FabSwingers.com forum: Why no hotel meets ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A chat gets started, things are going really well. Chat on phone things are going even better. We arrange to meet at a hotel because that's what we both want at the time. Then she dissapears on me a few days before our meet with no contact. I have hotel booked and paid for but she doesn't show.

Long story short she gets back in touch with me recently to apologise for doing what she did which I accept but then goes to say she would never meet me at a hotel with anyone and it's has nothing to do with it being me.

The problem is she doesn't accomodate and I have housemates so find the convenience of a hotel would be ideal.

Why no to a hotel meet, can forumites shed some light on this because I don't get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A chat gets started, things are going really well. Chat on phone things are going even better. We arrange to meet at a hotel because that's what we both want at the time. Then she dissapears on me a few days before our meet with no contact. I have hotel booked and paid for but she doesn't show.

The problem is she doesn't accomodate and I have housemates so find the convenience of a hotel would be ideal.

Why no to a hotel meet, can forumites shed some light on this because I don't get it

It's personal preference, I guess. My question would be why she didn't tell you before you had booked the hotel that she doesn't do hotel meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose the obvious thing to say is surely you'd be better off asking her.

To be fair though, it sounds to me like she got cold feet but has now come up with the excuse of not meeting in hotels to soften the blow.

Or, she is actually a man posing as a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose the obvious thing to say is surely you'd be better off asking her.

To be fair though, it sounds to me like she got cold feet but has now come up with the excuse of not meeting in hotels to soften the blow.

Or, she is actually a man posing as a woman"

I’d agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is she doesn't accomodate and I have housemates so find the convenience of a hotel would be ideal.

Why no to a hotel meet, can forumites shed some light on this because I don't get it

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some people just don't like doing them. She's properly messed you about though. Personally, I'd steer clear of her now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She is actually a he.

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

The problem is she doesn't accomodate and I have housemates so find the convenience of a hotel would be ideal.

Why no to a hotel meet, can forumites shed some light on this because I don't get it

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You should have met for a drink first

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

She's probably nervous, maybe a bit shy about undressing in front of you and doesn't want you to see her cock.

"Women" and I use the term loosely, are funny like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's probably nervous, maybe a bit shy about undressing in front of you and doesn't want you to see her cock.

"Women" and I use the term loosely, are funny like that."
loose women are not funny at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hotel is mutual ground and makes perfect sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's probably nervous, maybe a bit shy about undressing in front of you and doesn't want you to see her cock.

"Women" and I use the term loosely, are funny like that.loose women are not funny at all

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I hate that show

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

"She's probably nervous, maybe a bit shy about undressing in front of you and doesn't want you to see her cock.

"Women" and I use the term loosely, are funny like that."

Brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels are perfect, make as much mess, noise !

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Move on OP. In my experience she will only give you another reason not to meet you next time. As stated before, she could easily have told you she doesn't do hotel meets before you booked it. You've just experienced ghosting. Organise a social first with your next meet.

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

ans here is easy its FAB .op .if you gonna stay on here for any time you had best get usta it.we use a great location motel .book in .then get a room by car park ,stager arival times .no where near reception .and we never once had all turn up that said there would .dont bother us .have fun with who does .

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"She's probably nervous, maybe a bit shy about undressing in front of you and doesn't want you to see her cock.

"Women" and I use the term loosely, are funny like that.

Brilliant.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So she suddenly found out she doesn’t like hotels after you’ve paid for one? Assuming you’d both discussed it beforehand, she either enjoys fucking you about or she’s just plain hard work.

Is she worth the hassle?

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I always book a hotel where you can cancel the room at no cost. Select the “standard” rate rather than the “saver” rate. The standard rate might be a few quid more but better that and a cancellation option than paying the saver rate and losing that cash on a room that you probably will not use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is she doesn't accomodate and I have housemates so find the convenience of a hotel would be ideal.

Why no to a hotel meet, can forumites shed some light on this because I don't get it

Why not do a social first no hotel arranged and see what happens on your next meet

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"She's probably nervous, maybe a bit shy about undressing in front of you and doesn't want you to see her cock.

"Women" and I use the term loosely, are funny like that."

Bingo. Move on lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a fake tbh.

If your still interested suggest a no pressure social first although personally she sounds a dick if she is a she

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I dont think they work as a regular thing.

I'm surprised in your scenario OP that she agreed in the first place tbh. I don't think she ever had any intentions of showing up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why no to a hotel meet, can forumites shed some light on this because I don't get it

NO, no one can fully second guess her decision

You either find alternative accommodation or give up on her and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps she works for the hotel and there is a prize for getting the most rooms booked...

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

The hotel didn’t happen to cost £25 by any chance?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If your gut feeling is something not quite right follow it. It doesn’t normally let you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

was the hotel Fawlty Towers Que!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your opinions.

She was definitely a female. We had been talking on phone for nearly a month before the hotel was suggested. The intention was always to have a social in a public place with a view to having fun. I didn't mind paying for the room because it's nice to get away at times so if no sex took place so be it. The fact she never showed up left me more confused as I thought we were getting on really well and would end up having a fun time together.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Thank you for your opinions.

Sounds like cold feet to me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she felt pressured or like she would be letting you down if things didn't make it back to the hotel room.

I'm not saying you pressured her, that could have come from her own mind. Just the knowledge that the room was booked could have been pressure enough.

She should have let you know and given you the chance to cancel/make other arrangements, that was piss poor form on her part.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The hotel didn’t happen to cost £25 by any chance?"

It was a popular hotel chain and not a seedy back street joint. So cost a bit more than that lol. Freshly done up and ideal place for the 'shy' types. If nothing else I found a good place for future meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her.

I wouldn’t do a hotel meet either. Just my preference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you for your opinions.

Sounds like cold feet to me...."

I know of ways to get cold feet warmed up

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Thank you for your opinions.

Sounds like cold feet to me....

I know of ways to get cold feet warmed up

Socks?

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"The hotel didn’t happen to cost £25 by any chance?"

Hahahaha....noooooo not that one!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is she doesn't accomodate and I have housemates so find the convenience of a hotel would be ideal.

Why no to a hotel meet, can forumites shed some light on this because I don't get it

It's personal preference, I guess. My question would be why she didn't tell you before you had booked the hotel that she doesn't do hotel meets? "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask her.

I wouldn’t do a hotel meet either. Just my preference. "

Could you elaborate on this preference, you may give me a better understanding of what took place in her mind. Our circumstances only allow for a hotel meet unless she was looking for a fumble in the car ?

Pm if you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think meeting for a social in a neutral place like a coffee shop is a much more relaxed way to meet. Even if there is an intention to take things further should the social go swimmingly. I have found Dayuse hotels a really good way to have a room in reserve should that be the case, as you can cancel on the day if you decide it is no longer required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask her.

I wouldn’t do a hotel meet either. Just my preference.

Pm if you like. "

For me. I meet at hotels if met before at a club and or after a social

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you for your opinions.

Sounds like cold feet to me....

I know of ways to get cold feet warmed up

Socks?

Not what I had in mind with a hotel room on offer, the heaters worked a treat

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't meet in hotels. Its on our profile along with all the other things that make us weird in fab forum terms.

There are quite a few reasons, two of which are;

The things we like doing make a lot of unusual noises, nobody wants the manager knocking on the door when I'm restrained and blindfolded, it leads to awkward questions. I (f) don't like hotels for casual sex, it makes me feel weird.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Thank you for your opinions.

Sounds like cold feet to me....

I know of ways to get cold feet warmed up

Socks?

Not what I had in mind with a hotel room on offer, the heaters worked a treat

Oh ok then......stick the heater on ...on way

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

Tell ur house mate to go outside for couple of hours n do ur business that's what I used too do lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We don't meet in hotels. Its on our profile along with all the other things that make us weird in fab forum terms.

There are quite a few reasons, two of which are;

Noisy sex can be fun, not sure about the unusual noises you are referring to.

My sexual repertoire is more akin to an erotic movie as opposed to xxx hardcore

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hotels are perfect, make as much mess, noise !"

I could nt have said it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels are perfect, make as much mess, noise !

I could nt have said it better myself

Not really my thing either. I live in them for work so it’s not exactly sexy to me. I live in a shared house but I have no problems having people here. Having said that, only people I get to know really well come here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She is actually a he. "

OP has spoken on the phone though ?

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By *irenGuy70Man
over a year ago

Cirencester

If you were both in agreement to get a hotel room, it seems strange that was what the issue was. Did she think you were only going to have a social in the cafe/bar area and when she knew a room was booked also she had second thoughts? Whatever the reason, it's a shame they didn't let you know beforehand.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We don't meet in hotels. Its on our profile along with all the other things that make us weird in fab forum terms.

There are quite a few reasons, two of which are;

Noisy sex can be fun, not sure about the unusual noises you are referring to.

My sexual repertoire is more akin to an erotic movie as opposed to xxx hardcore

We like BDSM some of the noises can be misunderstood by other people. We don't want to cause offence or have to explain ourselves so we choose not to use hotels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't meet in hotels. Its on our profile along with all the other things that make us weird in fab forum terms.

There are quite a few reasons, two of which are;

Noisy sex can be fun, not sure about the unusual noises you are referring to.

My sexual repertoire is more akin to an erotic movie as opposed to xxx hardcore

We like BDSM some of the noises can be misunderstood by other people. We don't want to cause offence or have to explain ourselves so we choose not to use hotels

There are a few ‘dungeon’ type places to rent out. They look amazing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We don't meet in hotels. Its on our profile along with all the other things that make us weird in fab forum terms.

There are quite a few reasons, two of which are;

Noisy sex can be fun, not sure about the unusual noises you are referring to.

My sexual repertoire is more akin to an erotic movie as opposed to xxx hardcore

We like BDSM some of the noises can be misunderstood by other people. We don't want to cause offence or have to explain ourselves so we choose not to use hotels

There are a few ‘dungeon’ type places to rent out. They look amazing. "

They do don't they. Its on our wish list as is building our own

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By *lay4RealCouple
over a year ago

London

"I always book a hotel where you can cancel the room at no cost. Select the “standard” rate rather than the “saver” rate. The standard rate might be a few quid more but better that and a cancellation option than paying the saver rate and losing that cash on a room that you probably will not use."

Good advice, but wouldn't be helpful if she just did not turn up without prior warning. He probably would have known until quite late, Hence getting a refund would be near impossible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bdsm fan and noisy as hell when I'm cuming I can assure you I've never had a manager come knocking about the noise in the room. I meet my FB most weeks in a hotel and we have not had a complaint yet. I also meet my Dom in hotels again no issues to date

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"As a bdsm fan and noisy as hell when I'm cuming I can assure you I've never had a manager come knocking about the noise in the room. I meet my FB most weeks in a hotel and we have not had a complaint yet. I also meet my Dom in hotels again no issues to date "

I don't mean that sort of noise. I quite often shout "ouch"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't meet in hotels. Its on our profile along with all the other things that make us weird in fab forum terms.

There are quite a few reasons, two of which are;

Noisy sex can be fun, not sure about the unusual noises you are referring to.

My sexual repertoire is more akin to an erotic movie as opposed to xxx hardcore

We like BDSM some of the noises can be misunderstood by other people. We don't want to cause offence or have to explain ourselves so we choose not to use hotels

There are a few ‘dungeon’ type places to rent out. They look amazing.

They do don't they. Its on our wish list as is building our own

I saw that they have a kink bnb which is a naughty version of air bnb..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather not meet in a hotel if I can avoid it. Extra cost!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I wouldn't meet someone at a hotel unless I already knew them. I don't accommodate so I will ask guys to meet me at clubs.

I do however make this clear from the moment A meet looks likely x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We don't meet in hotels. Its on our profile along with all the other things that make us weird in fab forum terms.

There are quite a few reasons, two of which are;

Noisy sex can be fun, not sure about the unusual noises you are referring to.

My sexual repertoire is more akin to an erotic movie as opposed to xxx hardcore

We like BDSM some of the noises can be misunderstood by other people. We don't want to cause offence or have to explain ourselves so we choose not to use hotels

There are a few ‘dungeon’ type places to rent out. They look amazing.

They do don't they. Its on our wish list as is building our own

I saw that they have a kink bnb which is a naughty version of air bnb..

Do they!? Now that's interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet someone at a hotel unless I already knew them. I don't accommodate so I will ask guys to meet me at clubs.

I do however make this clear from the moment A meet looks likely x"

Im the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for the replies. Some interesting replies.

As I said it looked like it was going really well until she got cold feet is probably the best way to describe it.

Hotel meets are real fun. That's my opinion

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I don't mean that sort of noise. I quite often shout "ouch""

Ouch is not a safe word.

*Just saying

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