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"Do you worry every time a dog barks at you?" I do. I was attacked by one as a child and ended up in hospital. Just because something doesn't both you, doesn't mean it won't bother someone else. | |||
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"Do you worry every time a dog barks at you? I do. I was attacked by one as a child and ended up in hospital. Just because something doesn't both you, doesn't mean it won't bother someone else. " And this, too. Try not to let messages bother you, but be mindful if there's a pattern or anything specific. My guess would be that genuine threats are rare here... but they likely exist. I've had, I'd guess, a few near misses. | |||
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"Abuse makes me chuckle." I'm gonna make you chuckle soooo hard | |||
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"I know you can block but sometimes a message can get inside your head. How do you deal with the abuse on here ? I just don't get the need for it. I mean I know I'm not skinny but I am confident. So why do people feel the need to put others down because of their weight?" Because they're jealous. Could be for many reasons, you turned them down, I've had a few who have tried very hard because of that, but they end up being banned or restarting their profiles to try again, but they get removed eventually. Could be you're getting the attention that they want and can't understand why you're getting it and not them, that's usually because you're a nicer person. Could be that they have disorder issues and it's nothing personal to you, a few have those. Thee are more reasons too. Just ignore if you can and use the support of your friends here if needed. | |||
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"I know you can block but sometimes a message can get inside your head. How do you deal with the abuse on here ? I just don't get the need for it. I mean I know I'm not skinny but I am confident. So why do people feel the need to put others down because of their weight?" It’s not just women men get it too. I used to get called too fat or get told to lose some weight when I was on a single profile before meeting Danish. Doughnut | |||
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"Horrible when people do this kind of thing without realising its bullying. I would personally consider reporting the person luckily I've never been through it on here where I've been sent abuse and dont get why people feel the need to do it." They realise it's bullying, they just don't care and know that they're safe behind a screen. That's why its important to report them | |||
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"Always report and let admin deal with it. Those that send abusive messages are to be pitied. They must have v sad, empty and Pathetic lives to feel the need to be abusive to strangers online." Yes, but this can takes days and if the person deletes their profile under the new daft upgrade all their messages disappear with them. Even if you managed to screenshot them their profile is gone and unlike messages left in your inbox no ISP can be traced with screenshots. In one simple misguided swoop, admin have given the perpetrators another hiding place. | |||
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"I sometimes get abuse about the men I've met " Tell them to mind there own business and there probably jealous | |||
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"It's just words on a screen - meaningless and impersonal." I couldn't agree less if I tried. Words are our most powerful way of communicating. Pain, joy, pleasure, hurt, sadness, anger, love, emotion, affection, to lift. And yet we use them so poorly..... | |||
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"It's just words on a screen - meaningless and impersonal. I couldn't agree less if I tried. Words are our most powerful way of communicating. Pain, joy, pleasure, hurt, sadness, anger, love, emotion, affection, to lift. And yet we use them so poorly..... " So true | |||
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"I don't get abuse on here. I must be a freak " People don't abuse freaks they tend to have pity on them....just thought I'd stir you up a little? | |||
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"I don't get abuse on here. I must be a freak People don't abuse freaks they tend to have pity on them....just thought I'd stir you up a little? " Does that mean you are agreeing with me? | |||
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"I don't get abuse on here. I must be a freak People don't abuse freaks they tend to have pity on them....just thought I'd stir you up a little? Does that mean you are agreeing with me?" Never! | |||
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"I know you can block but sometimes a message can get inside your head. How do you deal with the abuse on here ? I just don't get the need for it. I mean I know I'm not skinny but I am confident. So why do people feel the need to put others down because of their weight?" Report it stake a screen shot pass it on to friends so they can avoid them. | |||
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"untick Looking for men women etc, then do your own searching. It’s much easier. " Seriously considering it. | |||
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"I had to learn the hard way when I replied to a particularly nasty message I received and I was the one that got in trouble. That was in my first week here. Now the only way is to report and block. Don't give the keyboard warriors a second thought. The issue is with them and not you xx" this | |||
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"Haven’t been lucky enough to get any abuse yet, strictly no thanks please try again... But for those who are abused then probably to block or report them or both..." Reporting abuse doesn't always work it seems. Someome called me a gross, disgusting,ugly bitch amongst several other abusive mesdages. I reported the user then saved one of the messages to see what would happen. Several days later they were still on the site. Apparently you only get a warming if you haven't been reported previously, so they're likely still lurking on fab. Admin need to be tougher on nasty individuals. | |||
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"Do you worry every time a dog barks at you? I do. I was attacked by one as a child and ended up in hospital. Just because something doesn't both you, doesn't mean it won't bother someone else. " Been attacked too. Yes I am scared of them. (Owner's fault, not the dog). | |||
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"Do you worry every time a dog barks at you? I do. I was attacked by one as a child and ended up in hospital. Just because something doesn't both you, doesn't mean it won't bother someone else. " It's a metaphor. No dogs were harmed in the making of this post. | |||
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"The first ever message I received on here was a single lady replying to my message. She went on about how she would never meet anyone like me and completely shot down how I looked and attempted to rip me to shreds. She then sent another message to continue the abuse. So that's a great welcome to the world of Fab... " I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. There are some really vile people out there. Most wouldn't dare say these things in person. They're cowards. | |||
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"Do you worry every time a dog barks at you? I do. I was attacked by one as a child and ended up in hospital. Just because something doesn't both you, doesn't mean it won't bother someone else. It's a metaphor. No dogs were harmed in the making of this post." Whether or not its a dog barking, or a metaphor rocketing at you from space I would be scared!!! | |||
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"I know you can block but sometimes a message can get inside your head. How do you deal with the abuse on here ? I just don't get the need for it. I mean I know I'm not skinny but I am confident. So why do people feel the need to put others down because of their weight?" Keyboard warriors. | |||
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"I've had my fair share of hate mail om here, but I'll be honest not for a while, though I will admit, I did have a male from here find me on pof and send 'So, you have decided to come here to receive even more hate' What ever floats your boat mate, no skin off my nose! Just goes to show the men on here can't stand a confident female in my opinion, I admit it might just be my area, but it is here regardless whether people acknowledge it or not." You're engaging with the wrong guys | |||
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"I've had my fair share of hate mail om here, but I'll be honest not for a while, though I will admit, I did have a male from here find me on pof and send 'So, you have decided to come here to receive even more hate' What ever floats your boat mate, no skin off my nose! Just goes to show the men on here can't stand a confident female in my opinion, I admit it might just be my area, but it is here regardless whether people acknowledge it or not. You're engaging with the wrong guys " I only engaged with him slightly on pof, to antagonise him I had no idea who he was on here though | |||
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"I've had my fair share of hate mail om here, but I'll be honest not for a while, though I will admit, I did have a male from here find me on pof and send 'So, you have decided to come here to receive even more hate' What ever floats your boat mate, no skin off my nose! Just goes to show the men on here can't stand a confident female in my opinion, I admit it might just be my area, but it is here regardless whether people acknowledge it or not. You're engaging with the wrong guys I only engaged with him slightly on pof, to antagonise him I had no idea who he was on here though " It's hardly a surprise he got arsey then | |||
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"I've had my fair share of hate mail om here, but I'll be honest not for a while, though I will admit, I did have a male from here find me on pof and send 'So, you have decided to come here to receive even more hate' What ever floats your boat mate, no skin off my nose! Just goes to show the men on here can't stand a confident female in my opinion, I admit it might just be my area, but it is here regardless whether people acknowledge it or not. You're engaging with the wrong guys I only engaged with him slightly on pof, to antagonise him I had no idea who he was on here though It's hardly a surprise he got arsey then" Umm read again! He contacted me. Knowing who I was on here. To send the hate mail, I had no idea who he was, what don't you understand about that? Or do you just choose your own version of truth? | |||
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"I've had my fair share of hate mail om here, but I'll be honest not for a while, though I will admit, I did have a male from here find me on pof and send 'So, you have decided to come here to receive even more hate' What ever floats your boat mate, no skin off my nose! Just goes to show the men on here can't stand a confident female in my opinion, I admit it might just be my area, but it is here regardless whether people acknowledge it or not. You're engaging with the wrong guys I only engaged with him slightly on pof, to antagonise him I had no idea who he was on here though It's hardly a surprise he got arsey then Umm read again! He contacted me. Knowing who I was on here. To send the hate mail, I had no idea who he was, what don't you understand about that? Or do you just choose your own version of truth? " Jings...you're feisty! | |||
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"Sorry to hear that you OP or anyone on here gets abuse. At least you dont have to live in their heads, must be a horrible place. They are best left wanking into a sock in their mums bedroom." That's assuming that 100% of people sending nasty messages are single men | |||
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"I know you can block but sometimes a message can get inside your head. How do you deal with the abuse on here ? I just don't get the need for it. I mean I know I'm not skinny but I am confident. So why do people feel the need to put others down because of their weight?" Just nasty people around. I don't get it either. Xx | |||
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"I know you can block but sometimes a message can get inside your head. How do you deal with the abuse on here ? I just don't get the need for it. I mean I know I'm not skinny but I am confident. So why do people feel the need to put others down because of their weight?" Carry on being you and sod the haters. | |||
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"Sorry to hear that you OP or anyone on here gets abuse. At least you dont have to live in their heads, must be a horrible place. They are best left wanking into a sock in their mums bedroom." | |||
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