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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? " I don't see why anyone who looks the way you do would have a confidence issue, you are absolutely gorgeous  | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? I don't see why anyone who looks the way you do would have a confidence issue, you are absolutely gorgeous "Genuinely not looking for compliments at all, they make me uncomfortable. Just looking for how people feel better. But thank you xxx | |||
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" Genuinely not looking for compliments at all, they make me uncomfortable. Just looking for how people feel better. But thank you xxx " You might not have been but you deserved it either way
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? " Don't let it get to you sometimes having a break from this might help look at me I have like the worse username ever and I'm struggling to get meets and trust me it does bother me a little but I keeps my head up trust me you are far from the problem if I was next to you I'd give you a nice hug and make sure your alright if you want to talk I'm online all the time if you want to talk I'm all ears | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives. "5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx | |||
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" Genuinely not looking for compliments at all, they make me uncomfortable. Just looking for how people feel better. But thank you xxx You might not have been but you deserved it either way
Usually just have a good chat with some mates.. Funny enough all we do is take the piss out of each other all the time but it always makes me feel good knowing ive got those bastards looking out for me "They are the best type of friends | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? Don't let it get to you sometimes having a break from this might help look at me I have like the worse username ever and I'm struggling to get meets and trust me it does bother me a little but I keeps my head up trust me you are far from the problem if I was next to you I'd give you a nice hug and make sure your alright if you want to talk I'm online all the time if you want to talk I'm all ears "Hugs defintely help!! Thank you and same to you, inbox is open | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? " I tend to go for a walk or jog late at night so it’s peaceful and just my music or just exercise in general | |||
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"Train, and be the best you you can be, plus exercise produces endorphins which help you feel good. " I think it's a winter thing I usually do 20miles plus on my bike in the nice weather and it does help, blows away the cobwebs xxx | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives.
5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx "Anytime xx doesn't work for everybody. After I do that I train harder, eat healthier and work smarter. I repeat the cycle when that impetus wanes and keep it going. Recently took up wrestling again.....that's tons of fun lol x | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? I tend to go for a walk or jog late at night so it’s peaceful and just my music or just exercise in general" Can't wait for the lighter nights I do the same xxx | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? Don't let it get to you sometimes having a break from this might help look at me I have like the worse username ever and I'm struggling to get meets and trust me it does bother me a little but I keeps my head up trust me you are far from the problem if I was next to you I'd give you a nice hug and make sure your alright if you want to talk I'm online all the time if you want to talk I'm all ears
Hugs defintely help!! Thank you and same to you, inbox is open "Your welcome yeah the women tend to have their inbox full very regularly its madness people need to give ye time to breath | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives.
5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx
Anytime xx doesn't work for everybody. After I do that I train harder, eat healthier and work smarter. I repeat the cycle when that impetus wanes and keep it going. Recently took up wrestling again.....that's tons of fun lol x "Wrestling defintely sounds fun and having new interests to. I think fab can keep you in a bubble if we aren't careful. Excellent though, so good getting out there and going back to something for you that you enjoyed | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? I tend to go for a walk or jog late at night so it’s peaceful and just my music or just exercise in general Can't wait for the lighter nights I do the same xxx"I can’t wait for the not freezing my ass off nights ha, I do love a night run just street lights and always wake up feeling a bit better about myself, I hope this helps? X | |||
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"Train, and be the best you you can be, plus exercise produces endorphins which help you feel good. I think it's a winter thing I usually do 20miles plus on my bike in the nice weather and it does help, blows away the cobwebs xxx "Yeah winter and Xmas I put weight on. Trying to blast a layer off myself at the moment! | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? I tend to go for a walk or jog late at night so it’s peaceful and just my music or just exercise in general Can't wait for the lighter nights I do the same xxx
I can’t wait for the not freezing my ass off nights ha, I do love a night run just street lights and always wake up feeling a bit better about myself, I hope this helps? X"Once the weather isn't so shit I will ride home from my night shift and detour along the prom by the sea. It feels great. You sound like a night time person. I am a morning person but it's all the same as long as we are doing it anyway. Feeling nicely motivated thanks lovely xxx | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives.
5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx
Anytime xx doesn't work for everybody. After I do that I train harder, eat healthier and work smarter. I repeat the cycle when that impetus wanes and keep it going. Recently took up wrestling again.....that's tons of fun lol x
Wrestling defintely sounds fun and having new interests to. I think fab can keep you in a bubble if we aren't careful. Excellent though, so good getting out there and going back to something for you that you enjoyed "It truly can. But since I have came onto the forums I have chatted with some amazingly warm and decent people. It's a fine line to walk though so I get you on that front. Find your joy my dear and use that to increase the peace in yourself xx thank you its killing me but I'll soon have those abs that so many desire lol  | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? " A haircut, clean shave(above and below) hot shower followed by some nice smelling fragrance has me feeling aaaaaright  | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives.
5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx
Anytime xx doesn't work for everybody. After I do that I train harder, eat healthier and work smarter. I repeat the cycle when that impetus wanes and keep it going. Recently took up wrestling again.....that's tons of fun lol x
Wrestling defintely sounds fun and having new interests to. I think fab can keep you in a bubble if we aren't careful. Excellent though, so good getting out there and going back to something for you that you enjoyed
It truly can. But since I have came onto the forums I have chatted with some amazingly warm and decent people. It's a fine line to walk though so I get you on that front. Find your joy my dear and use that to increase the peace in yourself xx thank you its killing me but I'll soon have those abs that so many desire lol "I hope I'm one of those good people your talking about lol I see your into wrestling too nice one I'm a big fan lol | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives.
5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx
Anytime xx doesn't work for everybody. After I do that I train harder, eat healthier and work smarter. I repeat the cycle when that impetus wanes and keep it going. Recently took up wrestling again.....that's tons of fun lol x
Wrestling defintely sounds fun and having new interests to. I think fab can keep you in a bubble if we aren't careful. Excellent though, so good getting out there and going back to something for you that you enjoyed
It truly can. But since I have came onto the forums I have chatted with some amazingly warm and decent people. It's a fine line to walk though so I get you on that front. Find your joy my dear and use that to increase the peace in yourself xx thank you its killing me but I'll soon have those abs that so many desire lol
I hope I'm one of those good people your talking about lol I see your into wrestling too nice one I'm a big fan lol"Indeed you are my friend! you always throw up awesome threads which I'm sure you noticed I comment on a lot and you seem like a fecking awesome dude oh indeed mate. I jumped into it cause my ex used to wrestle but she gave it up. I thought it sounded like an awesome way to get fit and enjoy it lol | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives.
5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx
Anytime xx doesn't work for everybody. After I do that I train harder, eat healthier and work smarter. I repeat the cycle when that impetus wanes and keep it going. Recently took up wrestling again.....that's tons of fun lol x
Wrestling defintely sounds fun and having new interests to. I think fab can keep you in a bubble if we aren't careful. Excellent though, so good getting out there and going back to something for you that you enjoyed
It truly can. But since I have came onto the forums I have chatted with some amazingly warm and decent people. It's a fine line to walk though so I get you on that front. Find your joy my dear and use that to increase the peace in yourself xx thank you its killing me but I'll soon have those abs that so many desire lol
I hope I'm one of those good people your talking about lol I see your into wrestling too nice one I'm a big fan lol
Indeed you are my friend! you always throw up awesome threads which I'm sure you noticed I comment on a lot and you seem like a fecking awesome dude oh indeed mate. I jumped into it cause my ex used to wrestle but she gave it up. I thought it sounded like an awesome way to get fit and enjoy it lol "Well I try lol your ex used to wrestle I'd say getting on her bad side wasn't a good idea the fear of being put in a head lock lol yeah I appreciate your input in the forums that 1st music one got completely smashed lol I have a favorite car one up | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives.
5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx
Anytime xx doesn't work for everybody. After I do that I train harder, eat healthier and work smarter. I repeat the cycle when that impetus wanes and keep it going. Recently took up wrestling again.....that's tons of fun lol x
Wrestling defintely sounds fun and having new interests to. I think fab can keep you in a bubble if we aren't careful. Excellent though, so good getting out there and going back to something for you that you enjoyed
It truly can. But since I have came onto the forums I have chatted with some amazingly warm and decent people. It's a fine line to walk though so I get you on that front. Find your joy my dear and use that to increase the peace in yourself xx thank you its killing me but I'll soon have those abs that so many desire lol
I hope I'm one of those good people your talking about lol I see your into wrestling too nice one I'm a big fan lol
Indeed you are my friend! you always throw up awesome threads which I'm sure you noticed I comment on a lot and you seem like a fecking awesome dude oh indeed mate. I jumped into it cause my ex used to wrestle but she gave it up. I thought it sounded like an awesome way to get fit and enjoy it lol
Well I try lol your ex used to wrestle I'd say getting on her bad side wasn't a good idea the fear of being put in a head lock lol yeah I appreciate your input in the forums that 1st music one got completely smashed lol I have a favorite car one up "She was quite fun lol wrestling for the upper hand, she never won but the trying was fun see? Legs locked around my neck I'm happy with. Just chuck her up on my shoulders and my face is in a great place lol aye dude I'm in the fav car one too lol bikes are more my thing like but genuinely love old school muscle cars | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives.
5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx
Anytime xx doesn't work for everybody. After I do that I train harder, eat healthier and work smarter. I repeat the cycle when that impetus wanes and keep it going. Recently took up wrestling again.....that's tons of fun lol x
Wrestling defintely sounds fun and having new interests to. I think fab can keep you in a bubble if we aren't careful. Excellent though, so good getting out there and going back to something for you that you enjoyed
It truly can. But since I have came onto the forums I have chatted with some amazingly warm and decent people. It's a fine line to walk though so I get you on that front. Find your joy my dear and use that to increase the peace in yourself xx thank you its killing me but I'll soon have those abs that so many desire lol
I hope I'm one of those good people your talking about lol I see your into wrestling too nice one I'm a big fan lol
Indeed you are my friend! you always throw up awesome threads which I'm sure you noticed I comment on a lot and you seem like a fecking awesome dude oh indeed mate. I jumped into it cause my ex used to wrestle but she gave it up. I thought it sounded like an awesome way to get fit and enjoy it lol
Well I try lol your ex used to wrestle I'd say getting on her bad side wasn't a good idea the fear of being put in a head lock lol yeah I appreciate your input in the forums that 1st music one got completely smashed lol I have a favorite car one up
She was quite fun lol wrestling for the upper hand, she never won but the trying was fun see? Legs locked around my neck I'm happy with. Just chuck her up on my shoulders and my face is in a great place lol aye dude I'm in the fav car one too lol bikes are more my thing like but genuinely love old school muscle cars "Lol I bet she tapped out after that lol | |||
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"I write down the things I hate about myself and then stroll down the beach and chuck the paper into the sea. If I cant chuck it in I wait and sit by the sea until I'm able. Rinse and repeat for few days when im truly hating on me afterwards I try to do actions which turn those negatives into positives.
5 mins from the beach lovely idea. Don't hate on yourself! Be kind to yourself. Thank you for that lovely xxx
Anytime xx doesn't work for everybody. After I do that I train harder, eat healthier and work smarter. I repeat the cycle when that impetus wanes and keep it going. Recently took up wrestling again.....that's tons of fun lol x
Wrestling defintely sounds fun and having new interests to. I think fab can keep you in a bubble if we aren't careful. Excellent though, so good getting out there and going back to something for you that you enjoyed
It truly can. But since I have came onto the forums I have chatted with some amazingly warm and decent people. It's a fine line to walk though so I get you on that front. Find your joy my dear and use that to increase the peace in yourself xx thank you its killing me but I'll soon have those abs that so many desire lol
I hope I'm one of those good people your talking about lol I see your into wrestling too nice one I'm a big fan lol
Indeed you are my friend! you always throw up awesome threads which I'm sure you noticed I comment on a lot and you seem like a fecking awesome dude oh indeed mate. I jumped into it cause my ex used to wrestle but she gave it up. I thought it sounded like an awesome way to get fit and enjoy it lol
Well I try lol your ex used to wrestle I'd say getting on her bad side wasn't a good idea the fear of being put in a head lock lol yeah I appreciate your input in the forums that 1st music one got completely smashed lol I have a favorite car one up
She was quite fun lol wrestling for the upper hand, she never won but the trying was fun see? Legs locked around my neck I'm happy with. Just chuck her up on my shoulders and my face is in a great place lol aye dude I'm in the fav car one too lol bikes are more my thing like but genuinely love old school muscle cars
Lol I bet she tapped out after that lol"Lol yeah but there was no ref to stop the match so I just kept on going lol there was no complaints after so I'm chalking that up in the win column | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? " wish i knew....if you find the answer let me know. Good luck op x | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? " -- Sorry to hear this. 
I don't know about boosting your self esteem?
But have you considered taking a little break away from here?
I know occasionally when I get overwhelmed with too many things, you just don't feel this as you should.
So take yourself away for several weeks, freshen up your mind (might help now it's approaching spring and getting a little lighter?).
Then comeback to it when it feels fresh and new again.
For a lot of people this is an amazing fun experience and escape.
It is a buzz getting nice messages or compliments on your profile or photos (regardless of if you take compliments well).
Sadly intermixed with this are the idiots you have to deal with.
Don't close your profile, just hide it and take a little time for you. Then come back when you feel ready as it's the. Something new and exciting again.
We all go through spells where we can't be at this and on it 100% all the time. (Especially if you've also a life to lead outside?).
So (easier said than done!), Try not to worry and give yourself a break mentally from the delightful madhouse that this place is. Wether that's a week, a couple of weeks or whatever.
Do what feels right for you.
I'm sure you'll work through it.
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? " Go to a mirror tell yourself 5 things that you are good at you like about your self do every morning.. try and find different things not the same 5 .. | |||
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"Lost a bit of confidence since Christmas. Don't really know why but it's defintely taken it's toll on my wanting to meet. What things do you do to give yourself a boost and make yourself feel sexy? Confidence is a mental thing how do you actually boost self esteem? I don't see why anyone who looks the way you do would have a confidence issue, you are absolutely gorgeous "Sorry to hear your confidence has taken a knock. If it's an exoerience that's done it then put it behind you. If it's the way you feel about yourself then be good to.yourself, love yourself and others. Get your hair done, your nails just do things that make you feel good. Dont surround yourself with negative people. And hes right you know you are gorgeous x | |||
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