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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have recently been use as a pawn in a game to make someone jealous without me realizing. I genuinely had no idea that this game was going on until it was right in front of me the other day. I was made to feel dreadful and I feel bad about it still and done nothing wrong. Just pushed aside

I dont know whether to have my say or just blank the people involved?

Can I ask what others think please? And can they be sensible as I like comedy but this genuinely hurts that much

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

Who needs drama? Block and move on. Lesson to learn from it, then dont take it personally. Some people are just arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you so much. It kind of you to reply

I seriously helped them. Its nothing to do with this site, but I am grateful for you're advice

x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Need a bit more info to offer better advice but generally if someone shits on you forget them and move on!

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

You may feel better to have a rant. That's your personal decision though. Most of the time i like to take the moral high ground and maintain my dignity. Sometimes you just wanna let someone have a piece of your mind though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you so much. It kind of you to reply

I seriously helped them. Its nothing to do with this site, but I am grateful for you're advice

x"

Nothing much you can do, so I'd pay it no attention and do a post asking for a sympathy bj instead, you be er know!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The first thing I would say is that if you have nothing to feel bad about then don't let anyone suggest that you have.

If you can have your say with dignity then walk away.

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon


"Thank you so much. It kind of you to reply

I seriously helped them. Its nothing to do with this site, but I am grateful for you're advice

x"

Ah sorry assumed it was fab related.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you to all those answered above.

All great advice. I haven't done anything wrong and shouldn't be made to feel like I have

I appreciate your time and kind words

x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thank you to all those answered above.

All great advice. I haven't done anything wrong and shouldn't be made to feel like I have

I appreciate your time and kind words

x"

Other people can only make you feel bad if you let them. If you've done nothing wrong why do you feel bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you to all those answered above.

All great advice. I haven't done anything wrong and shouldn't be made to feel like I have

I appreciate your time and kind words

x

Other people can only make you feel bad if you let them. If you've done nothing wrong why do you feel bad?"

I think it might be because he became a victim in a drama triangle. The result of such a game is the innocent rescuer becomes the victim and ends up feeling shit. Thinking ‘I was only trying to help’ or some other such phrase. The feelings are known psycholigically as ‘rackets’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you to all those answered above.

All great advice. I haven't done anything wrong and shouldn't be made to feel like I have

I appreciate your time and kind words

x

Other people can only make you feel bad if you let them. If you've done nothing wrong why do you feel bad?"

However I understand why sometimes we feel bad about being used.

I'd say try and let it go OP. Always try to see a positive as it often helps, and there is a positive to this. They obviously thought you worthy using you to make someone jealous, you obviously have what it takes in others eyes. Doesn't make it right, but few make others jealous driving around in a Lada, but if you drive a Mustang.... You get what I'm saying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd let them know in no uncertain terms myself and I'd not forgive. You don't mess with people's heads like that.

Selfish and ignorant behaviour.

*Ghengis winces with empathy*

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thank you to all those answered above.

All great advice. I haven't done anything wrong and shouldn't be made to feel like I have

I appreciate your time and kind words

x

Other people can only make you feel bad if you let them. If you've done nothing wrong why do you feel bad?

I think it might be because he became a victim in a drama triangle. The result of such a game is the innocent rescuer becomes the victim and ends up feeling shit. Thinking ‘I was only trying to help’ or some other such phrase. The feelings are known psycholigically as ‘rackets’"

Ah right, I didn't look at it that way.

Well I think anybody would feel bad about being used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Huuuuuuulk smaaaaaaaash as a rule or just ignore as i cannot be arsed normally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you so much. It kind of you to reply

I seriously helped them. Its nothing to do with this site, but I am grateful for you're advice

x

Nothing much you can do, so I'd pay it no attention and do a post asking for a sympathy bj instead, you be er know! "

Or a matrimony one OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you to all those answered above.

All great advice. I haven't done anything wrong and shouldn't be made to feel like I have

I appreciate your time and kind words

x

Other people can only make you feel bad if you let them. If you've done nothing wrong why do you feel bad?

I think it might be because he became a victim in a drama triangle. The result of such a game is the innocent rescuer becomes the victim and ends up feeling shit. Thinking ‘I was only trying to help’ or some other such phrase. The feelings are known psycholigically as ‘rackets’"

Does that make him the rescuer in that scenario?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have recently been use as a pawn in a game to make someone jealous without me realizing. I genuinely had no idea that this game was going on until it was right in front of me the other day. I was made to feel dreadful and I feel bad about it still and done nothing wrong. Just pushed aside

I dont know whether to have my say or just blank the people involved?

Can I ask what others think please? And can they be sensible as I like comedy but this genuinely hurts that much "

Depends on who the people are and how friendly you are. It's mean to use you for their gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you to all those answered above.

All great advice. I haven't done anything wrong and shouldn't be made to feel like I have

I appreciate your time and kind words

x

Other people can only make you feel bad if you let them. If you've done nothing wrong why do you feel bad?

I think it might be because he became a victim in a drama triangle. The result of such a game is the innocent rescuer becomes the victim and ends up feeling shit. Thinking ‘I was only trying to help’ or some other such phrase. The feelings are known psycholigically as ‘rackets’

Does that make him the rescuer in that scenario? "

Until the switch, when the apparent victim - the original target for the rescuing turns into persecutor.

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