going to be rarer the other way round | |||
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"I think that it’s been taken out of context drastically. Let’s not forget, the sun is a tabloid and not a real newspaper. They literally make these ‘studies’ up in a boardroom. I think that we (men) can all agree: we’d rather our partners had their first child with us. A single parent is hardly what we all DREAM of, though the majority would hardly allow it to put them off someone that they truly liked. Its not a study its from a thread on an internet site Like when the daily mail makes a story about this place" I thought it was from a blog on an article on an internet site. | |||
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"I think that it’s been taken out of context drastically. Let’s not forget, the sun is a tabloid and not a real newspaper. They literally make these ‘studies’ up in a boardroom. I think that we (men) can all agree: we’d rather our partners had their first child with us. A single parent is hardly what we all DREAM of, though the majority would hardly allow it to put them off someone that they truly liked. I don't think any parent, male or female intentionally has a child thinking the relationship might not work out, but things happen. In another 10 years my kids will be all grown up, and I'll be able to have as much unadulterated filth as I can handle! Ha ha" Ha! You think? My kids have kids of their own and I struggle to find time for filth | |||
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"I think that it’s been taken out of context drastically. Let’s not forget, the sun is a tabloid and not a real newspaper. They literally make these ‘studies’ up in a boardroom. I think that we (men) can all agree: we’d rather our partners had their first child with us. A single parent is hardly what we all DREAM of, though the majority would hardly allow it to put them off someone that they truly liked. Its not a study its from a thread on an internet site Like when the daily mail makes a story about this place" That’s even worse then lol. I’ve noticed that the daily mail, also try and make reddit and mums net posts into factual data. The ignorant eat it up, the wise chuckle. It must be fun times over at the sun/daily mail headquarters. | |||
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"I think that it’s been taken out of context drastically. Let’s not forget, the sun is a tabloid and not a real newspaper. They literally make these ‘studies’ up in a boardroom. I think that we (men) can all agree: we’d rather our partners had their first child with us. A single parent is hardly what we all DREAM of, though the majority would hardly allow it to put them off someone that they truly liked. Its not a study its from a thread on an internet site Like when the daily mail makes a story about this place I thought it was from a blog on an article on an internet site." No lol its from whispers a site mainly used to caption pics of cats "On a recent thread on the secret sharing app, Whisper, tried to explain the warped reasons they ruled out dating single mothers." | |||
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