FabSwingers.com forum: How long have you been using the forum?

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

And do you feel part of the community?

I'm guessing that we have been using it for about 4 year's on a previous profile and this one.

Username has changed and reverted back to this one a few times,for sarcastic, ironic and general fancied a change reasons.

However after all this time I ( Mr as I do most of the post's) don't feel part of the forum community or "clique" for want of a better word.

I guess that's partly due to me not wanting to fall inline with the sycophants and ass lickers.

Or mostly my post's are for my own entertainment going over most people's head's just to amuse my warped humour.

Do others feel like permanent outsiders or do you feel like you're one of the team a valued member?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just over a year. I joined in originally and gave my honest opinion on a forum post, didn’t realise they didn’t want honest opinions and recieved not kind messages

It put me off for a wee while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what’s wrong with licking ass?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Using the forum around six/seven years now.

I do kind of feel part of the community but also don't at times. I just kind of do my own thing and if others join in, get it, great, if not, fuck it, I'm amusing myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on for nearly 5 1/2 years. I think I sit on the border of the forum bridging out and in. I’m more out than in probably.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I've been using the forum since my first profile 10 years ago or so. Do I feel part of a community? No, not really. The majority of my posts go uncommented on but I'm monty here to read the opinions of others and I like putting my two penn'orth in!

I've met only a handful of people from the forums and only really a couple of the more known people. A few people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 3 years and not really. I'm always on the edge.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since last summer. When on holiday abroad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much since I was allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only used the forums for about 6 months and post when I feel like it.. the more people I get to know and meet in person the more I realise it's friendships not cliques.. I'm not bothered if posts are replied to or ignored.. it's just an online forum no big deal.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’ve been popping in and out of the forums for two years. I don’t really expect anyone to read or acknowledge what I say. I breeze in, comment, then leave. Well mostly anyway.

I don’t know whether I feel part of the community or not. I’ve never really thought about it. I enjoy what I do though

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By *e_jpMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

About 3 months, and not really, but I haven’t really given it a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been posting about 6 years. I only dip in when it suits. I don't conform or try to be liked so I've never been part of the in crowd. That is just perfect. It means I don't have to pretend to be everyone's friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been posting about 6 years. I only dip in when it suits. I don't conform or try to be liked so I've never been part of the in crowd. That is just perfect. It means I don't have to pretend to be everyone's friend. "

You can pretend to be my friend for a while..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 2yrs, once on a previous couples profile and now this. I love the forums, I certainly don't consider myself to be part of a clique tho. I enjoy having a laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple of years on my singles, 4 months or so on this one. I do feel I get support if needed, as I did as PP.

I've never felt part of a clique but have always felt part of a community, even if at times it's the role of "the nutty old bint who harps on about random shit"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 years and no

As with real life, I'm not great in groups

Skirting round the edges is far more style

I'd sooner be friendly with 2 or 3 folk away from the forums than be a 'threadlebrity' and known to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Posted a few comments is all not really part of community yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on forum since march last year its great fun

Not sure iv ever fealt like an outsider i wont allow myself to be one il chat shit weather folk like it or not luckily they generally like it

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Four or five years now. I agree with P, I’ve always found it more community than clique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Around 2 years on and off and still I have no idea who the clique are!

Maybe I am in it but I don't know I'm in it? Maybe we all are?!?

Either way I get what I want from the forums so I don't mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 years and not much luck loll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using the forum for a few years now under various guises.

Can be hard to breakthrough and chat, but everyone is lovely when you do.

Not liking the backbiting and bitching tbf, see no need. But good far outweighs the bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been posting on and off under different guises for about 9 years. It's continuously evolving with different people.

I just do my own thing I'm here for my own entertainment.

I think going to forum socials help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been using it alot, mainly because it's the only place on here I get to talk with others.

Outside of the forums there's next to nothing and I don't feel welcome, I've tried since beginning of last year with multiple profiles changing constantly but no matter what no one checks ... There's a very low level of women in Newcastle and the majority of them have no interest.

I'm tempted to try the day play at club shhh this week if I don't have anything planned on Wednesday just to get out the house for the day see if I can get talking to some people. If that doesn't work I don't know where to go from there ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can pretend to be my friend for a while..

You underestimate how lazy I really am! My profile isn't a lie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 years.

I should get a long service award!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too fucking long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have forums always been part of fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can pretend to be my friend for a while..

You underestimate how lazy I really am! My profile isn't a lie!

Ha ha..further on the edge than I thought..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"6 years "

How's fatherhood?

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Just a few weeks, I think I’ve pushed my way in and made some friends now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And do you feel part of the community?

I'm guessing that we have been using it for about 4 year's on a previous profile and this one.

Username has changed and reverted back to this one a few times,for sarcastic, ironic and general fancied a change reasons.

However after all this time I ( Mr as I do most of the post's) don't feel part of the forum community or "clique" for want of a better word.

I guess that's partly due to me not wanting to fall inline with the sycophants and ass lickers.

Or mostly my post's are for my own entertainment going over most people's head's just to amuse my warped humour.

Do others feel like permanent outsiders or do you feel like you're one of the team a valued member?"

I've been on here just over a year I think.

I don't feel like an outsider but definitely not part of the 'establishment' and that's the way I like it. I don't think many people really get me and I'm not really fussed about that. There's no point in adapting myself to try and make more people reply or message me more.

I don't have a craving for any more then the tiny amount of attention/contact I get and I'm certainly not going to start "kiss/fuck/help change their spare tyre" threads just to make myself look popular. The day I do that is the day I stop coming on here.

That's a serious and intimate as I get, now, feck off.

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By *ascade35Man
over a year ago

Alnwick

"Using the forum around six/seven years now.

I do kind of feel part of the community but also don't at times. I just kind of do my own thing and if others join in, get it, great, if not, fuck it, I'm amusing myself."

I couldn’t of said it better myself x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Three years now and don't feel a need to belong as such - I post what I post and people can take it (and me) or leave it - that said I've made some very good friends both virtual and in person as a result of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 2 yrs. I only came for the forum you know.

I feel it is a friendly community in all, with all the mix of characters you would expect from life. It's quite hard to break away from, so there must be something intriguing here.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I’ve been on and off for eight years or so . Do I feel a part of the community ? No , not the forum community at all . The swinging community yes , but not the forum and that suits me just fine .

I’ll never fit in with the forums as I prefer to just say what I think regardless of who said what .

I totally don’t fit in with the liberal , left wing , peace and love to all mentality often expressed on here either . I have opinions , I judge and I lean more to the right . And I’ll never read the guardian either , I much prefer the Sun

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Not long really. I must say it’s been a good and a bad experience had a few bad messages but that’s how it is in here. In my short time in here I’ve tried to be neutral but honest. But also had a good few lookers but no takers

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Been using them about 4 years now. Not too bothered about feeling part of the community to be honest with you

. If people respond then cool,if not then nothing lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Using the forum around six/seven years now.

I do kind of feel part of the community but also don't at times. I just kind of do my own thing and if others join in, get it, great, if not, fuck it, I'm amusing myself."
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Same here

Btw cracking avatar missy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too fucking long."

Same as me Libasaurus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On and off with a few different disneyfuckingpseudonyms for a few years - I honestly don't know how many.

I rarely fit in anywhere in real life or online.

I mostly talk to myself

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’ve been on and off for eight years or so . Do I feel a part of the community ? No , not the forum community at all . The swinging community yes , but not the forum and that suits me just fine .

I’ll never fit in with the forums as I prefer to just say what I think regardless of who said what .

You’re totally part of the community, conforming away whilst protesting you don’t. Making your funny jokes, read the sun? Read?! Bwahahaha. Love your verb choice.

(Ya know I love ya) x

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I’ve been on and off for eight years or so . Do I feel a part of the community ? No , not the forum community at all . The swinging community yes , but not the forum and that suits me just fine .

I’ll never fit in with the forums as I prefer to just say what I think regardless of who said what .

You’re totally part of the community, conforming away whilst protesting you don’t. Making your funny jokes, read the sun? Read?! Bwahahaha. Love your verb choice.

(Ya know I love ya) x"

For a lefties thinking , liberal , champion of the downtrodden , who like as not would attend every protest march going , you’re not so bad either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 6 and a half years on and off.

I've never considered it to be a community. It's a place I pop in and out of to post crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8 inches....

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Since 2011, as soon as I could. I’m mostly on the edges though and have two well known people who do their best to belittle me and pick apart every word.

I’ve made mistakes here too but as always, know better new better.

I’ve also met many many forumites and sometimes been a bit star struck over them, lots are now friends. It’s a shame that the format is so crushingly old and basic compared to all the other forums I use.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’ve been on and off for eight years or so . Do I feel a part of the community ? No , not the forum community at all . The swinging community yes , but not the forum and that suits me just fine .

I’ll never fit in with the forums as I prefer to just say what I think regardless of who said what .

You’re totally part of the community, conforming away whilst protesting you don’t. Making your funny jokes, read the sun? Read?! Bwahahaha. Love your verb choice.

(Ya know I love ya) x

For a lefties thinking , liberal , champion of the downtrodden , who like as not would attend every protest march going , you’re not so bad either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About 6 and a half years on and off.

I've never considered it to be a community. It's a place I pop in and out of to post crap."

A very succinct way of saying what I wanted to say.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Been on fab 5 years but probably around 4 years on the forums!

I’m not on here as much as some - but some of the friends I’ve made because of the forums and socials will, I hope, be lifelong ones!

Next weekend my house is being invaded by half a dozen amazing, bonkers people that I’d never have met if it wasn’t for the forums!

It can also be a very supportive place when life drags you down a little (or a lot). I’d say it’s an online community rather than a clique - though of course it’s impossible for everyone to get on with everyone else - and most of us have had spats with others from time to time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"6 years

How's fatherhood?"

Great fun

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Around 10 years for me/us.

No idea where I fit into the grand scheme of things around here, nor do I particularly worry about it.

I do my thang and let others do theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been using the forum for 6 years and I like it. I use it everyday. I am a regular forum poster and I have got lots of forum friends. I like it

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Since before I joined!

Someone I knew told me about the site, I browsed it via his profile.

I read a lot of forum stuff, for a while, then finally signed up.

Part of the clique?

I've met a few people via the forum, lots of people at organised social events, have made an amazing group of friends that I do normal real life stuff with, so maybe we share a few in jokes, often agree with each others views on certain topics, like any friends with similar views would.

But I wouldnt say that's a clique

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've been in the forum for 10 years and am certainly part of it- there's not a special membership for it. We each use and contribute to it in our own way, just as our lives are loved differently.

There are many things I could gain instead, such as generating humour, more partners and a lot of other things but my general style suits. When my needs change, I'll vary thongs.

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