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"No need for hate or rudeness at all. Racism absolutely not. My post on racism attracted some ignorant replies I thought. To say it's ok to say no blacks etc and that it equates with simple non preference (eg not wanting a slim person) is nuts. No blacks means no one of any African blood at all. Really? You wouldn't sleep with one of maybe a billion people at all? Maybe you wouldn't but it's not good to see you state that fact." Now ... to state a preference is fine ... if it said no black guys cos they all stink etc. ... that is a completely different matter Sadly there is a fine line between what people think is preference and racism ... To take your comment of 1 in a billion ... if you do say not fat people ... that alienates a large proportion of the world population... if you say no once under 6 feet ... that's a lot of people of far east and Asian heritage ... Preference is fine ... defamatory statements is not | |||
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"Well by saying brown people are not appealing..and should not bother on this site answer ur question. I know difference between peoples preferences and a comment that is racist " No ... that is wrong ... and you were right to report | |||
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"No need for hate or rudeness at all. Racism absolutely not. My post on racism attracted some ignorant replies I thought. To say it's ok to say no blacks etc and that it equates with simple non preference (eg not wanting a slim person) is nuts. No blacks means no one of any African blood at all. Really? You wouldn't sleep with one of maybe a billion people at all? Maybe you wouldn't but it's not good to see you state that fact." What should they say instead? | |||
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"No need for hate or rudeness at all. Racism absolutely not. My post on racism attracted some ignorant replies I thought. To say it's ok to say no blacks etc and that it equates with simple non preference (eg not wanting a slim person) is nuts. No blacks means no one of any African blood at all. Really? You wouldn't sleep with one of maybe a billion people at all? Maybe you wouldn't but it's not good to see you state that fact. Now ... to state a preference is fine ... if it said no black guys cos they all stink etc. ... that is a completely different matter Sadly there is a fine line between what people think is preference and racism ... To take your comment of 1 in a billion ... if you do say not fat people ... that alienates a large proportion of the world population... if you say no once under 6 feet ... that's a lot of people of far east and Asian heritage ... Preference is fine ... defamatory statements is not" Very good point I’ve said on a thread yesterday there is a fine line. But also could be a number of factors up bringing. people we encounter. Me as a example I have a very very low chance in here just because I am Asian that I have quickly realised. But to really to rate which is a very fine line | |||
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"A person should be judged on their merits and faults and not by the colour of their skin. End of. " | |||
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"There’s only one race. The human race. Racism, bigotry I thought would be finished by 21st century...my parents and in laws were racist without knowing it... My son with me watching a boxing event on tv...I said who would you want to win? He said one in red shorts...one boxer black other white. I thought that was where we were headed, not seeing a difference. " | |||
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"A person should be judged on their merits and faults and not by the colour of their skin. End of. "Absolutely true...but people aren't judging anyone, they're choosing who to fuck... | |||
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"A person should be judged on their merits and faults and not by the colour of their skin. End of. "Unless it's a tanning competition | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like " But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What? | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?" its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone  | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone "You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. "i know funny that shes not my bag either | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either"No she is Kanye's! No woman from Thailand? None from Japan? | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
"is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway"It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips. | |||
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"Care to examine what exactly 'preference' boils down to? Try to think carefully and honestly...." What should it be? | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone "Exactly, a personal choice or preference doesn't have to be justified to anyone. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips."fish and chips is my fave food why change it | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it"Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc | |||
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"Ok, what about a white man and a black woman that are a couple, they only go for people the complete opposite of their partners because that's how they want to swing. Total escapism and the opposite of their real lives. If they state no white men/no black women does that make them racist? P" It's a fantasy based on skin colour so yes. I think people get tied up in knots because to be racist is to be overtly bad, uneducated etc. You can still be a 'good' person and be racist. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it
Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc"acceptance does not equal getting a fuck...I accept t girls, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. Most would accept that. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it
Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc
acceptance does not equal getting a fuck...I accept t girls, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. Most would accept that."I do not follow.. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it
Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc
acceptance does not equal getting a fuck...I accept t girls, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. Most would accept that.
I do not follow.."its like saying everyone has to be bi cos if they only meet men or women its sexest i think thats there point and a very good one | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it
Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc
acceptance does not equal getting a fuck...I accept t girls, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. Most would accept that.
I do not follow..its like saying everyone has to be bi cos if they only meet men or women its sexest i think thats there point and a very good one"No. Statements of racial exclusion are racist . | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it
Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc
acceptance does not equal getting a fuck...I accept t girls, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. Most would accept that.
I do not follow..its like saying everyone has to be bi cos if they only meet men or women its sexest i think thats there point and a very good one
No. Statements of racial exclusion are racist . "so if i say no men allowed is that ok then or is it only not ok to choose sexual partners by race | |||
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"its like saying everyone has to be bi cos if they only meet men or women its sexest i think thats there point and a very good one" No, it's not a good point at all. Being hetero or homosexual are scientifically studied, proven sexual orientations. There's no such thing as being a 'caucasionsexual' Being attracted more to one type of look than another is no big deal. Deciding there is no way you could find a person from a particular race attractive, ever, is frankly weird. It's saying you could meet someone who's a model by profession, with your perfect body type, who is charming and makes you laugh, who has loads in common with you, but you'd turn them down because of the colour of their skin. And some people would still want to say there can be no question of racism being involved. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it
Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc
acceptance does not equal getting a fuck...I accept t girls, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. Most would accept that.
I do not follow..its like saying everyone has to be bi cos if they only meet men or women its sexest i think thats there point and a very good one
No. Statements of racial exclusion are racist . so if i say no men allowed is that ok then or is it only not ok to choose sexual partners by race"Sexual orientation is not to be confused with racism. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it
Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc
acceptance does not equal getting a fuck...I accept t girls, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. Most would accept that.
I do not follow..its like saying everyone has to be bi cos if they only meet men or women its sexest i think thats there point and a very good one
No. Statements of racial exclusion are racist . so if i say no men allowed is that ok then or is it only not ok to choose sexual partners by race
Sexual orientation is not to be confused with racism."Not confusing it its a very similar issue theres actually a statement on 101 stating if you have been attacked for you race sexual or orientation please tell us so it seems the police define race crime and sexual orientation exactly the same | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it
Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc
acceptance does not equal getting a fuck...I accept t girls, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. Most would accept that.
I do not follow..its like saying everyone has to be bi cos if they only meet men or women its sexest i think thats there point and a very good one
No. Statements of racial exclusion are racist . so if i say no men allowed is that ok then or is it only not ok to choose sexual partners by race
Sexual orientation is not to be confused with racism.
Not confusing it its a very similar issue theres actually a statement on 101 stating if you have been attacked for you race sexual or orientation please tell us so it seems the police define race crime and sexual orientation exactly the same "When attacked. Not as advertised for sleeping with. | |||
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"A person should be judged on their merits and faults and not by the colour of their skin. End of. "Wonderful and correct in the workplace etc, but sexual attraction is another thing entirely. Thankfully, we don't have to adhere to diversity monitoring when it comes to sexual partners...yet! | |||
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"Actually I have not seen any racism on here ? I have seen people say they want a BBC - is that what you mean? I have also seen people saying "looking for a BWC boyfriend for my wife" But to me these are preferences as to what turns them on. Racism is bad but preferences are ok with me. " There is racism on Fab. Sometimes it's "subtle", but it's there. Before the usual "chip on shoulder" comments appear, I have a white partner. | |||
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"In my opinion since brexit, a lot more people have felt it’s okay to come out and be brave about being racist. Faced a number of racist slurs, which weren’t happening before brexit." I'm first generation Windrush. Since brexit I've felt like I've woken up in the 60s again. (Some) White people have become emboldened to scrape of their veneer of racial tolerance and show their true colours. "I'm shocked at this turn of events..." said no black person. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
You don't fancy any woman whose heritage was Turkey to Japan? Kim Kardashian is of Armenian heritage. That's in Asia. i know funny that shes not my bag either
No she is Kanye's!
No woman from Thailand?
None from Japan?
is it so hard to believe not as of yet anyway
It's like a man in a world of delicacies eating just fish and chips.fish and chips is my fave food why change it
Sustainability? Widen your earthly experiences? But people aren't fish. They deserve acceptance not exclusion. It's your bed. But I still find the statement no blacks, no asian etc rather too much like no Irish, no dogs etc
acceptance does not equal getting a fuck...I accept t girls, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. Most would accept that.
I do not follow..its like saying everyone has to be bi cos if they only meet men or women its sexest i think thats there point and a very good one
No. Statements of racial exclusion are racist . "ah, but you're putting words in my mouth. I've never turned anyone down because of the colour of their skin. I base my choices on whether I find an individual attractive or not... What I am saying is that you are entirely entitled to being equally accepted anywhere as is anyone else. What you are not entitled to is sex. | |||
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"Preference is thrown around a lot here. For people who use that word, take a moment to ask yourself why? You don’t have to voice it here or explain to anyone, just rationalise to yourself why you have your preference? " I won't fuck people I'm not attracted to. Ever. Is that acceptable? | |||
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"Preference is thrown around a lot here. For people who use that word, take a moment to ask yourself why? You don’t have to voice it here or explain to anyone, just rationalise to yourself why you have your preference? I won't fuck people I'm not attracted to. Ever. Is that acceptable?" Sounds fair to me. Nor would I x | |||
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"What are people thoughts on racist on fab.Dont worry they have been reported. We all still have hearts and breath the same air and colour shouldnt matter " There is a lot of racism on fab from what I have seen. I've spoken to a lot of people who have shared their experiences of it as well. | |||
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"Some people dont get it...preference is different to when people say brown skin should not be on the site and they are not appealing " If they are being abusive, report it. Admin are great at sorting that kind of shit. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
Exactly, a personal choice or preference doesn't have to be justified to anyone."But it seems that it does, hence threads like this. A thinly veiled preference equals racist post. Yes, it's fine to have your own personal preferences. Just as long as your preferences don't exclude anyone on the planet. Absolutely no-one. Because if they do, in the eyes of some, your preferences instantly become racism. | |||
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"It's not rasict to have preference I see lots of profile saying black only or white only it's just what people like But why a preference based on race? Black or Asian people are no way all alike? To say they are is racist. To say it's not implies another reason to not like them. What?its my personal choise not to have sex with asian women i generally dont fancy them the end not racest not to fancy someone
Exactly, a personal choice or preference doesn't have to be justified to anyone.
But it seems that it does, hence threads like this. A thinly veiled preference equals racist post.
Yes, it's fine to have your own personal preferences. Just as long as your preferences don't exclude anyone on the planet. Absolutely no-one. Because if they do, in the eyes of some, your preferences instantly become racism."Agreed that’s all I can say | |||
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"What are people thoughts on racist on fab.Dont worry they have been reported. We all still have hearts and breath the same air and colour shouldnt matter There is a lot of racism on fab from what I have seen. I've spoken to a lot of people who have shared their experiences of it as well. " I must say I haven’t experienced it yet but I’m sure it will come one-day | |||
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"There’s only one race. The human race. Racism, bigotry I thought would be finished by 21st century...my parents and in laws were racist without knowing it... My son with me watching a boxing event on tv...I said who would you want to win? He said one in red shorts...one boxer black other white. I thought that was where we were headed, not seeing a difference. " | |||
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"What are people thoughts on racist on fab.Dont worry they have been reported. We all still have hearts and breath the same air and colour shouldnt matter " to me it doesnt | |||
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"When people ask where we are from.we say earth....is no racism at all with us..." Great answer | |||
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"When people ask where we are from.we say earth....is no racism at all with us..." Bit anti Martian that though!! | |||
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"Preference is thrown around a lot here. For people who use that word, take a moment to ask yourself why? You don’t have to voice it here or explain to anyone, just rationalise to yourself why you have your preference? " Yes. Thank you!! | |||
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"Preference is thrown around a lot here. For people who use that word, take a moment to ask yourself why? You don’t have to voice it here or explain to anyone, just rationalise to yourself why you have your preference? Yes. Thank you!!" I agree with this also, preferences are fine but given that you know its an emotive subject, why not just ignore messages from those you don't like? I don't think race preferences need to be emblazoned all over a profile. | |||
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"I’m white, and very aware of my privelage of being born white" You're a pale skinned asian from the caucus region. "cauc-asain". | |||
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"When people ask where we are from.we say earth....is no racism at all with us..." I normally say from my mom’s vagina. Can’t go wrong with that answer | |||
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"Racism, bigotry I thought would be finished by 21st century...my parents and in laws were racist without knowing it... " It was based on skin/skeletal/muscle difference observed in groups of people. It was rudimentary and people expected that branch of science to be done away with eventually. However the situation has gotten worse, as now we are certain that white people at the very least are a hybrid human mix, and we can not rule out but do not believe it to be so, may be a different sub group of human. Black africans are pure humans, according to how we view the data now. So it will never end. | |||
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"Is it not that people are just looking to be offended nowadays? The world isn’t always nice. Suck it up and move on. " You have a point Until you experience it. Guess what my nickname at work is? Chippy. It doesn’t bother me. But you can see how society views anyone who has colour on their skin in 2019. | |||
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"Guess what my nickname at work is? Chippy." I have never heard of this. Is it for Italian people? | |||
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"Guess what my nickname at work is? Chippy. I have never heard of this. Is it for Italian people?" Think it's for people who work in wood. | |||
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"Guess what my nickname at work is? Chippy. I have never heard of this. Is it for Italian people? Think it's for people who work in wood." Thats what I know it used for, building trade wood work. | |||
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"There's having a preference and how you articulate that preference. People are not always attracted to everybody as casual sexual partners. If you (for whatever reason) only find people that closely resemble your own genetic stock attractive, so be it. The reasons may or may not be racist. But if you explain in a way that is construed as racist, that is where the trouble start." So now we have to express our preferences in a way other people would like? | |||
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"Racism is rife on here. Especially where people can hide behind their keyboards. I met a lovely Indian guy off here. Displayed his verification and 3 different guys messaged to say how disappointed they were (lots of racist language used that I don't wish to repeat). 2 of the guys were actually on my Friend's List. Absolutely vile behaviour and blocked now. I've had many similar messages in the past when I've displayed other verifications. It's very sad" I've had this too. Dickheads. | |||
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"Racism is rife on here. Especially where people can hide behind their keyboards. I met a lovely Indian guy off here. Displayed his verification and 3 different guys messaged to say how disappointed they were (lots of racist language used that I don't wish to repeat). 2 of the guys were actually on my Friend's List. Absolutely vile behaviour and blocked now. I've had many similar messages in the past when I've displayed other verifications. It's very sad I've had this too. Dickheads. " On the plus side, it filters out the gobshites | |||
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"I'm only an occasional visitor to the UK, but I have noticed this - white British people seem to go searching for racism where little or none exists. This often just makes mountains out of molehills which tend to escalate rapidly. Persons of colour have a hell of a lot of other stuff to give a shit about "Wow I must say that is quite a good observation. But it’s not always the case I have to say | |||
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"Racism is rife on here. Especially where people can hide behind their keyboards. I met a lovely Indian guy off here. Displayed his verification and 3 different guys messaged to say how disappointed they were (lots of racist language used that I don't wish to repeat). 2 of the guys were actually on my Friend's List. Absolutely vile behaviour and blocked now. I've had many similar messages in the past when I've displayed other verifications. It's very sad I've had this too. Dickheads. " Wow sorry to hear that I just hope it does not tarnish the rest of us for you | |||
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"I'm only an occasional visitor to the UK, but I have noticed this - white British people seem to go searching for racism where little or none exists. This often just makes mountains out of molehills which tend to escalate rapidly. Persons of colour have a hell of a lot of other stuff to give a shit about "That's true to a degree, but it does exist in overt and insidious ways. I find middle class polite racism the worst. | |||
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"Is it not that people are just looking to be offended nowadays? The world isn’t always nice. Suck it up and move on. " That's easy to say if you don't get daily shit or have opportunities blocked just because of the colour of your skin. It's not something you can change or hide. | |||
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"I'm only an occasional visitor to the UK, but I have noticed this - white British people seem to go searching for racism where little or none exists. This often just makes mountains out of molehills which tend to escalate rapidly. Persons of colour have a hell of a lot of other stuff to give a shit about
That's true to a degree, but it does exist in overt and insidious ways. I find middle class polite racism the worst."Wow I know exactly what you mean. Especially been born here. It’s like they say it with a smile and think you don’t understand it’s so patronising and rude | |||
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"Is it not that people are just looking to be offended nowadays? The world isn’t always nice. Suck it up and move on. That's easy to say if you don't get daily shit or have opportunities blocked just because of the colour of your skin. It's not something you can change or hide." I honestly didn’t know this attitude existed with black people in the UK.... I’ll tell you what my father told me when I told him I didn’t think I could accomplish something because I was black.... Son you can’t change the fact that you’re black... but the only way you can ever accomplish anything in life is to be the best. If you’re are the number 1 brain surgeon in the world and a racist person needs brain surgery... they will ask for the best brain surgeon not the best white brain surgeon... work twice or three times as hard as everyone else and never use your color as a excuse to fail.... Remember a white man will never steal your alarm clock... Repeat this to yourself every time you feel your color is holding you back.... Btw... I have 3 degrees , sit on the board of 2 publicly traded (fortune 500)companies, and I’m BLACK... | |||
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"There's having a preference and how you articulate that preference. People are not always attracted to everybody as casual sexual partners. If you (for whatever reason) only find people that closely resemble your own genetic stock attractive, so be it. The reasons may or may not be racist. But if you explain in a way that is construed as racist, that is where the trouble start. So now we have to express our preferences in a way other people would like?" Not to do with race, but I saw a profile that stated "no oompah loompahs ta, only people who take pride in themselves". I've also seen profiles stating "I love bbws, real women, no skinny minnie or rakes please, jog on". I would avoid both profiles as I prefer to meet people with the ability to express a preference without insulting those they're not interested in. That said, I think some people get offended regardless of how it's worded because it excludes them. | |||
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"I'm only an occasional visitor to the UK, but I have noticed this - white British people seem to go searching for racism where little or none exists. This often just makes mountains out of molehills which tend to escalate rapidly. Persons of colour have a hell of a lot of other stuff to give a shit about "Racism has been hidden for years. Recent events have emboldened some and they feel free to express their views, but it's nothing we didn't know anyway. "I'm shocked!" said no black person ever. Do we really care? No, as you said, we have bigger fish to fry. | |||
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"Is it not that people are just looking to be offended nowadays? The world isn’t always nice. Suck it up and move on. That's easy to say if you don't get daily shit or have opportunities blocked just because of the colour of your skin. It's not something you can change or hide. I honestly didn’t know this attitude existed with black people in the UK.... I’ll tell you what my father told me when I told him I didn’t think I could accomplish something because I was black.... Son you can’t change the fact that you’re black... but the only way you can ever accomplish anything in life is to be the best. If you’re are the number 1 brain surgeon in the world and a racist person needs brain surgery... they will ask for the best brain surgeon not the best white brain surgeon... work twice or three times as hard as everyone else and never use your color as a excuse to fail.... Remember a white man will never steal your alarm clock... Repeat this to yourself every time you feel your color is holding you back.... Btw... I have 3 degrees , sit on the board of 2 publicly traded (fortune 500)companies, and I’m BLACK..." You were lucky to have such a supportive parents. Mine thought white people knew best and their life ambitions were humble: work and own their own home. My sisters and I wanted more. We did well at school, getting good cse's but when I applied for jobs I was told I needed O levels, so I went and got them to be told I needed A levels. No problem, got A levels to be told I needed a degree...okie dokie I go and get a degree. Try again, ah, you're a mum, already have one mum can't employ two as you'll be off with a sick kid. I'm far too stubborn to give up and obstacles put I my way just strengthened my resolve. I eventually got a job that enabled me to grow and be fulfilled. When I sat in meetings with members of the royal family, politicians etc I used to smile to myself and thank those who inadvertently help me reach my goals. I did feel sad when my dad visited my home for the first time and said "I never thought coloured could own a house like this!" He said that in 2002...I don't live in a Georgian coach house in Berkshire but a semi in south London. | |||
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"Racism is rife on here. Especially where people can hide behind their keyboards. I met a lovely Indian guy off here. Displayed his verification and 3 different guys messaged to say how disappointed they were (lots of racist language used that I don't wish to repeat). 2 of the guys were actually on my Friend's List. Absolutely vile behaviour and blocked now. I've had many similar messages in the past when I've displayed other verifications. It's very sad I've had this too. Dickheads. On the plus side, it filters out the gobshites " Exactly. I'd rather know their views before meeting them, so I don't have to. | |||
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"Is it not that people are just looking to be offended nowadays? The world isn’t always nice. Suck it up and move on. That's easy to say if you don't get daily shit or have opportunities blocked just because of the colour of your skin. It's not something you can change or hide. I honestly didn’t know this attitude existed with black people in the UK.... I’ll tell you what my father told me when I told him I didn’t think I could accomplish something because I was black.... Son you can’t change the fact that you’re black... but the only way you can ever accomplish anything in life is to be the best. If you’re are the number 1 brain surgeon in the world and a racist person needs brain surgery... they will ask for the best brain surgeon not the best white brain surgeon... work twice or three times as hard as everyone else and never use your color as a excuse to fail.... Remember a white man will never steal your alarm clock... Repeat this to yourself every time you feel your color is holding you back.... Btw... I have 3 degrees , sit on the board of 2 publicly traded (fortune 500)companies, and I’m BLACK... You were lucky to have such a supportive parents. Mine thought white people knew best and their life ambitions were humble: work and own their own home. My sisters and I wanted more. We did well at school, getting good cse's but when I applied for jobs I was told I needed O levels, so I went and got them to be told I needed A levels. No problem, got A levels to be told I needed a degree...okie dokie I go and get a degree. Try again, ah, you're a mum, already have one mum can't employ two as you'll be off with a sick kid. I'm far too stubborn to give up and obstacles put I my way just strengthened my resolve. I eventually got a job that enabled me to grow and be fulfilled. When I sat in meetings with members of the royal family, politicians etc I used to smile to myself and thank those who inadvertently help me reach my goals. I did feel sad when my dad visited my home for the first time and said "I never thought coloured could own a house like this!" He said that in 2002...I don't live in a Georgian coach house in Berkshire but a semi in south London. " Isn't that one of the best ways of dealing with any form of bigotry, not letting be or seeing yourself as a victim.
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"What are people thoughts on racist on fab.Dont worry they have been reported. We all still have hearts and breath the same air and colour shouldnt matter " I have never understood racism. This will sound cheesy but I don't see colour, i see personalities. When it comes to physical attraction people might hsve a preference for white people, just as spme have a preference for Jack or mixed race people. If i don't someone attractive, i find them attractive and colour has nothing to do with it. Colour doesn't dictate your personslity. It boggles me that racism still exists in 2019, but sadly I think it always will to some extent | |||
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"What are people thoughts on racist on fab.Dont worry they have been reported. We all still have hearts and breath the same air and colour shouldnt matter I have never understood racism. This will sound cheesy but I don't see colour, i see personalities. When it comes to physical attraction people might hsve a preference for white people, just as spme have a preference for Jack or mixed race people. If i don't someone attractive, i find them attractive and colour has nothing to do with it. Colour doesn't dictate your personslity. It boggles me that racism still exists in 2019, but sadly I think it always will to some extent " I concur It will exist. What I’ve also experienced overseas is how people pronounce their thoughts and feelings towards it. A lot of people are good at sugar coating it or sharing a subtle opinion that makes them look like they’re not until you begin to ask certain questions or share thoughts. You then see traits of their true being. Is it sad? It is what it is. Of course, until a certain extent if someone is overly reacting about it. Something should be said. | |||
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"Is it not that people are just looking to be offended nowadays? The world isn’t always nice. Suck it up and move on. That's easy to say if you don't get daily shit or have opportunities blocked just because of the colour of your skin. It's not something you can change or hide. I honestly didn’t know this attitude existed with black people in the UK.... I’ll tell you what my father told me when I told him I didn’t think I could accomplish something because I was black.... Son you can’t change the fact that you’re black... but the only way you can ever accomplish anything in life is to be the best. If you’re are the number 1 brain surgeon in the world and a racist person needs brain surgery... they will ask for the best brain surgeon not the best white brain surgeon... work twice or three times as hard as everyone else and never use your color as a excuse to fail.... Remember a white man will never steal your alarm clock... Repeat this to yourself every time you feel your color is holding you back.... Btw... I have 3 degrees , sit on the board of 2 publicly traded (fortune 500)companies, and I’m BLACK... You were lucky to have such a supportive parents. Mine thought white people knew best and their life ambitions were humble: work and own their own home. My sisters and I wanted more. We did well at school, getting good cse's but when I applied for jobs I was told I needed O levels, so I went and got them to be told I needed A levels. No problem, got A levels to be told I needed a degree...okie dokie I go and get a degree. Try again, ah, you're a mum, already have one mum can't employ two as you'll be off with a sick kid. I'm far too stubborn to give up and obstacles put I my way just strengthened my resolve. I eventually got a job that enabled me to grow and be fulfilled. When I sat in meetings with members of the royal family, politicians etc I used to smile to myself and thank those who inadvertently help me reach my goals. I did feel sad when my dad visited my home for the first time and said "I never thought coloured could own a house like this!" He said that in 2002...I don't live in a Georgian coach house in Berkshire but a semi in south London. " Your parents are Jamaician like mine..... Funny story... when I became successful... I joined a country club and invited my mother for dinner... she said omg Rudeboycane this place is nice but we don’t belong here... I feel like my ass will peel sitting on this chair... lol | |||
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"What we found that people are not racists, it's more about keeping company of like minded people. Every society has a certain way of talking,behaving or dealing with everyday situations. They have a their own lifestyle and approach towards things. They also look differently towards other cultures with their pre concieved thoughts ,they may have acquired from reading ,watching movies or visiting them countries. That means if someone doesn't like others then it's the no because of their colour but because of all these things they already have about them in their mind . We call it ignorance or prejudice (harsh) And such things happen all around the world between different cultures. The person who is affluent can use his power to discriminate others, what we call it as racism. " I'm sorry I don't believe that ignorant people are just that and as a society we are becoming more and more insular ,the ability to interact with different cultures is being pushed further and further apart even though integration is being forced upon us ,some races or groups of people deliberately stay just that wherever they live in the world ,they remain little countries within a country ,we all do it even the brits. Those people who transcend these barriers are in a minority ,I take people as I find them good people always shine through . | |||
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"I think people just don’t realise what they are doing is racist on fab Here’s a little thought magine going to a sex club, and how about seeing a couple walking about with big badges on saying no blacks or browns what would you really think? " Well said!! Peanuts in hand. | |||
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"I think people just don’t realise what they are doing is racist on fab Here’s a little thought magine going to a sex club, and how about seeing a couple walking about with big badges on saying no blacks or browns what would you really think? " lol yes but that would never happen the typed word it seems is unaccountable meeting someone in person is a totally different scenario | |||
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"What we found that people are not racists, it's more about keeping company of like minded people. Every society has a certain way of talking,behaving or dealing with everyday situations. They have a their own lifestyle and approach towards things. They also look differently towards other cultures with their pre concieved thoughts ,they may have acquired from reading ,watching movies or visiting them countries. That means if someone doesn't like others then it's the no because of their colour but because of all these things they already have about them in their mind . We call it ignorance or prejudice (harsh) And such things happen all around the world between different cultures. The person who is affluent can use his power to discriminate others, what we call it as racism. I'm sorry I don't believe that ignorant people are just that and as a society we are becoming more and more insular ,the ability to interact with different cultures is being pushed further and further apart even though integration is being forced upon us ,some races or groups of people deliberately stay just that wherever they live in the world ,they remain little countries within a country ,we all do it even the brits. Those people who transcend these barriers are in a minority ,I take people as I find them good people always shine through ." Ignorance meaning having loads of prenotions, or rather not trying to know about other person's way of life or the way they were brought up. Ignorance is not being rude at all | |||
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"What we found that people are not racists, it's more about keeping company of like minded people. Every society has a certain way of talking,behaving or dealing with everyday situations. They have a their own lifestyle and approach towards things. They also look differently towards other cultures with their pre concieved thoughts ,they may have acquired from reading ,watching movies or visiting them countries. That means if someone doesn't like others then it's the no because of their colour but because of all these things they already have about them in their mind . We call it ignorance or prejudice (harsh) And such things happen all around the world between different cultures. The person who is affluent can use his power to discriminate others, what we call it as racism. I'm sorry I don't believe that ignorant people are just that and as a society we are becoming more and more insular ,the ability to interact with different cultures is being pushed further and further apart even though integration is being forced upon us ,some races or groups of people deliberately stay just that wherever they live in the world ,they remain little countries within a country ,we all do it even the brits. Those people who transcend these barriers are in a minority ,I take people as I find them good people always shine through . Ignorance meaning having loads of prenotions, or rather not trying to know about other person's way of life or the way they were brought up. Ignorance is not being rude at all" no I don't think people have preconceptions about people when meeting face to face ,that's all about how you are approached ,most people I think would be polite ,in this world the cyber world it's easy to write something on your profile ,you're not accountable for it and if someone takes you to task then the messages are deleted and the people blocked ,it's a filter lol | |||
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"Is it not that people are just looking to be offended nowadays? The world isn’t always nice. Suck it up and move on. That's easy to say if you don't get daily shit or have opportunities blocked just because of the colour of your skin. It's not something you can change or hide. I honestly didn’t know this attitude existed with black people in the UK.... I’ll tell you what my father told me when I told him I didn’t think I could accomplish something because I was black.... Son you can’t change the fact that you’re black... but the only way you can ever accomplish anything in life is to be the best. If you’re are the number 1 brain surgeon in the world and a racist person needs brain surgery... they will ask for the best brain surgeon not the best white brain surgeon... work twice or three times as hard as everyone else and never use your color as a excuse to fail.... Remember a white man will never steal your alarm clock... Repeat this to yourself every time you feel your color is holding you back.... Btw... I have 3 degrees , sit on the board of 2 publicly traded (fortune 500)companies, and I’m BLACK... You were lucky to have such a supportive parents. Mine thought white people knew best and their life ambitions were humble: work and own their own home. My sisters and I wanted more. We did well at school, getting good cse's but when I applied for jobs I was told I needed O levels, so I went and got them to be told I needed A levels. No problem, got A levels to be told I needed a degree...okie dokie I go and get a degree. Try again, ah, you're a mum, already have one mum can't employ two as you'll be off with a sick kid. I'm far too stubborn to give up and obstacles put I my way just strengthened my resolve. I eventually got a job that enabled me to grow and be fulfilled. When I sat in meetings with members of the royal family, politicians etc I used to smile to myself and thank those who inadvertently help me reach my goals. I did feel sad when my dad visited my home for the first time and said "I never thought coloured could own a house like this!" He said that in 2002...I don't live in a Georgian coach house in Berkshire but a semi in south London. Isn't that one of the best ways of dealing with any form of bigotry, not letting be or seeing yourself as a victim.
Sheesh you want to see what its like being a white middle(ish) class male! (said with tongue firmly in cheek)"I get that from my white partner, and his tongue is not in his cheek! 
I agree. I didn't let anyone define me, or use bigotry as an excuse not to aim high. My children didn't know there was a glass ceiling so never limited themselves. My ex-husband and I never blamed "the man" for anything in front of the kids. They grew up knowing they could achieve anything as we and their teachers told them they could: and they did.
Between them they have bachelors, masters and a PhD and my three son-in-laws are white, Asian and Caribbean.
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"Is it not that people are just looking to be offended nowadays? The world isn’t always nice. Suck it up and move on. That's easy to say if you don't get daily shit or have opportunities blocked just because of the colour of your skin. It's not something you can change or hide. I honestly didn’t know this attitude existed with black people in the UK.... I’ll tell you what my father told me when I told him I didn’t think I could accomplish something because I was black.... Son you can’t change the fact that you’re black... but the only way you can ever accomplish anything in life is to be the best. If you’re are the number 1 brain surgeon in the world and a racist person needs brain surgery... they will ask for the best brain surgeon not the best white brain surgeon... work twice or three times as hard as everyone else and never use your color as a excuse to fail.... Remember a white man will never steal your alarm clock... Repeat this to yourself every time you feel your color is holding you back.... Btw... I have 3 degrees , sit on the board of 2 publicly traded (fortune 500)companies, and I’m BLACK... You were lucky to have such a supportive parents. Mine thought white people knew best and their life ambitions were humble: work and own their own home. My sisters and I wanted more. We did well at school, getting good cse's but when I applied for jobs I was told I needed O levels, so I went and got them to be told I needed A levels. No problem, got A levels to be told I needed a degree...okie dokie I go and get a degree. Try again, ah, you're a mum, already have one mum can't employ two as you'll be off with a sick kid. I'm far too stubborn to give up and obstacles put I my way just strengthened my resolve. I eventually got a job that enabled me to grow and be fulfilled. When I sat in meetings with members of the royal family, politicians etc I used to smile to myself and thank those who inadvertently help me reach my goals. I did feel sad when my dad visited my home for the first time and said "I never thought coloured could own a house like this!" He said that in 2002...I don't live in a Georgian coach house in Berkshire but a semi in south London. Your parents are Jamaician like mine..... Funny story... when I became successful... I joined a country club and invited my mother for dinner... she said omg Rudeboycane this place is nice but we don’t belong here... I feel like my ass will peel sitting on this chair... lol "  My parents moved up north on retirement. My aunt lived on the same road as my office. The first time my dad came to London to visit my aunt, he wore his Sunday best, plus hat and stood outside my office. He didn't want to embarrass me!
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"What we found that people are not racists, it's more about keeping company of like minded people. Every society has a certain way of talking,behaving or dealing with everyday situations. They have a their own lifestyle and approach towards things. They also look differently towards other cultures with their pre concieved thoughts ,they may have acquired from reading ,watching movies or visiting them countries. That means if someone doesn't like others then it's the no because of their colour but because of all these things they already have about them in their mind . We call it ignorance or prejudice (harsh) And such things happen all around the world between different cultures. The person who is affluent can use his power to discriminate others, what we call it as racism. " It's how you define "like minded people". I see more of my white, African etc friends than I do of my family members as I have nothing in common with them. My cousin for example, 61 years old, born in Tooting, lives in Clapham, high school education, four kids, three fathers has never seen the Thames, let alone the sea. Blood relatives: her mum, my dad brother and sister: we have nothing in common. | |||
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" No blacks means no one of any African blood at all. Really? You wouldn't sleep with one of maybe a billion people at all? Maybe you wouldn't but it's not good to see you state that fact." For me, skin tone is a major factor in finding someone attractive The darker the skin, the less likely I am to find them sexually attractive An example would be two famous black guys Idris Elba - does nothing for me at all Trevor Noah - so incredibly sexy Does that make me racist ? I don't think so, but if it fits someones agenda to think so then so be it. I am not an apologist for something I have no control over. | |||
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" No blacks means no one of any African blood at all. Really? You wouldn't sleep with one of maybe a billion people at all? Maybe you wouldn't but it's not good to see you state that fact. For me, skin tone is a major factor in finding someone attractive The darker the skin, the less likely I am to find them sexually attractive An example would be two famous black guys Idris Elba - does nothing for me at all Trevor Noah - so incredibly sexy Does that make me racist ? I don't think so, but if it fits someones agenda to think so then so be it. I am not an apologist for something I have no control over." Yes I agree with you and understand what you mean. I don't exclude the race of people as some people within each race have similar features, but all people from a race don't have all the same features. I am attracted to a persons features, skin tone/colour in all races. I have had men who have been interested in me who have previously thought from appearance that I am Asian, South American and Mediterranean. I am mixed race and I am neither of them ethnicities, so people have an attraction or no attraction to certain features within any race of people. | |||
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"There's having a preference and how you articulate that preference. People are not always attracted to everybody as casual sexual partners. If you (for whatever reason) only find people that closely resemble your own genetic stock attractive, so be it. The reasons may or may not be racist. But if you explain in a way that is construed as racist, that is where the trouble start. So now we have to express our preferences in a way other people would like?" Common sense / common decency would suggest that if there is a polite way to do things or a cuntish way to do things, go with the polite way. I don't meet couples as I don't feel confortable within the dynamic is a better than saying I'm not just a stunt cock for your entertainment. | |||
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"Been called racist many of times as we dont meet blacks ,or asians even had admin remove or profile for putting on . Nothing against asias or blacks always chat when in a club but no desire to fuck one." Reading this makes me sad.... why censor someone for having a preference? | |||
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"I'm only an occasional visitor to the UK, but I have noticed this - white British people seem to go searching for racism where little or none exists. This often just makes mountains out of molehills which tend to escalate rapidly. Persons of colour have a hell of a lot of other stuff to give a shit about
That's true to a degree, but it does exist in overt and insidious ways. I find middle class polite racism the worst."Pointing the finger at any section of society, whatever angle it comes from is wrong..... | |||
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"I’m sure it’s not personal and there are just as many white people they won’t meet either. It’s not like they are saying no blacks and then sleeping with a tramp behind the back of Woolworths just because they are white. It’s just eliminating people to find their perfect meet. " Thank you. | |||
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"Been called racist many of times as we dont meet blacks ,or asians even had admin remove or profile for putting on . Nothing against asias or blacks always chat when in a club but no desire to fuck one." I have been called racist. Last time I checked in the mirror my skin was very pale. | |||
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"Shame a topic like racism is joked about in this thread. Referencing an entire race as ‘one’ or ‘them’ The problem is people see a colour before they see the person. I never focus on someones colour i see the person first. But so many people have been brought up to label people as a certain colour it becomes difficult for some to see the person within. I have preferences but theres no reason i need to block or be rude to an entire race or body type. I find the person attractive & dont focus on anything else. " And you've just done the same. Your comment on People see a colour assumption, but of course YOU don't, has assumed everyone has a problem with colour by your own words. So which is it, is it everyone or not ? And if not, because You don't, then your comment has no validity. | |||
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"A person should be judged on their merits and faults and not by the colour of their skin. End of.
Wonderful and correct in the workplace etc, but sexual attraction is another thing entirely.
Thankfully, we don't have to adhere to diversity monitoring when it comes to sexual partners...yet!" | |||
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"I'm only an occasional visitor to the UK, but I have noticed this - white British people seem to go searching for racism where little or none exists. This often just makes mountains out of molehills which tend to escalate rapidly. Persons of colour have a hell of a lot of other stuff to give a shit about
That's true to a degree, but it does exist in overt and insidious ways. I find middle class polite racism the worst."We feel that the worst type is assumed racism. For example, you may reject someone's advances on here because they're too far away, too old for you, too young for you, you don't find them attractive etc. But the person being declined tells you that you're obviously racist or you wouldn't have said no. | |||
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"Is it not that people are just looking to be offended nowadays? The world isn’t always nice. Suck it up and move on. That's easy to say if you don't get daily shit or have opportunities blocked just because of the colour of your skin. It's not something you can change or hide. I honestly didn’t know this attitude existed with black people in the UK.... I’ll tell you what my father told me when I told him I didn’t think I could accomplish something because I was black.... Son you can’t change the fact that you’re black... but the only way you can ever accomplish anything in life is to be the best. If you’re are the number 1 brain surgeon in the world and a racist person needs brain surgery... they will ask for the best brain surgeon not the best white brain surgeon... work twice or three times as hard as everyone else and never use your color as a excuse to fail.... Remember a white man will never steal your alarm clock... Repeat this to yourself every time you feel your color is holding you back.... Btw... I have 3 degrees , sit on the board of 2 publicly traded (fortune 500)companies, and I’m BLACK..." Well done sir | |||
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"What we found that people are not racists, it's more about keeping company of like minded people. Every society has a certain way of talking,behaving or dealing with everyday situations. They have a their own lifestyle and approach towards things. They also look differently towards other cultures with their pre concieved thoughts ,they may have acquired from reading ,watching movies or visiting them countries. That means if someone doesn't like others then it's the no because of their colour but because of all these things they already have about them in their mind . We call it ignorance or prejudice (harsh) And such things happen all around the world between different cultures. The person who is affluent can use his power to discriminate others, what we call it as racism. " Very true | |||
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"Racism is disgusting A lot more people are closet racists than admit to it. You only have to look at politics right now with the brexit debarcle. Most of that is racism based " That is so true but most peoples eyes are open but they still cannot see | |||
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"I have seen profiles by white women or white couples saying bbc only, so are these white people being racist by excluding everyone of their own race?" No because a lot of the women have white husbands or partners. There has been a thread on it. On any case you can't have it both ways. Using your example all the white women who say "no blacks" are racist. Also then where do you put the black women who have white husbands but don't meet blacks (which is a more accurate comparator). Unless you want to get into the psychology of choices (as I believe the reasons why white women choose black guys are different and not equivalent to the reasons why white women choose only white guys) it is best in terms of swinging to leave it as a matter of preference, and move on to arguing about Brexit! | |||
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"I have seen profiles by white women or white couples saying bbc only, so are these white people being racist by excluding everyone of their own race? No because a lot of the women have white husbands or partners. There has been a thread on it. On any case you can't have it both ways. Using your example all the white women who say "no blacks" are racist. Also then where do you put the black women who have white husbands but don't meet blacks (which is a more accurate comparator). Unless you want to get into the psychology of choices (as I believe the reasons why white women choose black guys are different and not equivalent to the reasons why white women choose only white guys) it is best in terms of swinging to leave it as a matter of preference, and move on to arguing about Brexit!" Thank you , you see things the way i do its just people seem to be constantly looking for something to be offended by. | |||
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"I was called damaged goods last week by someone as I have a black fab friend. I understand from his status he had been kicked off the forums for similar comments. That is racist, knowing who you want to play with and who you don’t is preference, just better expressed with tact. " I was chatting online with a chap for a good year, never met but was enjoying being friends I got a mixed race boyfriend and he said I was a fucking stupid bitch quite angrily then deleted me | |||
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