FabSwingers.com forum: Bi individuals

By *orkmalewithPA OP Man
over a year ago

York

I have been on the site for some time now and I keep noticing that on couples profiles (about 7/10 times ish) the female is bi, bi curious and the male is not. Also not that I have been looking through loads of male profiles to check but this also seems to extend to the single profiles as well.

Now I am just wondering if this is a reflection on Society as a whole or, whether or not the male gender chooses to ignore/hide any bi/bi courious feelings and most females are more open?

And if so why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both bi here , no point hiding it otherwise we won’t attract the kind of people we would be interested in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there are bi men who hide the sexuality for a variety of reasons but in the main because it has a bit of a stigma attached to it. I’m sure others will elaborate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After some time of being on sites like this and flirting with my bi side - I feel that I am a straight woman.

I will openly admit it and don't fear judgement.

I think a lot of men fear judgement as a lot of women don't meet Bi men - including myself.

It doesn't turn me on - but a lot of women I know are into it.

The dishonesty on here about sexuality puts me off meeting these days

I think a lot of couples use their women to have bi experiences as it doesn't feel as ghey

If all parties are enjoying themselves I fail to see what the problem is.

Let's all fuck who and what we find attractive and stop lying about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see where you re coming from and my opinion is that women are more open because its always been more acceptable, kets face it, the average guy is phwoaared when its two women but society talks the talk but dont walk the walk when its two guys.. Crazy... I ve had a lot of interest from guys who stress no guys in their profile.. Its the way of the world alas

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't think there is any single answer to that question OP - sexuality is a spectrum that we each, as individuals, find/place ourselves on and the reality is also skewed here to an extent.

It's true there are some men here (and probably some women too) who hide their sexuality for one reason or another - a lot do to get round the filters of those that won't meet bisexual men, some do because of guilt or uncertainty, some for various other reasons including the perception that bisexuality in men is still somewhat taboo for some.

Then you have the thing of men posing as women or couples to attract sex chat and thinking that putting bisexual as the female character they are playing will make them more appealing.

You could write a thesis on Fab sexuality there are that many reasons and vagaries behind it

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

This is what I don't understand. A lot of women won't meet/date a bi man and to me it makes no sense. If they are with you then why does them being bi matter? Whilst they are with you they are essentially straight. I wouldn't not date a woman because she was bi, the fact she is bi holds no relevance to me, it neither turns me on or turns me off, I'm there for the person themselves, not what genitalia they happen to enjoy. I wonder how many people have missed out on potentially wonderful people in their life just because they didn't like another person's sexual orientation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what I don't understand. A lot of women won't meet/date a bi man and to me it makes no sense. If they are with you then why does them being bi matter? Whilst they are with you they are essentially straight. I wouldn't not date a woman because she was bi, the fact she is bi holds no relevance to me, it neither turns me on or turns me off, I'm there for the person themselves, not what genitalia they happen to enjoy. I wonder how many people have missed out on potentially wonderful people in their life just because they didn't like another person's sexual orientation"

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

That is usually the case, people think someone being bi somehow makes them less masculine and it's nonsense. Hell, I'm bi and a transvestite but if you met me day to day you wouldn't remotely question my masculinity. It's all just social conditioning and it's utter bullshit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

You rockstar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

It is what it is.

I'm mixed race and fat - people judge me or don't want to fuck me because of it all the time.

But that's OK - I'm not offended that I don't float their boat.

I'm not having a go at you Lily but I think we should all accept each others preferences and not call them bullshit.

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

Weird isn't it? Lots of couples with bi females and straight males. You could draw a conclusion that in society most females are willing to play bi, but men are not. However, anyone who knows a dogging area will know it's 99.9% married men meeting each other for sex. Also, money talks. That's why there's a fabguys. So where's fabgirls? Are these couples with bi females just here to satisfy the husbands desire for a fmf threesome...??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With women it’s more lighthearted being bi.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

I think you're trying to simplify this too much literally a different reason every single person has put their sexuality I wish people would leave a sexualities alone and just move on.

I would put a solid £10 on that women who play bi curious only play with women on here and would never meet a girl in a vanilla nightclub and go home and have sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never been turned down cause I’m ginger on here, but I have cause I’m a knobhead. Swings and roundabouts.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

It is what it is.

I'm mixed race and fat - people judge me or don't want to fuck me because of it all the time.

But that's OK - I'm not offended that I don't float their boat.

I'm not having a go at you Lily but I think we should all accept each others preferences and not call them bullshit.

I'm not having a go at you or calling your preferences bullshit, I'm calling people thinking that liking one genitalia over the other, or both equally somehow affects your personality or masculinity bullshit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say I am bi curious on my profile but have been with a few bi and bi curious couples I am orally bi and only do it with couples it’s so nice to have them both sharing and enjoying my cock together I never knew until I tryed it how horny it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys will not but it on there couples profiles they are bi curious but when I chatted to some couples the guy said I love to suck your cock with my wife it’s sounds so horny yet on there profile it’s say he’s st8

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

It is what it is.

I'm mixed race and fat - people judge me or don't want to fuck me because of it all the time.

But that's OK - I'm not offended that I don't float their boat.

I'm not having a go at you Lily but I think we should all accept each others preferences and not call them bullshit.

I'm sorry but I think dressing as a woman affects your masculinity

And I don't want to get personal or crude so I will stop there.

Like I said before the way someone feels isn't bullshit.

What we find attractive as an individual is not bullshit.

Just because someone rules me out for my preferences doesn't make it bullshit.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

It is what it is.

I'm mixed race and fat - people judge me or don't want to fuck me because of it all the time.

But that's OK - I'm not offended that I don't float their boat.

I'm not having a go at you Lily but I think we should all accept each others preferences and not call them bullshit.

I'm sorry but I think dressing as a woman affects your masculinity

And I don't want to get personal or crude so I will stop there.

Like I said before the way someone feels isn't bullshit.

What we find attractive as an individual is not bullshit.

Just because someone rules me out for my preferences doesn't make it bullshit.

You can think all you like, your opinion is just that and I know myself. You seem to be misunderstanding me, I'm not saying that you having a preference or what you find attractive is bullshit. In saying the societal belief that sexual orientation has any bearing on masculinity is bullshit, if that was the case you wouldn't get what are called, 'straight acting' or 'masculine' gays.

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

Are bi men like gay men but without "the voice"? Asking for a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people think that the minute a man pleasures another man he instantly turns girly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Straight acting " is acting

It's an oxymoron.

Let's all just fuck who we want and be happy.

I admire anyone who is honest about who they are - most of us aren't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are bi men like gay men but without "the voice"? Asking for a friend. "

I have a straight mate who has "the voice" is he hiding something from me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are bi men like gay men but without "the voice"? Asking for a friend.

I have a straight mate who has "the voice" is he hiding something from me?"

He also loves a cushion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Straight acting " is acting

It's an oxymoron.

Let's all just fuck who we want and be happy.

I admire anyone who is honest about who they are - most of us aren't!

Well said

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

""Straight acting " is acting

It's an oxymoron.

Let's all just fuck who we want and be happy.

I admire anyone who is honest about who they are - most of us aren't!

Straight acting doesn't mean literally acting, it just means if you met them and didn't know their orientation then you would never guess they weren't straight

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

""Straight acting " is acting

It's an oxymoron.

Let's all just fuck who we want and be happy.

I admire anyone who is honest about who they are - most of us aren't!

Straight acting doesn't mean literally acting, it just means if you met them and didn't know their orientation then you would never guess they weren't straight"

They don't do "the voice".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Straight acting " is acting

It's an oxymoron.

Let's all just fuck who we want and be happy.

I admire anyone who is honest about who they are - most of us aren't!

Straight acting doesn't mean literally acting, it just means if you met them and didn't know their orientation then you would never guess they weren't straight"

I know what it means- I was being facetious

This has got out of hand - I don't want to appear a homophobic, transphobic, all the phobics nut case

Like I said let's just fuck who we want and be happy x

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

We're pansexual, that'll confuse the buggers.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

"We're pansexual, that'll confuse the buggers.

Same but it's always easier just to say bi because people understand that

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

It is what it is.

I'm mixed race and fat - people judge me or don't want to fuck me because of it all the time.

But that's OK - I'm not offended that I don't float their boat.

I'm not having a go at you Lily but I think we should all accept each others preferences and not call them bullshit.

I agree with you to a degree about preferences, respecting others is a basic thing for me. However I do also question myself as to why my preferences are what they are.

If someones preferences are based around a perception that is incorrect or dare I say bigoted (not saying that yours are), isn't it fair to have those biases challenged?

I'm not saying that you have to fuck anyone that you don't want to but on a personal level isn't it fair to reason and be honest with ourselves as to what those preferences are based around?

Just hiding behind the phrase "it's my preference" at times can be rather cowardly in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

It is what it is.

I'm mixed race and fat - people judge me or don't want to fuck me because of it all the time.

But that's OK - I'm not offended that I don't float their boat.

I'm not having a go at you Lily but I think we should all accept each others preferences and not call them bullshit.

I agree with you to a degree about preferences, respecting others is a basic thing for me. However I do also question myself as to why my preferences are what they are.

If someones preferences are based around a perception that is incorrect or dare I say bigoted (not saying that yours are), isn't it fair to have those biases challenged?

I'm not saying that you have to fuck anyone that you don't want to but on a personal level isn't it fair to reason and be honest with ourselves as to what those preferences are based around?

Just hiding behind the phrase "it's my preference" at times can be rather cowardly in my opinion. "

So if your preference was to shag white slim women does that make you a racist and a fat phobe?

I don't understand why people simply cannot accept that they won't be everyone's cuppa.

I don't expect to be everyone's cuppa by far - I don't assume that they are racist because they dont

Want to shag me.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

I'm sure someone will come along and explain it better than me - but for me the things that turn me on about a person's character include their sexuality.

I have no control over who or what I'm attracted to.

I don't rule out Bi men completely as it's usually about the person.

But on a site like this we often have no idea about the people were fucking so it's all nonsense really.

Maybe it's social conditioning to equate men that have sexual contact with other men to be not as manly as someone who identifies as straight

I dunno

It is what it is.

I'm mixed race and fat - people judge me or don't want to fuck me because of it all the time.

But that's OK - I'm not offended that I don't float their boat.

I'm not having a go at you Lily but I think we should all accept each others preferences and not call them bullshit.

I agree with you to a degree about preferences, respecting others is a basic thing for me. However I do also question myself as to why my preferences are what they are.

If someones preferences are based around a perception that is incorrect or dare I say bigoted (not saying that yours are), isn't it fair to have those biases challenged?

I'm not saying that you have to fuck anyone that you don't want to but on a personal level isn't it fair to reason and be honest with ourselves as to what those preferences are based around?

Just hiding behind the phrase "it's my preference" at times can be rather cowardly in my opinion. "

No I don't think it's fair to have their preferences challenged, no matter what is behind them.

I have groups of people who I don't want to fuck. Perhaps it's for racist or bigoted or homophobic or sexist or ageist or size-ist reasons. It's irrelevant to anyone but me. I know why I won't fuck those people. I don't see why it's anyone else's business or that I should have to discuss it with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been on the site for some time now and I keep noticing that on couples profiles (about 7/10 times ish) the female is bi, bi curious and the male is not. Also not that I have been looking through loads of male profiles to check but this also seems to extend to the single profiles as well.

Now I am just wondering if this is a reflection on Society as a whole or, whether or not the male gender chooses to ignore/hide any bi/bi courious feelings and most females are more open?

And if so why?"

A lot of women pretend to be bi because it turns many menfolk on.

A lot of men pretend to be straight because being bi turns many womenfolk off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It appears that no one is allowed to say who they don't fancy without being branded a bigot.

Everyone likes different things - saying a preference is incorrect or hiding behind bigotry is nonsense!

I have friends and family from all walks of life, I fit in the majority of minority groups and I have been through a stage in my life where I was in a relationship with a woman for 4 years.

Insinuating I'm homophobic is insulting.

Just as Steel Heels said why should anyone have to justify the reasons for their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are bi men like gay men but without "the voice"? Asking for a friend.

I have a straight mate who has "the voice" is he hiding something from me?

He also loves a cushion."

And you love a stereotype.

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