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By *ay19720 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete it. It's not like I have anything here of value that i'd need to save, no need to keep it around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just come off it. I've been off here a couple of times for years at a time when I met someone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't delete or hide it because if I went into a new relationship they would know about it

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I'd be gone like a flash of lightning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably delete, unless I was still attending forum socials.

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"I'd be gone like a flash of lightning.

"

Spider woman becomes Flash Gordon

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hide for a while.

I don't feel guilty about being on an Internet forum, but having an active profile on a swinging site seems a little disingenuous.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"I'd be gone like a flash of lightning.

Spider woman becomes Flash Gordon "

It's an option isn't it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we got together we both waited until our subscription ran out and then we both left, mind you we were only using the forums then.

Danish x

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?"

Is for me yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?"

When I met an ex partner on here we agreed to come off this for a bit to get to know and explore each other for awhile before returning as a couple. It never got past the exploring each other sadly but each to their own I think. It's a useful tool however people decide to use it. Case serrah serrah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hide. I’ve done it several times so far. I don’t presume I’ll be back, but it’s always likely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I wouldn't completely delete this you can put it on hiatus cos you don't know how long a relationship would last if its for life then great you won't need this I suppose this is a great plan B if things go sour

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've probably got email addresses that are older than the dinosaurs, so wouldn't feel the need to delete this before them. Fab isn't just about meeting people, once you have been swinging and on fab for 10 years or more. I'd be the same person dating as when single, so it seems fine to stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you delete or hide it? If you're a swinger and getting into a deep relationship of course you're going to want to share the new love of your life with other people.

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By *illy123789Man
over a year ago

llandeilo

If you get into a new relationship, how or when do you bring up the fact that you’re a swinger? This could be quite full on for a new partner to take on board... I’d be interested in people’s experience of “coming out” as a swinger to a new partner?

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

I always came off fab or another site when dating as I meet none from their.

I have told them that I have been on such site's while single.

But for respect rather than some one tell them an thinking still on behind their back.

Each person is different but being truthful to another is for the best. If you can't stay away let them find someone 100% for them.

I know what lies in dishonesty can do being their myself. I will say i was robbed of the fairy tale.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J Went from a single profile to a couples profile. I was intrigued about this side to his life before we met and now slowly exploring it

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By *illy123789Man
over a year ago

llandeilo

Did you know he was on here before you got together, or did you meet offline and then he introduced you to his swinging side?

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

I won't be dating or being anyones fool again so my profile is safe. I hide it when I get bored and lose interest.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'd have my profile hidden and if it got serious eventually delete my account tho if she's a horny kinskter have a couples profile x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I wouldn't delete or hide it because if I went into a new relationship they would know about it"

This x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I don't believe in monogamy it's unlikely I'd have a conventional relationship again so I'd leave it on but you have to do whatever you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is hidden for that very reason. Hidden for now, seeing how it goes.

Still reading the forums, not meeting anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I would delete, but Fab to me is like the a bad penny I know I’ll find myself back here

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I'd hide it until I knew which was it was going. If it got serious, I'd hopefully be able to swing with them so I'd like to think it could remain hidden or be deleted and replaced with a couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd probably delete the account as it's easy enough to make another. I deleted it before when I was in a relationship.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m not a swinger and wouldn’t date one, so would delete my profile. If they feel the need to enjoy other pussy alongside mine, then they aren’t the man for me.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

I’d still keep it to have a look but I’d not be meeting anyone, might hide my pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prob hide it and give password to a friend to change it so i cant keep getting dragged back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got fed up so left for a couple years. We hid ours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "
of course if it was wait for it ' a relationship ' I've known as few on here who did enter into relationships but stayed mind ,it didn't end well

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?

Is for me yes. "

An incorrect assumption?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?

When I met an ex partner on here we agreed to come off this for a bit to get to know and explore each other for awhile before returning as a couple. It never got past the exploring each other sadly but each to their own I think. It's a useful tool however people decide to use it. Case serrah serrah! "

I agree it's a useful tool. I'm just interested because it seems to me on the face of it and in general that singles use fab quite differently to couples and it leads to misunderstandings.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Yeh thought about it loads of times

At this point have put all my clothes away and considering just letting my subscription down then close the account for good

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By *nicecoupleXCouple
over a year ago

Hitch


"Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "

I would tell the new person that I was a perv and would they like to make a couples account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm amazed at how conventional most people on here actually are. I thought this would be the place to meet others interested in consensual non-monogamy, but clearly I was wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm amazed at how conventional most people on here actually are. I thought this would be the place to meet others interested in consensual non-monogamy, but clearly I was wrong! "

I’m amazed at how narrow minded a lot of ‘swingers’ are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?

When I met an ex partner on here we agreed to come off this for a bit to get to know and explore each other for awhile before returning as a couple. It never got past the exploring each other sadly but each to their own I think. It's a useful tool however people decide to use it. Case serrah serrah!

I agree it's a useful tool. I'm just interested because it seems to me on the face of it and in general that singles use fab quite differently to couples and it leads to misunderstandings. "

I think it's just a subjective thing. There tends to a lot of 'competition' for peoples attention or desired outcome so that dictates a lot of the approaches on here. As long as you are true to yourself, use this for exactly what you wish to gain from it and dont badger anybody mercilessly people will eventually get their desired outcome. Some dont want to wait. Fortunately I have surrounded myself with fun, well adjusted, direct individuals that look past the problems in my profile and see the actual me. I tend to drop my digital mask more here than on other places. But that's how I approach it. i do agree with you though there does seem a marked difference but it's all a subjective thing as I stated x

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By *ay19720 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent


"I won't be dating or being anyones fool again so my profile is safe. I hide it when I get bored and lose interest."

Done with love ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Il prob stay tho as i like the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "

Delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting how many viewpoints there are on fab. My own experience is that my last serious partner was never very happy about me being on fab while we were together as although I was only here to perve at the pics and chat in the forums she felt that it diminished our relationship because I was using my single profile. It made her feel insecure and I probably made that worse by agreeing not to go on the site and then going back on a few months later and being caught out. I think it said a lot more about our relationship than I expected and now if I was to be in the same place I would talk frankly and fully about it before deleting or hiding my account or perhaps making a couples account?

The one thing that is a pain if you delete though is losing all your contacts and any verifications but then again if you hide your profile the temptation is always there of course!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I've said this many times before so gloss over it if you're sick of reading it.

If I was ever god forbid entering a new relationship I would have a full on discussion with the guy early on and if we weren't on similar pages of a similar book I wouldn't waste my or his time by trying to make things work out further down the road. If we weren't able to accept each other at the start of a relationship there'd be no hope later on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've said this many times before so gloss over it if you're sick of reading it.

If I was ever god forbid entering a new relationship I would have a full on discussion with the guy early on and if we weren't on similar pages of a similar book I wouldn't waste my or his time by trying to make things work out further down the road. If we weren't able to accept each other at the start of a relationship there'd be no hope later on."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've said this many times before so gloss over it if you're sick of reading it.

If I was ever god forbid entering a new relationship I would have a full on discussion with the guy early on and if we weren't on similar pages of a similar book I wouldn't waste my or his time by trying to make things work out further down the road. If we weren't able to accept each other at the start of a relationship there'd be no hope later on.

"

That said I honestly don't think I'd want to start over. Once you've had the kind of relationship that takes 40 years to build it's a hard act to follow

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "

I do love the way that considering this is a site for "swingers", soo many posts are single centric!!

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

I think the decision would have to be made together, when you have the open and honest conversation about you being here. After all, you wouldn’t want to hide the fact that you’re a Swinger from a potential life partner would you?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Hide it, some people on here I'd like to keep in touch with. As a Tgirl I find it easier on here than other sites to meet like-minded people. Not in all cases for sex, but to socialise with. I'd hate to keep them out of my life.

Soon in a new relationship with a woman I'd have to tell her about my dressing and this site would help, show her that normal people can enjoy an alternative lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm amazed at how conventional most people on here actually are. I thought this would be the place to meet others interested in consensual non-monogamy, but clearly I was wrong! "

That shocked me too when I joined here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've said this many times before so gloss over it if you're sick of reading it.

If I was ever god forbid entering a new relationship I would have a full on discussion with the guy early on and if we weren't on similar pages of a similar book I wouldn't waste my or his time by trying to make things work out further down the road. If we weren't able to accept each other at the start of a relationship there'd be no hope later on."

That’s exactly what I like to do. Need to be compatible and on the same page from the off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite....

I do love the way that considering this is a site for "swingers", soo many posts are single centric!! "

But a couple consists of two single people, does it not? Unless it is dysfunctionally co-dependent

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By *andy cane321Couple
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite....

I would tell the new person that I was a perv and would they like to make a couples account "

Yep this is what we did lol, we now enjoy being pervs together

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "

We both deleted our single accounts. Two years in we re joined as a couple. I’m glad we both deleted the accounts as we would have been tempted to keep checking what’s happening I think and I personally don’t think that would have helped us build the relationship we now have! But everyone is different. Now if we get bored with fab we’ve both said we will just hide rather than delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my profile and they wouldn't know anything about it.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "

Neither!

If I meet someone special they’ll either be on here already and we’d carry on swinging anyway - or they’d be in the real world and by about date 3 I’d have told them about fab/swinging bacause most of my best friends are fabbers - and I’m buggered if I’m giving them up - or the social side of swinging!

I’d be monogamous if necessary though - but I’d rather I wasn’t!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hide it till I knew where the relationship was going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?

Is for me yes. "

And me.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Hey all..

So little question...

If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...

And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "

Well a new relationship need time to grow so off in a hart beat..

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I'm amazed at how conventional most people on here actually are. I thought this would be the place to meet others interested in consensual non-monogamy, but clearly I was wrong! "

Agreed

I think the next thread I start won’t be the usual ‘find an fwb’ one - it will be one for singles who actually ARE swingers - and don’t plan on disappearing into the sunset as soon as they find someone special!

I’d be gutted if I met someone lovely and he expected me to delete my account and walk away from fab/swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think swinging is as much a mentality as anything else. I’m not surprised singles look for exclusive relationships and only do hookups to fill the gaps. It is why so few of them consider themselves swingers I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think swinging is as much a mentality as anything else. I’m not surprised singles look for exclusive relationships and only do hookups to fill the gaps. It is why so few of them consider themselves swingers I guess.

"

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably hide the profile, but I would be completely upfront about having it... as already mentioned before relationships take time and effort to grow properly and they complicated enough without outside influences, then when you are settled as a couple maybe return to the fold.. if the feeling is mutual. But I would miss the social side of simply chilling out at the clubs, although I think this social aspect is misunderstood a lot by single men who simply want the quick wham bam.. I spend more time talking than anything else. It fills different aspects of people’s lives for different reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think swinging is as much a mentality as anything else. I’m not surprised singles look for exclusive relationships and only do hookups to fill the gaps. It is why so few of them consider themselves swingers I guess.

True "

I don't consider myself a swinger but that doesn't mean that I want a conventional monogamous relationship

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