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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all how would you feel if you found out your partner had been using the site all the way through your relationship 3 years all in all and you didn’t know and then when questioned because she has verifications on there denied ever meeting anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all how would you feel if you found out your partner had been using the site all the way through your relationship 3 years all in all and you didn’t know and then when questioned because she has verifications on there denied ever meeting anybody "

But your here to?

Mrscxxx

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"Hi all how would you feel if you found out your partner had been using the site all the way through your relationship 3 years all in all and you didn’t know and then when questioned because she has verifications on there denied ever meeting anybody "

Huh??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be raging if it was behind my back and would leave them.

But you’re on here OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve only recently joined after finding out she was using the site again

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

That's a rather specific set of circumstances OP...

Verifications don't necessarily mean sexual encounters, lots of people have verifications from socials.

I would be concerned about the deception though and why she chose to keep her prescence here a secret.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I’ve only recently joined after finding out she was using the site again "

Three months ago, and you're only just considering this now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a whole lotta drama brewing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all how would you feel if you found out your partner had been using the site all the way through your relationship 3 years all in all and you didn’t know and then when questioned because she has verifications on there denied ever meeting anybody "

Absolutely gutted...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Didn’t know weather to put it out there obviously I’m hurt and have been for a while specially finding the recent pics of her aswell wearing a ring I paid for for a special occasion

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'd give him a high fucking five!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn’t know weather to put it out there obviously I’m hurt and have been for a while specially finding the recent pics of her aswell wearing a ring I paid for for a special occasion "

Fuck that. Dump her. What is there to even consider?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kick her arse out. But you’re a bloke writing this, so every amateur Fab Sherlock Holmes will try to undermine you and sympathy will lie with your partner.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’d get a pair of nipple clamps and attach it to each bollock whilst shining a bright lamp into their eye and weinging their cock like a washed up, used cloth. i’d pour veet into their shampoo and erm....other stuff.

Maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve only recently joined after finding out she was using the site again "

What her user name on here , I’ll see if Iv met her ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn’t know weather to put it out there obviously I’m hurt and have been for a while specially finding the recent pics of her aswell wearing a ring I paid for for a special occasion "

Mate I don't think this is the place for talking about it. Unless your looking for revenge. Which I personally don't think is what you need. Talk to your best mates about it... I don't really have any experienced advice to give you. I haven't been cheated on since I was 15 and was just to shy to give it up at that time. And she wanted it. So it's also very different... But my advice would be just to speak to your close mates about this situation and not here. Do you think she is reading this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid ... had it done to me

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I’d be gutted. I assume you’ve broken up and didn’t have an account here whilst you were with her.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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Probably better to talk it out with your partner then asking for other peoples opinions, And that is just my opinion,

Unless she is also reading/replying to the comments then It might actually be a good thing

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Kick her arse out. But you’re a bloke writing this, so every amateur Fab Sherlock Holmes will try to undermine you and sympathy will lie with your partner. "

Nailed it!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Open a couples profile as you both like fucking others.

You have a verification so clearly it's not bothering you that much.

You can both fuck other people and watch at same time.

Interesting that you said she's on here again,that implies you must have been also to catch her?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d be gutted. I assume you’ve broken up and didn’t have an account here whilst you were with her."
true we have broken up and she denies it all and refuses to talk about these meets stating they are friends and chat on here but obviously that’s what messaging apps and mobiles are for so it’s incredibly fishy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Open a couples profile as you both like fucking others.

You have a verification so clearly it's not bothering you that much.

You can both fuck other people and watch at same time.

Interesting that you said she's on here again,that implies you must have been also to catch her?"
no I was told by a friend she was back on here that’s why I rejoined

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Rejoined?

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire


"I’d be gutted. I assume you’ve broken up and didn’t have an account here whilst you were with her. true we have broken up and she denies it all and refuses to talk about these meets stating they are friends and chat on here but obviously that’s what messaging apps and mobiles are for so it’s incredibly fishy "

I’d be gutted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rejoined?"
I had previously been on here before we got together she even uses the same profile I met her on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all how would you feel if you found out your partner had been using the site all the way through your relationship 3 years all in all and you didn’t know and then when questioned because she has verifications on there denied ever meeting anybody "

Single, I'd feel single.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm confused...be on together.. separately.or break up.. stay on or get off here individually

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west


"Hi all how would you feel if you found out your partner had been using the site all the way through your relationship 3 years all in all and you didn’t know and then when questioned because she has verifications on there denied ever meeting anybody

Single, I'd feel single."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn’t know weather to put it out there obviously I’m hurt and have been for a while specially finding the recent pics of her aswell wearing a ring I paid for for a special occasion

Mate I don't think this is the place for talking about it. Unless your looking for revenge. Which I personally don't think is what you need. Talk to your best mates about it... I don't really have any experienced advice to give you. I haven't been cheated on since I was 15 and was just to shy to give it up at that time. And she wanted it. So it's also very different... But my advice would be just to speak to your close mates about this situation and not here. Do you think she is reading this? "

This is exactly 100% the place to talk about it.

Where the fuck else are you gonna get advice to this ludicrously unusual position.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Rejoined? I had previously been on here before we got together she even uses the same profile I met her on"

Ok so you met on here, got into a relationship and were supposed to be monogamous but she lied and cheated? You were told she was on here so came looking and found her. Is that correct?

If so then you have every right to be pissed off. In your situation I'm pretty sure I would be ending the relationship.

Lots of people in relationships have met on here. Some leave and never return, others come back with a couples profile. The ones that work out are those who are open and honest with each other. The key to any relationship working out is communication and trust and it doesn't sound like you have had either.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

If you feel the need to hide something significant of that kind from a partner, it's deception and then you've lost trust.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rejoined? I had previously been on here before we got together she even uses the same profile I met her on

Ok so you met on here, got into a relationship and were supposed to be monogamous but she lied and cheated? You were told she was on here so came looking and found her. Is that correct?

If so then you have every right to be pissed off. In your situation I'm pretty sure I would be ending the relationship.

Lots of people in relationships have met on here. Some leave and never return, others come back with a couples profile. The ones that work out are those who are open and honest with each other. The key to any relationship working out is communication and trust and it doesn't sound like you have had either.

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yes that’s correct and I had a lot of faith and trust In her and our relationship so much so I gave up my house my job and everything else to move in with her and I understand we met on here but we both agreed we were exclusive

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you’ve split up, isn’t it a bit like shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted? Think of the future (but learn from the past).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn’t know weather to put it out there obviously I’m hurt and have been for a while specially finding the recent pics of her aswell wearing a ring I paid for for a special occasion

Mate I don't think this is the place for talking about it. Unless your looking for revenge. Which I personally don't think is what you need. Talk to your best mates about it... I don't really have any experienced advice to give you. I haven't been cheated on since I was 15 and was just to shy to give it up at that time. And she wanted it. So it's also very different... But my advice would be just to speak to your close mates about this situation and not here. Do you think she is reading this?

This is exactly 100% the place to talk about it.

Where the fuck else are you gonna get advice to this ludicrously unusual position.

"

I was just offering my advice..

Did you join this site when you found out or before and saw her on here?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Reading through this thread should be a reminder to so many singles who hope to meet the love of their life on here . There is often a reason why singles use a swinging site , and one of the reasons is they aren’t prepared to become exclusive . As much as they hope to , and say they would if they met the right person , the swinging and non monogamy are often too tempting to leave behind .

I’m truly sad for the op , I really am . It awful to have someone you think loves and cares about you doing the dirty like this . But sadly I’m not surprised . Seen it happen so many times and it’s so often the female that does it like this . Of course guys do it too , but women tend to be so much better at pulling the wool over our eyes .

Chin up op , move on , and remember this episode . Although there are a few exceptions to the rule , a swinging site isn’t the best place to look for an exclusive relationship .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Didn’t know weather to put it out there obviously I’m hurt and have been for a while specially finding the recent pics of her aswell wearing a ring I paid for for a special occasion

Mate I don't think this is the place for talking about it. Unless your looking for revenge. Which I personally don't think is what you need. Talk to your best mates about it... I don't really have any experienced advice to give you. I haven't been cheated on since I was 15 and was just to shy to give it up at that time. And she wanted it. So it's also very different... But my advice would be just to speak to your close mates about this situation and not here. Do you think she is reading this?

This is exactly 100% the place to talk about it.

Where the fuck else are you gonna get advice to this ludicrously unusual position.

I was just offering my advice..

Did you join this site when you found out or before and saw her on here? "
I joined when I found out but had suspicions as the time she wanted to spend with me got less and less even spending time alone with me in the house there always had to be the interfering friend around

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Reading through this thread should be a reminder to so many singles who hope to meet the love of their life on here . There is often a reason why singles use a swinging site , and one of the reasons is they aren’t prepared to become exclusive . As much as they hope to , and say they would if they met the right person , the swinging and non monogamy are often too tempting to leave behind .

I’m truly sad for the op , I really am . It awful to have someone you think loves and cares about you doing the dirty like this . But sadly I’m not surprised . Seen it happen so many times and it’s so often the female that does it like this . Of course guys do it too , but women tend to be so much better at pulling the wool over our eyes .

Chin up op , move on , and remember this episode . Although there are a few exceptions to the rule , a swinging site isn’t the best place to look for an exclusive relationship ."
very true what your saying thanks for the comment

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Always trust your gut!!!

Then and only then, investigate fully before confronting! The lies and deceit will come thick and fast normally and then you’re left wondering - it’s not nice and can be destructive!!

You need to decide what you want to do!! Sounds like it’s done, see it as a lesson and learn from the whole experience!! Good luck

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