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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Worth staying with someone just so you don't wanna be a weekend dad ?

Partners a nag does my head in 24/7 just look at her and a feeling of bitterness comes over me, or am I a cunt

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No, not worth staying with her. Leave, for both of your sakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worth staying with someone just so you don't wanna be a weekend dad ?

Partners a nag does my head in 24/7 just look at her and a feeling of bitterness comes over me, or am I a cunt"

Doesn’t change but if you see your kids at all make the most of it take that from me cherish every second to get and take them out and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a cunt,do the decent thing and be honest with her,its not nice,I've been there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nag or not, do you love her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easier said than done when you are the other side but the longer it goes on the break up will be more violent

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

Nothing wrong with being a weekend dad than staying in an unhappy relationship. Then you can all be happy

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Worth staying with someone just so you don't wanna be a weekend dad ?

Partners a nag does my head in 24/7 just look at her and a feeling of bitterness comes over me, or am I a cunt"

Maybe you are the problem, not her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my place to say but if you row a lot infront of thr kids it will do more harm than good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Children will suffer in the long run x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I can't advise on your situation as I don't know both sides of the story but some things you might want to think about.

A good long term marriage that has been worked at is a joy.

For every nag there's a partner who isn't listening to what the nagger is saying properly.

Every marriage goes through desperate periods.

Often if one partner feels the relationship is in trouble the other feels the same.

Talking honestly within a relationship can reap benefits.

Good luck to all concerned whatever the outcome

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Worth staying with someone just so you don't wanna be a weekend dad ?

Partners a nag does my head in 24/7 just look at her and a feeling of bitterness comes over me, or am I a cunt"

Unless your performance is equal to the acting ability of Messrs Day Lewis, Hanks, Di Caprio et al, your child(ren) will know you don't like their mother, are unhappy, and they will be too.

Seeing a happy parent at the weekends is preferable to living in a miserable household.

I have a feeling though you'll stay, for now, simply because you can get the comforts of home - cooked meals, your child(ren), whilst having daliances on here.

As an aside: my number one bete noire, people with partners slagging them off!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

How about she gets to be a weekend Mum, you have all the diffucult boring bits !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have to be a weekend dad? I took my daughter to see her dad every day after work, before we got back together.

Admittedly, I lived a 2 minutes walk from him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about she gets to be a weekend Mum, you have all the diffucult boring bits !"

Kids should come first adults should put their personal feelings aside but doesn’t happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not my place to say but if you row a lot infront of thr kids it will do more harm than good"

Absolutely agree

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

No...my ex never had our kids once he was kicked out, nil weekends, nil holidays. He is on his 4th marraige and has very little contact now with his adult children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about she gets to be a weekend Mum, you have all the diffucult boring bits !"

Indeed. Why is it assumed that it should always be the mother that is the main carer in the event of a breakup.

They're just as much your children as hers.

Why not go 50/50 - that's the best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing she's not on a swinging site shagging about behind your back so... Yeah... You are.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Sooner be a weekend dad than let my kids see a bad relationship, they will then start to think that it's normal behaviour with the way you and your partner are with each other

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

That's a real shame you have a bitter feeling towards her, you're only young!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a grip man. Women "nag" when you don't treat them right and with respect. Using the word "nag" I feel is being disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was seeing another lass a few years ago as me and then girlfriend now wife , were not getting on and I drifted , was fun for a few months and was 50/50 considering leaving my her and moving in with the other lass , but with 3 kids tipped the scale to stay with my girlfriend, it took a while but after a couple of awkward years thing turned round and we decided to tie the knot , I didn’t dump the other lass but but started seeing her less then it ended. Though to be fair I still fancy her like mad , love? Lust ? I don’t know but not seen her for 6 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fairness if your relationship isn't working then by all means go your separate ways with only the focus on the children and really should be sorting this issue with her and not here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, not worth staying with her. Leave, for both of your sakes. "

I agree its not worth it putting both of you through that and then the kids will also suffer from it too best to part ways

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

op please don't leave your marriage because a bunch of strangers on the internet tell you its the right thing to do.

Seek some couples counselling or try and talk to your partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can keep up a façade for your children, and are not worried about being caught cheating you can stay, for the sake of your children.

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By *addyLilGirlCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

I've been through a recent divorce, i wanted to stay for the sake of the kids (been a loveless marriage for a very long time).

I've met someone now who i am head over heals with and despite financial hardship the kids have adjusted well, i thought the kids would be worse off they are actually ok.

I miss seeing them every day but our time together is precious and valued.

Would have the kids most of the time but work prevents it before i get grief lol

So things can be better but the process of seperation / divorce is unpleasant to say the least.

Hope you work your way through.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"op please don't leave your marriage because a bunch of strangers on the internet tell you its the right thing to do.

Seek some couples counselling or try and talk to your partner. "

I think you have mentioned the soundest advice on the thread lol but he needs to sort this with her especially when kids are involved

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Worth staying with someone just so you don't wanna be a weekend dad ?

Partners a nag does my head in 24/7 just look at her and a feeling of bitterness comes over me, or am I a cunt"

I think you should walk away , for her sake m the kids sake and for your own sake .

This may be the only life you get and if you spend it feeling bitter towards the person closest to you , it’s not worth that pain on both sides . And the kids won’t thank you for staying either , they can sense so much more than you realise .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worth staying with someone just so you don't wanna be a weekend dad ?

Partners a nag does my head in 24/7 just look at her and a feeling of bitterness comes over me, or am I a cunt"

If you've got kids. Then what I think you need to recognise is that you will always need to have a relationship with their mum, and even if you hate her you still need to work on that, not run away, even if you do split

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester


"Worth staying with someone just so you don't wanna be a weekend dad ?

Partners a nag does my head in 24/7 just look at her and a feeling of bitterness comes over me, or am I a cunt"
I went through the same, I tried staying for the childrens sake, but me and the ex were so obviously not getting on that in the end it affected the kids more, end it and focus on sorting your own head out and put your kids first, don't forget they see and understand more than you think, best of luck

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