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By *ust chilled out me OP   Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

So today I got blown out by someone on hear as we have spoken in a dating site I was abit shocked when I read the msg but now find it abit of a joke what's your thoughts and has it happened to you to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand, where does double standards come into it?

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By *ust chilled out me OP   Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Dosnt like I'm on hear but they are to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dosnt like I'm on hear but they are to "

Is that what they told you?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People are looking for different things in different places. Do you present yourself very differently here and there? I've come across that (not recently). A guy who on Fab wants to shag anything that moves and can't be arsed with commitment, but on a dating site hopes to be a devoted family man... it doesn't look good.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

This place and the forums is rife with double standards. Makes me smile when I read some of it. Rise above it and laugh it off OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds more like they want one site for one thing, and this one for another, rather than double standards.

Either way, I wouldn't sweat it. Move on to the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This place and the forums is rife with double standards. Makes me smile when I read some of it. Rise above it and laugh it off OP "
can't help but she with this.

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By *ust chilled out me OP   Man
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Dosnt like I'm on hear but they are to

Is that what they told you?"

She was glad we hadn't met as I'm on hear then blocked me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang on depends on the context of chat on the dating site.

I’ve blown a couple of guys on here out as when on a dating site having tried to chat to them they say ‘not my type’. One guy became quite rude saying he wouldn’t want to date someone fat as would be embarrassed with friends and family introductions.

When he gave me all the flannel on here to get laid I pretty much told him the same.

He didn’t like being told no so got blocked.

I also think it would be harder to trust if a guy or woman like myself for that matter is on here and a dating site.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I have no problem with people compartmentalising. However, I had the same experience: someone telling me I was not for them when we were supposed to meet up after talking on a dating site, and then pursuing me for months through this site.

Another thing I do not like is when I meet someone through a dating site, we start seeing each other (no commitment yet) and then we bump into each other at a club, and then all the man can talk about is having a "meet". The answer is no.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"So today I got blown out by someone on hear as we have spoken in a dating site I was abit shocked when I read the msg but now find it abit of a joke what's your thoughts and has it happened to you to "

Then you dodged a bullet. Move on

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By *ust chilled out me OP   Man
over a year ago

Peterborough


"So today I got blown out by someone on hear as we have spoken in a dating site I was abit shocked when I read the msg but now find it abit of a joke what's your thoughts and has it happened to you to

Then you dodged a bullet. Move on"

100% mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not double standards just her preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dosnt like I'm on hear but they are to

Is that what they told you?

She was glad we hadn't met as I'm on hear then blocked me lol"

Definitely DOUBLE STANDARDS. I really have no time for people like that. I’ve had many guys on Pof that also use this site, lecture me as to how disgusting swinging is and that swingers need their heads examining as they are messed up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think the being in two places is a problem, or even the compartmentalising, but the difference between the compartments and the fact that they even contradict each other.

That’s the bit I don’t really like. Then again, people have their reasons and I’m not one to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use different sites for different things at different times

Would I date someone I knew to be on fab ... probably not ... mostly because despite the fact I know myself that when I date properly I focus entirely on that person and can be fully trusted... I wouldn’t apply that same trust to them given my overwhelming experience of people I have met on here is that there is a constant draw back here, even when they left for a relationship, and it might start as just perving / chatting but often doesn't stay there long

Double standard yes but I know my own mind and how I can detach fron here when in a relationship, I am just expected to trust that in someone else

I would also expect the same double standard to be applied back to me from them tbh

On the flip side would I meet someone here that I knew from a dating site ... mostly yes unless

1. They came across very differently on each site - 2 purposes is fine but if you have double personalities then you earned double standards

2. They were not interested enough to date me but I have suddenly become good enough to fuck - thats your own double standard, and me saying no is just having self respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think mixing this with dating works, that's my experience anyway. It's fine to want more commitment on a dating site and being on here in the meantime but the problem often comes if you start dating someone but still continue with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes , had chatted and phones with a lady with a view to meeting up very soon , then I was suddenly blocked and she doesn’t answer my calls or txts ???

God knows what I’d done wrong ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think mixing this with dating works, that's my experience anyway. It's fine to want more commitment on a dating site and being on here in the meantime but the problem often comes if you start dating someone but still continue with this. "

Why can’t you do both? I want a partner to swing with. Lots on here want the same also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think mixing this with dating works, that's my experience anyway. It's fine to want more commitment on a dating site and being on here in the meantime but the problem often comes if you start dating someone but still continue with this.

Why can’t you do both? I want a partner to swing with. Lots on here want the same also. "

I meant if the other person is vanilla, sorry, didn't make that very clear. I think here is the best place to find a swinging relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think mixing this with dating works, that's my experience anyway. It's fine to want more commitment on a dating site and being on here in the meantime but the problem often comes if you start dating someone but still continue with this. "

I somehow see things differently.. I want both,someone that i can be completely open and be myself..after all if we're here something vanilla definitely doesnt seem enough!

My views anyway..

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It would be nice to meet a bi woman on here who’s comfortable with my dressing and sexuality, but that’s very difficult. So I do, go on dating sites as my Male self to meet Women

However if the relationship starts to get into the serious catagory, talking about the future, planning to meet my children etc...I have to open up to my crossdressing.

I don’t think it’s double standard, this is not a dating or sex site for me but a place to meet likeminded people for socials as much as fun between the sheets.

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