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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now I know it happens but today has really took the p***.

A couple reached out to ME sent ME pics asked ME for my number and was talking all yesterday.

Their profile said they was looking for a Friday meet so we was gearing up to meet.

Wake up this morning and guess what - yours truly is blocked both on here and what's app....

I dunno wtf is wrong with people on here... Sitting here at work just wanting to get it off my chestl! so there it is time wasters are a real pain in the arse and not the good type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does that really class as timewasting? Be thankful they didn’t stand you up.

Sometimes it’s easier to block and move on, than to admit you’ve changed your mind.

Counter block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People change their minds and can be weird, they should at least say they have changed their mind but just move on OP.

I had a girl message once saying "Hey, how's it going?", I replied "Good thank you and thanks for the message. What about yourself?"...never heard from her again lol

It is what it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does that really class as timewasting? Be thankful they didn’t stand you up.

Sometimes it’s easier to block and move on, than to admit you’ve changed your mind.

Counter block them "

Good idea! But just weird . Like surely just easier to say no tbanks.... In a big boy I can take it hahaha

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By *andS for funCouple
over a year ago

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Seems to be a lot of it. Have had a few different experiences of this. The most recent was the weekend just gone. Over a week chatting with the couple. A meet was organised for Saturday evening. On friday it changed to just a social meet. We were ok with that. Saturday evening after spending hours on the road to reach said city I arrive to discover from my partner that they've pulled out altogether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry

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By *andS for funCouple
over a year ago

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What are you sorry for?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What are you sorry for? "

Omg the people have a very similar name to you guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's part of some peoples idea of fun I'm afraid we have had a few meets over the last couple of years end in no shows. We never meet somewhere far away that we wernt going to already so it's never an issue for us we still enjoy the time together. But I do get it can be frustrating for you. Male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s annoying when it’s the person who initiated meeting in the first place. I understand how you feel.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Does that really class as timewasting? Be thankful they didn’t stand you up.

Sometimes it’s easier to block and move on, than to admit you’ve changed your mind.

Counter block them

Good idea! But just weird . Like surely just easier to say no tbanks.... In a big boy I can take it hahaha "

Can you though? You have started a thread ranting about being blocked

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

For some, the chase and the fantasy provide more excitement than actually meeting. It's their kink. It's just unfortunate and a little bit cruel on those who are left wondering wtf they said/did wrong once they've been ghosted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chance would be a fine thing to just get stood up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does that really class as timewasting? Be thankful they didn’t stand you up.

Sometimes it’s easier to block and move on, than to admit you’ve changed your mind.

Counter block them

Good idea! But just weird . Like surely just easier to say no tbanks.... In a big boy I can take it hahaha "

Maybe only one of them was mailing you and the other decided not to meet. Maybe it was just the man wanking over the idea.

Better to find out 2 days before. Adults would have told you they'd changed their mind. Just see it as a lucky escape and no time wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For some, the chase and the fantasy provide more excitement than actually meeting. It's their kink. It's just unfortunate and a little bit cruel on those who are left wondering wtf they said/did wrong once they've been ghosted."

It's shit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does that really class as timewasting? Be thankful they didn’t stand you up.

Sometimes it’s easier to block and move on, than to admit you’ve changed your mind.

Counter block them

Good idea! But just weird . Like surely just easier to say no tbanks.... In a big boy I can take it hahaha

Can you though? You have started a thread ranting about being blocked"
you are confused .

The "rant" is about them just blocking not changing their mind. The bit I could take is them saying no openly

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

When you say you spent all day yesterday "talking" to them OP - do you mean actually speaking on the phone, or text talking either here or on What's App? If the latter, is it possible they weren't actually all they seemed (i.e. a bloke pretending) and had just taken it as far as "they" could, so blocking was the easy way out?

If it was actual talk and you know for sure they were actually a couple, perhaps on reflection after talking to you they decided you weren't what they were looking for, or perhaps other factors conspired go mean it wasn't going to happen and rather than risk a torrent of abuse or multiple queries asking for a second chance (which I know you wouldn't have given but they don't know that) it was easier to just block - frustrating I know and not the best way to handle it, but you've been around Fab long enough to know how it works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now I know it happens but today has really took the p***.

A couple reached out to ME sent ME pics asked ME for my number and was talking all yesterday.

Their profile said they was looking for a Friday meet so we was gearing up to meet.

Wake up this morning and guess what - yours truly is blocked both on here and what's app....

I dunno wtf is wrong with people on here... Sitting here at work just wanting to get it off my chestl! so there it is time wasters are a real pain in the arse and not the good type "

Very frustrating..unfortunately it happens on here. As someone else has said just counter block & forget about them they're not worth it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does that really class as timewasting? Be thankful they didn’t stand you up.

Sometimes it’s easier to block and move on, than to admit you’ve changed your mind.

Counter block them

Good idea! But just weird . Like surely just easier to say no tbanks.... In a big boy I can take it hahaha

Maybe only one of them was mailing you and the other decided not to meet. Maybe it was just the man wanking over the idea.

Better to find out 2 days before. Adults would have told you they'd changed their mind. Just see it as a lucky escape and no time wasted. "
I thought that but they added me to a what's app group with them both messaging ...

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

O used to travel miles, got stood up so many times, I dont bother to go far now, so limited meets if any, and the block thing still is weird to me

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

lol @ ghosting....it was a few mails not a relationship

Either way, some people for whatever reason just stop speaking and block....I personally find it rude not to say sorry you are not for us, we are all adults after all.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Does that really class as timewasting? Be thankful they didn’t stand you up.

Sometimes it’s easier to block and move on, than to admit you’ve changed your mind.

Counter block them

Good idea! But just weird . Like surely just easier to say no tbanks.... In a big boy I can take it hahaha

Can you though? You have started a thread ranting about being blocked you are confused .

The "rant" is about them just blocking not changing their mind. The bit I could take is them saying no openly "

Nope, no confusion. You are ranting about being blocked, that is what my answer is to. If you can rant on a forum about being blocked , which isn't a big thing, then I wonder what would have happened if you had been told you are not for them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you say you spent all day yesterday "talking" to them OP - do you mean actually speaking on the phone, or text talking either here or on What's App? If the latter, is it possible they weren't actually all they seemed (i.e. a bloke pretending) and had just taken it as far as "they" could, so blocking was the easy way out?

If it was actual talk and you know for sure they were actually a couple, perhaps on reflection after talking to you they decided you weren't what they were looking for, or perhaps other factors conspired go mean it wasn't going to happen and rather than risk a torrent of abuse or multiple queries asking for a second chance (which I know you wouldn't have given but they don't know that) it was easier to just block - frustrating I know and not the best way to handle it, but you've been around Fab long enough to know how it works."

Very true gems! I know the game im just airing the madness. We spoke on what's app but it was to two numbers. The dude prob was just wanting off tbf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does that really class as timewasting? Be thankful they didn’t stand you up.

Sometimes it’s easier to block and move on, than to admit you’ve changed your mind.

Counter block them

Good idea! But just weird . Like surely just easier to say no tbanks.... In a big boy I can take it hahaha

Can you though? You have started a thread ranting about being blocked you are confused .

The "rant" is about them just blocking not changing their mind. The bit I could take is them saying no openly

Nope, no confusion. You are ranting about being blocked, that is what my answer is to. If you can rant on a forum about being blocked , which isn't a big thing, then I wonder what would have happened if you had been told you are not for them"

Prob from your view but that's not the issue. As ive just explained. I could care less about being blocked it's the sillyness of not being straightforward. You might think jm crying but no it's the fact there was no need. Could have just said no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol @ ghosting....it was a few mails not a relationship

Either way, some people for whatever reason just stop speaking and block....I personally find it rude not to say sorry you are not for us, we are all adults after all.

"

I think it's rude.

I'd 'rant' too, but to people who understood. Like the forum people. Can't really tell Mavis down the corner shop.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"lol @ ghosting....it was a few mails not a relationship

Either way, some people for whatever reason just stop speaking and block....I personally find it rude not to say sorry you are not for us, we are all adults after all.

I think it's rude.

I'd 'rant' too, but to people who understood. Like the forum people. Can't really tell Mavis down the corner shop. "

Really? I didn't have you down as a ranter because someone blocked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"lol @ ghosting....it was a few mails not a relationship

Either way, some people for whatever reason just stop speaking and block....I personally find it rude not to say sorry you are not for us, we are all adults after all.

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Im not saying it was a relationship.just silly to act like that in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone in your frustration.

Happens from time to time.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"lol @ ghosting....it was a few mails not a relationship

Either way, some people for whatever reason just stop speaking and block....I personally find it rude not to say sorry you are not for us, we are all adults after all.

Im not saying it was a relationship.just silly to act like that in my opinion"

I was commenting on what someone else said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the convo gets overly sexual too early I tend to think it's fake.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I class time wasting as arranges to meet and doesn't show,without letting you know.Or arranges to meet and cancels a few times.

Maybe they weren't who they said they were or they changed their minds,who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol @ ghosting....it was a few mails not a relationship

Either way, some people for whatever reason just stop speaking and block....I personally find it rude not to say sorry you are not for us, we are all adults after all.

I think it's rude.

I'd 'rant' too, but to people who understood. Like the forum people. Can't really tell Mavis down the corner shop.

Really? I didn't have you down as a ranter because someone blocked"

My 'rants' are probably more just what anyone else would call half-hearted moans.

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By *andS for funCouple
over a year ago

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To us?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

When you say you were talking, did it get to sex talk? Just asking because sometimes someone can say something that would put me off instantly. I would however be grown up enough to 'you know what, sorry, but I've changed my mind'. Trouble is even then you can get branded a time waster or get abuse so sometimes you're better off just blocking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember fab as a fair few dreamers OP

Sadly this was one of those times.

Plenty more out there xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"lol @ ghosting....it was a few mails not a relationship

Either way, some people for whatever reason just stop speaking and block....I personally find it rude not to say sorry you are not for us, we are all adults after all.

Im not saying it was a relationship.just silly to act like that in my opinion

I was commenting on what someone else said "
ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s just the internet these days.....there are more time wasters than real people looking to actually meet in person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timewasters are everywhere. ...it happened to me yesterday ..social meet we arranged to meet at a pub for 1pm ..he texted to say he was already there at 12.55pm and l told him l was going to be there in 5mins...when l got there l texted him to say l have arrived, he was online but didn't reply, waited for another 20mins and didn't here from him ...but still online. ..so l left and blocked him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

17 times we been stood up !!!! Beat that !! It's all because the site is free to use donut attracts all the armchair wankers who's nothing else better to do with there time. . I've said it before fab needs to start charging for this service and that will get Ridd of most wankers on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"17 times we been stood up !!!! Beat that !! It's all because the site is free to use donut attracts all the armchair wankers who's nothing else better to do with there time. . I've said it before fab needs to start charging for this service and that will get Ridd of most wankers on here . "
thats either bad luck or you need to look at who your selecting to meet with

Apart from a few blobs when i first joined iv found it a great way to meet people and they day payment is enforced is the day i leave iv paid once in 16 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's in life now because the internet and texting make it so easy ... kids do it to each other on a daily basis. I've seen things properly organised (even catered for) based on replies and in the end lots will let them down at the last minute and some just don't turn up!

Charging won't help that and time wasters can afford to pay regardless!

It's a very sad state of affairs ... Just be the people you want to meet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's in life now because the internet and texting make it so easy ... kids do it to each other on a daily basis. I've seen things properly organised (even catered for) based on replies and in the end lots will let them down at the last minute and some just don't turn up!

Charging won't help that and time wasters can afford to pay regardless!

It's a very sad state of affairs ... Just be the people you want to meet! "

This is very true . Im off to London for the weekend and in seeing who will arrange and meet wish me luck

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

Are the couple in Wellingborough by any chance ?

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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Does that really class as timewasting? Be thankful they didn’t stand you up.

Sometimes it’s easier to block and move on, than to admit you’ve changed your mind.

Counter block them

Good idea! But just weird . Like surely just easier to say no tbanks.... In a big boy I can take it hahaha "

There are all kinds of time wasters but more so people with a lack of common decency and manners. Manners cost nothing and better to tell people of things change or a simple no thanks.

Better luck in the future

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

We do sympathise with people being contacted by idiot time wasters on here. We get it occasionally.

Some guy yesterday messaged us, he's 300 miles away, on here over a year and no verifications, not willing to send pictures but wants to get to know us and meet up. Really? Do these people have nothing else better to do and do they think we're stupid?

The block list gets bigger.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We’ve had a string of them, join the club you’re not on your own! Last minute cancels or no shows (we weren’t blocked though!). I don’t want to bother anymore and just stick to meeting in clubs rather than Fab now! Took the piss there were about 8 of them last month. Shame because I love a 3sum

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