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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How easy do you find it to walk away from someone?

Be it a potential meet, a friend or something more.

Are you a one strike and you're out kinda person or do you give too many chances?

Do you have anyone in your life you just can't let go off?

Do you ever wish you could be more ruthless when someone keeps hurting you or taking advantage?

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

It depends on what the first strike is, people do make mistakes and it would depend on the circumstances too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a 2 strike person, hurt or piss me off once and I'll let it go but do it again and I won't. I can walk away from people yes it's not easy sometimes but if you feel the need to then it has to be done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently walked away from somebody whom I knew would not be good for me in the long term. Found it a lot easier than I thought, and that included moving back to Liverpool. But there are some people in my life that I could never walk away from as it would feel like I was giving up on them. All in all it can be so hard to walk away but if your happiness is at stake I always say you have to take the hit no matter how hard. You as an individual need to be happy as that's what life is all about, living not just existing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it the hardest thing of all i find it just as hard to go home after a fantastic session too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One strike and I’m out. I’m not good with second chances. If someone hurts me or mine in any walk of life, once the trust has gone it’s gone. Life’s too short for negative or shit people in my life.

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By *nceinawhileCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

I often give people more than one chance but when I've had enough that's it block them in every way possible including avoiding and blatantly blanking them

C (fem)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends.

In here one chance only.

Elsewhere I will give friends the benefit of the doubt many times but once I decide to walk away I find it easy and don't look back, ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How easy do you find it to walk away from someone?

Be it a potential meet, a friend or something more.

Are you a one strike and you're out kinda person or do you give too many chances?

Do you have anyone in your life you just can't let go off?

Do you ever wish you could be more ruthless when someone keeps hurting you or taking advantage? "

I used to really struggle with cutting someone out but now I find it so much easier

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

On here it depends. If there's a genuine reason I may give another chance. Once I walk away though I don't look back. IRL, with friends and family, I give more than one chance. I find it hard to hold a grudge. I find it easier to give second chances when it's to do with me but hurt my kids then there's no second chance or second thought x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends on what the first strike is, people do make mistakes and it would depend on the circumstances too."

What if it was consistent? You forgive them the first time but they do the same again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give people more chances than I should, I am toughening up though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the circumstances, but if it's seriously upsetting me and my mental health, I walk x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I've had to do this a few times last year, it's painful and hard but ultimately you have to look after yourself.

Walking away is never as simple as it sounds though

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

For people who I haven't met before on here, 1 strike. Others in real life of previous regular meets get more leeway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a 2 strike person, hurt or piss me off once and I'll let it go but do it again and I won't. I can walk away from people yes it's not easy sometimes but if you feel the need to then it has to be done! "

I guess once you've made the decision to walk away it's the sticking to it that's hard.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've had to do this a few times last year, it's painful and hard but ultimately you have to look after yourself.

Walking away is never as simple as it sounds though"

No it isn't there's a lot of muddy water goes under the bridge to get to that point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I recently walked away from somebody whom I knew would not be good for me in the long term. Found it a lot easier than I thought, and that included moving back to Liverpool. But there are some people in my life that I could never walk away from as it would feel like I was giving up on them. All in all it can be so hard to walk away but if your happiness is at stake I always say you have to take the hit no matter how hard. You as an individual need to be happy as that's what life is all about, living not just existing "

Do you think having physical distance from them made it easier?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't walk away from my long term partner.

Part of me thinks it's time to call it a day; the other part is struggling with knowing I'll never see him again.

I think I would prefer it if he just stopped asking to see me and he gradually went further to the back of my mind.

Anyone else, I would easily walk away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How easy do you find it to walk away from someone?

Be it a potential meet, a friend or something more.

Are you a one strike and you're out kinda person or do you give too many chances?

Do you have anyone in your life you just can't let go off?

Do you ever wish you could be more ruthless when someone keeps hurting you or taking advantage?

I used to really struggle with cutting someone out but now I find it so much easier "

What has made it easier? A change in the way you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends entirely who they are. Someone in work nah fuck off. Someone you've friends with give them a second chance. Someone you have loved...well that's a lot harder

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On here it depends. If there's a genuine reason I may give another chance. Once I walk away though I don't look back. IRL, with friends and family, I give more than one chance. I find it hard to hold a grudge. I find it easier to give second chances when it's to do with me but hurt my kids then there's no second chance or second thought x"

It's the holding a grudge part that's hard I think. They do something and you forgive them and move on so it's kinda like a new slate where the next time is a bit like strike one all over again.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I'm soft as shit and look back a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On here it depends. If there's a genuine reason I may give another chance. Once I walk away though I don't look back. IRL, with friends and family, I give more than one chance. I find it hard to hold a grudge. I find it easier to give second chances when it's to do with me but hurt my kids then there's no second chance or second thought x

It's the holding a grudge part that's hard I think. They do something and you forgive them and move on so it's kinda like a new slate where the next time is a bit like strike one all over again. "

Oh no if I forgive you or give you a second chance I'll not think about it. I'm really soft hearted but once I decide you've had your quota that's it. Your out my life completely. With me if your in your in and if your out your out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a 2 strike person, hurt or piss me off once and I'll let it go but do it again and I won't. I can walk away from people yes it's not easy sometimes but if you feel the need to then it has to be done!

I guess once you've made the decision to walk away it's the sticking to it that's hard. "
it is hard very hard sometimes but when you miss them think of their behaviour and how it affected you then just don't look back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very difficult. I never hold a grudge and rarely get angry over things. I always prefer to let stuff go, forgive and forget. It takes a hell of a lot for me to fall out with someone and be done with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends.

Someone who was really important in my life blew hot and cold and made me feel second best a lot stayed in my life for six years I think. It came to a head in July last year and I just gave up on him. Talked briefly at Christmas and that's it. I feel better off and more free for it.

I can be quite soft on people I care about but I can be pushed too far on rare occasions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently walked away from somebody whom I knew would not be good for me in the long term. Found it a lot easier than I thought, and that included moving back to Liverpool. But there are some people in my life that I could never walk away from as it would feel like I was giving up on them. All in all it can be so hard to walk away but if your happiness is at stake I always say you have to take the hit no matter how hard. You as an individual need to be happy as that's what life is all about, living not just existing

Do you think having physical distance from them made it easier? "

Quite possibly! But if I'm being truly honest the distance had started to come between us even when we where in the same room. In all fairness though I have walked away from some people I would never ever want to walk away from ,including the love of my life, because I wasnt good for her back then and didn't like the person I was becoming due to that x today? We are great friends, holiday together and even talk about the potential of getting what we had back...15 years on sometimes letting go is the only way we go forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m much better at this than I was. I’ve got another test coming up, when I walk away from something I’ve been involved in for 15 years. But I’ve announced I’m going so....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With people who mean a lot to me I've had to really work at improving my boundaries. It may take a while but I will walk away if it's in my best interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave my family many many years of chances and excuses before I cut them off.

Other than that, I don't think I've ever made the decision to cut someone out of my life, of course relationships have ended and friends gone their own way but non with the finality or drama of cutting people out of my life. Mind you I'm pretty good at not letting people in ti my life in the first place so that's possibly why

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"How easy do you find it to walk away from someone?

Be it a potential meet, a friend or something more.

Are you a one strike and you're out kinda person or do you give too many chances?

Do you have anyone in your life you just can't let go off?

Do you ever wish you could be more ruthless when someone keeps hurting you or taking advantage? "

Very easy.

I used to give chances, once upon a time. Not anymore.

I can, have & will cut someone of out of my life completly, the minute I feel something is not right, or I'm not happy.

As the saying goes 'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me'

I'm no fool, and I'm too busy living a great life to need to put up with fools in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks OP

I've been head singing Craig fkin David for the last 2 hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to give people loads of chances

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks OP

I've been head singing Craig fkin David for the last 2 hours "
me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has a consistent, negative impact on my life I'm pretty fucking adept at cutting them out of it.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I wish I could be better at walking away, it’s doing my head in

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I've had to do this a few times last year, it's painful and hard but ultimately you have to look after yourself.

Walking away is never as simple as it sounds though

No it isn't there's a lot of muddy water goes under the bridge to get to that point."

Exactly that yes. I've tried and tried with my family but something happened over the last couple of years and I just got to breaking point.

Once I made my decision my mental health improved dramatically and I've hardly looked back, Christmas and birthdays are hardest but I know I made the right choice for me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

very easily

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"How easy do you find it to walk away from someone?

Be it a potential meet, a friend or something more.

Are you a one strike and you're out kinda person or do you give too many chances?

Do you have anyone in your life you just can't let go off?

Do you ever wish you could be more ruthless when someone keeps hurting you or taking advantage? "

I find it easy to be honest, as one door closes another opens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With some people it's been surprisingly easy with others impossible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless they're very important to me it's one strike and I'm done..

close friends and family are a different dynamic. It would take something monumental to write those relationships off.

I've had to temporarily remove some family from my life for my own wellbeing. But it was completely necessary for me to cope and they to understand. We have rebuilt our relationship and are better for it as ultimately I know that they have my best interests at heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many questions to answer all in one go OP

I’m not good at walking away, it’s an area I need to work on.

Generally it doesn’t affect me but every now and then I think I should toughen up and cut loose those who let me down continuously.

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