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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably, can't say I'd be bothered though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well yes. Seeing as you lied for a fuck. Anyone would feel used surely?

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By *othasMan
over a year ago

wigan

Yes, it's a lie .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was a guy, I'd feel used in that scenario, yes. Being lied to just to get a fuck is pretty lame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People lie on here all the time

The women that say they want non commitment but really do

The men that say they want commitment but not really

The women that say they just want to fuck but don’t

The ones who really aren’t real at all

The ones that say they’re bi to appear more appealing

You get me??

It’s full of it - just as in normal life too. I reckon on here just take it with a pinch of salt until you get that ring on your finger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deprnds on what my expectation is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men do this all the time. I've the broken heart to prove it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore. "
why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Lies are constantly told in order to get sex. It’s as old as time

I’m more confused about why people believe what a random stranger on a sex site tells them than anything else. Sometimes you have to use your noggin but we are swayed by prettiness and sexiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've read a couple of thread posts in the past from couples saying they have met on Fab and are still happily together. So it isn't unheard of OP, but, like yourself, I would find it hard to believe at least at first if someone said they wanted to make a go of a relationship after meeting here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Yes, I’d feel used. But after just one meet I probably wouldn’t be that bothered, it’s different if it’s been for weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if I’d spaffed inside you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Its best to take the site as it is. Don't get sucked into lies about commitment

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Lies are constantly told in order to get sex. It’s as old as time

I’m more confused about why people believe what a random stranger on a sex site tells them than anything else. Sometimes you have to use your noggin but we are swayed by prettiness and sexiness "

Yeah Swing said it was just coffee to say hello in person following interaction on the forum. What a huge porkie that was

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

No I would jump for joy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet"

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve obtained sex by deception, I’m guessing most people would feel used by that.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Lies are constantly told in order to get sex. It’s as old as time

I’m more confused about why people believe what a random stranger on a sex site tells them than anything else. Sometimes you have to use your noggin but we are swayed by prettiness and sexiness

Yeah Swing said it was just coffee to say hello in person following interaction on the forum. What a huge porkie that was "

Proof right there!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Well yes. Seeing as you lied for a fuck. Anyone would feel used surely?"

And you think men don't lie to woman to get fucked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men do this all the time. I've the broken heart to prove it.

"

Men do it, women do it. Why do you have to try and turn this into a male bashing thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by. "

I would suggest you’re not on the right site if you’re seeking monogamy.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend on what had happened and what kind of bond we'd had up until that point.

If we'd spent a good amount of time getting to know one another on a personal level and shared a good connection then yeah, I would feel disappointed, confused and used to a certain extent. But I don't think I would be hurt from the experience because I'm well aware there's people out there that would do something like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope . . Probably because it won't happen haha.... Also congratulations on getting number 1 Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if met on this site,but assume it’s something men do all the time to get a shag, unfortunately.Is honesty the best policy ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore. "

Wise move.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Lies are constantly told in order to get sex. It’s as old as time

I’m more confused about why people believe what a random stranger on a sex site tells them than anything else. Sometimes you have to use your noggin but we are swayed by prettiness and sexiness "

What Babs said

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore. "

I don't think anyone 'wants' a relationship with someone in particular. You meet someone and the physical attraction is there - the rest either develops or it doesn't.

On here it's probably easier to filter out those that really don't want commitment by their number of veris.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well yes. Seeing as you lied for a fuck. Anyone would feel used surely?

And you think men don't lie to woman to get fucked "

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that wasn't the question though.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Lol I'd say meet me in twenty minutes for round 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well yes. Seeing as you lied for a fuck. Anyone would feel used surely?

And you think men don't lie to woman to get fucked "

Men lie

Fuck that

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by.

I would suggest you’re not on the right site if you’re seeking monogamy....."

Isn’t that kinda exactly what she was saying here though! She was re-explaining why she’s not seeking monogamy on this site in reply to someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly? No. Not used anyway.

You can have inital impressions on a first date if you like someone, but one date isn't enough for to build much emotional connection (for me at least), so at worst I might feel mildly disappointed that it wasn't going anywhere if I were to really like that person.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by.

I would suggest you’re not on the right site if you’re seeking monogamy....."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by.

I would suggest you’re not on the right site if you’re seeking monogamy....."

I’m on the right site I’m just not seeking monogamy from here. It’s fine to keep an open mind, I just don’t believe words. It would have to be actions and pretty solid determination to sway me into thinking a guy genuinely wants what I want.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

Depends on the man and what he was thinking whilst he was listening.

Those that trusted what was said to them would feel used.

Those that didn't trust would know they'd been right in what they thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly? No. Not used anyway.

You can have inital impressions on a first date if you like someone, but one date isn't enough for to build much emotional connection (for me at least), so at worst I might feel mildly disappointed that it wasn't going anywhere if I were to really like that person."

And at the end of the day I would have had sex with someone I liked - so where's the harm in that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure it's happens in every day dating life.

Ye it stings a little.

But every man or woman lies to get the ride. Hence why one night stands are popular.

But never say never, no one knows what is around the corner.

Just enjoy the moment.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

How many offers have you had to be the bloke who’s used for a fuck, OP?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Honestly? No. Not used anyway.

You can have inital impressions on a first date if you like someone, but one date isn't enough for to build much emotional connection (for me at least), so at worst I might feel mildly disappointed that it wasn't going anywhere if I were to really like that person."

But if that person actually said to you ......... I just lied to get sex from you .... would you not be revulsed by the lie ? ( never mind the sex or the first date )

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

No I would say thank god u said that n I would love to just fuck u too lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Honestly? No. Not used anyway.

You can have inital impressions on a first date if you like someone, but one date isn't enough for to build much emotional connection (for me at least), so at worst I might feel mildly disappointed that it wasn't going anywhere if I were to really like that person.

And at the end of the day I would have had sex with someone I liked - so where's the harm in that?"

Have you read the O.P. scenario Lib ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"No I would say thank god u said that n I would love to just fuck u too lol"

Meh .... it's okay when a liar meets a liar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not gonna lie, if this happened to me now and again I'd be quite happy. Not all the time of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly? No. Not used anyway.

You can have inital impressions on a first date if you like someone, but one date isn't enough for to build much emotional connection (for me at least), so at worst I might feel mildly disappointed that it wasn't going anywhere if I were to really like that person.

And at the end of the day I would have had sex with someone I liked - so where's the harm in that?

Have you read the O.P. scenario Lib ?"

Yes.

Does my answer not make sense to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by.

I would suggest you’re not on the right site if you’re seeking monogamy.....

I’m on the right site I’m just not seeking monogamy from here. It’s fine to keep an open mind, I just don’t believe words. It would have to be actions and pretty solid determination to sway me into thinking a guy genuinely wants what I want. "

Well that’s all good then take everything you’re told on here with a huge pinch of salt and you shouldn’t go to far wrong.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Honestly? No. Not used anyway.

You can have inital impressions on a first date if you like someone, but one date isn't enough for to build much emotional connection (for me at least), so at worst I might feel mildly disappointed that it wasn't going anywhere if I were to really like that person.

And at the end of the day I would have had sex with someone I liked - so where's the harm in that?

Have you read the O.P. scenario Lib ?

Yes.

Does my answer not make sense to you?"

Yes perfect sense but not in relation to the O.P. and the IF's in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly? No. Not used anyway.

You can have inital impressions on a first date if you like someone, but one date isn't enough for to build much emotional connection (for me at least), so at worst I might feel mildly disappointed that it wasn't going anywhere if I were to really like that person.

And at the end of the day I would have had sex with someone I liked - so where's the harm in that?

Have you read the O.P. scenario Lib ?

Yes.

Does my answer not make sense to you?

Yes perfect sense but not in relation to the O.P. and the IF's in it."

Fight me. 1 on 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

"

Perhaps in the real world, but I'm assuming that most people on here, with their own junk on display, wouldn't negatively judge someone else for doing the same

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Perhaps in the real world, but I'm assuming that most people on here, with their own junk on display, wouldn't negatively judge someone else for doing the same

"

It would be nice if that was true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer is YES. Esp for the example you presented.

But on Fabs: Answer is NO. To expect any more on here is not realistic.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Honestly? No. Not used anyway.

You can have inital impressions on a first date if you like someone, but one date isn't enough for to build much emotional connection (for me at least), so at worst I might feel mildly disappointed that it wasn't going anywhere if I were to really like that person.

And at the end of the day I would have had sex with someone I liked - so where's the harm in that?

Have you read the O.P. scenario Lib ?

Yes.

Does my answer not make sense to you?

Yes perfect sense but not in relation to the O.P. and the IF's in it.

Fight me. 1 on 1."

Only in mud you biatch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Perhaps in the real world, but I'm assuming that most people on here, with their own junk on display, wouldn't negatively judge someone else for doing the same

It would be nice if that was true. "

Let's call it an effective filter for hypocrites. Not that I'm looking to date anyone, but if I was it wouldn't be with someone who had a problem with what I have done on here.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"
I can see a correlation here with another thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

I can see a correlation here with another thread. "

Haha yes bruv!

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

In the real world, I'd probably feel miffed. But on a swingers site? Id feel like a naive twat.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

I can see a correlation here with another thread.

Haha yes bruv! "
Women just don't really do it though. They always want more like Oliver Twist.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Perhaps in the real world, but I'm assuming that most people on here, with their own junk on display, wouldn't negatively judge someone else for doing the same

It would be nice if that was true.

Let's call it an effective filter for hypocrites. Not that I'm looking to date anyone, but if I was it wouldn't be with someone who had a problem with what I have done on here. "

Not I. I always think of the dominatrix who was on First Dates twice. The first time she told the guy what her job was he got all giggly and silly and started treating her in a nudge, nudge, wink, wink way. The second guy just accepted it as if she'd told him she worked in Sainsbury.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by. "

The question is.... Were those singles who ended up as couples actually looking for a relationship or did it just happen along the way (I'm betting most will say it just happened and was totally unexpected)? They didn't order up a relationship with a list of demands... They just found themselves wanting to spend more time with one particular person than all the rest, and happily the feeling was mutual. If someone had told me this day 3 years ago that I would meet a man within 2 weeks who would not only become my best friend, but would also be everything I've ever wanted in a lover, I'd have said they were nuts. I was just coming out of one relationship and another one was the last thing on my mind. I just wanted to have fun and so did he. There was no pressure and no expectations. Thinking back now, I wonder if either one of us had started making demands and laying out expectations at the beginning, before we'd really even gotten a chance to know each other, would we have even lasted beyond those first few meets?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

I can see a correlation here with another thread.

Haha yes bruv! Women just don't really do it though. They always want more like Oliver Twist. "

I can’t imagine a woman having to lie to a guy to get sex out of him!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

I can see a correlation here with another thread.

Haha yes bruv! Women just don't really do it though. They always want more like Oliver Twist.

I can’t imagine a woman having to lie to a guy to get sex out of him! "
Yeah, it's pretty redundant.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

For me it's usually the contrary, we meet for a fuck however they leave wanting more

As for the op, after being used in such a way, I would not feel negatively, it's a cosy feeling being wanted ,needed for sex x

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

I don't know would you like to help me find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

Definitely. I'd be judging our first sexual encounter on the basis that we're going to have better chemistry as time goes on and less about just getting my rocks off in that particular moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the sex was good and the overall experience was life enhancing and enjoyable, then I'd be grateful, I'd take it for what it was and move on..... Life's too short....

Would you like to use me for sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be a few dates before I got to the fucking stage if it was someone I wanted a relationship with so we would both need to do a good bit of chatting/ socials first I reckon.

They would probably get bored and move on by that point (or fall head over heels )

Would I feel used? No. I would put it down to experience and learn from it.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

You could always hold back with the sex until the relationship has developed some more,time to out the weak from the chaff.

At least if they still around after a couple of months hopefully they are serious about a relationship.

Seems to be an awful lot of effort and time commitment just for a shag.

That way no one ends up feeling used.

Unless you enjoy being the victim that is ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

Yes. I don't think some women appreciate how much effort and random routine changes are required on our part to travel 10 miles on a random day when we have other commitments or just want our free time.

The traffic and entire journey give me anxiety. I don't want my time wasted for a quicky.

I don't feel it's worth the journey.

If the most attractive/amazing woman in the world was in London wanting me to show up just for a few hours it wouldn't be worth my time.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

There are couples who have met on Fab or through the scene that have found love and a relationship. I was at a wedding last year of one couple who met three years ago. It does happen.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

Completely depends how much I liked her in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"
I'd be devastated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are talking about meeting people not on sex sights with clear intentions?

When your investing time into communicating with someone who just wants sex?

That type of conversation shouldn't be taking weeks of online talking....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lies are constantly told in order to get sex. It’s as old as time

I’m more confused about why people believe what a random stranger on a sex site tells them than anything else. Sometimes you have to use your noggin but we are swayed by prettiness and sexiness

Yeah Swing said it was just coffee to say hello in person following interaction on the forum. What a huge porkie that was "

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Lies are constantly told in order to get sex. It’s as old as time

I’m more confused about why people believe what a random stranger on a sex site tells them than anything else. Sometimes you have to use your noggin but we are swayed by prettiness and sexiness

Yeah Swing said it was just coffee to say hello in person following interaction on the forum. What a huge porkie that was

"

FTFY you’d selected the wrong emoji

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

No, I'd be happy that we'd had sex and just put it down to experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

Definitely. I'd be judging our first sexual encounter on the basis that we're going to have better chemistry as time goes on and less about just getting my rocks off in that particular moment.

"
Exactly! I base my actions on the circumstances, if those circumstances turn out to be untrue/ a deliberate lie for a man to get what he wants then yes well pissed off! I say it as it is and what I want, we think others as like ourselves but sadly it is not the case. Being on here is no excuse for telling lies to get what you want and makes you no less of a disgusting person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say it would bother me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't say it would bother me"

Can I use you ?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Perhaps in the real world, but I'm assuming that most people on here, with their own junk on display, wouldn't negatively judge someone else for doing the same

"

Exactly this. I don't understand people who judge others for what they're doing themselves. Duplicity and hypocrisy are very ugly traits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you just wrote part of my life OP.

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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

I am honest about my intentions and situation... even if it means I don't get to meet with someone I really like...

Just causes big issues down the line if I'm not upfront..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by. "
So your on a swinging site and are looking for Monogomy? Your a strange bird!

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By *ussD1Man
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Can't say it would bother me

Can I use you ?"

Priceless.

Human nature to get what you want in any way you can. We all do it every day to a greater or lesser degree; we grow up learning how to get what we want.

Not judging anyone here or in their lives. I never assume, or at least try not too, and I accept everyone, everyone has their own agenda, if it matches mine then ‘rock n roll’. If not move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by. So your on a swinging site and are looking for Monogomy? Your a strange bird!"
Or do you really want a foot in both camps...your original question suggests you might...and collateral damage be damned!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't say it would bother me

Can I use you ?"

Yeah fill your boots

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by. So your on a swinging site and are looking for Monogomy? Your a strange bird!Or do you really want a foot in both camps...your original question suggests you might...and collateral damage be damned!"

I’m not looking for monogamy on here. Is that not clear by me saying I’d never believe a guy on here would want a relationship with me?

The original comment was off the back of another thread where someone said men don’t feel used for sex. I was asking the question. It was a hypothetical question.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by. So your on a swinging site and are looking for Monogomy? Your a strange bird!Or do you really want a foot in both camps...your original question suggests you might...and collateral damage be damned!

I’m not looking for monogamy on here. Is that not clear by me saying I’d never believe a guy on here would want a relationship with me?

The original comment was off the back of another thread where someone said men don’t feel used for sex. I was asking the question. It was a hypothetical question. "
I'm the twisted firestarter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

Oh god. Awfully used. It would be awful.

Any chance of being used and abused a second time,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Its best to take the site as it is. Don't get sucked into lies about commitment "

I wouldn't date anyone off here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Its best to take the site as it is. Don't get sucked into lies about commitment

I wouldn't date anyone off here."

I have, twice.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

Yeah totally. Especially if I actually fancied they woman thinking it might go further.

There's this myth that men will fuck anything. It's not true. I think women play on that sometimes to belittle men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Its best to take the site as it is. Don't get sucked into lies about commitment

I wouldn't date anyone off here.

I have, twice..... "

It works for some people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Its best to take the site as it is. Don't get sucked into lies about commitment

I wouldn't date anyone off here.

I have, twice.....

It works for some people.

"

I've had a relationship off here. I didn't realize I was in a relationship though until a friend pointed it out to me.

I panicked and got myself out of it by getting d*unk and insulting her friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

Yes, I would feel used and probably a little bit hurt depending on how much I like you. I would very quickly weigh out my options and will likely allow it to continue unless I feel it's holding me back from a more fulfilling relationship with someone else. But I would feel hurt, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by. So your on a swinging site and are looking for Monogomy? Your a strange bird!Or do you really want a foot in both camps...your original question suggests you might...and collateral damage be damned!

I’m not looking for monogamy on here. Is that not clear by me saying I’d never believe a guy on here would want a relationship with me? You missed out the words (not anymore)

The original comment was off the back of another thread where someone said men don’t feel used for sex. I was asking the question. It was a hypothetical question. I'm the twisted firestarter. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't feel used, id feel youre a shitty human being but still i would have had sex with a hot woman that soothes the pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the wrong site to start off a relationship i think. I'm sure there's the odd exception where people have met and got on famously, but not sure many guys would wanna be with someone where the whole site has seen their tits or fanny, and sure women won't wanna relationship with guy who's had his dick on display for years.

Its best to take the site as it is. Don't get sucked into lies about commitment

I wouldn't date anyone off here.

I have, twice.....

It works for some people.

I've had a relationship off here. I didn't realize I was in a relationship though until a friend pointed it out to me.

I panicked and got myself out of it by getting d*unk and insulting her friend.

"

How do you accidentally get into a relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you said thank you afterwards I’ll let it go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very thought-provoking, the way I see it to the comments about dating or not dating someone from Fab, once again I wouldn’t fuck someone I wouldn’t date... there is no difference to meeting a man through here or bumping into him in Tesco... no difference at all in my opinion

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By *rungeguyMan
over a year ago

leeds

I wouldn’t feel used . Any chance of using me again though? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

I think you underestimate men and perhaps overestimate yourself,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you just wrote part of my life OP. "

To use or not to use, that is the question x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol,,men don't give a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont think its too much for people to be honest and truthfull .. it would be the point of being lied to that gets to me xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

I think you underestimate men and perhaps overestimate yourself, "

T’was a hypothetical question off the back of another thread, no need to get the claws out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol,,men don't give a fuck"

What was it you were saying about underestimating men?

Ive seen enough dudes broken by relationships to know that men do actually have emotions.

Nothing some tren cant fix though!

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By *obitupaMan
over a year ago

Keighley

Op it's not a dating site. Just see how things go for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op it's not a dating site. Just see how things go for you"

I get the feeling shes not short of offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

I think you underestimate men and perhaps overestimate yourself,

T’was a hypothetical question off the back of another thread, no need to get the claws out. "

oh,,actually it was,nt aimed directly at you,,just in general,,hypotheticaly

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By *obitupaMan
over a year ago

Keighley


"Op it's not a dating site. Just see how things go for you

I get the feeling shes not short of offers

"

I know bet she gets bombarded.

She is very nice

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By *obitupaMan
over a year ago

Keighley


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

Yes but glad it was you using me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

I think you underestimate men and perhaps overestimate yourself,

T’was a hypothetical question off the back of another thread, no need to get the claws out.

oh,,actually it was,nt aimed directly at you,,just in general,,hypotheticaly"

Oh my mistake, when someone says that I over estimate myself it doesn’t imply that the statement was a general one to the masses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?

I think you underestimate men and perhaps overestimate yourself,

T’was a hypothetical question off the back of another thread, no need to get the claws out.

oh,,actually it was,nt aimed directly at you,,just in general,,hypotheticaly

Oh my mistake, when someone says that I over estimate myself it doesn’t imply that the statement was a general one to the masses. "

lol well you,ll just have to trust me on this one.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I don't mind getting used for sex if i am able to do the same. But a lot of women expect the guy to work around the female's schedule and levels of horniness. But say when i suggest it they always say... Sorry got a lot on, will plan something soon. And then when they fancy it the offer is only valid for the next twenty minutes and if the guy doesn't accept he will be condemned to the shit heap for eternity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

I'm thinking this is an opportunity to make a major contribution to research. Let's test this out, shall we.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think leading someone to believe to you want a relationship when you actually don't is a shitty thing to do.

Lots of ladies and guys just want sex so no need for such underhanded tactics

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

No would not feel used at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know, give it a try and I'll tell you after..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men feeling used ...... never

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By *ailburkeMan
over a year ago

near you


"I’d never believe I guy wanted a relationship with me from here, not anymore.

why not there's plenty who do maybe you just havnt found a compatible one yet

People find relationships on here and stay on as couples. If you’re looking for a swinging relationship then here would be the perfect place to meet someone compatible. I’m not looking to swing, I want monogamy which is harder to come by.

The question is.... Were those singles who ended up as couples actually looking for a relationship or did it just happen along the way (I'm betting most will say it just happened and was totally unexpected)? They didn't order up a relationship with a list of demands... They just found themselves wanting to spend more time with one particular person than all the rest, and happily the feeling was mutual. If someone had told me this day 3 years ago that I would meet a man within 2 weeks who would not only become my best friend, but would also be everything I've ever wanted in a lover, I'd have said they were nuts. I was just coming out of one relationship and another one was the last thing on my mind. I just wanted to have fun and so did he. There was no pressure and no expectations. Thinking back now, I wonder if either one of us had started making demands and laying out expectations at the beginning, before we'd really even gotten a chance to know each other, would we have even lasted beyond those first few meets? "

I bet you he is smiling from ear to ear reading this

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"Men feeling used ...... never "
must mean im not a real man then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say if you were looking to date a woman with a view to a relationship and I told you that I was looking to date and wanted a relationship. Say I then go on to fuck you but then the next day tell you I dont want a relationship, I just really wanted to fuck you. Would you feel used?"

I would have earlier on in life. Older and wiser, maybe not so much now.

I have always been on Fab with the hope that a relationship may spring from it. The older I get, the longer it's taking me to fall for someone. I rarely get lust and love confused for one another and I quite happily enjoy good sex for what it is.

Whether or not I'd want to go back for a bit more, if it were on the table. Would depend on exactly how the night had gone and how things were explained the following day.

I'd appreciate the honesty over everything else.

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