FabSwingers.com forum: Singles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

With the singles joining more and more on a daily basis, i am seeing a pattern of them not understanding etiquette and swinging.

Lately some of the messages i have received, having a pop at me as i only meet at clubs (unless met before) they seem to think im bang out of order not signing them in with me or coupling up with me when i dont know them and with the messages unlikely too.

Then its the “make me the exception” to your rule when clearly they should just accept my criterias.

Im coming to the conclusion that I should put an ad on pof to swing

So ladies and gentlemen, do you have this in your message box?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but it seems a fairly reasonable approach.

You only meet in clubs many clubs have limited single males, require a membership, a social/interview visit, high upfront fees for men etc.

So meeting up first for a coffee and going together seems perfectly sensible compared to a bloke stumping up god knows how much to find out you didnt even turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a reason there’s a cap on single men though,coupled men will stay with their partner mostly but a single man probably won’t once in the door. I’m sure not all are the same but we’ve had some pretty rude presumptious experiences with single men especially if there’s a group of them and your somewhere quite in a club. It’s like they forget society’s rules and head back to being cave men or vultures thinking they can touch or grab what they like. I think it’s a pretty fair rule that’s inplace from the owners experience for the majority

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There’s a reason there’s a cap on single men though,coupled men will stay with their partner mostly but a single man probably won’t once in the door. I’m sure not all are the same but we’ve had some pretty rude presumptious experiences with single men especially if there’s a group of them and your somewhere quite in a club. It’s like they forget society’s rules and head back to being cave men or vultures thinking they can touch or grab what they like. I think it’s a pretty fair rule that’s inplace from the owners experience for the majority "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, but it seems a fairly reasonable approach.

You only meet in clubs many clubs have limited single males, require a membership, a social/interview visit, high upfront fees for men etc.

So meeting up first for a coffee and going together seems perfectly sensible compared to a bloke stumping up god knows how much to find out you didnt even turn up. "

I’m not looking to date just nsa fun occasionally and some socials can be like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't pay to get in a club to meet a woman who only meets in clubs. Who wants to join a queue of maybes and pay for the privilege?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What can I say? The thirst is real in 2019 lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So ladies and gentlemen, do you have this in your message box?"

No, they all just say how pretty I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So ladies and gentlemen, do you have this in your message box?

No, they all just say how pretty I am. "

You are pretty

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"No, but it seems a fairly reasonable approach.

You only meet in clubs many clubs have limited single males, require a membership, a social/interview visit, high upfront fees for men etc.

So meeting up first for a coffee and going together seems perfectly sensible compared to a bloke stumping up god knows how much to find out you didnt even turn up. "

This thought process goes hand in hand with the thread earlier about touching. Entitled guys thinking it's OK to skirt around the entry criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, but it seems a fairly reasonable approach.

You only meet in clubs many clubs have limited single males, require a membership, a social/interview visit, high upfront fees for men etc.

So meeting up first for a coffee and going together seems perfectly sensible compared to a bloke stumping up god knows how much to find out you didnt even turn up.

This thought process goes hand in hand with the thread earlier about touching. Entitled guys thinking it's OK to skirt around the entry criteria.

Awesome so pragmatism = sexually abusive.

Lovley

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, but it seems a fairly reasonable approach.

You only meet in clubs many clubs have limited single males, require a membership, a social/interview visit, high upfront fees for men etc.

So meeting up first for a coffee and going together seems perfectly sensible compared to a bloke stumping up god knows how much to find out you didnt even turn up.

This thought process goes hand in hand with the thread earlier about touching. Entitled guys thinking it's OK to skirt around the entry criteria.

I didn’t actually say males. I said singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need more single men as turns out so many are time wasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can i just say this is not a single male bashing thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So ladies and gentlemen, do you have this in your message box?

No, they all just say how pretty I am.

You are pretty

thanks

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"No, but it seems a fairly reasonable approach.

You only meet in clubs many clubs have limited single males, require a membership, a social/interview visit, high upfront fees for men etc.

So meeting up first for a coffee and going together seems perfectly sensible compared to a bloke stumping up god knows how much to find out you didnt even turn up.

This thought process goes hand in hand with the thread earlier about touching. Entitled guys thinking it's OK to skirt around the entry criteria.

Awesome so pragmatism = sexually abusive.

Lovley"

It's not pragmatic though, it's cheap and divisive.

If you want to go to a club, go. Don't use someone else just to get in and save yourself a few quid. In defence of my other point; yes, the instances of guys doing that and then simply not 'getting it' is pretty high.

Entitled behaviour is universal. "I want it, therefore it's OK"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I've got a few of them in my inbox at the moment. I prefer people already on the club scene. I don't want to babysit or share a locker with a stranger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile states very clearly that I am not interested in any more men, that I have enough in my life at present. Yet I get messages from guys who tell me they read my profile but decided to try anyway, as I may change my mind for them. No, thank you! Especially if there is nothing on your profile.

I do believe that, because we live in an era of instant access to easy to process information, the skill of reading with understanding is dying. Especially within the younger generation, the below 35s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry lads it'll all work out for you during the next war...if you make it back....if the Americans are not stationed here....and if you win! Might be a long wait though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can i just say this is not a single male bashing thread. "

So single females message you, begging also?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get messages, so i dont get 'people' inboxing me that, no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me? Hint that i'm a swinger? On my Plenty of Fish profile? The Mongol Emperor? With my reputation?... How verrrry dare you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can i just say this is not a single male bashing thread.

So single females message you, begging also?

Hadva few yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im single and sick of getting bj offers off lads in my inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, but it seems a fairly reasonable approach.

You only meet in clubs many clubs have limited single males, require a membership, a social/interview visit, high upfront fees for men etc.

So meeting up first for a coffee and going together seems perfectly sensible compared to a bloke stumping up god knows how much to find out you didnt even turn up.

This thought process goes hand in hand with the thread earlier about touching. Entitled guys thinking it's OK to skirt around the entry criteria.

Awesome so pragmatism = sexually abusive.

Lovley"

I’ll probably get banned for saying this but I’m starting to be convinced people are not trying to have discussions anymore....

If you don’t agree with someone in a thread it’s deemed nefarious and subversive behavior....

I can’t find the link in your comment to you sounding entitled....

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Its your body your rules. If you want to go as a single , you go as a single. Its safer playing in a club than at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So ladies and gentlemen, do you have this in your message box?

No, they all just say how pretty I am.

You are pretty

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oh so pretty

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