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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

All the time

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By *hispers-40Woman
over a year ago

up the garden path


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."
yes all the time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeppers, but I just message anyway to have a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll still mail them- if I wasn't too lazy to mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes all the time x

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Close By

All the time to be fair x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but I just think fuck it and mail anyway.

At worst I get rejected from someone I don't know or ever have to face.

At best I get to fuck a hottie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More often than not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, and in real life, but then I remind myself that it's all bollocks and doesn't matter.

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

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"Yes but I just think fuck it and mail anyway.

At worst I get rejected from someone I don't know or ever have to face.

At best I get to fuck a hottie."

Maybe I need a new theory like this one.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean - no, never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i only play in cup comps like champions league

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By *ream3.14159Man
over a year ago

Here & there


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Just had a peek at your profile and the thought crossed my mind

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

No, because there's no such thing as leagues. I wouldnt randomly message though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think that but not anymore.

I stopped believing in leagues and standards as attraction is ambiguous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."
nope ,I think some are pointless messaging because of their popularity in hot pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes but I just think fuck it and mail anyway.

At worst I get rejected from someone I don't know or ever have to face.

At best I get to fuck a hottie.

Maybe I need a new theory like this one..... "

It's a good way to look at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to think that but not anymore.

I stopped believing in leagues and standards as attraction is ambiguous."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. There are certainly profiles I look at and think they wouldn't be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Yes, YOU

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Yes maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

I find it hard to believe that anyone is out of your league

Myself on the other hand... occasionally. Although I usually say hi anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been one for leagues anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I message who I like, if I get rejected it's no big deal.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

No, never. If i like someone i will message them. If they dont like me they wont message back which is fair enough but God loves a trier

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Yes often, but message anyway, if nobody messaged them they would never get any meets, so I do it out of the kindness from the bottom of my heart

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

It does occur often, but it does depend on the other person's profile set-up, their likes and what they say.

I've had a couple of meets out of a tentative approach.

However, it comes down to gut instinct!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't really. I always thought people appeal to others on many different levels after all and it's a theory that has proven bang on the nail in my years on Fab?

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought women didn't message men lol.

I still message women who are out of my league sometimes, because I like chatting.. But not many see my message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought women didn't message men lol.

I still message women who are out of my league sometimes, because I like chatting.. But not many see my message. "

What made you think women don’t message men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's lots of bravado here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought women didn't message men lol.

I still message women who are out of my league sometimes, because I like chatting.. But not many see my message.

What made you think women don’t message men?"

Because all the time that I've been using apps hardly any have ever made the first move to have a chat with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought women didn't message men lol.

I still message women who are out of my league sometimes, because I like chatting.. But not many see my message.

What made you think women don’t message men?

Because all the time that I've been using apps hardly any have ever made the first move to have a chat with me.

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That doesn’t mean they’re not messaging men though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought women didn't message men lol.

I still message women who are out of my league sometimes, because I like chatting.. But not many see my message. "
women message me all the time they just dont read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are waiters, men are chasers

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't think anyones out of my league as such, but if I think they wouldn't be interested for whatever reason,I won't message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely message anybody who I think is out of my league. In fact, I very rarely send a first message. I'm out of most people's age range anyway so I'm at the point where I can look, dream but never meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nope.

I like to let people make their own mind up about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes totally. Though Im generally more attracted to quirky guys rather than the traditionally attractive buff sort anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did yeah, he's now my other half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are waiters, men are chasers"
na im far too lazy to chase girls sit back act let em come to u

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive mever given a thought to league tables if i.liked someone.i messaged them

They can always say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Looking at your profile, I would say that no one is out of your league, if anything your out of their league!!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Women are waiters, men are chasers"

I dont wait or chase. Just message who appeals to me. Lifes too short to sit on the fence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking around the place a lot better options than me for the ladies on here that are looking for guys from the physical aspect of things...

Do I think they are out my league, I would say No. Ultimatley we are all here for the same reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are waiters, men are chasers

I dont wait or chase. Just message who appeals to me. Lifes too short to sit on the fence"
you'll end up with splinters in your bum of you sit on the fence too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to think that but not anymore.

I stopped believing in leagues and standards as attraction is ambiguous.

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This is life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

More then id like alot more it seems everyone on fab is playing premier league and in kinda stuck here in Sunday leagues

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Women are waiters, men are chasers

I dont wait or chase. Just message who appeals to me. Lifes too short to sit on the fence you'll end up with splinters in your bum of you sit on the fence too"

Had worse than splinters in my bum

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are waiters, men are chasers

I dont wait or chase. Just message who appeals to me. Lifes too short to sit on the fence you'll end up with splinters in your bum of you sit on the fence too

Had worse than splinters in my bum "
define worse, please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of girls on here are out of my league, but every once in a while I will send a message out and take a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time lol

My hotlist is full of people I want to message and don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 times out of 10 I do this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me! I send a wink so I don't have to deal with the rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league.

Looking at your profile, I would say that no one is out of your league, if anything your out of their league!!"

Right. I would think there is no point messaging the OP for a meet, because she can take her pick of "exceptional men"

I'm not a normal man

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By *ountbattenMan
over a year ago

Chester

I know it's unhealthy to think on those terms because attraction is relative but I won't lie, there are profiles for sure that I see and let out a low whistle. Like damn. Would I muster the courage to approach such a person in real life? Sometimes though the umbrella of internet anonymity shelters your inevitably injured pride enough for you to think, what the heck, no harm trying, and so I'll send out an earnest message. Because you never know, stranger things have always happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time lol

My hotlist is full of people I want to message and don’t."

This lol

I just don't seem to have the bottle thinking of rejection puts me off 95% of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me! I send a wink so I don't have to deal with the rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very often think it then just bi pass their profiles , perhaps im doing missing out on plenty of fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me! I send a wink so I don't have to deal with the rejection "

Lol good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo , some profs you just think “ no chance “ lol

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

When we were looking for potential friends (with benefits), yes, lots! Maybe more that they just wouldn't be interested in us rather than a straight, out of our league kind of thing but I suppose that is what it boils down to.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but I would definitely approach them if I saw them in a bar

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"All the time lol

My hotlist is full of people I want to message and don’t.

This lol

I just don't seem to have the bottle thinking of rejection puts me off 95% of the time "

Nothing ventured nothing gained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. In real life I would never go and hit on someone and I'm much the same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time lol

My hotlist is full of people I want to message and don’t.

This lol

I just don't seem to have the bottle thinking of rejection puts me off 95% of the time

Nothing ventured nothing gained "
hi ya nsa hows trix?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"All the time lol

My hotlist is full of people I want to message and don’t.

This lol

I just don't seem to have the bottle thinking of rejection puts me off 95% of the time

Nothing ventured nothing gained hi ya nsa hows trix? "

D*unk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meant I'm just a normal man lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's lots of bravado here."

You can say that again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time lol

My hotlist is full of people I want to message and don’t.

This lol

I just don't seem to have the bottle thinking of rejection puts me off 95% of the time

Nothing ventured nothing gained hi ya nsa hows trix?

D*unk "

Ohhh you lol as long as your having fun who cares right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's lots of bravado here.

You can say that again."

There's lots of bravado here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, but I would definitely approach them if I saw them in a bar"

It's interesting - I have a much better shot with the "out of my league" women when I meet them at bars than I do on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's lots of bravado here.

You can say that again.

There's lots of bravado here."

I was brave tonight and it's going ok so far. As leagues go he's a 10 to my 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then again i totally feel inadequate and rather embarrassed when i see all these ripped tattooed good looking guys here and then there's me tall skinny and not in a good way lol that probably stops me the most and it sucks because it shouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Yes, you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Yes and then I message them anyway!

I have had rejections, never cruel though- the men have always been lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Why would you be here if that is the case. Am I missing something ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me! I send a wink so I don't have to deal with the rejection "

I can't imagine you getting rejected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me! I send a wink so I don't have to deal with the rejection

I can't imagine you getting rejected"

That's what I think when I read some of the posts on this thread ... confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say show me your minge if they do im on a winner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's lots of bravado here.

You can say that again.

There's lots of bravado here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any ladies want to show me their minge?

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

So many times

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Nope. I often pull way out my league. Its called personality and laughter them into bed works well to

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

No I dont think that. I've not searched, rarely send a first message. Due to profiles as its unusual I feel anyone is on the same page let alone the same book.

Looks are such a small part if you're looking for different things its of no relevants.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"No I dont think that. I've not searched, rarely send a first message. Due to profiles as its unusual I feel anyone is on the same page let alone the same book.

Looks are such a small part if you're looking for different things its of no relevants.

"

Cough cough inbox that WAY

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Yep many times....but sometimes I still message....because u never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as literay no one here wants to meet me i can only conclude i am an ugly fucker...so that means everyone is out of my league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league.

Yep many times....but sometimes I still message....because u never know. "

That's the spirit

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well as literay no one here wants to meet me i can only conclude i am an ugly fucker...so that means everyone is out of my league"

But you're not an ugly fucker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as literay no one here wants to meet me i can only conclude i am an ugly fucker...so that means everyone is out of my league

But you're not an ugly fucker. "

Well thank you...but the lack of response is telling lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, tons of gorgeous women on here like that lol. Sometimes I message them anyway, and naturally, my message is just instantly deleted.

The hottest woman i've seen on here so far is within 15 miles and I see her on here asking for young guys on a friday night, but alas she deleted my message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as literay no one here wants to meet me i can only conclude i am an ugly fucker...so that means everyone is out of my league"

It can be a rough life here, depending on what you're looking for.

Guys that are just looking fir women are better off in bars or other sites.

Don't let it get you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do bars....too many d*unk twats around in york looking to pick a fight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't do bars....too many d*unk twats around in york looking to pick a fight"

Swingers club ?

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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago

my house


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."
Most of the time....and tell them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well as literay no one here wants to meet me i can only conclude i am an ugly fucker...so that means everyone is out of my league

But you're not an ugly fucker.

Well thank you...but the lack of response is telling lol

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That's probably got a lot to do with the number of men compared to women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know of any

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Well as literay no one here wants to meet me i can only conclude i am an ugly fucker...so that means everyone is out of my league

It can be a rough life here, depending on what you're looking for.

Guys that are just looking fir women are better off in bars or other sites.

Don't let it get you down."

This. Dont take this place to heart or get you down. Its all bullshit chin up and like Lib said the real world is the place to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i guess i might as well just leave this place then...and resign to being single...bars are full of d*unks...and i hate them

Bye folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *otts GentMan
over a year ago

warwick

This thread has lifted me up. I used to think what a miserable guy I'm that most of the profiles look out of my league but reading the posts here has given me hope..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well i guess i might as well just leave this place then...and resign to being single...bars are full of d*unks...and i hate them

Bye folks"

You've been here two months. For single guys it usually requires a fair bit of groundwork and some networking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Yes, thats why you're on my hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't even know where to start sadly...and as no one even bothers to respond to messages guess i will never find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you like the look of someone then message them .... what's the worst that could happen ? no reply or sorry but no thanks !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look i may be unattainable but I'm approachable especially now I've got a secretary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Guys that are just looking fir women are better off in bars or other sites.

"

Is this true. Damn I wish I knew this before ...

I am sure there are women looking for just men on here.I will be amazed if I am wrong.

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Yes I see all the sexy Scottish vouples and think they out of my league and stop from sending message unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time.

Danish x

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Sorry lads but you all need to chill ya been a bit. Its not instashag up your game a little. Expect nothing then anything else is a bonus

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league.

No, never. If i like someone i will message them. If they dont like me they wont message back which is fair enough but God loves a trier"

Exactly bluebell. I can't PM you but what the hell you've just admitted in a forum that you do it. Well so do I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since a young age I have always felt uneasy, awkward and lacked confidence around women.

But on here where you hide behind a screen it doesn't stop me from firing a message of to people.

Nothing ventured nothing gained they can either reply, ignore or block me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league.

Yes, YOU "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often. Then message them anyway and agonise about what to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

We are all equals here.

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By *gcw2014Couple
over a year ago

just outside of liverpool

Definitely. We may send a wink just on the off chance but we know not to expect too.much

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

Yes quite alot. Alot I like but see their pics and profile and think no point messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no, any lady would be lucky to have me in bed for all of the 48.7 seconds I can offer

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By *gcw2014Couple
over a year ago

just outside of liverpool

We read profiles as well and judge by what They say and age range if they would be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're quite lazy fabbers tbh, we don't tend to make first moves, we were only talking about this the other night that we should start and actually search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't believe in leagues

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"God no, any lady would be lucky to have me in bed for all of the 48.7 seconds I can offer "

Wow that's a really long time

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

All.

Of.

The.

Time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes but drop them a message as you never know, what’s the worst that can happen

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

No never ,,,, but I do respect the parameters that profile sets if they ain’t interested in an old fogey like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because your female so I’d say 8 times out of ten you would get somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God no, any lady would be lucky to have me in bed for all of the 48.7 seconds I can offer

Wow that's a really long time "

Definitely im doing something wrong if he's hitting the 48.7 second mark i thought i was good for lasting 22.9 seconds spill your secrets dude help a brother out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I don't believe in leagues "

The Premier league exists... Believe me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I don't believe in leagues

The Premier league exists... Believe me "

Most certainly does people say they don't believe in leagues but it's a harsh truth that there blatantly is a league and im still in relegation lol

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By *arpePinguisWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I'm definitely changing my habits! Yeah, okay, seriously hot guys really are way out my league, but I sometimes now send a cheeky message asking if they'll share more pics and they often do. Bliss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I don't believe in leagues

The Premier league exists... Believe me

Most certainly does people say they don't believe in leagues but it's a harsh truth that there blatantly is a league and im still in relegation lol "

Chin up son, spend the parachute payments wisely and you could be challenging in the premier league.

Always look on the bright side of life

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Attempts at 'punching above my weight' are most frequent...

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

Not exactly, but I have been approached by some guys on here who make me think, you're not hitting the back of my net with that!

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By *t3_jalapenoMan
over a year ago

darlo


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Yes

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London


"Wouldn't even know where to start sadly...and as no one even bothers to respond to messages guess i will never find out

"

Finding away to get your personality across in text form can be difficult for a lot of people, I've met, and ended up having fun with, a few people who's profile I wouldn't have given a second look.

See if there is a local social meet or club, and let people get to know the real you, they are a great way of meeting likeminded people, and just chatting to new people can be a great confidence booster; most of people i've met in clubs, parties, etc. have been the most welcoming and friendliest of people.

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By *heekytradesman46Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yes but i normally send a message anyway to chance my arm! You never know unless you try an all that! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cba to scroll, but someone did point out "they're", right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I don't believe in leagues

The Premier league exists... Believe me "

In football maybe. If it exists here (or anywhere else come to that) I'm not aware of it and don't adhere to that belief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. You never know if someone finds you attractive / fancies you unless you ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t ask you don’t get it’s that simple.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

Yep all the time! (Although it’s the profile mainly as messages are like gold dust!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the all the time club too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes we do x

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Yes I do

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Nope, you cant go any higher than the Premiership

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Yes I do.. Which is sad because you don't know unless you try... But I guess that's the way it is

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Yes....more often then not too

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield


"Yes I do.. Which is sad because you don't know unless you try... But I guess that's the way it is "

Not really. What puts me off messaging most of the time is that I fail to meet one of their criteria.

Women can have boob jobs to go from a C Cup to a DD, when are men going to be able to go from 6" to 8" lol

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Yes I do.. Which is sad because you don't know unless you try... But I guess that's the way it is

Not really. What puts me off messaging most of the time is that I fail to meet one of their criteria.

Women can have boob jobs to go from a C Cup to a DD, when are men going to be able to go from 6" to 8" lol

"

I don't have a size criteria, but I guess it's down to individual choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't look at people in those terms. I used to but then realised everyone is just human and not deserving of a pedestal based on their looks. I message anyone I find attractive and if they say no it's not a problem.

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

Who gives a toss, just message them anyway! I find humour works.

Unless you're 6 foot 4, beard, tattoos and 9 inch cock, you have no chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think some women were out of my league, but then I grew up and found some confidence.

Now women I used to think were out of my league, never were.. that I prefer amateur, non-league sport.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it would be easier to say if there was ever I time when I *didn't* think that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I don't believe in leagues

The Premier league exists... Believe me

In football maybe. If it exists here (or anywhere else come to that) I'm not aware of it and don't adhere to that belief"

I concur

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I would never think they are out of my league, but do think there is no point messaging 95% of people on here, so even if I thought they were super hot, a perfect match for me, that the sex would be wild, I probably wont message unless there is some sort of indication they will reply.

If I message someone and they dont reply, I block them, because i get really paranoid about bothering people and dont want to send them another message when they make it clear on the forums that no reply means no interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now that most of us agree we are playing in the same league. Can all the lovely ladies of fab turn off their filters

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By *CDecauxMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league."

All the damn time.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Yes but I just think fuck it and mail anyway.

At worst I get rejected from someone I don't know or ever have to face.

At best I get to fuck a hottie."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea all the time. We message them anyway and when they say no, we ain’t surprised lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep most definitely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practically everyone on here doesn't stop me trying tho.

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By *risjaneCouple
over a year ago

swindon

No we dont that's not sounding arrogant if we like them know matter what they look like we message them .

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

If youre a couple or a woman you should wink at the least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you ever read a message or come across a profile and once you've looked you think no point in mailing as the person is out of my league.

All the damn time."

What are the rates for billboard space these days ?

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By *iesel74Man
over a year ago

carryduff

Yeah I chicken out with a wink then spend an hour refreshing the screen lol

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

I think it depends on your personal outlook. I do get that feeling sometimes but then I see some couples and think its happening all the time where one half must have thought that. I felt that way when I first spoke to S, but look at us now. On other days I look at other guys I was at school with and think 'actually you're looking alright for 47 mate'. My outlook now is 'fuck it, they can only say no' and I encourage everyone else to take that same approach. As long as you don't take a 'no thanks' personally, especially here, then the outcome can only be positive as you'd get no result if you don't try anyway. I believe that's the real key, having enough respect for others right to say 'thanks, but no you're not for me'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i guess i might as well just leave this place then...and resign to being single...bars are full of d*unks...and i hate them

Bye folks"

If it's a relationship you're after then join a relationship site ha! Don't know why you wouldn't really, after all there many more women looking for a relationship than men so the odds won't just be levelled out but actually tipped in your favour?

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I think I do. There are a few women, even friends, that I’d love to meet, but only recently started to actively see if they’d like to meet. I think I’m more a trusted friend than a sex partner to them. However I have had a little bit of success garnering a bit of interest. Baby steps methinks

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