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If your hubby was gay

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What would you do if you was in a relationship with someone and you had kids and then they told you they don’t love you and they where gay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would break my heart but I would support him as much as I could.

It’s not his fault, he didn’t choose to fall out of love with me, he didn’t choose to be gay. We are best friends and I would always want to cherish that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to a few friends but years ago before it was much easier to be openly gay and not one of them said they didn't love them! They did but it was just they were gay and trying to conform to society's ideals

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very interesting

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Been there and done that, it’s heart breaking but funnily enough the links with him are stronger than others and we stay in contact and still love eachother but it’s more a brother sister feeling now and that is a common feeling for others, try to be reasonable and fair and understanding but remember to put yourself first ultimately

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

If you need someone to talk too feel free to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He must be very dumb if he only realised after getting married and having kids. Unless the wife looks like a man and he thought her clit was a little penis.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"He must be very dumb if he only realised after getting married and having kids. Unless the wife looks like a man and he thought her clit was a little penis."

I started c dressing in my 50’s I’m not really into men , but I have dabbled and I think a lot of men do try and enjoy bisexual lifestyles as they get older, this I can fully understand how and why it happens

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Think I'd entered the twilight zone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He must be very dumb if he only realised after getting married and having kids. Unless the wife looks like a man and he thought her clit was a little penis."

Or maybe they knew but because of societal pressures they tried to conform to the "norm" and gave it a go, hoping that the feelings would go away.

Elton John and Kenny Everett tried and failed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He would not be my hubby

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

It’s not the gay part that would be the deciding factor ,it would be not loving me.

If he was gay and wanted to stay and loved me but wanted to sleep with men I think I’d be ok with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you do if you was in a relationship with someone and you had kids and then they told you they don’t love you and they where gay. "

Does the gay bit make any difference as to whether it would be harder or easier to take?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not gay, but my husband is.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Id be devastated if id been married to someone and had kids and they told me they didnt love me because they werrnt sexually attracted to me what about all the other things that go with a marriage. I would hope we could sit and work things out for the best. I only have experience of being married to

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

a very bi guy. I knew straight away and althrough our marriage he had a "friend"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It’s not the gay part that would be the deciding factor ,it would be not loving me.

If he was gay and wanted to stay and loved me but wanted to sleep with men I think I’d be ok with that. "
That was what my marriage was like and it worked perfectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do homosexual things I have to confess. Mrs N knows about it but I do not consider myself gay. She's Brilliant and a such a great lady. I am a very lucky man to be able to express my Bi sexuality.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"What would you do if you was in a relationship with someone and you had kids and then they told you they don’t love you and they where gay.

Does the gay bit make any difference as to whether it would be harder or easier to take?"

It would make a difference to me, I can’t be male so there’s no way I could fulfill those needs.

If he felt that way about another woman , I’d be his friend but we wouldn’t be partners anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'd be OK I guess, cos if I had a hubby that'd make me gay also....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'd be OK I guess, cos if I had a hubby that'd make me gay also.... "
You beat me to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you do if you was in a relationship with someone and you had kids and then they told you they don’t love you and they where gay.

Does the gay bit make any difference as to whether it would be harder or easier to take?

It would make a difference to me, I can’t be male so there’s no way I could fulfill those needs.

If he felt that way about another woman , I’d be his friend but we wouldn’t be partners anymore. "

See I think him falling for another woman would be worse because she is someone I could "compete" with. I would question why I wasn't enough or what made her better than me.

That said I don't know if I could stand by him being gay either. I would feel like our time together had been a lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you do if you was in a relationship with someone and you had kids and then they told you they don’t love you and they where gay. "

I'd take the house, his pension, his car and his soft furnishing collection.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"What would you do if you was in a relationship with someone and you had kids and then they told you they don’t love you and they where gay.

I'd take the house, his pension, his car and his soft furnishing collection. "

Let that be a warning to you OP. Don't tell her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you do if you was in a relationship with someone and you had kids and then they told you they don’t love you and they where gay.

I'd take the house, his pension, his car and his soft furnishing collection. "

In this house we’d argue about who’s getting the dog. Kids, not so much!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Throughout a long relationship people change but I would feel devastated by something like this and feel that our entire relationship had been back sham. I'd try to understand but it would be difficult. I'd probably want to separate at least and probably divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there done that not hun but ex partner. It broke my heart but if he didn’t leave me I wouldn’t of met my wonderful hubs I have now

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been there and done that, it’s heart breaking but funnily enough the links with him are stronger than others and we stay in contact and still love eachother but it’s more a brother sister feeling now and that is a common feeling for others, try to be reasonable and fair and understanding but remember to put yourself first ultimately "
He didn't know what he had!

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"It's happened to a few friends but years ago before it was much easier to be openly gay and not one of them said they didn't love them! They did but it was just they were gay and trying to conform to society's ideals "

It might be funny to those who haven't experienced it and I don't mind the jokes.

However what you say is extremely true and personally, it was, definitely, the most difficult and painful time in my life.

It is not easy to exist as a gay (or a female soul in a male physique) in a moslem society where being gay or a crossdresser is illegal and punishable.

Excuse, yes but sometimes we are forced to do things we don't want to.

I don't expect 'normal' people will understand.

Now I don't mind being stoned (literally or by words) to death as I now know better.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea


"Been there and done that, it’s heart breaking but funnily enough the links with him are stronger than others and we stay in contact and still love eachother but it’s more a brother sister feeling now and that is a common feeling for others, try to be reasonable and fair and understanding but remember to put yourself first ultimately He didn't know what he had!"

Thank you, but everything always works out in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d smash his back doors in...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi husbands are more common than imagined.

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