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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That because you are on a swinging site and you are a swinger

Some people automatically assume that you are fair game?

Browsing through some profiles lately I have seen phrases such as

Why are swingers so choosy?

Or thought we were all here for the same thing?

Do you feel some people think that swingers are fair game?

By the looks of some lines we are all supposed ta shag anybody or anything

I wonder why some think in that way that it's any different to real life? Xx

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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I hate it when withing a couple of polite messages, the tone changes and just because you have replied it is automatically assumed you are ready to shag, in some cases there and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yup and i hate it

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By *arsesCouple
over a year ago

15 mins south of Gatwick

Agreed 100%

It's like it's assumed we have no preferences or likes and dislikes!

We're here because we DO have choices........x

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I do enjoy to chat...but you are correct Soapy...people assume that a shag is what you are after...when we are creatures that need to be simulated by thoughts and chat is the best way to achieve that...

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Fully agree with the OP.

See on so many profiles ,'after all we are all here for the same thing' or 'does anyone really meet', I feel these people have no concept of what swinging really is and surely they really dont want to just shag anyone , are their standards really so low or perhaps maybe they are that desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with what soapsta has said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate it when withing a couple of polite messages, the tone changes and just because you have replied it is automatically assumed you are ready to shag, in some cases there and then"

that's very much what you were like when you first messaged me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree Sudstar.

.....these type of people end up on our block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, very true Soapy.

For us, swinging and dogging is an indulgence and a bit of fun as a couple.

Anyone would think that the people who choose to do so are desperate for sex 24/7

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

I think it is a minority that expect a shag if they chat to anyone on here - But i would add that people act very differently on here than than they would in real life for a whole host of reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good Topic it really should not matter swinging site or any other site respect goes with out saying !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find 80 per cent of the men on here have zero respect for the ladies on swingers sites and that is threw experiance of the mail i got/get. Some think we will shag anything with a heartbeat or that were all escorts and some even ask! Some of the mail ive had over the years is shocking, most of it was copied and pasted and sent to mods or admin. But yeh,,, some think because we swing, were easy lays and no dignity! They couldnt be more wrong. xx Some lovely people on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good Topic it really should not matter swinging site or any other site respect goes with out saying ! "
Yes, in an ideal world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find 80 per cent of the men on here have zero respect for the ladies on swingers sites and that is threw experiance of the mail i got/get. Some think we will shag anything with a heartbeat or that were all escorts and some even ask! Some of the mail ive had over the years is shocking, most of it was copied and pasted and sent to mods or admin. But yeh,,, some think because we swing, were easy lays and no dignity! They couldnt be more wrong. xx Some lovely people on this site. "

+1

some men don't understand swinging isnt an easy way to get laid

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

I believe that while the world realises and recognises swinging goes on alot more than they used to. Though some still have a believe that yeah we are depraved and deviants who crave and desire sex and attention constantly so will shag anyone, and as such feel that someone so lowly as a swinger dare turn them down.

What they don't as you well know soapy realise is that swingers have made a conscious decision to enjoy their sexual freedom with their partner to express, explore and enjoy their sexual limits, and it is done as hobby/ pastime. What they do doesn't detract their sense of love or reality if anything I believe it enhances it.

For the single swinger I believe the same they are able to realise they have a need and they can choose who, where and when (in the womans case anyway lol) It's the narrow minded neanderthals that think they are better than us, but if they are so much better than us why can't they pull in a pub club rather than looking for a quick Fcuk on here?

Rant over hope I haven't upset anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah course they do and the thing i found most shocking is the difference in the way i get spoke to as a single woman as apposed to when i was on here as a couple

Men are far more pushy now im single on here and in real life, ive had a few guys get nasty with me when i have said no and i never had that when i met with my ex, when i had a 6ft+ gorilla at my side no ment no, to some guys now no means push her enough and she'll go alone with it

ive had a few guys say stuff like, what you here for then? etc when i have told them i wasnt interested in them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find 80 per cent of the men on here have zero respect for the ladies on swingers sites and that is threw experiance of the mail i got/get. Some think we will shag anything with a heartbeat or that were all escorts and some even ask! Some of the mail ive had over the years is shocking, most of it was copied and pasted and sent to mods or admin. But yeh,,, some think because we swing, were easy lays and no dignity! They couldnt be more wrong. xx Some lovely people on this site.

+1

some men don't understand swinging isnt an easy way to get laid "

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

it does seem that way,certainly with some of the msgs i get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That because you are on a swinging site and you are a swinger

Some people automatically assume that you are fair game?

Browsing through some profiles lately I have seen phrases such as

Why are swingers so choosy?

Or thought we were all here for the same thing?

Do you feel some people think that swingers are fair game?

By the looks of some lines we are all supposed ta shag anybody or anything

I wonder why some think in that way that it's any different to real life? Xx

"

i frequently get called a lesbian if that answers your question although i like girls i like guys too just much much more choosey when it comes to guys xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people are here for some form of sex at the end of the day. So by having a profile most of us probably are 'fair' game to our target audience.

Some who find it difficult to achieve their objective may become a little frustrated by the rejection, it doesn't mean they don't appreciate people have choices.

Different swingers do have different expectations, there isn't a specific defined blueprint. Some seem to want mini relationships whilst others get bored with drawn out chat. That in itself is a valid preference or choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Ive never felt from any messages that im fair game or too choosy because im on this site,but I agree with Soapy in that ive seen lots of comments on profiles like he has mentioned

I guess the approach from some people is a little over enthusiastic,immature and possibly not thought through very well

Not that it really bothers me if their impressions and expectations about what they think they should be getting from here are very different from mine,I have the choice to say yes or no and the majority of people that I speak to are really polite

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I believe that while the world realises and recognises swinging goes on alot more than they used to. Though some still have a believe that yeah we are depraved and deviants who crave and desire sex and attention constantly so will shag anyone, and as such feel that someone so lowly as a swinger dare turn them down.

What they don't as you well know soapy realise is that swingers have made a conscious decision to enjoy their sexual freedom with their partner to express, explore and enjoy their sexual limits, and it is done as hobby/ pastime. What they do doesn't detract their sense of love or reality if anything I believe it enhances it.

For the single swinger I believe the same they are able to realise they have a need and they can choose who, where and when (in the womans case anyway lol) It's the narrow minded neanderthals that think they are better than us, but if they are so much better than us why can't they pull in a pub club rather than looking for a quick Fcuk on here?

Rant over hope I haven't upset anyone

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say i'm here to meet, i'm not here to fuck everyone.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"That because you are on a swinging site and you are a swinger

Some people automatically assume that you are fair game?

Browsing through some profiles lately I have seen phrases such as

Why are swingers so choosy?

Or thought we were all here for the same thing?

Do you feel some people think that swingers are fair game?

By the looks of some lines we are all supposed ta shag anybody or anything

I wonder why some think in that way that it's any different to real life? Xx

"

some people will think that because others are on here,

they will shag anything with a pulse.....

that somehow someones normal standards will drops..

that others "moral compasses" will be left behind...

when in fact the reality is that in most cases it is the opposite.. that people are more choosy because they have some kind of idea as to what they want, and wont put up with 2nd best......

i think "jemima" puts it well.... it is the slowest way to get to great sex... and i kinda agree with that....

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I expect to shag everyone I message on here...

I mean what we all on here for ?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG! ^^^

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By *YLINDERCouple
over a year ago

CARDIFF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe that while the world realises and recognises swinging goes on alot more than they used to. Though some still have a believe that yeah we are depraved and deviants who crave and desire sex and attention constantly so will shag anyone, and as such feel that someone so lowly as a swinger dare turn them down.

What they don't as you well know soapy realise is that swingers have made a conscious decision to enjoy their sexual freedom with their partner to express, explore and enjoy their sexual limits, and it is done as hobby/ pastime. What they do doesn't detract their sense of love or reality if anything I believe it enhances it.

For the single swinger I believe the same they are able to realise they have a need and they can choose who, where and when (in the womans case anyway lol) It's the narrow minded neanderthals that think they are better than us, but if they are so much better than us why can't they pull in a pub club rather than looking for a quick Fcuk on here?

Rant over hope I haven't upset anyone

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I expect to shag everyone I message on here...

I mean what we all on here for ?... "

That's only the ones with pulses for me...

I'm not desperate...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly won't shag anyone just the ones with their own teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fairness I think a fair few do lower their standards and are less choosy on here, but that's their choice I suppose.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"That because you are on a swinging site and you are a swinger

Some people automatically assume that you are fair game?

Browsing through some profiles lately I have seen phrases such as

Why are swingers so choosy?

Or thought we were all here for the same thing?

Do you feel some people think that swingers are fair game?

By the looks of some lines we are all supposed ta shag anybody or anything

I wonder why some think in that way that it's any different to real life? Xx

"

I have to agree here and say that many people see swingers as easy game ..im organising a fantasy of mine soon and had one guy mail me and say Where and When i asked him where and when what ? his reply was where and whens the meet i said only people who would be attending will know where and when ...his reply to that was well you want fucked do you so you better give me the details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am okay with it till I turn someone down and they basically tell me how dare I.. its hardly like I get better offers..

The fact I have refused them because I do.. seems to escape them..

I am picky anyway.. and getting more so to be fair.

CAli

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"That because you are on a swinging site and you are a swinger

Some people automatically assume that you are fair game?

Browsing through some profiles lately I have seen phrases such as

Why are swingers so choosy?

Or thought we were all here for the same thing?

Do you feel some people think that swingers are fair game?

By the looks of some lines we are all supposed ta shag anybody or anything

I wonder why some think in that way that it's any different to real life? Xx

"

Yes

( FFS four times I did that as I didn't quote properly )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hazard a guess that over 90% of men on here will willingly have sex with any female on the site, where as most probably 0% of women will do the same.

Women simply have all the choice, there's far fewer women than men so the women can pick and choose what they like as they can safely say out of ten men they may want to meet, most probably 9 or 10 of them will jump at the chance if asked by the woman to meet, but I bet it's around 0 to 1 out of ten women will meet the guy, if you follow me...

So yes, I think because it's a swinging site, a hell of a lot of men will think all the women are gagging for it and will meet anyone wanting sex, and they generally start bitching as to why they get no meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair game and easy game are two very different things in my book!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"That because you are on a swinging site and you are a swinger

Some people automatically assume that you are fair game?

Browsing through some profiles lately I have seen phrases such as

Why are swingers so choosy?

Or thought we were all here for the same thing?

Do you feel some people think that swingers are fair game?

By the looks of some lines we are all supposed ta shag anybody or anything

I wonder why some think in that way that it's any different to real life? Xx

"
Because outside of the fab bubble people will still shag owt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"phrases such as Why are swingers so choosy? Or thought we were all here for the same thing?

"

Both = time to stop reading. Next profile please.

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