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By *he Squire of Knotty Ash OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

When you first encounter someone do your first impressions count in how you see them or does it take longer to make a judgement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes massivly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Frank Spencer didn't but I managed to carry off the Tommy Cooper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First impressions always count. It’s not often I change my opinion on someone, I usually go with gut instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 99% of the time I will sum up if I like someone or not in the forst five mins in person or maybe 15 mins on line and rarely change my mind

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Of course. If they come across as a cock womble then it probably won't go very far past hi how are ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you first encounter someone do your first impressions count in how you see them or does it take longer to make a judgement?"

Yes of course it counts, even though sometimes your initial judgment may be wrong.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Single men

Use a cock profile pic and have your title as "I'm a whore monger" and see how that first impression works

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford


"When you first encounter someone do your first impressions count in how you see them or does it take longer to make a judgement?

Yes of course it counts, even though sometimes your initial judgment may be wrong. "

Agreed

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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Not really, I've given people a second chance after making a bad first impression on me, Some people grow on me and I see things I didn't notice at first others I dislike over time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say 1st 5mins I'd form opinions about someone..

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Yes, if you come across as a knob in your first message you are very unlikely to change my opinion of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry, I don't do impressions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,as the old saying goes "you only get one chance to make a first impression"

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Yes of course first impressions count.

I've had people who turned up to a social in cycling lycra gear, slurped their coffee and this is the worst......worn these orange crock type shoes but with 2 toe dividers!!!!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

For me, yes.

I make instant judgements on people.

Gut instinct, intuition, whatever you want to call it.

I just get a feeling about people.

On the occasions, I've given someone the benefit of the doubt, usually because they're a friend of a friend, and I've not wanted to come accross as stand offish in a group/out in public, my initial opinion has been proved right, not always immediately.

I keep anyone I get niggles over at arms length.

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By *on Ryans ExpressMan
over a year ago

Barnsley


"For me, yes.

I make instant judgements on people.

Gut instinct, intuition, whatever you want to call it.

I just get a feeling about people.

On the occasions, I've given someone the benefit of the doubt, usually because they're a friend of a friend, and I've not wanted to come accross as stand offish in a group/out in public, my initial opinion has been proved right, not always immediately.

I keep anyone I get niggles over at arms length.

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Same here gut instinct is nearly always right. Its far more accurate in working out people than my cock, its more forgiving of people.

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

They sure do with most people me included.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"Single men

Use a cock profile pic and have your title as "I'm a whore monger" and see how that first impression works"

I disagree with the profile/internet impression. First impression in person is what count.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Single men

Use a cock profile pic and have your title as "I'm a whore monger" and see how that first impression works

I disagree with the profile/internet impression. First impression in person is what count."

I was merely trying to point out, on here at least, you won't necessarily get to the first impression in person if your profile doesn't appeal to people . .. in an attempted slightly witty manner .. failed

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think first immpresions of absolutely everything do matter and that's just the way the world is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes totally

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

very much. only been 100% wrong once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"My Frank Spencer didn't but I managed to carry off the Tommy Cooper."

It wasn’t all (just like) that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! I rarely change my mind

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Yes! I rarely change my mind "

There's always a slim chance then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mixture of both. I'm quite good at telling what snap judgements have been made about me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you first encounter someone do your first impressions count in how you see them or does it take longer to make a judgement?"

No im a 1st impressions girl

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Yes they do. It could be something small like a user name an avatar picture that first message the list is endless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to make a bad impression from the beginning then things can make only get better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First impressions are just that. If we never look beyond a first impression how do we ever get to know the real person, rather than just rely on a closed minded, often partial, preconception of anyone?

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"First impressions are just that. If we never look beyond a first impression how do we ever get to know the real person, rather than just rely on a closed minded, often partial, preconception of anyone?"

The answer is we dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First impressions are just that. If we never look beyond a first impression how do we ever get to know the real person, rather than just rely on a closed minded, often partial, preconception of anyone?

The answer is we dont "

Kind of a wasteful use of our life dont you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but you also get a few minutes to influence that opinion. Not being beckham I’d say I depend on those minutes.. but you learn how to ace it. Some don’t need to, but then they often lack substance.

Depends what your after.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

First impressions have a major impact but I like to know much more about someone before forming a worthwhile opinion, based on depth of experience. We can assess others fairly quickly but may not consciously be aware of much of what we understand at that point. I believe that we owe it to others to support them in letting us get to know them without harsh judgement.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

First impressions always count. It's how we're hard wired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They count hugely and the first impression you get on someone is nearly always accurate.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

My first impression was a Suzuki then I can do honda *put put* see perfect.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I always think first impressions count and have always impressed that on both my daughter's through their lives, it's important.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"Yes of course first impressions count.

I've had people who turned up to a social in cycling lycra gear, slurped their coffee and this is the worst......worn these orange crock type shoes but with 2 toe dividers!!!! "

Oh my god. I could forgive the lycra (might even confess to a little penchant for it!), but the crocks would have me running for the hills!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah of course they do, especially on here. You probably got one shot with most women in regards to messaging, if your first message doesn’t at least catch their eye and leave a good first impression, You’ll more than likely not a get a response at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you never heard of the saying first impressions count? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First impressions are just that. If we never look beyond a first impression how do we ever get to know the real person, rather than just rely on a closed minded, often partial, preconception of anyone?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They count but I always want to know more.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Yes but they can change as things move on either positively or negatively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First impressions are just that. If we never look beyond a first impression how do we ever get to know the real person, rather than just rely on a closed minded, often partial, preconception of anyone?"

Hey I agree with you but on here without a good first impression, your chances of getting to know anyone are slim if not none existent

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

A first impression is just that, a first impression.

Of course it counts because it helps you feel either drawn to or from somebody. It doesn't mean that they won't make a more lasting impression, completely different to the first impression, but all the same I can't see how anyone would feel a first impression wouldn't count for something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a shame but I think they do, as being with someone you’re not attracted to might not work out for most people, but it’s a real shame as you limit yourself from some potentially fascinating minds and personalities just because they don’t look like George Clooney or Ryan Gosling, (don’t mention any beautiful famous women as a lot of fellas just go for a bird with big titts or a nice arse irsepctive of face)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once sat a course on this for work. Apparently, subconsciously it takes 3 seconds to form an opinion on someone, and 15 seconds to form an impression of someone, anything after this time will need to be changed by your own conscious mind.

It's always stuck in my head!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Once sat a course on this for work. Apparently, subconsciously it takes 3 seconds to form an opinion on someone, and 15 seconds to form an impression of someone, anything after this time will need to be changed by your own conscious mind.

It's always stuck in my head! "

Yeah I reckon that's about right.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

It sure does if I perceive someone to be a complete buffoon in the first few minutes they always turn out to be a complete one.

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Yes, goes a long way in our book, you then build on from then on in..

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Most of the time yes they do but sometimes you can get people wrong initially.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

First impressions always count.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"When you first encounter someone do your first impressions count in how you see them or does it take longer to make a judgement?"

You only get one chance to make a first impression, generally. In my almost sixty years only three times I've changed my mind.

Three women I disliked on first meeting who eventually became good, close friends. I've known them 30, 22 and 16 years respectively.

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By *uncan LynnCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Most definitely.

We met a lovely,on fab and chat, black guy for a drink then planes to go to his.i was super looking forward to him. He came in,and as he walked towards us, Duncan just said no to me and I had to agree.

Gave him the benefit and chatted or tried to. Duncan is brutally blunt and honest.

Poor lad

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By *uncan LynnCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Most definitely.

We met a lovely,on fab and chat, black guy for a drink then planes to go to his.i was super looking forward to him. He came in,and as he walked towards us, Duncan just said no to me and I had to agree.

Gave him the benefit and chatted or tried to. Duncan is brutally blunt and honest.

Poor lad

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By *uncan LynnCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Most definitely.

We met a lovely,on fab and chat, black guy for a drink then planes to go to his.i was super looking forward to him. He came in,and as he walked towards us, Duncan just said no to me and I had to agree.

Gave him the benefit and chatted or tried to. Duncan is brutally blunt and honest.

Poor lad

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