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Feeling so low right now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No one understands my pain

Mrscxxx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

{{Hugs}}

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question is what is giving you the pain ? Xx

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sending hugs and kisses. Hope you feel better soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massive hugs.

Inbox open if you need to chat xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one can truly understand another's pain because we've all lead different life's and experiences some may be similar or similar episodes but it's the whole cumulative that builds up to the point...all we can do be is be there for others and help how ever we can...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Question is what is giving you the pain ? Xx "

Life and I miss my dad I wish he was here right now need a hug that only my dad could give me

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non sexual hugs being sent your way... it's good to talk xxx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I hope you feel better.

Please consider reaching out for help, it does exist.

In the meantime, do things that make you feel secure and either bring happiness or at least calm.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No one can truly understand another's pain because we've all lead different life's and experiences some may be similar or similar episodes but it's the whole cumulative that builds up to the point...all we can do be is be there for others and help how ever we can..."

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Not so important that someone understands your pain, as long as they are there for you, in a way that helps x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hope you feel better.

Please consider reaching out for help, it does exist.

In the meantime, do things that make you feel secure and either bring happiness or at least calm. "

I’m home alone hubs is at work we argued last night :/ I hate it wen we argue I love him so much and honestly couldn’t imagine my life with out him

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not so important that someone understands your pain, as long as they are there for you, in a way that helps x"

Every one leaves me after a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question is what is giving you the pain ? Xx

Life and I miss my dad I wish he was here right now need a hug that only my dad could give me

Mrscxxx "

Sending massive hugs, it would have been my dads birthday next week; so I know a little of it. Feel free to PM me if you like, but also look at positive ways to help yourself, maybe reach out to MIND who may be able to find you someone to talk to who is qualified to help xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger"

I don’t like it I hate feeling like this

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Question is what is giving you the pain ? Xx

Life and I miss my dad I wish he was here right now need a hug that only my dad could give me

Mrscxxx "

Is there anywhere you can go that makes you feel close to him, somewhere you used to go together, go there for a bit, alone preferably, or with someone who knew him well, might make you feel closer to him for a bit. There's no shame in taking time for yourself to grieve someone you miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question is what is giving you the pain ? Xx

Life and I miss my dad I wish he was here right now need a hug that only my dad could give me

Mrscxxx "

That understandable, I lost my dad 18 months ago , miss him loads , hard to go to my mums without getting a bit up set , big hugs to you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger"

Tosh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not so important that someone understands your pain, as long as they are there for you, in a way that helps x

Every one leaves me after a while "
ive been very up and down this week and im sure ive pushed people away and been a bitch( need to make it up to them ) after going to my step daughters cremation ,sending hugs and hope things improve soon

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I hope you feel better.

Please consider reaching out for help, it does exist.

In the meantime, do things that make you feel secure and either bring happiness or at least calm.

I’m home alone hubs is at work we argued last night :/ I hate it wen we argue I love him so much and honestly couldn’t imagine my life with out him

Mrscxxx "

When I feel like that I wrap up warm or have a bath. Feels a bit like a hug. Do something to escape for a bit like read or nap.

If you're struggling to cope, consider the Samaritans.

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"Question is what is giving you the pain ? Xx

Life and I miss my dad I wish he was here right now need a hug that only my dad could give me

Mrscxxx "

He is with you in spirit. Close your eyes and imagine his arms are around you. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger"

Sorry PMF.... I'd agree if we were talking physical pain.... but emotional/mental pain is a different animal all together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger

Sorry PMF.... I'd agree if we were talking physical pain.... but emotional/mental pain is a different animal all together "
very true

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Question is what is giving you the pain ? Xx

Life and I miss my dad I wish he was here right now need a hug that only my dad could give me

Mrscxxx

Is there anywhere you can go that makes you feel close to him, somewhere you used to go together, go there for a bit, alone preferably, or with someone who knew him well, might make you feel closer to him for a bit. There's no shame in taking time for yourself to grieve someone you miss. "

No there’s not only my mum and she has my son atm. Part of me gets jealous wen hubs phones his dad because I can’t do that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger

Sorry PMF.... I'd agree if we were talking physical pain.... but emotional/mental pain is a different animal all together "

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

The pain never goes away but in time you get more used to dealing with it.

Remember there have been good times and there will be again

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The pain never goes away but in time you get more used to dealing with it.

Remember there have been good times and there will be again "

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The pain never goes away but in time you get more used to dealing with it.

Remember there have been good times and there will be again "

But it won’t bring him back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending hugs big hugs, it’s a horrible feeling but just know you can reach out and talk to people, it’s perfectly fine to feel how you do, just know your father will be with you at all times, I’m happy to talk anytime you need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger

Sorry PMF.... I'd agree if we were talking physical pain.... but emotional/mental pain is a different animal all together "
i though she still had neck ache my bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger

Sorry PMF.... I'd agree if we were talking physical pain.... but emotional/mental pain is a different animal all together i though she still had neck ache my bad "

I have that to lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger"

Tell that to someone with arthritis whose pain never goes away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand how you feel. I miss my dad terribly and lost my mum in February. I'm forever the strong person for everyone else but right now very far from it. Hope you feel better soon. Be kind to yourself

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The pain never goes away but in time you get more used to dealing with it.

Remember there have been good times and there will be again

But it won’t bring him back "

People leave their marks on us. You might have his smile or his laugh. You might see him in your son. He's taught you things that serve you well. He's done things that you'll always remember and make you smile.

Those things may hurt to think about at the moment, but they'll become bittersweet, and eventually return to bringing you joy.

He's still with you in what he's left you with.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"The pain never goes away but in time you get more used to dealing with it.

Remember there have been good times and there will be again

But it won’t bring him back "

It won’t, and that’s a horrible thing to deal with. But there’s always a flip side - you were fortunate to know such a good person which is worth remembering.

It’s difficult to deal with, but what you’re going to is part of the healing process

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

Ah, you ok hun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pain is just weakness leaving the body it makes you stronger

Tell that to someone with arthritis whose pain never goes away."
i do whrn i look in the mirror on cold damp days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the grieving part of the pain, you need distraction, over 20 years since my first wife died I mostly have it under control, but it still gets me from time to time. Only option is to get busy, preferably phisical e.g. go for a walk, focus on the good memories, and avoid the what if trap.

For the argument, make tonight special either put it behind you or resolve it rationally.

For the pain, I have no cure, tears work if you are in a place where they can flow without needing to be explained. But only if you can stop them with good memories.

Go get control, it's your life, make it as good as can be.

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