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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull

Do you think you can be to polite and none pushy on fab ?

Do You find yourself talking to someone and loving it but you don't know whether they just enjoy chatting to you or if they're waiting for you to ask if they'd like to meet ?

I'm thinking the worse that can happen is they say no, but what are your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice and polite is for me! Cocky and pushy and it's the delete button x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ask.

They say no.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m polite, there are some lovely men here who I would never force myself on even if I enjoyed chatting with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polite. Respectful. Always the best approach. Would people chat for long on here if not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think the result would be any different for me if I was more forward. I’d just get more rejections.

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"Polite. Respectful. Always the best approach. Would people chat for long on here if not interested?"

I think so, I've chatted to a few people for years on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like polite

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes i do think people on here can be to polite and its got nothing to do with being pushing its the fact they are prepared to put up with shit so as not to cause offense

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

plus i dont think asking someone if they want to meet is being pushy.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I’m not interested in rude people or people that require me to be rude to be considered attractive.

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By *oungcoup69Couple
over a year ago

hidden garden

We are always polite and non pushy. We want to meet someone who is the same! Unfortunately we usually speak to someone for a few messages and then no more chatting

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"We are always polite and non pushy. We want to meet someone who is the same! Unfortunately we usually speak to someone for a few messages and then no more chatting "

Great attitude, I love chatting but probably to much !!

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

I would say that you can't be too polite but you do sometimes see people get trodden on when they're polite so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Polite. Respectful. Always the best approach. Would people chat for long on here if not interested?

I think so, I've chatted to a few people for years on here.

"

Ok that is good to know. Thank you!

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

I'm always polite and respectful both in real world and on fab and would love to chat more with people here and get to know them but sadly just don't always have the free time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As anyone actually replied to fancy a fuck and said yes??

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like to think I treat others how I want to be treated. I try to be polite and respectful but have no issues telling someone if they've overstepped or gone too far x

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"As anyone actually replied to fancy a fuck and said yes??"

I asked that a few times when I got FAF messages, got blocked so I'm none the wiser x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As anyone actually replied to fancy a fuck and said yes??"

I should actually try that! Cannot be any worse.

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own


"As anyone actually replied to fancy a fuck and said yes??"

Never sent nor received one so pass

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Apart from "can I ask you a question" or "can I have some of your time" type first messages (don't waffle, get closer to the point), no, not before a social.

After a social, yes. If it's gone well, do ask when you want to see the other person again, etc. Rather than just... waiting, or dropping off contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As anyone actually replied to fancy a fuck and said yes??"

Yes, we were fucking 10 minutes later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also always polite and respective whether it be here or outside of Fab. I can be straightforward if I feel the situation calls for it, such as ladies profiles that ask for men to be straightforward and to be "a man" about showing them you are interested. I take from this that they don't want to beat around the bush(pardon the pun) so if I'm interested I'll tell then and tell them why in my initial message.

I don't think it's disrespectful to ask a lady if she wants to fuck if that's what her profile says she came to the site for. Other profiles mention having not joined to make friends so, again, I think straightforward would be the key there. Straightforward doesn't have to mean cheeky or disrespectful in any way if worded correctly.

The only time I wonder am I being too polite is on the forums, I worry that people think I'm acting sickly sweet or that I'm just acting full stop. I'm not though, I was just raised well

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

You can never be to polite can you? You have to go with what you feel is right, yes it's much harder to read the situation behind a computer it's much easier when in person with body language and eye contact.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"Do you think you can be to polite and none pushy on fab ?

Do You find yourself talking to someone and loving it but you don't know whether they just enjoy chatting to you or if they're waiting for you to ask if they'd like to meet ?

I'm thinking the worse that can happen is they say no, but what are your thoughts.

"

Sure many people are and they do well from it.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Nooooo. Polite none pushy men on Fab will never catch on. Lol.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

For a first message, I like somewhere less polite/ timid than "can I ask you a question?" (which is not so much timid as boring) but more polite than "fancy a fuck", and way more polite than "You're coming to mine to x my y, oh baby I'm gonna make you squirt everywhere".

Bit of small talk, bit of why you're talking to me, and yes I'm here to get laid, but massively forward from a stranger is not appealing.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Speak to people how I'd like to be spoken to and if the conversation is going well and feel it's right ask if they would like to meet if they haven't already asked. No need to be pushy at all.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Speak to people like they were sat in front of you having a drink. Would your first message in real life be showing them your dick from multiple angles and telling them exactly how you are going to ruin them?

No?

Don't do it on here then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always answer politely when entering a conversation. Sadly a lot of people on here can’t distinguish between polite conversations and a come on before spoiling it

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Do you think you can be to polite and none pushy on fab ?

Do You find yourself talking to someone and loving it but you don't know whether they just enjoy chatting to you or if they're waiting for you to ask if they'd like to meet ?

I'm thinking the worse that can happen is they say no, but what are your thoughts.

"

We're always polite, friendly and pleasant..

Cal

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Speak to people like they were sat in front of you having a drink. Would your first message in real life be showing them your dick from multiple angles and telling them exactly how you are going to ruin them?

No?

Don't do it on here then."

I think it's somewhere between that and applying for a (sexual) job tbh. The latter isn't necessary per se, but you've got to have something to make you stand out. Being in front of me will work in a pub. Won't on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, a first message should be natural, direct, friendly but not trying too obviously hard.

I enjoy humour, honesty and gentle flirtation, all without forgetting that good manners cost nothing

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