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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

From being derogatory about long labia?

I don't know if this breaks the rules, referring specifically to another thread, but I feel I need to in order to confront the way people talk so disparigingly about large lips.

On another thread started by a lovely lady with no intention of putting anyone else down, people felt the need to describe her vulva as:

10/10 No Turkey neck roadkill flaps here lol

From what I can see it’s a similar to mine, everything inside and no ham so on that basis I have to award it a solid 10.

Nice neat and tidy. 9/10. In stark contrast to some on here that resemble a kicked over trifle.

Bang tidy

A definite 10 , very neat and tidy x

Neat n tidy

Obviously some posters used complimentary language which didn't imply that large lips were ugly. Larger lips didn't even need to be mentioned at all in order to pay a compliment.

Since around 50% of women have these so called untidy, ham/turkey neck/beef sandwich, messy, car crash, kicked over trifle type of labia, what exactly is to be gained be demonising them?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im an odd one. I never give my fanny a second thought. I dont go round looking at it constantly and i certainly dont compare it to other womens. I also dont know of a man thats recalled in horror when hes seen someones vulva. Where all different and its bang out of order to make derogratry comments about others and make them feel like shit especially when its women doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I commented on the post you mention, in fact mine was one you copied , I said 10/10 neat and tidy which it is but that’s not putting anyone else’s noonie down ?! Mines not the prettiest hence why I don’t have any pics on here of it so I wouldn’t judge other people’s. As a bi lady I appreciate all shapes and sizes of lady parts x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

oh and welcome back it was only the other day i realized who you where

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"Im an odd one. I never give my fanny a second thought. I dont go round looking at it constantly and i certainly dont compare it to other womens. I also dont know of a man thats recalled in horror when hes seen someones vulva. Where all different and its bang out of order to make derogratry comments about others and make them feel like shit especially when its women doing it"

Absolutely agee. At least you know who not to bother with from those comments though.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Hmm I'm not sure. I have seen a number of threads also celebrating large labia, but those "neat tucked away" ones don't tend to get slagged off in the process.

Its that same thing you see in any body type thread, bbw or thin, big boobs or wee boobs. People will put down one group because they're not in it, or to garner favour with the other group.

So I've been no help whatsoever, sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im an odd one. I never give my fanny a second thought. I dont go round looking at it constantly and i certainly dont compare it to other womens. I also dont know of a man thats recalled in horror when hes seen someones vulva. Where all different and its bang out of order to make derogratry comments about others and make them feel like shit especially when its women doing it"

It was men and women both. I'm sure these threads have been done to death but I'm going to call it out every time I see and hear such comments. Women and girls with larger labia, like myself, shouldn't have to endure such negativety and ridicule because of their natural form.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I commented on the post you mention, in fact mine was one you copied , I said 10/10 neat and tidy which it is but that’s not putting anyone else’s noonie down ?! Mines not the prettiest hence why I don’t have any pics on here of it so I wouldn’t judge other people’s. As a bi lady I appreciate all shapes and sizes of lady parts x"

It's the 'neat and tidy' that implies that the opposite is 'untidy and messy'. I'm sure you didn't mean to put anyone else down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it sometimes comes down to trying to be complimentary by putting down the opposite. Like the "real woman" comments on a BBW thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"oh and welcome back it was only the other day i realized who you where"

Thank you for the welcome

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think porn has a lot to answer for - people consider a particular aesthetic to be the more desirable one. And the main one, if that makes sense? I think people see smaller labia as being natural, larger as being less so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It comes down to the character of the person posting, I believe-notwithstanding those amongst us who make everything into a joke.

Those with lesser intellect tend to say those kinds of things, I believe. Why they do it, I think, is because they have no conversational skills.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmm I'm not sure. I have seen a number of threads also celebrating large labia, but those "neat tucked away" ones don't tend to get slagged off in the process.

Its that same thing you see in any body type thread, bbw or thin, big boobs or wee boobs. People will put down one group because they're not in it, or to garner favour with the other group.

So I've been no help whatsoever, sorry "

You're right. But why can't people understand that in order to be complimentary you don't need to qualify it with a derogatory comment about others?

Ie "Your flaps are hot, I like small lips". Rather than "they're so much nicer than the beef sandwich some women have!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think porn has a lot to answer for - people consider a particular aesthetic to be the more desirable one. And the main one, if that makes sense? I think people see smaller labia as being natural, larger as being less so. "

I hadn't thought of people seeing larger labia as unnatural!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think porn has a lot to answer for - people consider a particular aesthetic to be the more desirable one. And the main one, if that makes sense? I think people see smaller labia as being natural, larger as being less so. "

I'm guessing there are many, many people who watch porn who don't make comments like 'looks like a kicked over trifle'.

I watch a lot of male gay porn and I don't refer to penises in a derogatory manner.

Some think it's funny to refer to genitalia as something we laugh at in a comedy way. It's like any comedy; if it's aimed at you you may not find it funny

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Im an odd one. I never give my fanny a second thought. I dont go round looking at it constantly and i certainly dont compare it to other womens. I also dont know of a man thats recalled in horror when hes seen someones vulva. Where all different and its bang out of order to make derogratry comments about others and make them feel like shit especially when its women doing it"

Plenty of complimentary remarks from men on the previous thread, but equally some very disparaging. As a guy I think that is totally unnecessary. I was brought up well and told if you can't say something complimentary - say nothing.

I only post pics of my bits to people that ask, and whether they like them or not, I'm stuck with them. So I just get on with it. As for the ladies, I JUST LOVE THEM ALL.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think porn has a lot to answer for - people consider a particular aesthetic to be the more desirable one. And the main one, if that makes sense? I think people see smaller labia as being natural, larger as being less so.

I hadn't thought of people seeing larger labia as unnatural! "

I didn't make sense. I think due to the prevalence of images of labia as being a particular way, some people think it should be. Look at the increase in cosmetic surgery for labia reduction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think porn has a lot to answer for - people consider a particular aesthetic to be the more desirable one. And the main one, if that makes sense? I think people see smaller labia as being natural, larger as being less so.

I hadn't thought of people seeing larger labia as unnatural!

I didn't make sense. I think due to the prevalence of images of labia as being a particular way, some people think it should be. Look at the increase in cosmetic surgery for labia reduction. "

The thought brings tears to my eyes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Referring to labia as beef curtains or a smashed kebab reminds of the Inbetweeners.

I have looked at mine before and thought they remind me of mating slugs though. I would not refer to someone else's in that manner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Referring to labia as beef curtains or a smashed kebab reminds of the Inbetweeners.

I have looked at mine before and thought they remind me of mating slugs though. I would not refer to someone else's in that manner."

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think porn has a lot to answer for - people consider a particular aesthetic to be the more desirable one. And the main one, if that makes sense? I think people see smaller labia as being natural, larger as being less so.

I'm guessing there are many, many people who watch porn who don't make comments like 'looks like a kicked over trifle'.

"

Yeah, that's true.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It's just how people are made, people have no control over it so being derogatory about large labia is body shaming and deserves to be called out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think porn has a lot to answer for - people consider a particular aesthetic to be the more desirable one. And the main one, if that makes sense, I think people see smaller labia as being natural, larger as being less so. "

Porn and the quest for the designer vagina, you'll be getting ur butts bleached next.....

I love them all, shape, size and flavour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am going to play devils advocate for a second here and say that one of the posters that was a bit thoughtless with her comment, did apologise.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I suppose they are like a fingerprint as in each one is different, mine has always been fleshy on the inside and on the outside, it is what it is, it’s not something I can change and I certainly wouldn’t pay hard earned money to get it “designed”

I despair sometimes at the wording people use, some actually make me wince, and I often wonder are they trying to be funny or just down right rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I commented on the post you mention, in fact mine was one you copied , I said 10/10 neat and tidy which it is but that’s not putting anyone else’s noonie down ?! Mines not the prettiest hence why I don’t have any pics on here of it so I wouldn’t judge other people’s. As a bi lady I appreciate all shapes and sizes of lady parts x

It's the 'neat and tidy' that implies that the opposite is 'untidy and messy'. I'm sure you didn't mean to put anyone else down. "

No I certainly didn’t it was purely a compliment to that person no reference to anyone else in the slightest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how the human mind is programmed as to what it finds beautiful. We are drawn to symmetry in things apparently.

But as per the op, No, body shaming is never on. Its the throwaway comments thing again, its only funny (!) When you don't have the parts being laughed at.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am going to play devils advocate for a second here and say that one of the posters that was a bit thoughtless with her comment, did apologise."

They did, which I appreciate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this minge talk...

*faps*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my sex wings

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

The men think they are being funny I think. I can't work out why the women would use phrases like that, I really can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I'm odd but a collection of isolated body parts however described does little for me.

If I connect with the person attached to said parts, the rest is just part of the whole (no pun intended)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The men think they are being funny I think. I can't work out why the women would use phrases like that, I really can't. "

Insecurities maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kinda wouldn't give it much energy. Some people are dicks on here, but they're allowed to be and they're allowed to like what they like too. The forum is filled with insensitive bellends and trolls so it's no place for the sensitive. If ppl says stuff that offends you then they've just proved that they're not you sort of person (along with being a bit twatty) but you can't change their view just by saying you think they're wrong. It's just a difference of opinion on what is acceptable to say. Let them crack on and they'll just make themselves look like idiots and alienate themselves from half of the vagina owners on fab....

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I haven't found one yet I didn't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s mostly women who body shame other women as most blokes are happy to much on cunt lips weather they are large xlarge or small

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"From being derogatory about long labia?

I don't know if this breaks the rules, referring specifically to another thread, but I feel I need to in order to confront the way people talk so disparigingly about large lips.

On another thread started by a lovely lady with no intention of putting anyone else down, people felt the need to describe her vulva as:

10/10 No Turkey neck roadkill flaps here lol

From what I can see it’s a similar to mine, everything inside and no ham so on that basis I have to award it a solid 10.

Nice neat and tidy. 9/10. In stark contrast to some on here that resemble a kicked over trifle.

Bang tidy

A definite 10 , very neat and tidy x

Neat n tidy

Obviously some posters used complimentary language which didn't imply that large lips were ugly. Larger lips didn't even need to be mentioned at all in order to pay a compliment.

Since around 50% of women have these so called untidy, ham/turkey neck/beef sandwich, messy, car crash, kicked over trifle type of labia, what exactly is to be gained be demonising them? "
the irony of many making the immature comments couldn't even get a meet, let alone one with "perfect lips" time for some on this site to grow up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women's bodies have faced high levels of scrutiny since time eternal, yet onnthe whole, we are far less familiar with our most intimate areas than we should be.

If you haven't seen it, I can highly recommend the recent TV programme "100 Vaginas" - no, it's not a Fabs bio but a fabulous piece to accompany a photographer's work to familiarise 100 women with their vaginas. I wish I'd seen it as a teen, when such insecurities usually start.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Women's bodies have faced high levels of scrutiny since time eternal, yet onnthe whole, we are far less familiar with our most intimate areas than we should be.

If you haven't seen it, I can highly recommend the recent TV programme "100 Vaginas" - no, it's not a Fabs bio but a fabulous piece to accompany a photographer's work to familiarise 100 women with their vaginas. I wish I'd seen it as a teen, when such insecurities usually start."

I agree, that was a great programme

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"Women's bodies have faced high levels of scrutiny since time eternal, yet onnthe whole, we are far less familiar with our most intimate areas than we should be.

If you haven't seen it, I can highly recommend the recent TV programme "100 Vaginas" - no, it's not a Fabs bio but a fabulous piece to accompany a photographer's work to familiarise 100 women with their vaginas. I wish I'd seen it as a teen, when such insecurities usually start."

Things like this and penis equivalents should be something shown during sex Ed classes to try and give the teens a more rounded view of genitalia, and help them realise how different we all can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just call them butterfly wings

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo


"The men think they are being funny I think. I can't work out why the women would use phrases like that, I really can't. "

I can't either - whatever happened to the sisterhood?! It's such pointless and silly spite in any case because no-one, absolutely no-one can help the genitals they're born with. It shouldn't come as any surprise that these can vary so much from woman to woman in size, shape or pigmentation in the same way so many other body parts do too since we're all unique and therefore different from one another.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"From being derogatory about long labia?

I don't know if this breaks the rules, referring specifically to another thread, but I feel I need to in order to confront the way people talk so disparigingly about large lips.

On another thread started by a lovely lady with no intention of putting anyone else down, people felt the need to describe her vulva as:

10/10 No Turkey neck roadkill flaps here lol

From what I can see it’s a similar to mine, everything inside and no ham so on that basis I have to award it a solid 10.

Nice neat and tidy. 9/10. In stark contrast to some on here that resemble a kicked over trifle.

Bang tidy

A definite 10 , very neat and tidy x

Neat n tidy

Obviously some posters used complimentary language which didn't imply that large lips were ugly. Larger lips didn't even need to be mentioned at all in order to pay a compliment.

Since around 50% of women have these so called untidy, ham/turkey neck/beef sandwich, messy, car crash, kicked over trifle type of labia, what exactly is to be gained be demonising them? "

Is this the thread the op asked to be rated?

If so I haven't been back to it but when I'd commented nobody had been negative and named someone as that would be bang out of order.

My guess is trying to make adult jokes on an adult site with the thread having the word 'flaps' in the title.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I kinda wouldn't give it much energy. Some people are dicks on here, but they're allowed to be and they're allowed to like what they like too. The forum is filled with insensitive bellends and trolls so it's no place for the sensitive. If ppl says stuff that offends you then they've just proved that they're not you sort of person (along with being a bit twatty) but you can't change their view just by saying you think they're wrong. It's just a difference of opinion on what is acceptable to say. Let them crack on and they'll just make themselves look like idiots and alienate themselves from half of the vagina owners on fab.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women's bodies have faced high levels of scrutiny since time eternal, yet onnthe whole, we are far less familiar with our most intimate areas than we should be.

If you haven't seen it, I can highly recommend the recent TV programme "100 Vaginas" - no, it's not a Fabs bio but a fabulous piece to accompany a photographer's work to familiarise 100 women with their vaginas. I wish I'd seen it as a teen, when such insecurities usually start.

Things like this and penis equivalents should be something shown during sex Ed classes to try and give the teens a more rounded view of genitalia, and help them realise how different we all can be. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the flavour not look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love my sex wings"

That’s a nice way to put it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love my sex wings

That’s a nice way to put it x"

Or cock blankets, to keep the little fella warm and toasty.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

While someone has every right to put themselves out there for public scrutiny on a forum like this, they have no right to control the response of anyone who replies.

Having read the thread nobody was abusive or derogatory towards the OP. Some generic non directed vulgar slang was used which may or may not have been amusing depending on your personal tastes.

They have to live with any consequences of their words - Some may find it funny, some might be repulsed. That is their issue to deal with and nobody else's.

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By *lam rockerMan
over a year ago

Tain

I always think we should treat others as we expect to be treated ourselves. We're all different and thankfully, for every one who doesn't like a body feature, there's someone else who loves it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Hear hear OP - can remember some time ago someone posted a thread about "the funny names" used for genitalia and titled it "punched lasagne" (I think) thought it absolutely hilarious and rounded on myself or others that pointed out it wasn't particularly funny, using the "It's only a joke" defence.

As others have said, we're all different in our own way, and have different shapes and sizes of bits, no need to ridicule whatsoever.

Those type of threads do seem to bring out the worst in people though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I commented on the thread you refer to in humour. Not a serious thought given.

Every vagina is unique. As is a cock.

We are...what we are.

It's mostly about what's attached to the genitals I'm sure!

Stop fretting everyone and enjoy what you have I'd say.

That's what we are her for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The day I get upset over what a bunch of numb nuts on the internet says is the day I need to re- evaluate my life.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Would be nice if people realised that others bodies do not belong to them and their opinion doesn't matter because of that.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"The day I get upset over what a bunch of numb nuts on the internet says is the day I need to re- evaluate my life.

"

Exactly. Derogatory remarks about others comes under the 'sticks and stones' banner, which SHOULD remain in the infants playground. Sadly it often escapes.

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By *errybedworthMan
over a year ago

Bedworth

The only people that put each other down aren't worth it theres nothing wrong with how your made your just different and thats good being the same is boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The same thing people would gain by being derogatory about a guys dick, absolutely nothing, and those comments are plentiful here.

Although i'd prefer nobody did it about anybody, but that's not really the world we live in

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"The day I get upset over what a bunch of numb nuts on the internet says is the day I need to re- evaluate my life.

Exactly. Derogatory remarks about others comes under the 'sticks and stones' banner, which SHOULD remain in the infants playground. Sadly it often escapes."

None of us know how often someone has felt battered by such playground assaults. We don't know what may trigger something. Yes, it can be brutal but easy to ignore IF you feel resilient.

I have been told mine is too dark and scary for oral. If I'm feeling vulnerable another such comment may hurt. If I'm feeling strong it's easy to brush off.

I've had too many years challenging derogatory comments about vulvas on here and ignore them now. I wonder if ignoring them becomes condoning and then enabling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I commented on the post you mention, in fact mine was one you copied , I said 10/10 neat and tidy which it is but that’s not putting anyone else’s noonie down ?! Mines not the prettiest hence why I don’t have any pics on here of it so I wouldn’t judge other people’s. As a bi lady I appreciate all shapes and sizes of lady parts x"

I agree. I get what the OP is saying, but I don't think your post was putting anyone else down, and mine isn't exactly neat and tidy! I really didn't think that post was derogatory at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really dislike all this body shaming, I have what I have, me personally I don’t look at it that close and think it’s not the best looking. But no one has got that close and turned away from it. I wouldn’t dream of saying something derogatory about anyone else like that. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I commented on the post you mention, in fact mine was one you copied , I said 10/10 neat and tidy which it is but that’s not putting anyone else’s noonie down ?! Mines not the prettiest hence why I don’t have any pics on here of it so I wouldn’t judge other people’s. As a bi lady I appreciate all shapes and sizes of lady parts x

I agree. I get what the OP is saying, but I don't think your post was putting anyone else down, and mine isn't exactly neat and tidy! I really didn't think that post was derogatory at all. "

Thank you so much for saying this , I have so many body issues I would never ever say anything that would offend someone else xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friend had hers surgically removed as she hated they way she looked, I’d never gave it a thought and just assumed they all looked the same, being straight the idea of looking at anyone else’s hadn’t came into my head but a d*unken night and my friend saying she fancied a bit of fun with a girl I thought well don’t knock it till you’ve tried it and she was in awe of mine and tbh I was mortified lol but at same time then obviously curious to have a swatch and yeah I didn’t think it was as pretty but then she’s got the size ten body cracking tits and blonde hair and I’d not long given birth to baby no2 and was twice the size I am now with zero confidence we talked for ages about body confidence and I thought I’d talked her round but nope still went and got the op

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"From being derogatory about long labia?

I don't know if this breaks the rules, referring specifically to another thread, but I feel I need to in order to confront the way people talk so disparigingly about large lips.

On another thread started by a lovely lady with no intention of putting anyone else down, people felt the need to describe her vulva as:

10/10 No Turkey neck roadkill flaps here lol

From what I can see it’s a similar to mine, everything inside and no ham so on that basis I have to award it a solid 10.

Nice neat and tidy. 9/10. In stark contrast to some on here that resemble a kicked over trifle.

Bang tidy

A definite 10 , very neat and tidy x

Neat n tidy

Obviously some posters used complimentary language which didn't imply that large lips were ugly. Larger lips didn't even need to be mentioned at all in order to pay a compliment.

Since around 50% of women have these so called untidy, ham/turkey neck/beef sandwich, messy, car crash, kicked over trifle type of labia, what exactly is to be gained be demonising them? "

I made the Bangtidy comment. Bangtidy is a very broad compliment meaning generally fit (check the urban dictionary). In this context it had nothing to do with a perceived neatness of labia. If I found a woman's genitalia with large labia attractive I would call it bangtidy too, it's still an appropriate compliment.

I would agree that some of the posts you reference are probably unnecessary and harsh but please don't include mine in that as it in no way was derogatory to labia of any shape, size or flavour. Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From being derogatory about long labia?

I don't know if this breaks the rules, referring specifically to another thread, but I feel I need to in order to confront the way people talk so disparigingly about large lips.

On another thread started by a lovely lady with no intention of putting anyone else down, people felt the need to describe her vulva as:

10/10 No Turkey neck roadkill flaps here lol

From what I can see it’s a similar to mine, everything inside and no ham so on that basis I have to award it a solid 10.

Nice neat and tidy. 9/10. In stark contrast to some on here that resemble a kicked over trifle.

Bang tidy

A definite 10 , very neat and tidy x

Neat n tidy

Obviously some posters used complimentary language which didn't imply that large lips were ugly. Larger lips didn't even need to be mentioned at all in order to pay a compliment.

Since around 50% of women have these so called untidy, ham/turkey neck/beef sandwich, messy, car crash, kicked over trifle type of labia, what exactly is to be gained be demonising them?

I made the Bangtidy comment. Bangtidy is a very broad compliment meaning generally fit (check the urban dictionary). In this context it had nothing to do with a perceived neatness of labia. If I found a woman's genitalia with large labia attractive I would call it bangtidy too, it's still an appropriate compliment.

I would agree that some of the posts you reference are probably unnecessary and harsh but please don't include mine in that as it in no way was derogatory to labia of any shape, size or flavour. Thank you xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I commented on the post you mention, in fact mine was one you copied , I said 10/10 neat and tidy which it is but that’s not putting anyone else’s noonie down ?! Mines not the prettiest hence why I don’t have any pics on here of it so I wouldn’t judge other people’s. As a bi lady I appreciate all shapes and sizes of lady parts x

I agree. I get what the OP is saying, but I don't think your post was putting anyone else down, and mine isn't exactly neat and tidy! I really didn't think that post was derogatory at all.

Thank you so much for saying this , I have so many body issues I would never ever say anything that would offend someone else xxx"

You're welcome. I can understand why you would have been upset at being misunderstood x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I commented on the post you mention, in fact mine was one you copied , I said 10/10 neat and tidy which it is but that’s not putting anyone else’s noonie down ?! Mines not the prettiest hence why I don’t have any pics on here of it so I wouldn’t judge other people’s. As a bi lady I appreciate all shapes and sizes of lady parts x

I agree. I get what the OP is saying, but I don't think your post was putting anyone else down, and mine isn't exactly neat and tidy! I really didn't think that post was derogatory at all.

Thank you so much for saying this , I have so many body issues I would never ever say anything that would offend someone else xxx

You're welcome. I can understand why you would have been upset at being misunderstood x"

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"From being derogatory about long labia?

I don't know if this breaks the rules, referring specifically to another thread, but I feel I need to in order to confront the way people talk so disparigingly about large lips.

On another thread started by a lovely lady with no intention of putting anyone else down, people felt the need to describe her vulva as:

10/10 No Turkey neck roadkill flaps here lol

From what I can see it’s a similar to mine, everything inside and no ham so on that basis I have to award it a solid 10.

Nice neat and tidy. 9/10. In stark contrast to some on here that resemble a kicked over trifle.

Bang tidy

A definite 10 , very neat and tidy x

Neat n tidy

Obviously some posters used complimentary language which didn't imply that large lips were ugly. Larger lips didn't even need to be mentioned at all in order to pay a compliment.

Since around 50% of women have these so called untidy, ham/turkey neck/beef sandwich, messy, car crash, kicked over trifle type of labia, what exactly is to be gained be demonising them?

I made the Bangtidy comment. Bangtidy is a very broad compliment meaning generally fit (check the urban dictionary). In this context it had nothing to do with a perceived neatness of labia. If I found a woman's genitalia with large labia attractive I would call it bangtidy too, it's still an appropriate compliment.

I would agree that some of the posts you reference are probably unnecessary and harsh but please don't include mine in that as it in no way was derogatory to labia of any shape, size or flavour. Thank you xxx"

Sorry, I misunderstood. Thanks for explaining to me

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"From being derogatory about long labia?

I don't know if this breaks the rules, referring specifically to another thread, but I feel I need to in order to confront the way people talk so disparigingly about large lips.

On another thread started by a lovely lady with no intention of putting anyone else down, people felt the need to describe her vulva as:

10/10 No Turkey neck roadkill flaps here lol

From what I can see it’s a similar to mine, everything inside and no ham so on that basis I have to award it a solid 10.

Nice neat and tidy. 9/10. In stark contrast to some on here that resemble a kicked over trifle.

Bang tidy

A definite 10 , very neat and tidy x

Neat n tidy

Obviously some posters used complimentary language which didn't imply that large lips were ugly. Larger lips didn't even need to be mentioned at all in order to pay a compliment.

Since around 50% of women have these so called untidy, ham/turkey neck/beef sandwich, messy, car crash, kicked over trifle type of labia, what exactly is to be gained be demonising them?

I made the Bangtidy comment. Bangtidy is a very broad compliment meaning generally fit (check the urban dictionary). In this context it had nothing to do with a perceived neatness of labia. If I found a woman's genitalia with large labia attractive I would call it bangtidy too, it's still an appropriate compliment.

I would agree that some of the posts you reference are probably unnecessary and harsh but please don't include mine in that as it in no way was derogatory to labia of any shape, size or flavour. Thank you xxx

Sorry, I misunderstood. Thanks for explaining to me "

No worries

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Would be nice if people realised that others bodies do not belong to them and their opinion doesn't matter because of that."

That is kind of negated as the OP asked for people to comment on her pic. As far as I can see the OP of that thread hasn't complained, so why should anyone else get involved or feel put out in any way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From being derogatory about long labia?

I don't know if this breaks the rules, referring specifically to another thread, but I feel I need to in order to confront the way people talk so disparigingly about large lips.

On another thread started by a lovely lady with no intention of putting anyone else down, people felt the need to describe her vulva as:

10/10 No Turkey neck roadkill flaps here lol

From what I can see it’s a similar to mine, everything inside and no ham so on that basis I have to award it a solid 10.

Nice neat and tidy. 9/10. In stark contrast to some on here that resemble a kicked over trifle.

Bang tidy

A definite 10 , very neat and tidy x

Neat n tidy

Obviously some posters used complimentary language which didn't imply that large lips were ugly. Larger lips didn't even need to be mentioned at all in order to pay a compliment.

Since around 50% of women have these so called untidy, ham/turkey neck/beef sandwich, messy, car crash, kicked over trifle type of labia, what exactly is to be gained be demonising them?

I made the Bangtidy comment. Bangtidy is a very broad compliment meaning generally fit (check the urban dictionary). In this context it had nothing to do with a perceived neatness of labia. If I found a woman's genitalia with large labia attractive I would call it bangtidy too, it's still an appropriate compliment.

I would agree that some of the posts you reference are probably unnecessary and harsh but please don't include mine in that as it in no way was derogatory to labia of any shape, size or flavour. Thank you xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would be nice if people realised that others bodies do not belong to them and their opinion doesn't matter because of that.

That is kind of negated as the OP asked for people to comment on her pic. As far as I can see the OP of that thread hasn't complained, so why should anyone else get involved or feel put out in any way?"

People often find a talking point from one thread and use it from another. Even you do that. I think this thread was to bring a discussion about shaming to the fore, being put out about body shaming is perfectly valid.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

When men use those terms I often wonder what on earth are they thinking ? How on earth would they feel if we judged cocks like that, forskin length, ball size, bell-head size if women started being so judgemental men would absolutly hate it and let’s not forget it’s bullshit anyway all that matters is if it works and it feels good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would be nice if people realised that others bodies do not belong to them and their opinion doesn't matter because of that.

That is kind of negated as the OP asked for people to comment on her pic. As far as I can see the OP of that thread hasn't complained, so why should anyone else get involved or feel put out in any way?"

I did publicly apologise and personally message the lady that was most upset by this who accepted my apology. As wrong as I was I feel this thread is uncalled for and indirectly names and shames others which is against forum rules.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Would be nice if people realised that others bodies do not belong to them and their opinion doesn't matter because of that.

That is kind of negated as the OP asked for people to comment on her pic. As far as I can see the OP of that thread hasn't complained, so why should anyone else get involved or feel put out in any way?

I did publicly apologise and personally message the lady that was most upset by this who accepted my apology. As wrong as I was I feel this thread is uncalled for and indirectly names and shames others which is against forum rules."

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Would be nice if people realised that others bodies do not belong to them and their opinion doesn't matter because of that.

That is kind of negated as the OP asked for people to comment on her pic. As far as I can see the OP of that thread hasn't complained, so why should anyone else get involved or feel put out in any way?

People often find a talking point from one thread and use it from another. Even you do that. I think this thread was to bring a discussion about shaming to the fore, being put out about body shaming is perfectly valid."

Exactly that - I took this thread not to be knocking your thread in any way - more some of the comments from others that appeared in it which were derogatory at best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would be nice if people realised that others bodies do not belong to them and their opinion doesn't matter because of that.

That is kind of negated as the OP asked for people to comment on her pic. As far as I can see the OP of that thread hasn't complained, so why should anyone else get involved or feel put out in any way?

I did publicly apologise and personally message the lady that was most upset by this who accepted my apology. As wrong as I was I feel this thread is uncalled for and indirectly names and shames others which is against forum rules."

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By *eeroybrownMan
over a year ago

aldershot

I think you can extend that to "why bother being mean?".

To coin a cliche, if you have got something nice to say don't say anything.

We've all got opinions and straight talking is fine but if it's potentially upsetting to somebody, why bother.

Just be nice people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you can extend that to "why bother being mean?".

To coin a cliche, if you have got something nice to say don't say anything.

We've all got opinions and straight talking is fine but if it's potentially upsetting to somebody, why bother.

Just be nice people "

It doesn't need extending. I know this and I apologised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you can extend that to "why bother being mean?".

To coin a cliche, if you have got something nice to say don't say anything.

We've all got opinions and straight talking is fine but if it's potentially upsetting to somebody, why bother.

Just be nice people

It doesn't need extending. I know this and I apologised."

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By *eeroybrownMan
over a year ago

aldershot


"

It doesn't need extending. I know this and I apologised."

Sorry, I didn't read all the posts so it certainly wasn't aimed at anyone

It was a general "be nice" message

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"I think you can extend that to "why bother being mean?".

To coin a cliche, if you have got something nice to say don't say anything.

We've all got opinions and straight talking is fine but if it's potentially upsetting to somebody, why bother.

Just be nice people "

I don't think anyone was being nasty or malicious. This feels more like a case of people having differing levels of sensibilities. It is easy to forget not everyone is as comfortable with certain language as others.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Dont ask the question if you're sensitive to the opinion. No one can say anything about anything with out someone getting offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont ask the question if you're sensitive to the opinion. No one can say anything about anything with out someone getting offended. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My comment is in the opening post, it did look like mine and everything is on the inside so on that basis, as it looked like mine I awarded it a 10! Don’t see and derogatory comments there. Everyone has fanny ham whether it’s inside or outside I just happened to say there was no ham on the outside.

I say my fanny looks like a beak or Homer Simpson’s mouth when it’s shaved or pac man cos it really does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve looked at the title for the other thread and the word used is “Flaps”, so by using this jokey terminology did it help to steer some of the responses in a certain way? Would the replies have been different if Labia had been used instead...just a thought that’s all.

I looked at the photo and replied with what I saw, a photo displaying what I consider to be neat & tidy “flaps” with a nice manicure. To me that wasn’t body shaming anyone else it was a direct comparison to mine which aren’t particularly neat and my nails which are looking currently shite.

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