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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you make friends easily?

Is it harder online and do those people count as real friends?

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I have quite a few FAB friends and they are some of the sweetest people I know. Xx

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

I think its acquaintances on line friends I meet in person some progress from on line acquaintances but in reality most have come through the real world where I can take people as face value and don't have to re-asses them after the mist of on-line bullshit has cleared. Is it easy to make them? Well never thought on it but if you don't have to think about it I would say its not hard.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Fab is a parallel world of pleasure for me where making friends usually starts online.

It’s not easy for a single man, for all the reasons everyone knows.

Finding like-minded people who share my kinks and desires is a glorious reward, and getting to explore those kinks together such great fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make friends easily in the real world, but not on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make friends easily. On fab and in the real world. But i prefer to keep the circle small when it comes to confiding friendships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m friendly but I have a small circle of trusted friends. I’m happy to expand it when I click with people though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have some great friends on here and in real life. Only a small amount know lots about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shit at it but I put it down to social anxiety as I think I'm an alright chap, generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while.

Sorry. Do I know you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while.

Sorry. Do I know you?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while.

Sorry. Do I know you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not easily.

Those that I do I trust with my heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make friends easy enough in real life, on here it's a lot harder to put yourself across. Plus a lot of the people on here are either here for meets only or will only talk to a particular sex or type. Those I have made friends with on here have come about from posting on the forums and they are lovely people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you make friends easily?

Is it harder online and do those people count as real friends? "

It’s easy to make friends online but they are more acquaintances really.

On here if I make someone a friend I prefer to meet them in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not much of a socializer, so don't make friends easily in reality.

I have chatted with some lovely people online, but I can't they are good friends, because I never hear from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very difficult to find friends in real life, it took me three years almost to find friends in Harlow when I moved, I started a job in a bakery and found my ‘kind’ of weirdos and then three weeks later I moved, it felt bittersweet really.

I do have some friends from when I was with my ex husband but I see them so rarely now.

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make friends easily. On fab and in the real world. But i prefer to keep the circle small when it comes to confiding friendships

I’m the same as you. Very small group of close friends but I can make friends with a random on the street if I wanted to. I’m a talker.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im very lucky in real life i make friends very easy. On here ive made a few close friends but i tend to keep my distance somewhat from most. Ive lived in the same small towm for over 40 years and everyone knows you i love it. My inner circle of friends we have been friends for over 30 years now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very difficult to make friends and sadly can't say i have any either online or in real life.

Its quite distressing at times

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I real life.

I have a small group of friends, and 2 people who've known me 20yrs that I'd class has best friends - but none know everything about me, they only know versions of me.

The best friends I've ever had, I've met on here.

A bunch of crazy folks, I have no secrets from, who I can be totaly 100% myself with & they accept me exactly as I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you make friends easily?

Is it harder online and do those people count as real friends? "

You're actually one of my best friends ever, I know you don't believe me but that is true

I'm make friends and enemies with equal ease......

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"I'm shit at it but I put it down to social anxiety as I think I'm an alright chap, generally."

Lol I am very surprised by you saying you suffer from anxiety...

Thought you are a very friendly chatty man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find making friends quite difficult. I'm a quiet person, so might come across as unapproachable, but if people want to chat I'm very friendly. I have plenty of acquaintances but it's the moving from acquaintance to friend that I struggle with. I have aspergers and need a lot of alone time to unwind and recharge. I get 'peopled out' and some people have taken that to mean I don't like them as much as they like me, which is crap. I love socialising, I just can't do it as much as others.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't make friends easily but once I do I'm difficult to shake off

For me on line friends are different and unless we've met and formed an "in person" relationship I don't feel the same loyalty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you make friends easily?

Is it harder online and do those people count as real friends? "

I do but I like the friends that I have so I tend not be more than just friendly

I wouldn't class online friends as real friends no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking love Jennifer Aniston.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm shit at it but I put it down to social anxiety as I think I'm an alright chap, generally.

Lol I am very surprised by you saying you suffer from anxiety...

Thought you are a very friendly chatty man!"

Thank you. It's much easier on here isn't it. Plenty of time to come up with a reply, and if I make a dick of myself I can just log out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive quite a few and on here too. Always looking for some more though, especially on here!

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

"I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while.

Sorry. Do I know you?

I once had a friend on here but cheeky pinched him and now she's keeping my friend Alan all to herself pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get on well with people but I wouldn't say I take on friends easily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get on well with people but I wouldn't say I take on friends easily "

Why didn't I choose this sentence instead of the rambling spiel that posted further up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while.

Sorry. Do I know you?

I once had a friend on here but cheeky pinched him and now she's keeping my friend Alan all to herself pmsl "

Alan wants my chocolate box and Digger my other friend can’t have it now, as it’s got a crack in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have any problems making friends in real life and dont really have any desire to have internet friends.

Im generally quite happy doing my thing and being on my own

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Same for me I get on well with people, I'm pretty sociable.

It's harder to get a true feel for people on line for me.

Friendship takes time and I can count my true friends on one hand, those that know the real me and accept me for my flaws as well as the good bits.

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

"I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while.

Sorry. Do I know you?

I once had a friend on here but cheeky pinched him and now she's keeping my friend Alan all to herself pmsl

Alan wants my chocolate box and Digger my other friend can’t have it now, as it’s got a crack in it

Alan cracked your chocolate box no get the sellotape out it will make it all better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while.

Sorry. Do I know you?

I once had a friend on here but cheeky pinched him and now she's keeping my friend Alan all to herself pmsl

Alan wants my chocolate box and Digger my other friend can’t have it now, as it’s got a crack in it

Alan cracked your chocolate box no get the sellotape out it will make it all better

Is that a Diggers eye as your avatar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've loads spread about via Facebook and mostly Volkswagen club members, but in the real world I dont see anyone now. That's because I moved away from essex to the Midlands

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I like talking to people. A lot. And socialising.

But I don't actually have that many good, close friends. Just a lot of casual "hi, bye" friends.

I don't really differentiate between friends made on here or in RL. The ones from here are more likely to have a holistic opinion of me and I like having that openness.

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

"I make friends easily. I have about 4 people on here I would now call true friends. That’s over a long time though and knowing them for a while.

Sorry. Do I know you?

I once had a friend on here but cheeky pinched him and now she's keeping my friend Alan all to herself pmsl

Alan wants my chocolate box and Digger my other friend can’t have it now, as it’s got a crack in it

Alan cracked your chocolate box no get the sellotape out it will make it all better

Is that a Diggers eye as your avatar

No diggers eye is a japs eye a little more slanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relatively..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more particular about my friends than the men I have sex with.

I stopped going out with my group of friends because they started to bore me.

My childhood friend I lost in my early 30s, because my ex husband thought I was having an affair with her partner.

I'm quite sad about that as we were like sisters.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I'm quite socially awkward and introverted with people at first which can make meeting new friends harder, tie that in with 'men of a certain age' and it adds to the difficulty.

Generally I prefer the company of women too.

However, having said all of that I'm a very loyal friend. I find that good friends really are worth their weight in gold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more particular about my friends than the men I have sex with.

I stopped going out with my group of friends because they started to bore me.

My childhood friend I lost in my early 30s, because my ex husband thought I was having an affair with her partner.

I'm quite sad about that as we were like sisters."

Have you tried getting back in touch? Worth a try?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite socially awkward and introverted with people at first which can make meeting new friends harder, tie that in with 'men of a certain age' and it adds to the difficulty.

Generally I prefer the company of women too.

However, having said all of that I'm a very loyal friend. I find that good friends really are worth their weight in gold. "

I think sometimes I come across a bit rude to new people, unless there is standout reason why I am talking to them, the other night in the pub out with my old friends there was a new girl in their circle and I found it very difficult to warm to her (mind you it doesn’t help that once they find out that me and the ex husband are out together they find it weird until they realise that we are all friends, including doughnut

) but give it an hour and we were fine, doughnut was chasing her around the pub to baby shark and the puns were coming left right and centre.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could chat with a random stranger all day about anything.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I don’t make friends easily. I get very flustered and on edge especially when I really like someone. I also don’t like to feel I’m bothering people so I maybe don’t reach out as much as I should so people end up thinking I’m not interested when I really am. Low self esteem coupled with social anxiety does not help. Being on fab and in the forums has really helped me I think. I still don’t post as much as I would like to though, not yet anyway

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I only have one real friend but several acquaintances, I'm not a particularly social person and so it's unusual for me to make a connection with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have quite a few FAB friends and they are some of the sweetest people I know. Xx "

Same here xx

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m a friendly person but I wouldn’t say making real friends comes easily. A lifetime of moving around has made it difficult to form friendships at times.

I’m more comfortable in small groups so I don’t generally surround myself with people. Once I’m a friend though I am a true friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a friendly person but I wouldn’t say making real friends comes easily. A lifetime of moving around has made it difficult to form friendships at times.

I’m more comfortable in small groups so I don’t generally surround myself with people. Once I’m a friend though I am a true friend

Wanna be friends?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m a friendly person but I wouldn’t say making real friends comes easily. A lifetime of moving around has made it difficult to form friendships at times.

I’m more comfortable in small groups so I don’t generally surround myself with people. Once I’m a friend though I am a true friend

Wanna be friends? "

Go on then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you make friends easily?

Is it harder online and do those people count as real friends? "
I make friends easily yes online or in person

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

Friends.......term very loosely used I say. Either you get well respect equitte etc or just a total negative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a friendly person but I wouldn’t say making real friends comes easily. A lifetime of moving around has made it difficult to form friendships at times.

I’m more comfortable in small groups so I don’t generally surround myself with people. Once I’m a friend though I am a true friend

Wanna be friends?

Go on then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t make friends easily, I have a few close ones rather than a lot who come and go. We’ve actually met some people online through the lifestyle that we do consider true friends though.

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

Personally think the normal social way is better imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you make friends easily?

Is it harder online and do those people count as real friends? "
can I be your friend

I’m an easy guy to get along with I’m in customer services so it helps to get along with ppl....here it’s hard to make new friends especially being a single male...think it depends on the situation your in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo make friends in real life alot easier than here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a friendly person but I wouldn’t say making real friends comes easily. A lifetime of moving around has made it difficult to form friendships at times.

I’m more comfortable in small groups so I don’t generally surround myself with people. Once I’m a friend though I am a true friend

Wanna be friends?

Go on then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not good at making friend initially when I meet people but as time moves on I’m pretty good ,

As for here and trying to chat to folk I’m

Ok , if they chat back ,

On the chatting up girl side I’m not bad on this site with the chatting , but if I was going to meet them when I get there I’ll be very nervous and shy as hell ,

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

Manners don’t cost nothing sure everyone know that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a friendly person but I wouldn’t say making real friends comes easily. A lifetime of moving around has made it difficult to form friendships at times.

I’m more comfortable in small groups so I don’t generally surround myself with people. Once I’m a friend though I am a true friend

Wanna be friends?

Go on then

Baby, I said FRIENDS, you know you're my only girl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Online friends aren't real unless you meet them in real life.

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Online friends aren't real unless you meet them in real life. "

......wanna meet in real life....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Online friends aren't real unless you meet them in real life. "
They're just figments of our imaginations? Maybe I am going crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a friendly person but I wouldn’t say making real friends comes easily. A lifetime of moving around has made it difficult to form friendships at times.

I’m more comfortable in small groups so I don’t generally surround myself with people. Once I’m a friend though I am a true friend

Wanna be friends?

Go on then

Baby, I said FRIENDS, you know you're my only girl!

Am I your friend too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a friendly person but I wouldn’t say making real friends comes easily. A lifetime of moving around has made it difficult to form friendships at times.

I’m more comfortable in small groups so I don’t generally surround myself with people. Once I’m a friend though I am a true friend

Wanna be friends?

Go on then

Baby, I said FRIENDS, you know you're my only girl!

Am I your friend too

Yeah, girlfriend aka future wife xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be socially awkward and painfully shy in case people didn't like me, now I'm at a stage in my life where I realise I don't give a fuck about most people so I don't even try to be sociable, that keeps my circle of actual friends very small.

Strangely at work everyone thinks I'm incredibly friendly and chatty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Online friends aren't real unless you meet them in real life. They're just figments of our imaginations? Maybe I am going crazy

It's the definition of "friend" I am talking about. I don't believe you can be true friends unless you have met in person over a period of time. At best online "friends" are acquaintances, at worst, they could be a bot!

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I make friends easily in the real world, but not on here."

Same here.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I make acquaintances easily, I know and get along with lots of folk. But in these days of ghosting and submarining I'm cautious about really making friends with anyone online anymore. You can be chatting with someone all the time, even if you never meet, and then suddenly they're gone. Out of the blue they stop replying to texts or taking your calls, and you're just left wondering wtf did I do? At least with real world friends you don't really have that. They'll tell you if they've got stuff going on or are pissed with you about something.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Do you make friends easily?

Is it harder online and do those people count as real friends? "

I would like to think I'm a friendly type. So there for yes I do find it easy but I do like to be bit distant if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a sociable chap and mix well in most situations, but I wouldnt class anyone on here as an actual friend, but that doesnt mean we couldn't be - just not at this stage.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"Do you make friends easily?

Is it harder online and do those people count as real friends? "
i am useless at making friends. As I am not interested in football at all. That make conversation awkward. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get on well with people but I wouldn't say I take on friends easily "

Same for me.

I like my own company and find spending large amounts of time with other people draining.

Online friends suit me because I can turn them off

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I get on well with people but I wouldn't say I take on friends easily

Same for me.

I like my own company and find spending large amounts of time with other people draining.

Online friends suit me because I can turn them off

Are you running out of places to hide the bodies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 16/03/19 07:49:26]"

Oh, I wonder what she said, I bet it was good. We will never know.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"[Removed by poster at 16/03/19 07:49:26]

Oh, I wonder what she said, I bet it was good. We will never know. "

She PM’d me, it was very good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get on well with people but I wouldn't say I take on friends easily

Same for me.

I like my own company and find spending large amounts of time with other people draining.

Online friends suit me because I can turn them off

Are you running out of places to hide the bodies?

I never kill them I just bore them into a coma with my personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have many acquaintances and a handful of friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very sociable and make friends easily in real life but find I'm the opposite online so I find it difficult

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

It takes a long time for me to class anyone as a friend because of past experiences with so called friends, there's a few on here that I do find interesting but time will tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At work i do its kind of my job to befriend strangers on here i seem to do ok too

But in real life im completely unsociable i have 3 mates and a few people i say hello to on occasion who has the time but its how i like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle making any friends. I have big social anxieties, and hate being in rooms full of strangers. I become a babbling moron in situations like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At work i do its kind of my job to befriend strangers on here i seem to do ok too

But in real life im completely unsociable i have 3 mates and a few people i say hello to on occasion who has the time but its how i like it"

We're mates aint we? My real world mates piss me off too at times!

I tend to keep myself to myself mostly, I like to chill on my own and go for walks to get away from it all. I'm out and about with work so nice to just do nothing... I've moved around a lot so got 'friends' all over but lose contact.

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