FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Sex goes down the list when ...

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... I am pre-occupied by other activities, such as holiday planning, holidaying, learning a new skill, improving an existing skill, having goals to achieve, etc. etc. etc...

Sieving the mud to find a potential gem to meet seems like too much effort, and I would rather spend my weekends to refresh and charge up the batteries for the week ahead.

Hence I am in the "cannot be arsed" phase, so much so that I have not perved at vids for weeks (pics yes, vids no)!

Am I bothered? Not really, as sex has never been high on my list of things that make me happy and content.

Anyone else going through such a phase?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Just you Pearl x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been so long since we've met anyone that I don't miss sex with people other than Kate.

I'm in here most days though, and I'd miss the forums if I abstained

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Yes Im probably in that phase more than the other but Im happy with that. Makes it more fun when I am in the mood

Nice to be able to dip in and out when I fancy it, so to speak

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's been so long since we've met anyone that I don't miss sex with people other than Kate.

I'm in here most days though, and I'd miss the forums if I abstained

"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe its time to hang up ur heels

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am here nearly every day too, as it is fun and entertaining most of the time.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"maybe its time to hang up ur heels "

.

Why?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cuz we want shaggers not holidaymakers

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is bottom of my list in some aspect. Don't whether I would call it sorting my life out or the January Blues. Thank fuck its February next week.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ashful BazMan
over a year ago

poole dorset

Sex, is always top of the shop for me, unless Man United are playing. half time is fine though!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"cuz we want shaggers not holidaymakers "

.

Each to their own etc. etc. etc...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ra ra ra etc etc etc

its all in fun

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

I'm the same, sex is sometimes the last thing on my mind, espcially if you have other things going on

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

To us swinging falls into the category of luxury activity - like other things we love doing, we may plan around them so we can do it, but ultimately like all luxuries it has to take second place to real life.

The trick we find is in recognising that sometimes even when you have lots going on and you're really stressed - a little of what you like does you good.

It's easy to get bogged down sometimes.

We had the last min opporunity to go out on Friday - we practically forced ourselves to go to a club instead of having a early night without kids. So glad we did - was just what the doctor ordered.

Cheers

D&K

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I am stressed, I would eat, either to buy something in, or to cook something really nice for myself.

Another way to de-stress is to sing on top of my voice to "Don't Stop Me Now" by Queen while driving my car.

Both works everytime without fail, and involves minimal efforts.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

life dictates otherwise...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

serious issues only for me... in fact the more stressed I am, I need sex even more..

I get times when I get no choice.. but it isnt because I dont want to...

Its always high on my priorities... only thing that comes above it is my kids and my relationship.

Cali

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

SW1A1AA

sex for me (not counting jay) is something i enjoy. Sometimes i might have three meets a week sometimes one in three months. I love sex, but there is so much more to life than sex.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Sex will go down the list when something else fun and enjoyable comes along which I have less opportunity to do.

Recreational sex is important to me as it is part of who I am, but it's not important that I am always doing it.

In addition, there have been times where catching up on housework, doing the washing and sorting out the garden have been more of a priority than having a shag.... it's about what will make you feel better in the long run.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

Nope, not just you Pearl. We're in a bit of a funk lately - hardly surprising when you consider what we've been through in the last 3 months though.

I'm hoping our mojo comes back VERY soon!

*Her*

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are always in that mood, sure. lol

as long as we can have sex wit each other when we are together, we dont really care whether there are others involved or not.

the planning does get somewhat tiresome, but, when it goes right, its fantastic, and in the last 2 days we have met 2 couples that have really floated our boat, so to speak, and hope to become long term friends with them, but who knows.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

last few weeks yes ive been horny and in the mood to play but just nothing or noone has made me go YES ill meet you.

my life has been hetic and me returning to work from sickness has been hell, changes to policies and the way we do things and then the home stuff the hobby

just all is like arggghhhh

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Every month, the week before a certain event, I go right off sex and get almost impatient with some of the messages I get on here. The week after a certain event however I'm much more accommodating.

I am also sorting holidays out at the mo and having lots of fun picking where to go. Sometimes its good to concentrate on the rest of our lives to recharge the old batteries.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it's cold.

Maybe vitamin D is linked

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top