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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chance would be a fine thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard about things going down in clubs if someone isn't getting the kind of play they want or even with jealous partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have I ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, none.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I’ve had one meet tell me he was dubious to meet me as he’d heard awful things about me from a previous meet. Funny thing is I’d never had any exchanges on here or with the woman in real life. The only exchange we had was her warning me off him after he displayed a verification from him. Very bizarre really can’t undrestand that attitude on a site such as this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that I'm aware of

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

And jealousy isn’t an issue for me I actively encourage my fella to fuck other people it just makes me hotter for him

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By *onderstuff73mMan
over a year ago

Brum


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

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Have no idea what anyone would be jealous or envious of me for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and no

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

I haven't on here but did on another site.

A woman had more feelings for the three way sexual relationship and when i came along.

To the person who wasn't her husband. Hell broke loose threatened to come down to his.

So now I check that a single person isn't in such a sexual triangle.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

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Everybody is looking for a connection but it's not always going to work out like that of course it's going to be envy jealousy suspicion we've been told of the generations to be good little soldiers marry have kids have sex with one person for the rest of your life then boom it just not everybody's cup of tea and some can not turn it off it doesn't make them bad people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've heard about things going down in clubs if someone isn't getting the kind of play they want or even with jealous partners."

Yeah I have seen that at clubs in the past. Especially amongst couples/partners. Things go down really quick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never used to but now i do

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Yes I have received abusive messages for simply talking favourably about missing somebody’s forum posts.

Very weird to get that upset over words on a screen.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been jealous in the sense of, I want to see that person (again) but I'm not high on their list right now.

I try very hard to keep it to myself, although I don't always succeed. Then I try to make amends.

Most of the possessive people I've come across are so from message one, and I block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id also say im not really possessive just very whiny and grumpy

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I've had one or two people spit the dummy because I met someone else when they felt I should have met them instead, if that counts?

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Yes!

I get abuse from guys about who I meet, asking why I choose to meet that particular person over them.

I've also had guys that have verified me get messages from women refusing to meet them because they've met me.

Jealousy....... Who knows??

I'm just here for nsa fun...

I refuse to be dragged into the politics

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've had a female message guys I've met calling me all sorts of names to them. Not sure if it's jealousy or she just really dislikes me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a female message guys I've met calling me all sorts of names to them. Not sure if it's jealousy or she just really dislikes me x"
no she was just a crank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think so. I don't get involved enough to get jealous and I doubt anyone would get jealous over me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't be jealous or envious of what I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think so. I don't get involved enough to get jealous and I doubt anyone would get jealous over me. "

Only over your hair

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I get messages from guys telling me that I'm tainted by meeting certain guys and/or I have to meet them because they're much better than (other person I've met).

Thank you for revealing your character immediately and welcome to my block list.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

In my early days on here I had messages off women telling me I shouldn't be on here and I can't meet him or him!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get jealous of a person, but I admit I've got envious of the time and effort gone into someone else.

This is hugely because our time is limited so I obviously want to make the most of the time we do have and not share it with anyone else, unless of course we're together at the time and enjoying others as a couple.

I do believe (rightly or wrongly, I'll probably never know for sure) that there's at least 1 person who is jealous of me, as they have a tendency to contact the same people as I do, whenever it looks like I'm getting close to someone this person seems to target the one I'm bonding with as their next conquest.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think so. I don't get involved enough to get jealous and I doubt anyone would get jealous over me.

Only over your hair "

Yes, but that's more of a day to day life thing for me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

To old for childisg games

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yup, forum harpies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that a situation where more than one person is interested in you and are competing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get jealous of a person, but I admit I've got envious of the time and effort gone into someone else.

This is hugely because our time is limited so I obviously want to make the most of the time we do have and not share it with anyone else, unless of course we're together at the time and enjoying others as a couple.

I do believe (rightly or wrongly, I'll probably never know for sure) that there's at least 1 person who is jealous of me, as they have a tendency to contact the same people as I do, whenever it looks like I'm getting close to someone this person seems to target the one I'm bonding with as their next conquest.

P"

No contest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was NellGwyn I had somebody behave a little oddly. A woman decided I was her competition and went a bit single white female. She went after the same men and even cut her hair like mine. She stalked me around the forums talking about how much she liked me. Not once did she pm me for a chat, it was all done in public. It was bloody weird.

I've only been with one possessive man but he kept that side of himself hidden for a good while. He would get arsey if I met anyone else yet would meet frequently himself. There was a definite double standard there, but expressed in such a covert way, gaslighting and manipulating, that I didn't know if I was up or down and would question myself constantly. It was a massive head fuck. Hey ho, we live and learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was NellGwyn I had somebody behave a little oddly. A woman decided I was her competition and went a bit single white female. She went after the same men and even cut her hair like mine. She stalked me around the forums talking about how much she liked me. Not once did she pm me for a chat, it was all done in public. It was bloody weird.

I've only been with one possessive man but he kept that side of himself hidden for a good while. He would get arsey if I met anyone else yet would meet frequently himself. There was a definite double standard there, but expressed in such a covert way, gaslighting and manipulating, that I didn't know if I was up or down and would question myself constantly. It was a massive head fuck. Hey ho, we live and learn. "

Sounds horrid

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think it's quite difficult to be around fab for any length of time and not encounter those emotions to some degree.

I've no doubt that I've felt them myself to some extent and I've had to give my head a wobble. It's how you react and how you act on those emotions that is telling I think.

I've personally seen people act in an awful manner towards others simply because of who they're talking to or even just because they're attractive and popular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's quite difficult to be around fab for any length of time and not encounter those emotions to some degree.

I've no doubt that I've felt them myself to some extent and I've had to give my head a wobble. It's how you react and how you act on those emotions that is telling I think.

I've personally seen people act in an awful manner towards others simply because of who they're talking to or even just because they're attractive and popular "

I'm jealous of your tummy...

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I think it's quite difficult to be around fab for any length of time and not encounter those emotions to some degree.

I've no doubt that I've felt them myself to some extent and I've had to give my head a wobble. It's how you react and how you act on those emotions that is telling I think.

I've personally seen people act in an awful manner towards others simply because of who they're talking to or even just because they're attractive and popular

I'm jealous of your tummy... "

That's perfectly natural and a very human response...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have encountered it once or twice... One couple got funny with eachother over who I shoulda been playing with... Had a few wives give their hubby a funny look for talking to me at socials, even tho they were way over my age limit for play, but I don't do jealousy nor abide it. People who can't trust, can't be trusted, I find, and it is all down to trust.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

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It happens you see the snipes on the forums or in the chat rooms some people though are desperate for company/love/attention I guess but it happens in life all the time both on here and in life. I count myself as lucky as work keeps me far too busy to experience it myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had it, not so much jealousy but clinging on all night, I guess people are just people and it’s all learning

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Yup...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been jealous in the sense of, I want to see that person (again) but I'm not high on their list right now. "

Exactly this. It does hurt, but I give myself a talking to and remind myself why we're here. It's a constant learning curve.

I doubt anyone's ever got jealous over me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had our first, we were great friends and had a few plays then practically ignored when new group of friends came along. I’d rather they turned around and said we don’t wanna be friends anymore then pretending they did and then Ignoring us. It does rub you the wrong way. Actually put me of mixing real friendship with swinging tbh. Annoyed by their Bad manners more than jelous though but does knock you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I experienced feeling envy once in here. It made me feel physically sick

I swore I’d never feel like that again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, someone didn’t want to see me anymore then ranted to me in messages when I met someone else. Couldn’t figure the logic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not that I’m aware of, mind you I’m a bit daft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love seeing the Mrs fucked by another bloke while I'm doing the same with another woman, nothing better and no room for jealousy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you are the jealous type then this site isn't for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heard of some people getting into a strop when someone meets a another while meeting a another? Thought it was a swinging site?.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had spiteful messages off guys who couldn’t understand that I wanted to be exclusive to Mr. They have spat their dummies out because we meet others, but won’t meet them as we don’t meet single guys, or that I won’t meet them again.

Insulting the man I’m crazy about is not going to make me want to meet them. Blocked and forgotten. They have behaved like entitled children and I don’t want that. It’s not even flattering, it’s just been abusive. Even had people message me to try and ask me about meets he’s had, trying to stir trouble, again because they want me to meet them and I won’t- apparently if they had me they wouldn’t meet others, etc.

It’s all very juvenile x

Viv xx

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

When I first joined Fab, someone filled me in on the bitchiness about veries, and the jealous sniping after/over meets. I laughed and didn't really believe him. Jealousy in a swinging site, really? Nah, surely not.

Two years later I've been on the receiving end of both (from both men and women)...

Daft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I first joined Fab, someone filled me in on the bitchiness about veries, and the jealous sniping after/over meets. I laughed and didn't really believe him. Jealousy in a swinging site, really? Nah, surely not.

Two years later I've been on the receiving end of both (from both men and women)...

Daft. "
see thats just stupid and daft i agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's quite difficult to be around fab for any length of time and not encounter those emotions to some degree.

I've no doubt that I've felt them myself to some extent and I've had to give my head a wobble. It's how you react and how you act on those emotions that is telling I think.

I've personally seen people act in an awful manner towards others simply because of who they're talking to or even just because they're attractive and popular "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site can bring out the worse in people, throw into the mix sex / popularity / attractiveness and it can provoke very ugly reactions.

I admit I’ve felt pangs of envy in the past when the person I really liked met others but it has to be kept real and in check...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m jealous of all those fuckers that meet loads of women. Or is it just envy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site can bring out the worse in people, throw into the mix sex / popularity / attractiveness and it can provoke very ugly reactions.

I admit I’ve felt pangs of envy in the past when the person I really liked met others but it has to be kept real and in check... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had one meet tell me he was dubious to meet me as he’d heard awful things about me from a previous meet. Funny thing is I’d never had any exchanges on here or with the woman in real life. The only exchange we had was her warning me off him after he displayed a verification from him. Very bizarre really can’t undrestand that attitude on a site such as this "

Yes I have had that too. Weird!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I feel quite lucky that I am oblivious to all of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm naturally flirty, I'm also sincerely attracted on multiple levels to more than one person.

I'd like to think they know that because I've done something with someone else, it doesn't diminish my attraction to them.

I'm single, but I'm also quite deep, emotional and sensitive. I find it helps me manage my emotions and not getting hurt.. by not focusing solely on one person.

Having said that.. when the ones I'm emotionally connected to flirt with another.. I do get a touch of the green eyed monster myself. Though I'm grown up enough to deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site can bring out the worse in people, throw into the mix sex / popularity / attractiveness and it can provoke very ugly reactions.

I admit I’ve felt pangs of envy in the past when the person I really liked met others but it has to be kept real and in check... "

What Roxi said

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By *ellbound_GhoulwarpWoman
over a year ago

Fifth Circle of Hell

"I've been jealous in the sense of, I want to see that person (again) but I'm not high on their list right now. "

I've had this in the past. Somebody I was really into, dying to meet up but put me on the back burner and chose to meet others even after "seemingly sweet" texts.

Used to really nark me, now I just let it go over my head, his loss haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chance would be a fine thing "

Poor you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site can bring out the worse in people, throw into the mix sex / popularity / attractiveness and it can provoke very ugly reactions.

I admit I’ve felt pangs of envy in the past when the person I really liked met others but it has to be kept real and in check...

What Roxi said "

Case and point.. I fancy both you and Roxi and want to meet both of you.. What s a guy to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think more people on the forum are ashamed they've met me than are jelous of those that have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think more people on the forum are ashamed they've met me than are jelous of those that have "

Ashamed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have unfortunately, I took it to heart at first and it bugged me but it doesn't any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think more people on the forum are ashamed they've met me than are jelous of those that have "

Absolute rubbish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have unfortunately, I took it to heart at first and it bugged me but it doesn't any more "

Been on the recieving end that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site can bring out the worse in people, throw into the mix sex / popularity / attractiveness and it can provoke very ugly reactions.

I admit I’ve felt pangs of envy in the past when the person I really liked met others but it has to be kept real and in check...

What Roxi said

Case and point.. I fancy both you and Roxi and want to meet both of you.. What s a guy to do?"

Crack on regardless, as far as I’m concerned it’s something that I’m aware of that can happen and if does I deal with it, simples.

No bunnies being boiled here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site can bring out the worse in people, throw into the mix sex / popularity / attractiveness and it can provoke very ugly reactions.

I admit I’ve felt pangs of envy in the past when the person I really liked met others but it has to be kept real and in check...

What Roxi said

Case and point.. I fancy both you and Roxi and want to meet both of you.. What s a guy to do?

Crack on regardless, as far as I’m concerned it’s something that I’m aware of that can happen and if does I deal with it, simples.

No bunnies being boiled here..."

Whoop whoop you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve been asked things about how come I’ve had sex with her and not me type of thing. Personality, I usually reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It has been quite draining in the past. It's even had an impact on how I've conducted myself on the forums. Now I've learnt to spot the red flags. I avoid those who seem overly possessive. A healthy amount is fine, but when it starts interfering with your natural flow and you begin walking on eggshells, it's time to pull the plug, because it becomes toxic

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"This site can bring out the worse in people, throw into the mix sex / popularity / attractiveness and it can provoke very ugly reactions.

I admit I’ve felt pangs of envy in the past when the person I really liked met others but it has to be kept real and in check... "

Oh those ugly reactions...

Yes, I get envy. And I give my head a wobble/bemoan my failings and then move the fuck past it.

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By *cousesubsallyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there

I don’t think I’ve ever been properly jealous on here, I’ve had ‘pangs’ in the past but I’ve been able to say ‘go have fun’ and mean it - I think it’s natural to feel that way if you enjoy someone’s company/care for someone.

It’s probably similar to waving your mates off on a night out that you can’t go on - you want them to have a good time but wish you could as well

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don’t think I’ve ever been properly jealous on here, I’ve had ‘pangs’ in the past but I’ve been able to say ‘go have fun’ and mean it - I think it’s natural to feel that way if you enjoy someone’s company/care for someone.

It’s probably similar to waving your mates off on a night out that you can’t go on - you want them to have a good time but wish you could as well "

Nicely put

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"This site can bring out the worse in people, throw into the mix sex / popularity / attractiveness and it can provoke very ugly reactions.

I admit I’ve felt pangs of envy in the past when the person I really liked met others but it has to be kept real and in check... "

I agree with you, as it appears do many others.

I may have had pangs of envy in those situations but contextualising it in terms of my situation with others then makes sense of it all. Hypocrisy and jealousy really aren't pleasant bedfellows

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

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Yeah , when we went to clubs it was always presumed that we would want to play the same people time after time . Which we didn’t , and this led to all manner of issues with those who had played with and new people that we preferred to play with . In the end we gave up going to clubs , not just for this reason , but that was part of it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. It's kinda hard for jealousy to creep in when you keep your business private.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"I think if you are the jealous type then this site isn't for you!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think I’ve ever been properly jealous on here, I’ve had ‘pangs’ in the past but I’ve been able to say ‘go have fun’ and mean it - I think it’s natural to feel that way if you enjoy someone’s company/care for someone.

It’s probably similar to waving your mates off on a night out that you can’t go on - you want them to have a good time but wish you could as well "
ur a lot better than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think I’ve ever been properly jealous on here, I’ve had ‘pangs’ in the past but I’ve been able to say ‘go have fun’ and mean it - I think it’s natural to feel that way if you enjoy someone’s company/care for someone.

It’s probably similar to waving your mates off on a night out that you can’t go on - you want them to have a good time but wish you could as well ur a lot better than me "

You know what they say. Behind every good man, is a great woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think I’ve ever been properly jealous on here, I’ve had ‘pangs’ in the past but I’ve been able to say ‘go have fun’ and mean it - I think it’s natural to feel that way if you enjoy someone’s company/care for someone.

It’s probably similar to waving your mates off on a night out that you can’t go on - you want them to have a good time but wish you could as well ur a lot better than me

You know what they say. Behind every good man, is a great woman "
pegging him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Experienced ladies jealous of other ladies and won't meet me because I've met other said lady ,even met one or two who have questioned me about a particular meet and has one lady get Mardy because I met a lady who went on to have 2 more meets in quick succession and she refused to talk to me because I met said lady if you grasp what I'm saying op lol

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I've had a couple of men get funny with me about meeting other people after we'd played. I've also played with a couple of couples where there have been issues between them during play, which has made me quite cautious about the couples I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I first joined Fab, someone filled me in on the bitchiness about veries, and the jealous sniping after/over meets. I laughed and didn't really believe him. Jealousy in a swinging site, really? Nah, surely not.

Two years later I've been on the receiving end of both (from both men and women)...

Daft. "

Yessss! Same thing happened to me. This happens a lot over veri's. People just go off on one, but I was also filled in about this and many other things to look out for... guess what... everything I was told happens on here! Luckily I was prepared to overcome that, but some Fabbers especially newbies have no idea and when it kicks off they get a shock

At least threads like this can shed some light for the future unsuspecting genuine ones. Hopefully make it easier for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think I’ve ever been properly jealous on here, I’ve had ‘pangs’ in the past but I’ve been able to say ‘go have fun’ and mean it - I think it’s natural to feel that way if you enjoy someone’s company/care for someone.

It’s probably similar to waving your mates off on a night out that you can’t go on - you want them to have a good time but wish you could as well "

This exactly...have had to have words with myself on occasion but swingers or not we are human too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a couple of men get funny with me about meeting other people after we'd played. I've also played with a couple of couples where there have been issues between them during play, which has made me quite cautious about the couples I meet. "
my meet on Saturday told me she got a lot of abuse of some guys she was talking to because she chose to meet me and not them ,she said it revealed they're true nature and thank fuck she didn't pursue meets with any of them

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I've had a couple of men get funny with me about meeting other people after we'd played. I've also played with a couple of couples where there have been issues between them during play, which has made me quite cautious about the couples I meet. my meet on Saturday told me she got a lot of abuse of some guys she was talking to because she chose to meet me and not them ,she said it revealed they're true nature and thank fuck she didn't pursue meets with any of them"

That's how I look at it too! I get that someone may feel disappointment but at the and of the day we can only have one meet at once. Except by special arrangement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't care less who fucks who, but if I'm cast aside because someone more appealing became available I might stop wanting them.

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By *cousesubsallyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there


"I don’t think I’ve ever been properly jealous on here, I’ve had ‘pangs’ in the past but I’ve been able to say ‘go have fun’ and mean it - I think it’s natural to feel that way if you enjoy someone’s company/care for someone.

It’s probably similar to waving your mates off on a night out that you can’t go on - you want them to have a good time but wish you could as well ur a lot better than me

You know what they say. Behind every good man, is a great woman pegging him "

If you’re lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a couple of men get funny with me about meeting other people after we'd played. I've also played with a couple of couples where there have been issues between them during play, which has made me quite cautious about the couples I meet. my meet on Saturday told me she got a lot of abuse of some guys she was talking to because she chose to meet me and not them ,she said it revealed they're true nature and thank fuck she didn't pursue meets with any of them

That's how I look at it too! I get that someone may feel disappointment but at the and of the day we can only have one meet at once. Except by special arrangement "
to be totally honest we had been messaging each over for months and it just fell conveniently that sat night we were both free and both wanted to let our lust explode but that's no excuse for petty jealousy ,what guys need to understand you need to cultivate a relationship if you are to get a meet and at the end of the day if your prepared to meet other people why shouldn't a lady be able to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I couldn't care less who fucks who, but if I'm cast aside because someone more appealing became available I might stop wanting them.

"
had that done to me too and on that basis I won't lower myself and ask to meet again I just move on and don't talk to them that way you don't say something that makes you the cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

"

My look is that nothing good comes from Jealousy, you need to bag that shit up a throw it away. Change your mindset to something positive and be happy for them. However if they're cruel or using you then just cut ties and leave them be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think I’ve ever been properly jealous on here, I’ve had ‘pangs’ in the past but I’ve been able to say ‘go have fun’ and mean it - I think it’s natural to feel that way if you enjoy someone’s company/care for someone.

It’s probably similar to waving your mates off on a night out that you can’t go on - you want them to have a good time but wish you could as well ur a lot better than me

You know what they say. Behind every good man, is a great woman pegging him

If you’re lucky "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is that a situation where more than one person is interested in you and are competing?"

The inspiration for the thread is that I've been chatting to a couple who have told about their experiences of jealously whilst in a club. I thought they were exaggerating until I've read some of the stories here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm jealous of every guy who is 6'+

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

"

It is rife on (fab).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have unfortunately, I took it to heart at first and it bugged me but it doesn't any more

Been on the recieving end that is. "

I'm also jealous I don't live anywhere near Glasgow now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have unfortunately, I took it to heart at first and it bugged me but it doesn't any more

Been on the recieving end that is.

I'm also jealous I don't live anywhere near Glasgow now "

So you should, greatest city in the world

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

In my experience jealousy/bitchiness/nastiness (call it what you will) is far more prevalent among single fems - which I find odd in itself (as there are so few of us and so many men/couples to go round!) and very sad/unnecessary!

There are those who will spout total bullshit about others purely to put people off meeting them! I’ve known females qliques to do this as a group too - practically bullying others into not meeting people they don’t like or are jealous of!

For me this underlying bitchiness/jealousy is the only downside of swinging! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my experience jealousy/bitchiness/nastiness (call it what you will) is far more prevalent among single fems - which I find odd in itself (as there are so few of us and so many men/couples to go round!) and very sad/unnecessary!

There are those who will spout total bullshit about others purely to put people off meeting them! I’ve known females qliques to do this as a group too - practically bullying others into not meeting people they don’t like or are jealous of!

For me this underlying bitchiness/jealousy is the only downside of swinging! X"

Some women want what other women have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I couldn't care less who fucks who, but if I'm cast aside because someone more appealing became available I might stop wanting them.

had that done to me too and on that basis I won't lower myself and ask to meet again I just move on and don't talk to them that way you don't say something that makes you the cunt"

I don't mind waiting, but I might get bored or move on myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my experience jealousy/bitchiness/nastiness (call it what you will) is far more prevalent among single fems - which I find odd in itself (as there are so few of us and so many men/couples to go round!) and very sad/unnecessary!

There are those who will spout total bullshit about others purely to put people off meeting them! I’ve known females qliques to do this as a group too - practically bullying others into not meeting people they don’t like or are jealous of!

For me this underlying bitchiness/jealousy is the only downside of swinging! X"

This is true in my experience, which is annoying cause I'd rather be chatting other women up and meeting them not competing!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Oh my.

Hey I've been jealous, because some like to have you believe you are all they need at that moment whilst keeping their large hands in other pies.

I've also seen people, who claim to be devout swingers and would never get jealous when it's all about nsa, beg and plead men to sleep with them. Single women who harp on about not getting jealous to all of the forums then lose their shit in real life.

It is a funny old place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have unfortunately, I took it to heart at first and it bugged me but it doesn't any more

Been on the recieving end that is.

I'm also jealous I don't live anywhere near Glasgow now

So you should, greatest city in the world "

Keep me under your stairs or something ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my.

Hey I've been jealous, because some like to have you believe you are all they need at that moment whilst keeping their large hands in other pies.

I've also seen people, who claim to be devout swingers and would never get jealous when it's all about nsa, beg and plead men to sleep with them. Single women who harp on about not getting jealous to all of the forums then lose their shit in real life.

It is a funny old place.

"

Some interesting observations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my experience jealousy/bitchiness/nastiness (call it what you will) is far more prevalent among single fems - which I find odd in itself (as there are so few of us and so many men/couples to go round!) and very sad/unnecessary!

There are those who will spout total bullshit about others purely to put people off meeting them! I’ve known females qliques to do this as a group too - practically bullying others into not meeting people they don’t like or are jealous of!

For me this underlying bitchiness/jealousy is the only downside of swinging! X"

I can recal a clique of predatory bitchy women a few years ago, I distanced myself from the common denominator quick smart when I realised what was happening.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

Yes i have either other ladies seemingly not wanting me to chat to men they are chatting to or men asking me to be exclusive with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

"

As a single, no.

In a couple yes, I have been guilty of it. My own insecurities, backed up by his refusal to reassure. I am not proud of it, it does become toxic.

I have also witnessed it in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me think for a nanosecond..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv found it bad in the club scene sorry to say it but women are the worst !

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Oh my.

Hey I've been jealous, because some like to have you believe you are all they need at that moment whilst keeping their large hands in other pies.

I've also seen people, who claim to be devout swingers and would never get jealous when it's all about nsa, beg and plead men to sleep with them. Single women who harp on about not getting jealous to all of the forums then lose their shit in real life.

It is a funny old place.

Some interesting observations "

It's funny when someone asks you to not talk to/meet others but portray you as the green eyed beast.

But we live and learn. The toxicity is suffocating.

As for seeing jealousy on here, it's like I said those who shout the loudest etc seem to be the worst for it. (Just an observation)

I think the cute lamppost pissing is also a display of passive aggressive jealousy. A hands off they are mine type thing. Like I said, funny old place and one you can view from a totally different level when you have been on the inside of such behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my.

Hey I've been jealous, because some like to have you believe you are all they need at that moment whilst keeping their large hands in other pies.

I've also seen people, who claim to be devout swingers and would never get jealous when it's all about nsa, beg and plead men to sleep with them. Single women who harp on about not getting jealous to all of the forums then lose their shit in real life.

It is a funny old place.

Some interesting observations

It's funny when someone asks you to not talk to/meet others but portray you as the green eyed beast.

But we live and learn. The toxicity is suffocating.

As for seeing jealousy on here, it's like I said those who shout the loudest etc seem to be the worst for it. (Just an observation)

I think the cute lamppost pissing is also a display of passive aggressive jealousy. A hands off they are mine type thing. Like I said, funny old place and one you can view from a totally different level when you have been on the inside of such behaviour."

But i like a frothy wee wee

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Oh my.

Hey I've been jealous, because some like to have you believe you are all they need at that moment whilst keeping their large hands in other pies.

I've also seen people, who claim to be devout swingers and would never get jealous when it's all about nsa, beg and plead men to sleep with them. Single women who harp on about not getting jealous to all of the forums then lose their shit in real life.

It is a funny old place.

Some interesting observations

It's funny when someone asks you to not talk to/meet others but portray you as the green eyed beast.

But we live and learn. The toxicity is suffocating.

As for seeing jealousy on here, it's like I said those who shout the loudest etc seem to be the worst for it. (Just an observation)

I think the cute lamppost pissing is also a display of passive aggressive jealousy. A hands off they are mine type thing. Like I said, funny old place and one you can view from a totally different level when you have been on the inside of such behaviour.

But i like a frothy wee wee "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my.

Hey I've been jealous, because some like to have you believe you are all they need at that moment whilst keeping their large hands in other pies.

I've also seen people, who claim to be devout swingers and would never get jealous when it's all about nsa, beg and plead men to sleep with them. Single women who harp on about not getting jealous to all of the forums then lose their shit in real life.

It is a funny old place.

Some interesting observations

It's funny when someone asks you to not talk to/meet others but portray you as the green eyed beast.

But we live and learn. The toxicity is suffocating.

As for seeing jealousy on here, it's like I said those who shout the loudest etc seem to be the worst for it. (Just an observation)

I think the cute lamppost pissing is also a display of passive aggressive jealousy. A hands off they are mine type thing. Like I said, funny old place and one you can view from a totally different level when you have been on the inside of such behaviour.

But i like a frothy wee wee

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped showing my veries because of people poking their nose into my business when it wasn’t asked for or welcomed. It actually played a significant role in me not meeting for five years. Whether that was jealousy, busybodying or just the wish to play holier than thou I don’t know. However it does make you wonder....

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"Experienced ladies jealous of other ladies and won't meet me because I've met other said lady ,even met one or two who have questioned me about a particular meet and has one lady get Mardy because I met a lady who went on to have 2 more meets in quick succession and she refused to talk to me because I met said lady if you grasp what I'm saying op lol"

Yup, this definitely happens as I know a couple of guys that aren't allowed to meet certain women. Not that it stops them of course.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Oh my.

Hey I've been jealous, because some like to have you believe you are all they need at that moment whilst keeping their large hands in other pies.

I've also seen people, who claim to be devout swingers and would never get jealous when it's all about nsa, beg and plead men to sleep with them. Single women who harp on about not getting jealous to all of the forums then lose their shit in real life.

It is a funny old place.

Some interesting observations

It's funny when someone asks you to not talk to/meet others but portray you as the green eyed beast.

But we live and learn. The toxicity is suffocating.

As for seeing jealousy on here, it's like I said those who shout the loudest etc seem to be the worst for it. (Just an observation)

I think the cute lamppost pissing is also a display of passive aggressive jealousy. A hands off they are mine type thing. Like I said, funny old place and one you can view from a totally different level when you have been on the inside of such behaviour."
I have nothing to add. Hit the nail on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

"

Yep! First time I was blocked was last week due to this.

Chatting with a woman for a week or so, no indication whatsoever that we would ever meet, neither of us even said anything remotely sexual.

At some point conversation turns toward my inexperience on here, and a woman down south being interested in meeting me. She stopped replying, so I assumed the conversation came to a natural end.

Week later she messages me asking if i'd met that other woman yet. I said no, since she lives too far away for it to be possible unless i'm headed that way anyway. Apparently she wanted to meet and got incredibly pissed off at me for 'Blowing her off for another woman', then she blocked me after her snotty message.

I probably dodged a bullet there anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

Yep! First time I was blocked was last week due to this.

Chatting with a woman for a week or so, no indication whatsoever that we would ever meet, neither of us even said anything remotely sexual.

At some point conversation turns toward my inexperience on here, and a woman down south being interested in meeting me. She stopped replying, so I assumed the conversation came to a natural end.

Week later she messages me asking if i'd met that other woman yet. I said no, since she lives too far away for it to be possible unless i'm headed that way anyway. Apparently she wanted to meet and got incredibly pissed off at me for 'Blowing her off for another woman', then she blocked me after her snotty message.

I probably dodged a bullet there anyway "

Indeed you probably did

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've been on the receiving end of possessive behaviour despite being clear from the word go that I am a free spirit.

Surprisingly i've also recently become aware that a few people who i've never really spoken to don't particularly like me and view me as a competitor...as if being here is a form of competition!

I've zero patience or time for jealousy, possessiveness, or spiteful behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who'd have thunk a post on something negative would spark a little negativity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who'd have thunk a post on something negative would spark a little negativity "

But it’s a Fab reality and an important subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who'd have thunk a post on something negative would spark a little negativity

But it’s a Fab reality and an important subject"

Agreed. Just making an observation Boss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been on the receiving end of possessive behaviour despite being clear from the word go that I am a free spirit.

Surprisingly i've also recently become aware that a few people who i've never really spoken to don't particularly like me and view me as a competitor...as if being here is a form of competition!

It's because they know your a sexy mofo!

I've zero patience or time for jealousy, possessiveness, or spiteful behaviour."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who'd have thunk a post on something negative would spark a little negativity

But it’s a Fab reality and an important subject

Agreed. Just making an observation Boss"

Wasn't my intention to create any negativity. I was told a story of a situation that occurred in a club and being a natural investigator I wanted to find out if others experienced similar... I'm a nosey bugger like that

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Who'd have thunk a post on something negative would spark a little negativity

But it’s a Fab reality and an important subject

Agreed. Just making an observation Boss

Wasn't my intention to create any negativity. I was told a story of a situation that occurred in a club and being a natural investigator I wanted to find out if others experienced similar... I'm a nosey bugger like that "

Don't change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was called a gross, disgusting ugly bitch who looks like a blow up doll, and cheap and easy. I was told that men fab my photos because of this. I had a photo at number one when a woman told me all this.

Apparently she said all this out of jealousy, but it's unlikely someone would make so many drerogatory remarks purely because they're jealous.

I haven't met anyone in months though and I never claimed peo0le like how i look so there was no need for her to send several abusive messages in such a short space of time

I never understand why people get possessive on here either. I've been on the receiving end of this. It's very off putting.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I've been on the receiving end of possessive behaviour despite being clear from the word go that I am a free spirit.

Surprisingly i've also recently become aware that a few people who i've never really spoken to don't particularly like me and view me as a competitor...as if being here is a form of competition!

I've zero patience or time for jealousy, possessiveness, or spiteful behaviour."

Yep he’s always clear as day about what he’s looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on the receiving end of possessive behaviour despite being clear from the word go that I am a free spirit.

Surprisingly i've also recently become aware that a few people who i've never really spoken to don't particularly like me and view me as a competitor...as if being here is a form of competition!

I've zero patience or time for jealousy, possessiveness, or spiteful behaviour."

I imagine I'm the most hated woman on here. It's interesting how people can take such a dislike to someone based on a few statuses they post.

I've been told a couple of times that people have bitched about me in the forums too. It's sad that so called adults feel the need to act this way. It says more about them than whoever they're being spiteful about.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I've been on the receiving end of possessive behaviour despite being clear from the word go that I am a free spirit.

Surprisingly i've also recently become aware that a few people who i've never really spoken to don't particularly like me and view me as a competitor...as if being here is a form of competition!

I've zero patience or time for jealousy, possessiveness, or spiteful behaviour.

I imagine I'm the most hated woman on here. It's interesting how people can take such a dislike to someone based on a few statuses they post.

I've been told a couple of times that people have bitched about me in the forums too. It's sad that so called adults feel the need to act this way. It says more about them than whoever they're being spiteful about.

"

Why are women so spiteful and judgemental!?

I can only assume that they have insecurities and you bring them to the forefront???

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I get jealous about missed opportunities if I haven't the free time to play... Its like being stuck on detention while all your friends are out playing in the sun All the Manchester Lounge Social veris popping up on my friends' list updates this week are making me very very jealous!!

Have I experienced possessiveness or jealousy from others? Unfortunately, yes. Everything from the 'hands off, he's mine' type messages from other women, to discovering a meet had send vile messages to everyone I'd ever met and anyone who lived locally in the hopes of keeping me to himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fishing for compliments.

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By *cousesubsallyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there


"Fishing for compliments. "

You have an impressive.... box of PG Tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fishing for compliments.

You have an impressive.... box of PG Tips "
hes jealous of my constant tea bagging

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I've been on the receiving end of possessive behaviour despite being clear from the word go that I am a free spirit.

Surprisingly i've also recently become aware that a few people who i've never really spoken to don't particularly like me and view me as a competitor...as if being here is a form of competition!

I've zero patience or time for jealousy, possessiveness, or spiteful behaviour.

I imagine I'm the most hated woman on here. It's interesting how people can take such a dislike to someone based on a few statuses they post.

I've been told a couple of times that people have bitched about me in the forums too. It's sad that so called adults feel the need to act this way. It says more about them than whoever they're being spiteful about.

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Innuendo and character assassination are devious ways to get at people and it takes a strong mental constitution to weather that storm. I equate it with aggression and distance myself from people who I see engaging in it. Polar opposite of my attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a cpl who wouldn't verify us just in case they may offend their regular partners .

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over a year ago


"I've been on the receiving end of possessive behaviour despite being clear from the word go that I am a free spirit.

Surprisingly i've also recently become aware that a few people who i've never really spoken to don't particularly like me and view me as a competitor...as if being here is a form of competition!

I've zero patience or time for jealousy, possessiveness, or spiteful behaviour.

I imagine I'm the most hated woman on here. It's interesting how people can take such a dislike to someone based on a few statuses they post.

I've been told a couple of times that people have bitched about me in the forums too. It's sad that so called adults feel the need to act this way. It says more about them than whoever they're being spiteful about.

Innuendo and character assassination are devious ways to get at people and it takes a strong mental constitution to weather that storm. I equate it with aggression and distance myself from people who I see engaging in it. Polar opposite of my attitude."

I've struggled a lot with the negativity directed towards my personality but i'm making an effort to just ignore the opinions of people who don't know me. It's a waste of energy. It's better to focus on the people you have a good rapport with and who understand you.

Life is so much easier once you stop worrying what strangers think!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I've been on the receiving end of possessive behaviour despite being clear from the word go that I am a free spirit.

Surprisingly i've also recently become aware that a few people who i've never really spoken to don't particularly like me and view me as a competitor...as if being here is a form of competition!

I've zero patience or time for jealousy, possessiveness, or spiteful behaviour.

I imagine I'm the most hated woman on here. It's interesting how people can take such a dislike to someone based on a few statuses they post.

I've been told a couple of times that people have bitched about me in the forums too. It's sad that so called adults feel the need to act this way. It says more about them than whoever they're being spiteful about.

Innuendo and character assassination are devious ways to get at people and it takes a strong mental constitution to weather that storm. I equate it with aggression and distance myself from people who I see engaging in it. Polar opposite of my attitude.

I've struggled a lot with the negativity directed towards my personality but i'm making an effort to just ignore the opinions of people who don't know me. It's a waste of energy. It's better to focus on the people you have a good rapport with and who understand you.

Life is so much easier once you stop worrying what strangers think! "

Seconded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fishing for compliments.

You have an impressive.... box of PG Tips "

I don’t fuck about when it comes to tea!

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over a year ago


"I've been on the receiving end of possessive behaviour despite being clear from the word go that I am a free spirit.

Surprisingly i've also recently become aware that a few people who i've never really spoken to don't particularly like me and view me as a competitor...as if being here is a form of competition!

I've zero patience or time for jealousy, possessiveness, or spiteful behaviour.

I imagine I'm the most hated woman on here. It's interesting how people can take such a dislike to someone based on a few statuses they post.

I've been told a couple of times that people have bitched about me in the forums too. It's sad that so called adults feel the need to act this way. It says more about them than whoever they're being spiteful about.

Innuendo and character assassination are devious ways to get at people and it takes a strong mental constitution to weather that storm. I equate it with aggression and distance myself from people who I see engaging in it. Polar opposite of my attitude.

I've struggled a lot with the negativity directed towards my personality but i'm making an effort to just ignore the opinions of people who don't know me. It's a waste of energy. It's better to focus on the people you have a good rapport with and who understand you.

Life is so much easier once you stop worrying what strangers think! "

That’s good to hear

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over a year ago


"I couldn't care less who fucks who, but if I'm cast aside because someone more appealing became available I might stop wanting them.

had that done to me too and on that basis I won't lower myself and ask to meet again I just move on and don't talk to them that way you don't say something that makes you the cunt

I don't mind waiting, but I might get bored or move on myself."
it's not the waiting I mind if they're upfront about what they're doing it's when u arrange a meet and then they cancel and then you see a verification next day when they said they couldn't meet u as something had cropped up that pisses me off,I've a meet this Saturday with an old friend I've had another friend ask if I want to meet her Saturday I've told her no as I'm otherwise engaged it would be easier for me travel wise to see the second lady but I've made a commitment to the first and I believe if u make a commitment to meet you should honour it not look for something better

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Jealousy is alive and kicking unfortunately. You only have to read the threads to see that. Women following the green arrow and stamping their mark, men puffing our their chest

Jealousy on here doesn’t always manifest in the way you would expect. There’s an awful lot more to it than you see and some people’s triggers to become jealous of something are very easily hit.

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it.

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over a year ago

I struggle when I get the feeling that I am a back up plan. If I have taken the time to form a rapport with someone and a meet is planned, and then they go quiet on me, a new veri appears and then suddenly I am flavour of the month again? I don't think that's jealousy or envy though, it just behaving with respect,others may have a different opinion.

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By *ellbound_GhoulwarpWoman
over a year ago

Fifth Circle of Hell


"I struggle when I get the feeling that I am a back up plan. If I have taken the time to form a rapport with someone and a meet is planned, and then they go quiet on me, a new veri appears and then suddenly I am flavour of the month again? I don't think that's jealousy or envy though, it just behaving with respect,others may have a different opinion."

I agree with you. Gone through the exact same thing, it doesn't feel good at all when your seen as a back up plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've experienced this with a past Dom's submissive. Not something I wish to experience again! Also the Dom in question became obsessive to the point of stalking me. Not cool not nice!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I struggle when I get the feeling that I am a back up plan. If I have taken the time to form a rapport with someone and a meet is planned, and then they go quiet on me, a new veri appears and then suddenly I am flavour of the month again? I don't think that's jealousy or envy though, it just behaving with respect,others may have a different opinion."

I don't think that that's jealousy or possessiveness, as you said; that's just respect.

I'd hate to be someones back up plan and I wouldn't do it to others either.

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over a year ago


"Jealousy is alive and kicking unfortunately. You only have to read the threads to see that. Women following the green arrow and stamping their mark, men puffing our their chest

Jealousy on here doesn’t always manifest in the way you would expect. There’s an awful lot more to it than you see and some people’s triggers to become jealous of something are very easily hit.

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it. "

You mean some of the direct/ indirect comments on this thread, aimed at someone, but trying to make out they’re talking generally, them ones ?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it. "

This I agree with totally

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over a year ago


"Jealousy is alive and kicking unfortunately. You only have to read the threads to see that. Women following the green arrow and stamping their mark, men puffing our their chest

Jealousy on here doesn’t always manifest in the way you would expect. There’s an awful lot more to it than you see and some people’s triggers to become jealous of something are very easily hit.

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it.

You mean some of the direct/ indirect comments on this thread, aimed at someone, but trying to make out they’re talking generally, them ones ?"
i must really have my head in the clouds i never notice little things like that

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By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Had a few guys get funny about me meeting other guys first, bit weird.

I haven’t experienced much jealousy from women until my primary and I got together. I suppose because we’re both active here.

Worst was a girl from here who had met up with him once or twice during the time we’d starting dating and I had no issue at all with him seeing her until she got really funky about the whole thing. Started making demands of his time, telling him he can’t even mention me in casual conversation and even declaring she’d “caught feelings” it was all very single white female haha so he cut her off.

She now has a nickname if she messages him, Voldemort He’s too polite to block her number bless him

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over a year ago


"

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it.

This I agree with totally"

Me too

Reinforces the “outsiders” are really out.

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over a year ago


"Jealousy is alive and kicking unfortunately. You only have to read the threads to see that. Women following the green arrow and stamping their mark, men puffing our their chest

Jealousy on here doesn’t always manifest in the way you would expect. There’s an awful lot more to it than you see and some people’s triggers to become jealous of something are very easily hit.

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it.

You mean some of the direct/ indirect comments on this thread, aimed at someone, but trying to make out they’re talking generally, them ones ?i must really have my head in the clouds i never notice little things like that"

Your innocence is refreshing at times PMF

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Thinking about it and reading others posts I think that jealousy and possessiveness can take many forms, bitching, gossiping and judging being some of them.

It's a sad situation when people feel the need to bring others down just to make themselves feel better but it's rife on this site and the associated chat groups.

I was under the impression that were adults and that we engage in meeting others for mutual fun, with the knowledge that those others are doing the same.

This is one of the reasons why I keep myself to myself mainly, I don't need or want the jealous drama nor the gossip in my life. I want my experiences to be positive not surrounded by negative hawkers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possessiveness? Envy maybe? Have you been on the receiving end or the one inflicting upon other(s)? Experienced both sides of the coin maybe?

As a single, no.

In a couple yes, I have been guilty of it. My own insecurities, backed up by his refusal to reassure. I am not proud of it, it does become toxic.

I have also witnessed it in clubs."

Yes same here. Not a nice feeling but some times uncontrollable

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over a year ago


"Jealousy is alive and kicking unfortunately. You only have to read the threads to see that. Women following the green arrow and stamping their mark, men puffing our their chest

Jealousy on here doesn’t always manifest in the way you would expect. There’s an awful lot more to it than you see and some people’s triggers to become jealous of something are very easily hit.

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it.

You mean some of the direct/ indirect comments on this thread, aimed at someone, but trying to make out they’re talking generally, them ones ?i must really have my head in the clouds i never notice little things like that

Your innocence is refreshing at times PMF "
im not that innocent muhahahahaaaa

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over a year ago


"Jealousy is alive and kicking unfortunately. You only have to read the threads to see that. Women following the green arrow and stamping their mark, men puffing our their chest

Jealousy on here doesn’t always manifest in the way you would expect. There’s an awful lot more to it than you see and some people’s triggers to become jealous of something are very easily hit.

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it.

You mean some of the direct/ indirect comments on this thread, aimed at someone, but trying to make out they’re talking generally, them ones ?"

Whoch comments specifically are you talking about?

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over a year ago


"Jealousy is alive and kicking unfortunately. You only have to read the threads to see that. Women following the green arrow and stamping their mark, men puffing our their chest

Jealousy on here doesn’t always manifest in the way you would expect. There’s an awful lot more to it than you see and some people’s triggers to become jealous of something are very easily hit.

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it.

You mean some of the direct/ indirect comments on this thread, aimed at someone, but trying to make out they’re talking generally, them ones ?i must really have my head in the clouds i never notice little things like that

Your innocence is refreshing at times PMF im not that innocent muhahahahaaaa "

That’s why I said, ‘at times’

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I don’t think I’ve ever been properly jealous on here, I’ve had ‘pangs’ in the past but I’ve been able to say ‘go have fun’ and mean it - I think it’s natural to feel that way if you enjoy someone’s company/care for someone.

It’s probably similar to waving your mates off on a night out that you can’t go on - you want them to have a good time but wish you could as well "

When someone was going to a party without me I once coined the phrase 'Marginally better than staying in' for wishing them a good time - but not too good lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens and is so funny when you see people throwing toys out of prams on the forum over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get over your jealousy envy ffs, it's not a competition...

.....or is it?

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over a year ago


"Jealousy is alive and kicking unfortunately. You only have to read the threads to see that. Women following the green arrow and stamping their mark, men puffing our their chest

Jealousy on here doesn’t always manifest in the way you would expect. There’s an awful lot more to it than you see and some people’s triggers to become jealous of something are very easily hit.

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it.

You mean some of the direct/ indirect comments on this thread, aimed at someone, but trying to make out they’re talking generally, them ones ?i must really have my head in the clouds i never notice little things like that

Your innocence is refreshing at times PMF im not that innocent muhahahahaaaa

That’s why I said, ‘at times’ "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get over your jealousy envy ffs, it's not a competition...

.....or is it? "

The Fablympics are in July. Have you not been training?

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By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Get over your jealousy envy ffs, it's not a competition...

.....or is it?

The Fablympics are in July. Have you not been training? "

My tongue and middle finger are pumped

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I struggle when I get the feeling that I am a back up plan. If I have taken the time to form a rapport with someone and a meet is planned, and then they go quiet on me, a new veri appears and then suddenly I am flavour of the month again? I don't think that's jealousy or envy though, it just behaving with respect,others may have a different opinion."

I can understand that. Happened to me once with someone quite far away, so time and planning and a lot of travel and expense went into making the meet possible. I was very confused as he had been telling me daily that he couldn't wait to meet me, but then went quiet for a few weeks before the new veri popped up. Then the focus was immediately back on me again like a switch being flipped. It very definitely changed how I felt about meeting him. Not that he met someone else, but that I was completely blanked for those few weeks while he was focused on someone else. It made me feel second rate and hurt more because I thought we were friends than because we had a meet planned. It's the only time I've had that happen though. Generally with friends they're open and tell you what's happening and you just stay in touch, wish each other a great meet, and keep looking forward to your own time together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my experience jealousy/bitchiness/nastiness (call it what you will) is far more prevalent among single fems - which I find odd in itself (as there are so few of us and so many men/couples to go round!) and very sad/unnecessary!

There are those who will spout total bullshit about others purely to put people off meeting them! I’ve known females qliques to do this as a group too - practically bullying others into not meeting people they don’t like or are jealous of!

For me this underlying bitchiness/jealousy is the only downside of swinging! X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heavens no

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over a year ago


"Get over your jealousy envy ffs, it's not a competition...

.....or is it?

The Fablympics are in July. Have you not been training? "

I trained my finger skills playing olympic gold on megadrive so im trained up

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Having been in the lifstyle a long time I've seen it a lot and in varying ways.

Had it directed at me both directly and indirectly... in varying ways. I've had guys I've not met getting arsey that I've met others before then... ones I've met getting arsey that I've not just repeatedly met them but by far worse has been the women over the years.

Every so often I find some lady has decided to make me her target.. normally it just brushes straihht over me.but sometimes their mud sticks... but anyone that knows me well enough knows I don't do jealousy or games.

But it can make life harder on here. But I guess while they are picking on me they are leaving some other poor soul alone.

Worst is when you are friends or playmates with a well known male... had a few interesting bitch comments over the years...

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"I’ve had one meet tell me he was dubious to meet me as he’d heard awful things about me from a previous meet. Funny thing is I’d never had any exchanges on here or with the woman in real life. The only exchange we had was her warning me off him after he displayed a verification from him. Very bizarre really can’t undrestand that attitude on a site such as this "

Actually kinda going through it now - some people have no chill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was having a nose at different verifications one day and noticed the same girl on a few different guys verification pages. And I only had to read them to realise she seemed a bit of a fruit loop saying stuff like "you're all mine, you're my favourite" with other people's veris between hers. Like if he'd met someone else she would post another veri underneath almost right away (not sure if she had met the guys again or just trying to make other girls back off) . I hope that made sense it's really weird to explain but it looked like she was point scoring or something. That's just childish on a site like this

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By *cedGemsWoman
over a year ago

South West Wales ;-)

Not sure what it's called, but it annoys me when you see the veris left on some profiles as if it's a competition to better the last ... weird but quite daunting in a way as if they're using a 'league' system and warning you off somehow that you're not 'good enough'. Daft, but that's Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your all jealous i got 175

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over a year ago


"

It’s the comments on here between friends that are ‘in the know’ that I think are just a real pain and show such a lack of maturity. They know what they’re doing and relish doing it.

This I agree with totally"

They don't bother me. I find out anyway

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