FabSwingers.com forum: Do couple mf find single guy and be very rude to husbands

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi we are new to the seen of swinging we are a mf couple we like mmf fun be we find most guy that we chat to when we are looking for a meet just think the husband is a sissy or just in the way there are just after me not bothered about is feeling I think they most think he is no good at satisfying meet in the bedroom so I have to find a guy to do it for me or is this just us being paranoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, we've had that very thing before. It's annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naa some folks are rude some arnt its that easy

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By *orn to playMan
over a year ago

peterborough

I have done mmf many tines I have l ways been respectful to both mail and female,

And word not do anything to the female unless I have he’s permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s an uncommon thing to think, I’ve known of couples where this is the exact case, guys come in to satisfy the woman because her partner can’t.

You could add more detail to your profile to say you’re not in a cuckold relationship and you’re looking for an MMF to experiment and enhance an already amazing sex life, the latter being a slightly cliche but you get the picture.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I see what you mean . See this is where we are new to swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the mmfs I have experienced both partners were active participants and the focus was in the main giving the woman as much pleasure as me and her hubby could working as a team. In the bi mmf I actually got a considerable amount of attention off both of them, so the dynamic was different. On the whole it’s always been about three equals enjoying mutual pleasure. I have never been involved in one where the husband could be considered a sissy or cuckold up for humiliation.

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By *ust chilled out meMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Everyone is different but at the end of the day people Male or female should show respect no need for rudeness but theres plenty of it about Male and female unfortunately

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hi we are new to the seen of swinging we are a mf couple we like mmf fun be we find most guy that we chat to when we are looking for a meet just think the husband is a sissy or just in the way there are just after me not bothered about is feeling I think they most think he is no good at satisfying meet in the bedroom so I have to find a guy to do it for me or is this just us being paranoid

Surely this is just a simple case of you needing to explain your situation to the guy in any messages/phone calls leading up to a meet.

Have you thought of explaining your relationship and what you're looking for clearly in your profile ?

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

I’m wondering if it’s a case of dominate cock!

Most men don’t like to be viewed as an extra cock during sex, testosterone and all that

Takes a special kind of man that can join without those feelings, looking for a very giving gent that can have sex without treating it as a competitor sport

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes we need to look at what we have written on our profile and make it more clearly what we are looking for but do guy actually read the profiles sorry or couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m wondering if it’s a case of dominate cock!

Most men don’t like to be viewed as an extra cock during sex, testosterone and all that

Takes a special kind of man that can join without those feelings, looking for a very giving gent that can have sex without treating it as a competitor sport"

That’s funny I’ve never seen it as a competitive sport. I just enjoy the collaborative ‘all in it together’ approach to maximising our pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes we need to look at what we have written on our profile and make it more clearly what we are looking for but do guy actually read the profiles sorry or couples "

Some enjoy reading profiles, others go just for the pictures, while others like messaging silhouettes with ‘will fill in later’ as a profile text.

You’ll soon know if they read it or not. And if they haven’t, deleting the message and blocking them saves any later rudeness, leaving them to ponder on why their message didn’t get a response.

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Having met couples for 15 years, I think having respect for both male and female of the couple is vital. For me I just try to put myself in their shoes, and would I want someone to message me and show me no manners or respect?.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Yes we need to look at what we have written on our profile and make it more clearly what we are looking for but do guy actually read the profiles sorry or couples "

Some do some don't but at least by having it on your profile people have the option of reading further info on what you're looking for, without this info they don't.

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

Yeah we've had this at the same time we've met some really great guys but theres always someone that thinks there gods gift we like to have a social or go to a swingers club and have a chat first and if we both agree we will play.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We've found single men to be respectful to us both. If there's any hint in messages that he's just interested in me we don't meet. Most guys make an effort to mention both of us initially, if they don't, they're gone.

Don't put up with anything you don't like. By the same token always treat the single men respectfully too, they're equal in the trio

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

I think its horrible to disrespect the womans partner in that situation ive never done that. Id go along with whatever the couple wanted not dominate the guy or make him feel inadequate.

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By *oreFunForAllCouple
over a year ago

Dumstable

For the most part, no it’s not an issue we have.

But over the last 10 years of meets there have been a couple of guys that I’ve thrown out of a room at a club or allowed them to watch then when they thought it was going to be their turn tell them that rude guys don’t get to fuck my women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the most part, no it’s not an issue we have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find this a lot as well they talked to hubby until they've convinced him to talk to Peach soon as they start talking they then be nasty to hubby or completely ignore him hubby is always the Alpha the other gents just a bit of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to regularly meet for MFM on here with my old profile. Any guys that took that approach would not get a chance to see the inside of our bedroom.

That's why we would establish chat first then meet for a social. The social would tell us a lot, if they spoke too much to him and ignored me it gave us the impression of that I'm being lent out so they would get a no thank you. If they ignored my partner again they would be removed. We ended up meeting some wonderful men

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"In the mmfs I have experienced both partners were active participants and the focus was in the main giving the woman as much pleasure as me and her hubby could working as a team. In the bi mmf I actually got a considerable amount of attention off both of them, so the dynamic was different. On the whole it’s always been about three equals enjoying mutual pleasure. I have never been involved in one where the husband could be considered a sissy or cuckold up for humiliation."

That's how we play and the interaction during the whole meet (and afterwards) is how we decide whether it's a one off or possibly long term fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Me and husband have good sex and love to play with each other but it is nice to have a other guy as well so we think a club could be go for us do you agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had this a bit .... guys thinking we “need” them to help us out. As we generally look for bi guys (I love watching two guys together) they seem to think hubby is a cuck and is there for them to abuse when nothing could be further from the truth...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we've had it, testosterone takes over their brains and goes down to their cocks, if they think it'll get em anywhere but blocked they can dream on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to meet regularly for mmf with my previous partner and never had any issue with the single men. My profile was very clear on the dynamic of our relationship and we spoke at length about what kind of thing we were looking for. It's up to both sets of people meeting to establish whether you're mutually compatible before playing. If you're not clear on the husbands role then you shouldn't be surprised that the third person doesn't always get it right. It's just communication..

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

There's thousands of singles on here, and maybe 1% of them understand swinging. Most are single because they're shit at life and are just here for sex,validation and a self esteem boost. Bless 'em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would put on your profile that you already have an amazing sex life and that you are looking to enhance it. Not looking for cuckold. You have to remember most single men on here are only after a quick shag and only in it for thier own gratification. Look at the ones that want to spend time with you and enhance your relationship .. I have couples that I meet and I love it when they smile at each other during play the look of making them both happy does it for me as I'm a pleaser and not just in it for myself.. I actually get off at making a lady happy on a couple.

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By *apt Smith and Lady JaneCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

A lot of guys think that way, but not all of them are morons. There are a few things to look out for that will help you spot and avoid them;

1 Cock pic for avatar = moron

2 Cock pick with message = moron

3 Msg in txt spk = moron (probably)

4 Under 35 = moron (almost certainly)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I used to meet regularly for mmf with my previous partner and never had any issue with the single men. My profile was very clear on the dynamic of our relationship and we spoke at length about what kind of thing we were looking for. It's up to both sets of people meeting to establish whether you're mutually compatible before playing. If you're not clear on the husbands role then you shouldn't be surprised that the third person doesn't always get it right. It's just communication.. "

Exactly!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If we experienced anyone like that, we'd tell him go FUCK OFF..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m firm delete and block rude sods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think it’s an uncommon thing to think, I’ve known of couples where this is the exact case, guys come in to satisfy the woman because her partner can’t.

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

Maybe we've just been lucky but we've definitely not experienced that ourselves, not in person at least. Everyone we've been physical with has been very respectful. Had the odd rude message but that's almost expected sadly.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

I’ve never been into the whole ‘husband is a sissy’ bollocks. I always respect and treat both halves as humans that I want to interact with and flirt with. Even if I meet a couple with a passive/submissive husband, I wouldn’t treat either of them like I am ‘Jack-the-lad’. It baffles me why some do it to couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can tell the real single male swingers from the boys by the way they come across.

A real single male swinger will treat you as a couple and you are NOT here because your other half isn't good in bed

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By *kbull2000Man
over a year ago

Carluke

I've been active as a Dom and a bull for longer than I'd care to admit. My 2pence worth:

Firstly- experience and respect. Namely the single male lacking experience and ignorant of to whom he should show respect. A lot of young guys first learn about being a bull from fantasy 'confessions' and porn vids in which hubby is always portrayed as weak and subservient. He'll never be shown as just a regular guy, in a loving relationship, who enjoys watching his wife be pleasured. That's boring. If I had £1 for every jaded couple I've met where they've met a guy who can't imagine the male of the couple being the main instigator.

2nd is communication. In this case, it takes 3 to tango. Do you always take the time for all 3 to chat and communicate fully before meeting? I'm more thorough now, but I cringe at some of the situations I blindly walked into, due to not getting answers to all my questions.

3rd - that's life. There's as many plonkers in here as elsewhere. I've met couples who've suddenly changed once met. In some cases so much that I've turned right around and walked away.

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By *enuine and discreet 1977Man
over a year ago

local

That's how we play and the interaction during the whole meet (and afterwards) is how we decide whether it's a one off or possibly long term fun. "

I find it hard to meet couples looking for genuine bi couples will travel

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"A lot of guys think that way, but not all of them are morons. There are a few things to look out for that will help you spot and avoid them;

1 Cock pic for avatar = moron

2 Cock pick with message = moron

3 Msg in txt spk = moron (probably)

4 Under 35 = moron (almost certainly)"

That's rather harsh

1 I've met plenty well educated men with cock pic avatars they just don't want face splashed everywhere

2 some women ask.... so what's a man to do

3 harsh but not inaccurate (lazy typers)

4 brutal! And ageist

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

In reply to OPs query...... if you explain you aren't after a bull and your man isn't cuck (so many on here are) then you'll whittle down who you're looking for. There are a lot of respectful single men on the site and even more so at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve found that most guys will only address the female of the couple and have no interest in the male of the couple even when it’s just chatting, not had the same experience with couples but very rarely get couples contacting us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately you are going to get this a lot, the reason being tat many single guys are not swingers, but just after a hook up and are desperate.

They think the female half’s knickers will just fall off because they are in a swinging/open relationship and they will meet with anybody in their eyes.

If you do choose somebody for your MMF fantasy be really careful and spend plenty of time picking who you pay with you are spoilt for choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve found that most guys will only address the female of the couple and have no interest in the male of the couple even when it’s just chatting, not had the same experience with couples but very rarely get couples contacting us."

Yeah, same experience here. Makes it hard work finding a good match.

Mrs

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We have men messaging about how we can please them. I laugh and say no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, same experience here. Makes it hard work finding a good match.

Mrs "

yeah there’s always one out the four that isn’t overly keen.

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