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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone. I'm not long back on the site but was previously on as a single and with a partner. Just a different take on many other threads here.

I as a single guy have politely declined offers from 2 women and I think 2 couples in my time on here. I think I could hear the deep intake of breath as I did it, a man refusing a woman or couple!!! 3 out of the 4 sent back messages basically not believing this, expecting that, as a single guy I was duty bound to have sex with any woman/couple who offered. Any others been in either end of this situation and what was the reaction?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i have said "no thank you" to people in the past, and the reaction has been from blocking (which i understand) right the way thru to full on abuse....

just because it is a couple.. or a single woman... it doesn't make them immune to the "acting like a arse when rejected" gene.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can honestly say i have never have a guy on here refuse my offer

Because i have never sent the first message asking

works for me, i only reply to guys who mail me first that way i know i'm what they are looking for other wise they wouldnt mail me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Naughty, seen you on cam and can't imagine anyone saying no to you! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have rejected couples before and Fabio is right they can get really abusive, have been called a time waster by one lol, that was priceless, we had exchanged two messages.

The arsehole gene is certainly not just limited to us single blokes when get rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Naughty, seen you on cam and can't imagine anyone saying no to you! X"

They dont, cause i dont ask lol

Everyones going to get nocked back at some point tho, i know i would if i sent out messages asking, ive seen some really nice looking guys on here that i would never mail because i know full well they wouldnt be interested in me so i see no point showing myself up asking

Saying that if i did mail a guy and so long as his rejection message was poilte i wouldnt dream of mailing them back and moaning about it

But its a swingers site and we are adults, if your going to get abusive because someone says no thanks to you maybe your need to mature a bit before you join

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well kind of...im only looking for soft swing fun so no intercourse from me which has lost me a few contacts/offers in the past

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One of the couples and women I had made initial contact with but after a couple of messages decided they weren't for me and I think that upset them a bit as if because I contacted them I was duty bound to meet them.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've been turned down several time. I just blocked them so I didn't message them again in error and moved on.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Good for you we say. Nothings a given !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive politely refused 1 or 2 ladies, a couple and 2 transvestites

thats my experience with fabswingers to date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i've no'd all types m,f,m/f,mm,tv/ts

Never seen a ff couple on here though.

anybody ever no'd a ff ??

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"Naughty, seen you on cam and can't imagine anyone saying no to you! X"

She can be rather scary in person lol. But alway polite in telling me too piss off.

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By *ashful BazMan
over a year ago

poole dorset

I recently rejected a single lady who was sweet on me, she kept sending me messages with her phone number, I did not want to upset her by saying I'm sorry I don't fancy you, so I said I'm seeing someone at the moment.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"Have rejected couples before and Fabio is right they can get really abusive, have been called a time waster by one lol, that was priceless, we had exchanged two messages.

The arsehole gene is certainly not just limited to us single blokes when get rejected. "

Ah, you're the one that wastes everybody's time. Caught you at last.

I've built the stake and bonfire, all together everybody..... BURN HIM, BURN HIM.

Hehe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think i've no'd all types m,f,m/f,mm,tv/ts

Never seen a ff couple on here though.

anybody ever no'd a ff ?? "

havent even ever come across any ff couples on here think most guys wouldnt say no to that though lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone. I'm not long back on the site but was previously on as a single and with a partner. Just a different take on many other threads here.

I as a single guy have politely declined offers from 2 women and I think 2 couples in my time on here. I think I could hear the deep intake of breath as I did it, a man refusing a woman or couple!!! 3 out of the 4 sent back messages basically not believing this, expecting that, as a single guy I was duty bound to have sex with any woman/couple who offered. Any others been in either end of this situation and what was the reaction?"

I've just been messaged by friends of a couple i said 'no thanks' to yesterday asking 'what's wrong with them??' - felt like replying - 'nothing. i'm sure - they're just into a different kind of fun than me' (bareback!!) but now in a dilemna as to whether to reply or not as I quite like the sound of their friends! lol

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

99% of cases on here it is the woman that decides....So, if we say no thanx, can guarantee it was me, Cath, that said no...

If a couple say no thanx to us, I just tell myself that the female half wasn't interested in Del..LOL...hell, works for me

SO...I can only imagine (as we don't contact single men) that the couple feel insulted as, lets face it,(most cases) it has been the woman that has been turned down! OMG!! How dare you!!! lol

I like to think everyone can take the "rejection" and accept it....

But sadly there are some that cant...and feel the need to insult just so they can feel better about it all...

Anyone gets nasty with me, I and just block them...

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


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I've just been messaged by friends of a couple i said 'no thanks' to yesterday asking 'what's wrong with them??' - felt like replying - 'nothing. i'm sure - they're just into a different kind of fun than me' (bareback!!) but now in a dilemna as to whether to reply or not as I quite like the sound of their friends! lol "

What a strange thing to do.....why would anyone embarrass themselves by getting their friends to message someone thats turned them down to ask whats wrong with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far, 'touch wood' (pun intended )

I've not been refused by people I've contacted ... it sure to happen at some point and when it does, I shall of course be outraged!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was on as a single fem a few years ago i turned down a couple of guys and got a message back from one telling me it was my loss!! I think not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I've just been messaged by friends of a couple i said 'no thanks' to yesterday asking 'what's wrong with them??' - felt like replying - 'nothing. i'm sure - they're just into a different kind of fun than me' (bareback!!) but now in a dilemna as to whether to reply or not as I quite like the sound of their friends! lol

What a strange thing to do.....why would anyone embarrass themselves by getting their friends to message someone thats turned them down to ask whats wrong with them "

No idea! Maybe they just mentioned it in conversation and the second couple decided off their own backs that they might be able to change my mind! Guess some people build close attachments friend wise on here and like to support/stick up for eachother! Decided not to reply anyway as don't feel the need to justify my choices to others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i was on as a single fem a few years ago i turned down a couple of guys and got a message back from one telling me it was my loss!! I think not lol "

Didn't know Stevie Wonder was on here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not quite sure how to take that comment?

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area


"Not quite sure how to take that comment?"

He read it wrong...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not quite sure how to take that comment?"

The right way - he must be blind!!

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area


"Not quite sure how to take that comment?

The right way - he must be blind!!"

She turned him down.....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have turned couples down too and they were also dumbfounded by it.

I wouldn't meet a couple where I didn't find both of them attractive and I wouldn't overlook one to get to the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can honestly say i have never have a guy on here refuse my offer

Because i have never sent the first message asking

works for me, i only reply to guys who mail me first that way i know i'm what they are looking for other wise they wouldnt mail me "

Likewise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I've just been messaged by friends of a couple i said 'no thanks' to yesterday asking 'what's wrong with them??' - felt like replying - 'nothing. i'm sure - they're just into a different kind of fun than me' (bareback!!) but now in a dilemna as to whether to reply or not as I quite like the sound of their friends! lol

What a strange thing to do.....why would anyone embarrass themselves by getting their friends to message someone thats turned them down to ask whats wrong with them "

Can't say I'm surprised Honey. I've seen threads started by couples, incandescent with rage that they've been turned down by "timewasters". One man even said how stunning his wife was, how could anyone say no.

There are people here who really do not realise, no matter how gorgeous they perceive themselves to be they'll NEVER appeal to everyone and seriously need to get over themselves.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area


"

There are people here who really do not realise, no matter how gorgeous they perceive themselves to be they'll NEVER appeal to everyone and seriously need to get over themselves. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can honestly say i have never have a guy on here refuse my offer

Because i have never sent the first message asking

works for me, i only reply to guys who mail me first that way i know i'm what they are looking for other wise they wouldnt mail me "
^ ^ ^ ^ ^

exactly that

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

how very dare they...

akin to a seal in Seaworld putting his flipper up and saying 'no thanks, I don't feel like jumping around like a twat today for a bit of raw herring'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not quite sure how to take that comment?

The right way - he must be blind!!"

Phew- had me worried there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not quite sure how to take that comment?

The right way - he must be blind!!

She turned him down.....lol"

And proceeded to tell her it was her loss! Hence - Stevie Wonder - blind! Oh never mind!!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not surprised by this at all as even on the forums, if a single guy happens to offer a point of _iew that others don't like or agree with, they get told 'well that's lost you a load of meets, noone will play with you now you've said that'. So it seems that sometimes if single guys don't kiss ass to women/couples regardless of their _iews this appears incredulous to some.

Of course we've messaged guys and not had a response, but its obviously cos of Chris that we're being turned down, I mean it can't possibly be me that they don't find irresistible. Mind you there are no pics of Chris so its got to be me, shit excuse me while I go and kill myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do recall that one of the couples I said no thanks to , she was pretty stunning but after chatting a few times I thought she just knew that too much and was really up herself. If I had a choice of looks over personality I choose personality everytime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone. I'm not long back on the site but was previously on as a single and with a partner. Just a different take on many other threads here.

I as a single guy have politely declined offers from 2 women and I think 2 couples in my time on here. I think I could hear the deep intake of breath as I did it, a man refusing a woman or couple!!! 3 out of the 4 sent back messages basically not believing this, expecting that, as a single guy I was duty bound to have sex with any woman/couple who offered. Any others been in either end of this situation and what was the reaction?"

Its pretty common you know there are lots of single guys who don't take up offers.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I am not surprised by this at all as even on the forums, if a single guy happens to offer a point of _iew that others don't like or agree with, they get told 'well that's lost you a load of meets, noone will play with you now you've said that'. So it seems that sometimes if single guys don't kiss ass to women/couples regardless of their _iews this appears incredulous to some.

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I've been turned down several time. I just blocked them so I didn't message them again in error and moved on."
never i cant belive it said in best richard meldrew voice

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

There are daft people of all genders, sexualities and marital status

Recently I got a 3 paragraph rant from a couple for not replying to a message within 3 hours. Quite amusing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have rejected four offers of bareback meet ups.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I've been turned down several time. I just blocked them so I didn't message them again in error and moved on.never i cant belive it said in best richard meldrew voice "

It happens. Poor deluded fools.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Didn't you lot know that we are all here to fuck anyone and everyone that asks!!!

You are all frigid timewasters

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"Didn't you lot know that we are all here to fuck anyone and everyone that asks!!!

You are all frigid timewasters "

Quite right, no get down here and get naked.

Right now!

Pmsl.

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