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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I assume everything is banter unless they pm me to say different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction? "

You know I like you, no need to make a post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction? "
thats what i go by or they follow u a lot or just tell you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I assume everything is banter unless they pm me to say different"
I'm the same but then I wonder are they doing the same?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

Yeah I can't get rid of you!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction? thats what i go by or they follow u a lot or just tell you"

So that cat that follows me home really likes me? Cute!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They tell me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, you have a vagina, and you're kinda beautiful, meaning most straight men on here are thinking more than banter if you'd give them the chance....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very hard to tell the difference and have been told recently I hard to read when it comes to stuff like that. In person it's easy lol

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Tried to get your attention lots of times while you were living down here in the south but to no avail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tried to get your attention lots of times while you were living down here in the south but to no avail

Ditto!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction? "

It usually involves a cock pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

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he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They tell me."
this should happen more often!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally take the piss if I like someone.

Sometimes I'll PM them to tell them I think they're ace.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also, you have a vagina, and you're kinda beautiful, meaning most straight men on here are thinking more than banter if you'd give them the chance.... "
thanks. I didn't mean me specifically though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume everything is banter unless they pm me to say different"

This

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

And still can't FFS lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume everything is banter unless they pm me to say different I'm the same but then I wonder are they doing the same? "

I just message whoever I like the look of myself. They can then directly tell me whether they are just playing or are genuinely flirting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find it very hard to tell the difference and have been told recently I hard to read when it comes to stuff like that. In person it's easy lol"
I don't know if I'm even worse in person. My shyness turns into awkward sarcasm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also, you have a vagina, and you're kinda beautiful, meaning most straight men on here are thinking more than banter if you'd give them the chance.... thanks. I didn't mean me specifically though

Who did you mean specifically then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tried to get your attention lots of times while you were living down here in the south but to no avail

I am REALLY bad at signals

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Not really dont the guys like every woman so I'm never sure really if I'm special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume everything is banter unless they pm me to say different"

What she said

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I assume everything is banter unless they pm me to say different I'm the same but then I wonder are they doing the same? "
over the years ive seen people get butt hurt as theyve misread banter for attraction. Just take everything on the forums with a pinch of salt. If someone wants you to know they are interested they will let you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

It usually involves a cock pic

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there's a fair few admirers in my inbox then!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though. "

That's just burst my bubble lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

It usually involves a cock pic

there's a fair few admirers in my inbox then! "

Yep. It’s virgin on love.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I generally take the piss if I like someone.

Sometimes I'll PM them to tell them I think they're ace.

P"
I think I need to do this more.

I did it recently and was surprised by the more than positive response by someone super hot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I assume everything is banter unless they pm me to say different I'm the same but then I wonder are they doing the same?

I just message whoever I like the look of myself. They can then directly tell me whether they are just playing or are genuinely flirting. "
do you just tell them straight?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also, you have a vagina, and you're kinda beautiful, meaning most straight men on here are thinking more than banter if you'd give them the chance.... thanks. I didn't mean me specifically though

Who did you mean specifically then?

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the person reading!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not really dont the guys like every woman so I'm never sure really if I'm special

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that's the thing!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

There are lots of really genuine and fantastic people to get to know on here - it's just a case of being lucky enough to find them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like you Rubi, your funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume everything is banter unless they pm me to say different I'm the same but then I wonder are they doing the same?

I just message whoever I like the look of myself. They can then directly tell me whether they are just playing or are genuinely flirting. do you just tell them straight? "

Yeah, I just say it. Ie I like your profile/posts/pics and I think you're really hot.

It usually leads to something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

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I'm sorry. He's yours now. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are lots of really genuine and fantastic people to get to know on here - it's just a case of being lucky enough to find them!

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there are indeed! There are some right twats too though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

Ogmore her, I'm a keeper

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like you Rubi, your funny

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thank you! I like you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally take the piss if I like someone.

Sometimes I'll PM them to tell them I think they're ace.

P I think I need to do this more.

I did it recently and was surprised by the more than positive response by someone super hot. "

Even if they're not someone I wanna bang (and there are only 2 I can think of that I do wanna bang at the moment if I'm honest) I still think it's nice to tell people you think they're ace, as long as you really do think it.

Can make someones day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

Ogmore her, I'm a keeper

I just made a new word!!!

Ignore *

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

Ogmore her, I'm a keeper

I wanna be ogmored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

Ogmore her, I'm a keeper

I wanna be ogmored. "

I’d just like a good seeing to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I’m used to the banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like you rubi i find you very comical and quite bangable were i still doing that kind of thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I generally take the piss if I like someone.

Sometimes I'll PM them to tell them I think they're ace.

P I think I need to do this more.

I did it recently and was surprised by the more than positive response by someone super hot.

Can make someones day

I agree. There are people I chat to who I think just need to hear how awesome they are sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

Ogmore her, I'm a keeper

I wanna be ogmored.

I’d just like a good seeing to.

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oh yeah, that too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep I’m used to the banter"
and more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

Ogmore her, I'm a keeper

I wanna be ogmored.

I’d just like a good seeing to.

oh yeah, that too! "

And a cuddle after.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do like you rubi i find you very comical and quite bangable were i still doing that kind of thing

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right back at ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People need to be explicit for me to pick up on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally take the piss if I like someone.

Sometimes I'll PM them to tell them I think they're ace.

P I think I need to do this more.

I did it recently and was surprised by the more than positive response by someone super hot.

Can make someones day

I agree. There are people I chat to who I think just need to hear how awesome they are sometimes. "

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep I’m used to the banter and more? "

And more? Not sure what you are asking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

Ogmore her, I'm a keeper

I wanna be ogmored.

I’d just like a good seeing to.

oh yeah, that too!

And a cuddle after.

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then kick them out so you can starfish in the wet patch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think once you cut past the lust.. it comes down to if they fancy you enough or not. And if you have similar standards / beliefs. People have to get along to get it on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People need to be explicit for me to pick up on it "
I'm the same. I have found myself thinking I'm arranging a hypothetical meet only to find out it's real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction?

You know I like you, no need to make a post

We all love you it's because your instantly adorable and lovely without even trying

he's a pain in the arse when you get to know him though.

Ogmore her, I'm a keeper

I wanna be ogmored.

I’d just like a good seeing to.

oh yeah, that too!

And a cuddle after.

then kick them out so you can starfish in the wet patch? "

No wet patch. Safe sex only.

Starfish? Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would expect all to be a bit of banter , we all pass cheeky saucy comments , would never expect anything else

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep I’m used to the banter and more?

And more? Not sure what you are asking?"
how do you know when it's more than just banter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep I’m used to the banter and more?

And more? Not sure what you are asking? how do you know when it's more than just banter? "
it almost always is just banter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think once you cut past the lust.. it comes down to if they fancy you enough or not. And if you have similar standards / beliefs. People have to get along to get it on!"
indeed. I like the getting to know you part. Finding out if they get your sense of humour and are compatible in all ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do like you rubi i find you very comical and quite bangable were i still doing that kind of thing

right back at ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would expect all to be a bit of banter , we all pass cheeky saucy comments , would never expect anything else "
but isthat not what we are here for? Something more?

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"There are lots of really genuine and fantastic people to get to know on here - it's just a case of being lucky enough to find them!

there are indeed! There are some right twats too though

I just hope I'm never going to be thought of that way by anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People need to be explicit for me to pick up on it I'm the same. I have found myself thinking I'm arranging a hypothetical meet only to find out it's real

The problem is once we get to that point I usually get put off them!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Talking of telling people they are ace, you are pretty cool op.

Funny clever and hot and that's not banter

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are lots of really genuine and fantastic people to get to know on here - it's just a case of being lucky enough to find them!

there are indeed! There are some right twats too though

I just hope I'm never going to be thought of that way by anyone! "
just don't be one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People need to be explicit for me to pick up on it I'm the same. I have found myself thinking I'm arranging a hypothetical meet only to find out it's real

The problem is once we get to that point I usually get put off them!"
oh dear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Talking of telling people they are ace, you are pretty cool op.

Funny clever and hot and that's not banter"
thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are lots of really genuine and fantastic people to get to know on here - it's just a case of being lucky enough to find them!

there are indeed! There are some right twats too though

I just hope I'm never going to be thought of that way by anyone! just don't be one

Sometimes when you’ve spent most of your life behaving like one frequently enough, it’s a hard habit to break.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I assume everything is banter unless they pm me to say different"

That’s what I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea, we are rubbish at reading signals

You could be rubbing your fanny in my face and I’ll still be like ‘do you like me?!’

Danish x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I generally think that flirting is the grease that lubricates the forum wheels, everyone flirts with everyone else, or many do at any rate.

I find that if its by PM that shows a greater intent, if its not direct though I just see it as good natured idling. I never know if someone likes me though, not unless they're direct and blunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another thing is you can’t pass the same criteria to a potential fb on here, that you would a date in real life. This place is soo far from everyday its unreal. Don’t kid yourself it’s not.

Those 100 guys messaging you a day might not take a second glance if you were the girl in the corner of the office..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy is chatting to you on a regular basis daily then yea he’s definitely interested especially if he always messages you first and he’s quick to respond to messages you send him 100% but it’s different with women you have more control so it’s harder for us guys to pick up on that....I do shit on this site wether it’s my looks my size personality or just the pure fact I’m a single guy it’s hard lol but I’m still here and I do enjoy myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing is you can’t pass the same criteria to a potential fb on here, that you would a date in real life. This place is soo far from everyday its unreal. Don’t kid yourself it’s not.

Those 100 guys messaging you a day might not take a second glance if you were the girl in the corner of the office.."

This is why I take it all with a pinch of salt!

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I struggle to tell the difference especially when I get them viewing my profile a few times, I'm just taking it all as banter for now so if I'm not taking the hint let me know

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Banter" is crap and an awful expression.

Can I tell if it's just given out to everyone flirting or genuine? Yeah, it's normally quite obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless they actually say outright I just take it all with a pinch of salt...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh, I don’t know at all. My radar has failed so many times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle to differentiate between flurty banter, banter and genuine interest.

I often have to resort to asking people outright if they would be interested in meeting, even then I wouldn't know if it is purely social or if something more would be an option.

Despite my persona, I am no way near as confident as I portray and find myself questioning why anyone would have any interest in me sexually or otherwise. Fab probably isn't the best place for me but I enjoy the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to differentiate between flurty banter, banter and genuine interest.

I often have to resort to asking people outright if they would be interested in meeting, even then I wouldn't know if it is purely social or if something more would be an option.

Many people enjoy the forums and stay purely for that, despite the fact that they recognise that fab isn’t the place for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to differentiate between flurty banter, banter and genuine interest.

I often have to resort to asking people outright if they would be interested in meeting, even then I wouldn't know if it is purely social or if something more would be an option.

Many people enjoy the forums and stay purely for that, despite the fact that they recognise that fab isn’t the place for them

And there's the rub. I have several friends on here that I believe want to get carnal with me. There are others that I believe want to meet me as a friend. And then there are others I want to meet but I don't know if they are just being polite because I am too far away.

My low self esteem is part of the equation and I manage that as best I can. There is a long story behind that but I'm too many gins away from a coherent explanation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s much better for me to assume anything said is either flirtation or flattery or just being nice. At least then I’m less likely to embarrass myself. It’s a bit like testing a scientific hypothesis. I need overwhelming evidence disconfirming my null hypothesis, that there is no genuine interest’ for me to consider the alternative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Not even slightly. Please spell it out. You know, if you do like me...

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Another thing is you can’t pass the same criteria to a potential fb on here, that you would a date in real life. This place is soo far from everyday its unreal. Don’t kid yourself it’s not.

Really maybe for you it is. I'm the same on here as real life if I wouldn't meet you in real life then I'm sure not meeting you here for whatever reason.

I also treat people the same dont get that back very often though. I've had to learn what the hard way and that's why someone would have to be something extreme for me to meet again.

Those 100 guys messaging you a day might not take a second glance if you were the girl in the corner of the office.."

That's why its important to keep it real and let most of this go straight over your head. So yes maybe you're right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's banter in the forums and gets more real in private messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not too sure, I was getting flirty with two older women and said i'd be willing to travel, I don't expect people to literally sit there replying to one another for months on end till we meet but I figured I wouldn't get left on read after both parties are interested.

Not too fussed, nobody owes me anything O am just a tad confused

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Unless someone comes right out and tells me I'm not great at spotting signals of any kind - the only time I get an indication, and even then I'm not sure, is if messaging gets to a point where it flows effortlessly and without holding back on any topic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's banter in the forums and gets more real in private messages. "

Not sure what more real is. I think the vast majority of my messages are just people being nice. On the whole I don’t attract any real sexual interest.

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By *hris99Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yeah I dont pick up on the difference between attraction and banter I’m shit haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction? "

From a quick scan of your profile I'd say any nice and admiring comments were genuine as you're a very sexy looking woman. As all women are. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like you, you're just so far away it hurts to think about

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Like as in attracted to? I need to be face to face to tell unless someone actually says outright. I assume everything on line is banter

Like as in personality I usually have no idea and frequently believe I'm not someone's cup of tea until they say something that makes me realise I am.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m not great at reading the signs, what makes it worse is that most of the people I’ve messaged are so far away that the chances of meeting up and seeing if there’s an attraction are zero.

But it’s still nice to be told that someone thinks you’re awesome. We should all tell that person today

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"Like as in attracted to? I need to be face to face to tell unless someone actually says outright. I assume everything on line is banter

Like as in personality I usually have no idea and frequently believe I'm not someone's cup of tea until they say something that makes me realise I am."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing is you can’t pass the same criteria to a potential fb on here, that you would a date in real life. This place is soo far from everyday its unreal. Don’t kid yourself it’s not.

Those 100 guys messaging you a day might not take a second glance if you were the girl in the corner of the office.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be a connection of some kind otherwise it seems pointless. There's lots of people who you like but wouldn't sleep with.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Tried to get your attention lots of times while you were living down here in the south but to no avail

I am REALLY bad at signals

This.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Unless they come right out and say it I'd be none the wiser. I'm rubbish at subtleties on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I’m useless until some one just tells me out right. Not just on here in real life too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless they come right out and say it I'd be none the wiser. I'm rubbish at subtleties on here x"

Yep it definitely has to be spelt out for me as I assume no-one is really interested.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction? "

It's think it's easier for men to determine that partly because of the sheer discrepancy in numbers of men to women.

I'm good at noticing when there's genuine interest and act on it if it's mutual on my part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same thing if someone is taking the time to have banter they like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same thing if someone is taking the time to have banter they like you "
like you to chat to you or want to rip your clothes off? There are plenty who like me enough to chat to, very few or less really want to rip my clothes off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll just tell someone if I like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will pm. But as no one ever opens them, the recipient just never knows!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction? "

We never can, we’re crap like that. Mostly it’s just guys saying they like me (kitten). We come as a package so most is a none starter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction? "
no its just words which can be misinterpreted depending upon what you want them to mean eg I think you look absolutely stunning

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

On here? I never assume anyone genuinely likes me until we meet in person.

Off Fab and face to face I’m a pretty good judge.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"On here? I never assume anyone genuinely likes me until we meet in person.

Off Fab and face to face I’m a pretty good judge. "

You get that feeling one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No idea, we are rubbish at reading signals

You could be rubbing your fanny in my face and I’ll still be like ‘do you like me?!’

Danish x"

To be fair when I first met you and we were kissing for 10 minutes I still went home thinking “I wonder if she likes me”

Doughnut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless they come right out and say it I'd be none the wiser. I'm rubbish at subtleties on here x

Yep it definitely has to be spelt out for me as I assume no-one is really interested."

I have it much easier, no assumptions. No-one is interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once that winkle hits your inbox you know its lurrve

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"How do you know if someone is keen on here? Can you tell the difference between "banter" and genuine attraction? "

You obviously can't Rubbi.... I've been trying to get your attention for year - it's a one-sized list affair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the direct approach works best, I haven’t the time or inclination to fanny around trying to suss out signals on here.

If you like me tell me and vice versa...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the direct approach, as mentioned if you like me tell me, as for forums I think it’s banter until someone messages me directly then I think they’re interested whether it’s just something I’ve put, but always best to just be open and tell if you like the person

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