FabSwingers.com forum: Hotel meet protocol

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is the protocol for social/hotel meets? If things go well and it leads back to the hotel room...how do you ask them to leave in the nicest possible way when its time to sleep? Shake hands and say thanks for great/shit night???? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im normally being the one gotten rid off, just start making busy gestures I guess, get dressed, make rumblings about having to get food from the bar that will be shut soon. Hand them their clothes, start looking at your watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im normally being the one gotten rid off, just start making busy gestures I guess, get dressed, make rumblings about having to get food from the bar that will be shut soon. Hand them their clothes, start looking at your watch

I'd be asking you to stay

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Surely shake hands after sex is a bit too formal

Just Shake his knob and say good night much cuter

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Establish a leaving point before you get to that stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Thanks for that now sling yer hook'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be asking you to stay

I hog the bed I think and steal all the covers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am too open with people

When I used to meet regularly, if they looked like they were overstaying their welcome, I'd make them aware it was their time to leave

Subtlety isn't my strong suit

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

"What is the protocol for social/hotel meets? If things go well and it leads back to the hotel room...how do you ask them to leave in the nicest possible way when its time to sleep? Shake hands and say thanks for great/shit night???? Lol "

Kiss you on the cheek, pat you on the bum and send you on your way.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Establish a leaving point before you get to that stage."

Are you an Air Stewerdess

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I think I am too open with people

When I used to meet regularly, if they looked like they were overstaying their welcome, I'd make them aware it was their time to leave

Subtlety isn't my strong suit

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Establish a leaving point before you get to that stage.

Are you an Air Stewerdess

the very idea makes me chuckle

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Establish a leaving point before you get to that stage."

This. As there is nothing worse than snuggling up after sex, chatting away and then them asking when you’re leaving - kills any good sex buzz!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I always take a life jacket and oxygen mask to hotel meets, in case of emergency

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick the kettle on on your way out please. Thanks

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Slyly activitie the fire alarm then hold the door open shouting ‘save yourself’, wait for them to rush out of the door, chuck anything they left in the room out into the corridor and close and lock the door behind them not forgetting to hang the do not disturb sign on the handle first.

Works for me

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I think I am too open with people

When I used to meet regularly, if they looked like they were overstaying their welcome, I'd make them aware it was their time to leave

Subtlety isn't my strong suit

I had a lady who came to stop with me from the south coast, allegedly for a couple of nights, she ended up staying for 5.

The sex was better than her company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely shake hands after sex is a bit too formal

Just Shake his knob and say good night much cuter "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually ask how long he wants me to stay, but in your situation I would say thanks for the lovely time, now we need to sleep and you need to go. If you have no intention of having them stay all night you should say beforehand and if they are using public transport they can leave before the last bus or train.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to the bathroom dragging your clothes by your feet, get dressed, open the bedroom door and close simultaneously with the bathroom door....nobody will be the wiser...make sure you get all your stuff though, going back a bit embarrassing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re going to arrange a hotel meet, surely you’re looking to spend the night or two isn’t it?

The only other time I’d meet someone in a hotel is if they were visiting or had some business in London. Even then, from the outset of our conversation you’d kind of set the tone if you’re/they’re staying over.

I do love a hotel meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I am too open with people

When I used to meet regularly, if they looked like they were overstaying their welcome, I'd make them aware it was their time to leave

Subtlety isn't my strong suit

That sounded awful didn't it?

I guess what I meant is that I wouldn't patronise meets with 'excuses' and gestures

I just don't think ending a meet needs to be awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sounds rather clinical but actually a fair point. I'd say there are certain things you'd wanna discuss. Think this is when chatting and getting to know one another first is the advantage over the more spontaneous meets. Saying that, can always write it on your profile, saves time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally set time boundaries at the beginning and say when I need to be leaving/calling it a day..

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I think I am too open with people

When I used to meet regularly, if they looked like they were overstaying their welcome, I'd make them aware it was their time to leave

Subtlety isn't my strong suit

That sounded awful didn't it?

I guess what I meant is that I wouldn't patronise meets with 'excuses' and gestures

I just don't think ending a meet needs to be awkward "

Right get out......that's sooooo not awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually say something like I need to be up early etc and get ready to leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

High five, say I’m just going for a number two and the dive out the bathroom window

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I am too open with people

When I used to meet regularly, if they looked like they were overstaying their welcome, I'd make them aware it was their time to leave

Subtlety isn't my strong suit

That sounded awful didn't it?

I guess what I meant is that I wouldn't patronise meets with 'excuses' and gestures

I just don't think ending a meet needs to be awkward

Right get out......that's sooooo not awkward

I never told anyone to get out

I found most got the message when I opened the door and stood in the opening tapping my foot

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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

When I’m meeting someone in a hotel I just let them know what time trains are and which one I intend to get. Truthfully it’s normally a taxi but I find it’s good for them to be able to say “grab the later one” or whatever, just means there’s no awkwardness. At least in my experience anyway

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Start shouting HELP, POLICE

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think I am too open with people

When I used to meet regularly, if they looked like they were overstaying their welcome, I'd make them aware it was their time to leave

Subtlety isn't my strong suit

That sounded awful didn't it?

I guess what I meant is that I wouldn't patronise meets with 'excuses' and gestures

I just don't think ending a meet needs to be awkward

Right get out......that's sooooo not awkward

Noted...

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

It’s something that I’d discuss in the lead up to a meet, keeps things simple if everyone knows the plan.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

In the past whenever I've had a hotel meet, sleeping over or 'where they had to be' was gently discussed or the idea floated so both knew where we stood. It saves on any awkwardness afterwards.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I usually say something like I need to be up early etc and get ready to leave "

What if I offered to cook you a (fill in the meal of your choice) on your return?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s something that I’d discuss in the lead up to a meet, keeps things simple if everyone knows the plan. "

This for me too x

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I think I am too open with people

When I used to meet regularly, if they looked like they were overstaying their welcome, I'd make them aware it was their time to leave

Subtlety isn't my strong suit

That sounded awful didn't it?

I guess what I meant is that I wouldn't patronise meets with 'excuses' and gestures

I just don't think ending a meet needs to be awkward

Right get out......that's sooooo not awkward

I never told anyone to get out

I found most got the message when I opened the door and stood in the opening tapping my foot

Lord, right vacate the premises....beds mine, great night ta ta....

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Smash the fire alarm glass

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Smash the fire alarm glass

Taking notes here,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I am too open with people

When I used to meet regularly, if they looked like they were overstaying their welcome, I'd make them aware it was their time to leave

Subtlety isn't my strong suit

That sounded awful didn't it?

I guess what I meant is that I wouldn't patronise meets with 'excuses' and gestures

I just don't think ending a meet needs to be awkward

Right get out......that's sooooo not awkward

I never told anyone to get out

I found most got the message when I opened the door and stood in the opening tapping my foot

Lord, right vacate the premises....beds mine, great night ta ta....

Tapping your watch, exhaling or whistling and rolling your eyes works for the particularly obstinate

Joking aside, I hope I never made anyone feel awkward / unwanted / used when a meet ended

OP, I think you can overthink things. 95% of meets will come to their own natural conclusion before any awkwardness is necessary.

If either of the parties is on a timescale, it should be mentioned / discussed in advance

Assuming both parties have unlimited time, mention in advance that the invite doesn't include overnight accomodation and that whilst ur happy to potentially share a bed with them for fun times, when it comes to sleepy time, you like your own space

If that dynamic changes during the meet, great, but if it doesn't, the boundaries have already been established.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mention my plans beforehand. Hotel costs are shared so I can just leave when the meet comes to a natural end.

If we were joining a couple in their hotel or house, we never aassumed it would be a sleepover. We always made our own room or travel plans.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Establish a leaving point before you get to that stage.

Are you an Air Stewerdess

the very idea makes me chuckle"

The nearest exits are here and here...

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve never had to use hotel meet etiquette lol.

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