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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Na why worry worry leads to nerves nerves leads to overthinking overthinking leads to lack of performance lack of performance leads to the dark side

Plus confidence is sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd share your worries if I ever actually got a meet.

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

I think it is natural to feel like that, but they are feeling the same as well about meeting you x

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"Na why worry worry leads to nerves nerves leads to overthinking overthinking leads to lack of performance lack of performance leads to the dark side

Plus confidence is sexy

I’m ok once the initial meet has happened and they haven’t run a mile!! I’d be so embarrassed if that did happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Na why worry worry leads to nerves nerves leads to overthinking overthinking leads to lack of performance lack of performance leads to the dark side

Plus confidence is sexy

The Zen master.

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I think it is natural to feel like that, but they are feeling the same as well about meeting you x"

I didn’t really think of it like that. X

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over a year ago

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

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i always tell meeta im fat im sure they dont believe me till we meet

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I think that many people share your nerves; I know I certainly do. But, as other have said already, the other person is probably nervous as well xx

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

i always tell meeta im fat im sure they dont believe me till we meet

You don’t look fat on your pics......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More worried that they would actually turn up.

You have nothing to worry about x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Na why worry worry leads to nerves nerves leads to overthinking overthinking leads to lack of performance lack of performance leads to the dark side

Plus confidence is sexy

I’m ok once the initial meet has happened and they haven’t run a mile!! I’d be so embarrassed if that did happen

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the odds if that happrning are very slim so no need to focus on that go with the mentality of lets have a laugh and embarrass the people listening in to your fab talk thats funny as when u make folks move

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I think that many people share your nerves; I know I certainly do. But, as other have said already, the other person is probably nervous as well xx"

I’m glad it’s not just me.....

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By *din and his ValkyrieCouple
over a year ago

Valhalla

I have the same problem, my confidence has been crush over the last few months with a health problem, I know second guess my self...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

Personality is key before anything else and most of all just be yourself. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Na why worry worry leads to nerves nerves leads to overthinking overthinking leads to lack of performance lack of performance leads to the dark side

Plus confidence is sexy

The Zen master."

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"Na why worry worry leads to nerves nerves leads to overthinking overthinking leads to lack of performance lack of performance leads to the dark side

Plus confidence is sexy

I’m ok once the initial meet has happened and they haven’t run a mile!! I’d be so embarrassed if that did happen

the odds if that happrning are very slim so no need to focus on that go with the mentality of lets have a laugh and embarrass the people listening in to your fab talk thats funny as when u make folks move

this happened the other day...... was chatting away with a guy and forgot where we was and got a few looks lol x

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I always do initially. When it’s that point where you agree to meet I get that sudden “fuck!” feeling.

That’s when I get the lack of confidence and try to put them off. Remind them my pics are stills and in real life bits wobble about etc and squidge

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If I haven’t put them off, when it comes to the meet I’m back to “fuck it”

I’m out there to enjoy myself now.

Lex

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"More worried that they would actually turn up.

You have nothing to worry about x"

You don’t know that

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Another reason I meet for a social, if there's no physical sexual attraction, no harm, no foul over a cup of java!

That said, the only time I was ever slightly "anxious" on a meet was the last one...he moved in six months later...six years ago!

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I have the same problem, my confidence has been crush over the last few months with a health problem, I know second guess my self... "

Does being in a couple not help that? X

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

i always tell meeta im fat im sure they dont believe me till we meet

You don’t look fat on your pics......"
thanksthanks but i am....slowly lossing it now

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I always do initially. When it’s that point where you agree to meet I get that sudden “fuck!” feeling.

That’s when I get the lack of confidence and try to put them off. Remind them my pics are stills and in real life bits wobble about etc and squidge

But

If I haven’t put them off, when it comes to the meet I’m back to “fuck it”

I’m out there to enjoy myself now.

Lex"

OMG I do the same!!!!

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"Another reason I meet for a social, if there's no physical sexual attraction, no harm, no foul over a cup of java!

That said, the only time I was ever slightly "anxious" on a meet was the last one...he moved in six months later...six years ago!

Awww really that’s cute. X

I’ll always have a social now. I made that mistake when I first came on here......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Na why worry worry leads to nerves nerves leads to overthinking overthinking leads to lack of performance lack of performance leads to the dark side

Plus confidence is sexy

I’m ok once the initial meet has happened and they haven’t run a mile!! I’d be so embarrassed if that did happen

this happened the other day...... was chatting away with a guy and forgot where we was and got a few looks lol x"
love seeing pensioners do the pannic embarrassed face followed by the wife dragging the hubby away

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

i always tell meeta im fat im sure they dont believe me till we meet

You don’t look fat on your pics......thanksthanks but i am....slowly lossing it now"

I still have fat brain...... I’ve lost about 4 stone and I’m not slim now but always like I look huge.

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"Na why worry worry leads to nerves nerves leads to overthinking overthinking leads to lack of performance lack of performance leads to the dark side

Plus confidence is sexy

I’m ok once the initial meet has happened and they haven’t run a mile!! I’d be so embarrassed if that did happen

this happened the other day...... was chatting away with a guy and forgot where we was and got a few looks lol xlove seeing pensioners do the pannic embarrassed face followed by the wife dragging the hubby away

Haha!! So funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

i always tell meeta im fat im sure they dont believe me till we meet

You don’t look fat on your pics......thanksthanks but i am....slowly lossing it now

I still have fat brain...... I’ve lost about 4 stone and I’m not slim now but always like I look huge.

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well done on weight loss

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"I always do initially. When it’s that point where you agree to meet I get that sudden “fuck!” feeling.

That’s when I get the lack of confidence and try to put them off. Remind them my pics are stills and in real life bits wobble about etc and squidge

But

If I haven’t put them off, when it comes to the meet I’m back to “fuck it”

I’m out there to enjoy myself now.

Lex

OMG I do the same!!!!

I had the same thing on a recent meet, we had food and I was so nervous I could feel myself blethering on.. it almost didn't happen. Then I relaxed.. we had that moment when you both know it's going to happen.. and a wonderful evening.

I don't normally suffer, but I have a couple of people to thank for helping me along in this fab world

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes I worry about being too fat. I worry we might not be sexually compatible and the sex will be dry as fuck. I sometimes worry I'll bore them with my chat.

And then I try and remember I'm actually kind of okay looking and beating myself up over silly little things won't change anything so I might as well enjoy the whole thing. Attraction is quite difficult to pinpoint and second guessing how you think someone views you isn't fair on you or them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find I’m a mixture nerves and excitement when I meet someone new. However I’ve learned over the years that I cannot be anything else that who I am at that moment, perfectly imperfect. I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone that didn’t like me, or at least no-one has ever told me that

Usually the friendship developed afterwards too unless we lost contact for one reason or another. So I realise that my nerves are simply chemicals based on daft things that flip through my mind from time to time. I’ll probably always have nerves I think it’s in my genetic make-up. For sex meets I have also experienced performance anxiety but I’ve realised that is also my mind playing tricks with me, so I’m learning to see it more as excitement and less of an issue.

In the end I’m the best me I can be right now and that’s what I bring to meeting new people. I’m still working on getting fitter and healthier but that’s just so I can enjoy life to the full even more

My imperfections are just part of the roadmap of my life to this point and as Aerosmith would say ‘I wouldn’t change a thing’ as far as my past goes except for one work regret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

i always tell meeta im fat im sure they dont believe me till we meet

You don’t look fat on your pics......thanksthanks but i am....slowly lossing it now

I still have fat brain...... I’ve lost about 4 stone and I’m not slim now but always like I look huge.

I worry everytime before we meet anyone, I'm self conscious and like you I've lost a lot of weight (5stone) but still see myself as the larger woman I once was whenever we meet anyone new

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"Sometimes I worry about being too fat. I worry we might not be sexually compatible and the sex will be dry as fuck. I sometimes worry I'll bore them with my chat.

This is true. It more about my own perception of myself and confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes constantly

Meeting a guy I've been chatting too for months on Wednesday. He is way out of my league.

Nervous as hell tbf. I'Ve warned him hoping he doesn't think I've catfished him.

Ooops.

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

i always tell meeta im fat im sure they dont believe me till we meet

You don’t look fat on your pics......thanksthanks but i am....slowly lossing it now

I still have fat brain...... I’ve lost about 4 stone and I’m not slim now but always like I look huge.

well done on weight loss"

Thank you x

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I find I’m a mixture nerves and excitement when I meet someone new. However I’ve learned over the years that I cannot be anything else that who I am at that moment, perfectly imperfect. I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone that didn’t like me, or at least no-one has ever told me that

My imperfections are just part of the roadmap of my life to this point and as Aerosmith would say ‘I wouldn’t change a thing’ as far as my past goes except for one work regret."

I’m hoping my confidence will grow with my new mentor

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

i always tell meeta im fat im sure they dont believe me till we meet

You don’t look fat on your pics......thanksthanks but i am....slowly lossing it now

I still have fat brain...... I’ve lost about 4 stone and I’m not slim now but always like I look huge.

I worry everytime before we meet anyone, I'm self conscious and like you I've lost a lot of weight (5stone) but still see myself as the larger woman I once was whenever we meet anyone new

xx"

I don’t think fat head ever goes when you’ve lost weight. Well done you xx

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"Yes constantly

Meeting a guy I've been chatting too for months on Wednesday. He is way out of my league.

Nervous as hell tbf. I'Ve warned him hoping he doesn't think I've catfished him.

Ooops."

That’s so exciting!! Hope it goes well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm suffering with low confidence I don't meet. Works for me.

I show myself honestly pre meet so there are no surprises with regards to how I look. Any nerves are more around whether we'll click in person.

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I always do initially. When it’s that point where you agree to meet I get that sudden “fuck!” feeling.

That’s when I get the lack of confidence and try to put them off. Remind them my pics are stills and in real life bits wobble about etc and squidge

But

If I haven’t put them off, when it comes to the meet I’m back to “fuck it”

I’m out there to enjoy myself now.

Lex

OMG I do the same!!!!

I don't normally suffer, but I have a couple of people to thank for helping me along in this fab world "

It’s amazing how this little world helps us.

I’m learning so much about me. And made some beautiful friends.

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"If I'm suffering with low confidence I don't meet. Works for me.

I show myself honestly pre meet so there are no surprises with regards to how I look. Any nerves are more around whether we'll click in person. "

I always show myself and still panic

Yes that also it a worry for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My imperfections are just part of the roadmap of my life to this point and as Aerosmith would say ‘I wouldn’t change a thing’ as far as my past goes except for one work regret.

I’m hoping my confidence will grow with my new mentor

I’m sure it will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely I always tell people I don't look like my pics and not to expect much. But I meet new people so rarely anyway that it doesn't matter

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Absolutely I always tell people I don't look like my pics and not to expect much. But I meet new people so rarely anyway that it doesn't matter "

As long as you look more like you than you look like me, it’s fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely I always tell people I don't look like my pics and not to expect much. But I meet new people so rarely anyway that it doesn't matter "

Why do you think don't you look like your pics? That's just bonkers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely I always tell people I don't look like my pics and not to expect much. But I meet new people so rarely anyway that it doesn't matter

Why do you think don't you look like your pics? That's just bonkers. "

Because I just think my pics look more 'polished' than I look in real life. I understand it's a confidence thing and like Lexi I'm absolutely fine after meeting someone for the first time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds to me like you need to work on your self worth more than you do your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle with the same self doubts every time I meet someone.

What I find reassuring is that most want to meet again and some even tell me I look better in real life than I do in my pics.

If you didn't have a few nerves, you are probably very self obsessed and over confident (in my opinion).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle with the same self doubts every time I meet someone.

What I find reassuring is that most want to meet again and some even tell me I look better in real life than I do in my pics.

If you didn't have a few nerves, you are probably very self obsessed and over confident (in my opinion).

Why do you see lack of nerves as a negative thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle with the same self doubts every time I meet someone.

What I find reassuring is that most want to meet again and some even tell me I look better in real life than I do in my pics.

If you didn't have a few nerves, you are probably very self obsessed and over confident (in my opinion).

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i dont get many nerves but thats because i meet strangers for a job not about being self obsessed or overconfident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle with the same self doubts every time I meet someone.

What I find reassuring is that most want to meet again and some even tell me I look better in real life than I do in my pics.

If you didn't have a few nerves, you are probably very self obsessed and over confident (in my opinion).

I must be self obsessed then, cause I’m not arsed either way.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"I think it is natural to feel like that, but they are feeling the same as well about meeting you x"

Perfectly put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely I always tell people I don't look like my pics and not to expect much. But I meet new people so rarely anyway that it doesn't matter

Why do you think don't you look like your pics? That's just bonkers.

Because I just think my pics look more 'polished' than I look in real life. I understand it's a confidence thing and like Lexi I'm absolutely fine after meeting someone for the first time. "

You have to remember that someone you meet isn't going to be scrutinizing every little detail under a microscope like you do to yourself. They see the whole package and obviously like that enough to meet. It's pointless sweating about this stuff.

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Well after meeting you at the MLS you are even more gorgeous in person, though your pics are great too. Think it is natural to worry if people will like you.

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

I get well nervous on a meet even if we've been talking for a while I'm very self conscious about the way I look and my body I always say if your looking for a six pack your talking to the wrong person that's just me.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I have the exact same worry. OP, I've met you in person and you are gorgeous and bubbly. Most people, I think, will have nerves before meeting someone x

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"Well after meeting you at the MLS you are even more gorgeous in person, though your pics are great too. Think it is natural to worry if people will like you. "

thank you xx

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I have the exact same worry. OP, I've met you in person and you are gorgeous and bubbly. Most people, I think, will have nerves before meeting someone x"

Thank you

When I first got there I was so self conscious and nervous. Actually shaking. Gin deffo calmed me down lol.

You are too xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My confidence used to be shaken when I would look that veris of potential meets to find absolutely banging looking woman. Always gonna be someone prettier, slimmer, fitter etc

Best to put these self beating thoughts out of mind

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I have the exact same worry. OP, I've met you in person and you are gorgeous and bubbly. Most people, I think, will have nerves before meeting someone x

Thank you

When I first got there I was so self conscious and nervous. Actually shaking. Gin deffo calmed me down lol.

You are too xxx"

I had a couple of dutch courage drinks before I got there. Was still nervous hoping I come across in person the same as I do on here. I think we are our own harshest critics x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My confidence used to be shaken when I would look that veris of potential meets to find absolutely banging looking woman. Always gonna be someone prettier, slimmer, fitter etc

Best to put these self beating thoughts out of mind "

Oh PS.... I would say your profile is very realistic not using filters, what you see is what you get and the thing that hits me is how pretty you are so chill ya beans it's all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always have a social 1st to let each other see if we are attracted to each other.

As long as folk keep their pics real

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I worry I’m a bit too brutish looking. But I can only work with the tools I got.

That’s why I always swap a lot of pics first.

I come across better in person though as I love a good chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get very nervous before meets, and have the same issues, I either talk too much or get all tongue tied and can't speak, luckily I have D to back me up and boost my confidence, without him I'd be a nervous wreck!

And you are such a beautiful woman, inside and out, your pictures don't do you justice.

Don't doubt yourself.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel exactly the same OP.

I used to give less fucks - I had butterflies before meets but in a good way.

Now I feel so worried that they will be disgusted I don't meet any more

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It's nice to see this level of honesty as opposed to the bravado that often gets pedalled around here. Good thread OP.

I always got nervous before meeting someone, no matter how honest your pictures may be or faithful you are in your messages, there's always that 'what if they don't like me in the flesh' worry.

Much as many others have said too, I lost 2 1/2 stone a few years ago and still have my body anxieties from that too.

However, I also think that nerves are good in many ways and I always said that the day I didn't feel nervous would be the day I stopped.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I think it is natural to feel like that, but they are feeling the same as well about meeting you x"

Very true. We can let our own insecurities blind us to the fact that other people have exactly the same thought process.

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

"I feel exactly the same OP.

I used to give less fucks - I had butterflies before meets but in a good way.

Now I feel so worried that they will be disgusted I don't meet any more

With that smile you got nothing to worry about id be like putty in your hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel exactly the same OP.

I used to give less fucks - I had butterflies before meets but in a good way.

Now I feel so worried that they will be disgusted I don't meet any more

With that smile you got nothing to worry about id be like putty in your hands

I agree the loveliest smile on fab by a mile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t think you’re going to disappoint anyone hun

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"My confidence used to be shaken when I would look that veris of potential meets to find absolutely banging looking woman. Always gonna be someone prettier, slimmer, fitter etc

Best to put these self beating thoughts out of mind "

I do that too x

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"My confidence used to be shaken when I would look that veris of potential meets to find absolutely banging looking woman. Always gonna be someone prettier, slimmer, fitter etc

Best to put these self beating thoughts out of mind

Oh PS.... I would say your profile is very realistic not using filters, what you see is what you get and the thing that hits me is how pretty you are so chill ya beans it's all good

if only we could see what others see. But thanks xx

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"Always have a social 1st to let each other see if we are attracted to each other.

As long as folk keep their pics real

That’s what I try to do

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I get very nervous before meets, and have the same issues, I either talk too much or get all tongue tied and can't speak, luckily I have D to back me up and boost my confidence, without him I'd be a nervous wreck!

And you are such a beautiful woman, inside and out, your pictures don't do you justice.

Don't doubt yourself.

Jo.Xx "

Being in a couple must be good for that.

You don’t come across as nervous. I feel I love with you both.

you too sweet

xxxx

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"I feel exactly the same OP.

I used to give less fucks - I had butterflies before meets but in a good way.

Now I feel so worried that they will be disgusted I don't meet any more

You love amazing. But it doesn’t matter how many people tell you it’s how you feel. Xx

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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago

stockport

"It's nice to see this level of honesty as opposed to the bravado that often gets pedalled around here. Good thread OP.

I always got nervous before meeting someone, no matter how honest your pictures may be or faithful you are in your messages, there's always that 'what if they don't like me in the flesh' worry.

Much as many others have said too, I lost 2 1/2 stone a few years ago and still have my body anxieties from that too.

However, I also think that nerves are good in many ways and I always said that the day I didn't feel nervous would be the day I stopped. "

Makes me feel more human knowing I’m not the only one.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"It's nice to see this level of honesty as opposed to the bravado that often gets pedalled around here. Good thread OP.

I always got nervous before meeting someone, no matter how honest your pictures may be or faithful you are in your messages, there's always that 'what if they don't like me in the flesh' worry.

Much as many others have said too, I lost 2 1/2 stone a few years ago and still have my body anxieties from that too.

However, I also think that nerves are good in many ways and I always said that the day I didn't feel nervous would be the day I stopped.

Makes me feel more human knowing I’m not the only one.

Exactly that. I think it's natural to forget that others get just as nervous before a meet. I often marvelled that people got nervous meeting me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have got a meet tonight and even though sent full body pics etc I'm so paranoid I'll get laughed at or he will be itching to get out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get nervous. If I didn't I'd see that as a sign that I wasn't really into the meet. It's excitement as well as the worry that it might not go as you hope. Not all nerves are bad.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I get nervous. If I didn't I'd see that as a sign that I wasn't really into the meet. It's excitement as well as the worry that it might not go as you hope. Not all nerves are bad. "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here for the nerves, and almost more nervous for it to be just a social type meet where you just have to rely on your wit and humour and conversational skills to get by (of which I dont have many)

A naked meet I find more relaxing as at least there are distractions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel exactly the same OP.

I used to give less fucks - I had butterflies before meets but in a good way.

Now I feel so worried that they will be disgusted I don't meet any more

With that smile you got nothing to worry about id be like putty in your hands

I agree the loveliest smile on fab by a mile

Aw thankyou that just made me smile even more x

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"Same here for the nerves, and almost more nervous for it to be just a social type meet where you just have to rely on your wit and humour and conversational skills to get by (of which I dont have many)

A naked meet I find more relaxing as at least there are distractions. "

Everyone being naked is a great leveller.

I think not being nervous is a sign you’ve become a bit jaded, I love the butterflies, helps get the juices going

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over a year ago

"I struggle with the same self doubts every time I meet someone.

What I find reassuring is that most want to meet again and some even tell me I look better in real life than I do in my pics.

If you didn't have a few nerves, you are probably very self obsessed and over confident (in my opinion).

Why do you see lack of nerves as a negative thing?"

It is just how I feel.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

If I'm not nervous before a social then something is wrong, I would have been talking to them for some time before. I don't take very good flattering pics and I'm told that.

As for meets yes very nervous the expectations of the other person and that is the same for people I have already met too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve nearly cancelled a meet due to terrible nerves but so glad I never

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over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *rickyd72Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I always worry I will disappoint the person I’m meeting.

I worry that they might think I’m bigger than I look in my pics or don’t look the same.

I do try to show the real me on my profile and never use filters but I still always have that worry.

Anyone else feel like this or have any other worries with meets??

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After reading your profile and looking at your pics, you have no need to be nervous, you are gorgeous! And I love your ink! In fact, I'd be nervous if I met you, in case i screwed it up with such a stunner! Bloody shame I'm 4 years too old and live at the wrong side of the pennines! xx

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