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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

I've been up and down over and out. Each time I fall flat on my face I pick myself up and get back in the race. That's life...

What's gets you back up? I think for me I can be a stubborn bitch and don't know how to give in.

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By *rickyd72Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I've been up and down over and out. Each time I fall flat on my face I pick myself up and get back in the race. That's life...

What's gets you back up? I think for me I can be a stubborn bitch and don't know how to give in."
defo stubbornness and sheer bloody mindedness on my part. I ought to be related to a weeble with the amount of times I've been knocked down and got back up again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been up and down over and out. Each time I fall flat on my face I pick myself up and get back in the race. That's life...

What's gets you back up? I think for me I can be a stubborn bitch and don't know how to give in."

Knowing your better than the crap situation you find yourself in, and that for each knock down, you come back stronger!

Also knowing that there's people that are by your side to help, and for me, knowing I can't let my son down!

Being stubborn sometimes works lol

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I've been up and down over and out. Each time I fall flat on my face I pick myself up and get back in the race. That's life...

What's gets you back up? I think for me I can be a stubborn bitch and don't know how to give in. defo stubbornness and sheer bloody mindedness on my part. I ought to be related to a weeble with the amount of times I've been knocked down and got back up again!"

It's the getting back up that counts it's good to see you standing x

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I've been up and down over and out. Each time I fall flat on my face I pick myself up and get back in the race. That's life...

What's gets you back up? I think for me I can be a stubborn bitch and don't know how to give in.

Knowing your better than the crap situation you find yourself in, and that for each knock down, you come back stronger!

Also knowing that there's people that are by your side to help, and for me, knowing I can't let my son down!

Being stubborn sometimes works lol"

It's good to take a hand when needed and family are a great motivation especially your kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

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By *rickyd72Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I've been up and down over and out. Each time I fall flat on my face I pick myself up and get back in the race. That's life...

What's gets you back up? I think for me I can be a stubborn bitch and don't know how to give in. defo stubbornness and sheer bloody mindedness on my part. I ought to be related to a weeble with the amount of times I've been knocked down and got back up again!

It's the getting back up that counts it's good to see you standing x"
thank you! Its prettly bloody good to see you standing too...xx

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

My dogs. When I went through Hell and was at my lowest point they were always happy to see me.

When I laid awake worrying I swear my youngest dog knew and would pop in every so often to just check on me.

Weird I know but I owe those furry bastards a lot.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

"

Stubbornness sure has its place in succeeding. A Tiki bar sounds cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

Stubbornness sure has its place in succeeding. A Tiki bar sounds cool"

Going to have a big fish tank built in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is a hard question to answer. Wanting to enjoy life is the most basic explanation for why I get back up again, and knowing that I deserve it and the power to make it so. Other answers could be because I don't have a choice as I have children. Perspective is a huge variable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had more ups and downs than a hookers knickers but the thing that keeps me going or gets me back up is the simple desire to be the absolute best I can be and make both my daughter's proud

It's been a hard journey.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

"

Sounds like a cool idea!

I'm similar, I've got better at managing the procrastination and stuff once I found it *wasn't* lazyness and that I have some minor Asperger and ADHD stuff going on, but yeah I tend to get 'project overload' quite badly as well then find it next to impossible to devote sufficient time to any of them. I've got a couple of 'rolling' car restorations on the go, a few electric guitars I'm fixing up to sell on, I'm supposed to be learnig to play piano/keyboards, then there's the music producing and DJing, garden needs constant attention... That's of course at the same time as my usual cooking, cleaning and elderly relative care duties. Just feel like I've always got too much on and I'm spreading myself too thin as I get frustrated by lack of progress... Need to work out how I can gently dissuade myself from juggling so many barely started things and start seeing a few through to an acceptable level of completion or proficiency.

Anyone got any suggestions for avoiding this kind of situation other than the obvious "don't do it" kind of thing?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

If I were to die it would cheer up my mother in law and I’m fucked if I’m letting that happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

Sounds like a cool idea!

I'm similar, I've got better at managing the procrastination and stuff once I found it *wasn't* lazyness and that I have some minor Asperger and ADHD stuff going on, but yeah I tend to get 'project overload' quite badly as well then find it next to impossible to devote sufficient time to any of them. I've got a couple of 'rolling' car restorations on the go, a few electric guitars I'm fixing up to sell on, I'm supposed to be learnig to play piano/keyboards, then there's the music producing and DJing, garden needs constant attention... That's of course at the same time as my usual cooking, cleaning and elderly relative care duties. Just feel like I've always got too much on and I'm spreading myself too thin as I get frustrated by lack of progress... Need to work out how I can gently dissuade myself from juggling so many barely started things and start seeing a few through to an acceptable level of completion or proficiency.

Anyone got any suggestions for avoiding this kind of situation other than the obvious "don't do it" kind of thing? "

I have aspergers too. Learn to say 'no', learn that imperfect doesn't mean it's wrong or a failure, and accept that a project may take years to complete, if at all, and be OK with it. Self-imposed pressure is optional.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Ignorance works well from time to time, just ignore all the shit that's happening and focus on what you want

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"If I were to die it would cheer up my mother in law and I’m fucked if I’m letting that happen "

Good a reason as any....motivation is motivation

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I've always had quite good resilience, I'm not sure if it's a learned thing or natural. Sometimes I do kind of think that I have a reserve tank of it and when it's running empty I do things that help to recharge it.

I try and remind myself that things could be worse and I should just carry the fuck on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

Sounds like a cool idea!

I'm similar, I've got better at managing the procrastination and stuff once I found it *wasn't* lazyness and that I have some minor Asperger and ADHD stuff going on, but yeah I tend to get 'project overload' quite badly as well then find it next to impossible to devote sufficient time to any of them. I've got a couple of 'rolling' car restorations on the go, a few electric guitars I'm fixing up to sell on, I'm supposed to be learnig to play piano/keyboards, then there's the music producing and DJing, garden needs constant attention... That's of course at the same time as my usual cooking, cleaning and elderly relative care duties. Just feel like I've always got too much on and I'm spreading myself too thin as I get frustrated by lack of progress... Need to work out how I can gently dissuade myself from juggling so many barely started things and start seeing a few through to an acceptable level of completion or proficiency.

Anyone got any suggestions for avoiding this kind of situation other than the obvious "don't do it" kind of thing? "

I've done simple online tests and don't really seem to register as being anywhere on the scale where it would impact me in any way. I think it's just my personality type. Good at motivating others, but not myself. Good at ideas, but not always at implementing them on my own.

I just need to work with a team to get things done.

It's the only reason I joined Fab, so someone can help me build my Tiki Bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

Sounds like a cool idea!

I'm similar, I've got better at managing the procrastination and stuff once I found it *wasn't* lazyness and that I have some minor Asperger and ADHD stuff going on, but yeah I tend to get 'project overload' quite badly as well then find it next to impossible to devote sufficient time to any of them. I've got a couple of 'rolling' car restorations on the go, a few electric guitars I'm fixing up to sell on, I'm supposed to be learnig to play piano/keyboards, then there's the music producing and DJing, garden needs constant attention... That's of course at the same time as my usual cooking, cleaning and elderly relative care duties. Just feel like I've always got too much on and I'm spreading myself too thin as I get frustrated by lack of progress... Need to work out how I can gently dissuade myself from juggling so many barely started things and start seeing a few through to an acceptable level of completion or proficiency.

Anyone got any suggestions for avoiding this kind of situation other than the obvious "don't do it" kind of thing?

I've done simple online tests and don't really seem to register as being anywhere on the scale where it would impact me in any way. I think it's just my personality type. Good at motivating others, but not myself. Good at ideas, but not always at implementing them on my own.

I just need to work with a team to get things done.

It's the only reason I joined Fab, so someone can help me build my Tiki Bar "

Though project overload and some other things you described do sound very much like how I feel at times.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

Sounds like a cool idea!

I'm similar, I've got better at managing the procrastination and stuff once I found it *wasn't* lazyness and that I have some minor Asperger and ADHD stuff going on, but yeah I tend to get 'project overload' quite badly as well then find it next to impossible to devote sufficient time to any of them. I've got a couple of 'rolling' car restorations on the go, a few electric guitars I'm fixing up to sell on, I'm supposed to be learnig to play piano/keyboards, then there's the music producing and DJing, garden needs constant attention... That's of course at the same time as my usual cooking, cleaning and elderly relative care duties. Just feel like I've always got too much on and I'm spreading myself too thin as I get frustrated by lack of progress... Need to work out how I can gently dissuade myself from juggling so many barely started things and start seeing a few through to an acceptable level of completion or proficiency.

Anyone got any suggestions for avoiding this kind of situation other than the obvious "don't do it" kind of thing?

I've done simple online tests and don't really seem to register as being anywhere on the scale where it would impact me in any way. I think it's just my personality type. Good at motivating others, but not myself. Good at ideas, but not always at implementing them on my own.

I just need to work with a team to get things done.

It's the only reason I joined Fab, so someone can help me build my Tiki Bar "

I am happy to roll my sleeves up and get stuck in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

Sounds like a cool idea!

I'm similar, I've got better at managing the procrastination and stuff once I found it *wasn't* lazyness and that I have some minor Asperger and ADHD stuff going on, but yeah I tend to get 'project overload' quite badly as well then find it next to impossible to devote sufficient time to any of them. I've got a couple of 'rolling' car restorations on the go, a few electric guitars I'm fixing up to sell on, I'm supposed to be learnig to play piano/keyboards, then there's the music producing and DJing, garden needs constant attention... That's of course at the same time as my usual cooking, cleaning and elderly relative care duties. Just feel like I've always got too much on and I'm spreading myself too thin as I get frustrated by lack of progress... Need to work out how I can gently dissuade myself from juggling so many barely started things and start seeing a few through to an acceptable level of completion or proficiency.

Anyone got any suggestions for avoiding this kind of situation other than the obvious "don't do it" kind of thing?

I've done simple online tests and don't really seem to register as being anywhere on the scale where it would impact me in any way. I think it's just my personality type. Good at motivating others, but not myself. Good at ideas, but not always at implementing them on my own.

I just need to work with a team to get things done.

It's the only reason I joined Fab, so someone can help me build my Tiki Bar

I am happy to roll my sleeves up and get stuck in "

You have an open invitation then. Reward being you get served the first drink

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy, but I'm also stubborn as fuck.

I don't always finish things, or succeed in what I've started, but it's rarely because I've given up. Just taking a sabbatical of some sort.

I've got three unfinished murals, and a pile of wooden pallets sat in my living room waiting to be transformed into a Tiki bar. It'll get done, one day.

Sounds like a cool idea!

I'm similar, I've got better at managing the procrastination and stuff once I found it *wasn't* lazyness and that I have some minor Asperger and ADHD stuff going on, but yeah I tend to get 'project overload' quite badly as well then find it next to impossible to devote sufficient time to any of them. I've got a couple of 'rolling' car restorations on the go, a few electric guitars I'm fixing up to sell on, I'm supposed to be learnig to play piano/keyboards, then there's the music producing and DJing, garden needs constant attention... That's of course at the same time as my usual cooking, cleaning and elderly relative care duties. Just feel like I've always got too much on and I'm spreading myself too thin as I get frustrated by lack of progress... Need to work out how I can gently dissuade myself from juggling so many barely started things and start seeing a few through to an acceptable level of completion or proficiency.

Anyone got any suggestions for avoiding this kind of situation other than the obvious "don't do it" kind of thing?

I've done simple online tests and don't really seem to register as being anywhere on the scale where it would impact me in any way. I think it's just my personality type. Good at motivating others, but not myself. Good at ideas, but not always at implementing them on my own.

I just need to work with a team to get things done.

It's the only reason I joined Fab, so someone can help me build my Tiki Bar

I am happy to roll my sleeves up and get stuck in

You have an open invitation then. Reward being you get served the first drink "

Invitation gracefully accepted...I shall savour and enjoy my reward

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