FabSwingers.com forum: How do you know?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you identify as sub or Dom? If so how do you know?

Is it a feeling? An urge? Do you need something in you to be fulfilled to feel satisfied?

What do you get out of it?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Give it a try, if you don’t like it then pray you haven’t forgotten your safe word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's got to be something you're wired to and always be there underlying. Some people may not know until it is unearthed in them.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"Do you identify as sub or Dom? If so how do you know?

Is it a feeling? An urge? Do you need something in you to be fulfilled to feel satisfied?

What do you get out of it? "

Why do you have to be either?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you identify as sub or Dom? If so how do you know?

Is it a feeling? An urge? Do you need something in you to be fulfilled to feel satisfied?

What do you get out of it?

Why do you have to be either?"

You don't. That's why I asked if you do identify as either at the start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to feel submissive in the company of certain men.

Very rarely it switches up, but I don't identify as anything.

I am naturally passive which is why I rarely take the lead.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I tend to feel submissive in the company of certain men.

Very rarely it switches up, but I don't identify as anything.

I am naturally passive which is why I rarely take the lead."

This pretty much sums it up for me as well.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I am neither sub nor dom although I am enticed, excited about the idea of 'playing' with a dom.

There is something so hot for me about a man in control and giving up control (in theory).

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I just know I'm a Switch with slightly more passive/sub leanings...all depending on my mood and who I'm with

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

A sub but only due to me preffering a guy to make the decisions. That's down to shyness and lack of confidence in myself and body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find I’ve always identified, sexually, as Dom on the basis that I’m generally a confident, direct, results orientated and always see problems as challenges. I like to initiate and enjoy the control it brings.

However, recent experiences with an equally dominant woman introduced a whole new dimension into my outlook and I may identify as Switch (with her). I really enjoyed the wrestle with her. I’d say though that any woman who identified as dominant with me can’t be a pushover as it just wouldn’t work given my general persona.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to switch when it comes to men I’m more Dom but love it when it mr m plays Dom in the bedroom. I also prefer to be sub with a female love it when another f is in charge but fem doms are hard to find

Mrscxxx

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I am neither, I have played as a Dom in a Daddy/baby girl situation but inside I knew it was an act on my part. I get nothing from power play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im naturally quite dominant in the bedroom but i know nuthin jon snow

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By *arpePinguisWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I knew from an early age I was kinky! Always identified as Domme but with my regular playmate I've enjoyed letting my submissive side loose. The absolution of responsibility is very freeing

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I don't care

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't care

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so why comment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more Dick than Dom.

bogeyyyysssss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the other person I’m with and the dynamic that creates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you identify as sub or Dom? If so how do you know?

Is it a feeling? An urge? Do you need something in you to be fulfilled to feel satisfied?

What do you get out of it? "

Yes its a feeling for me that I just need to react on

...i suggest if you don't know you're unlikely to be strongly one or the other..but surely at your age you'd have thoughts what you like or maybe you get turned on by both e.g switch...the whole sub/Dom thing is on a scale, all depends whether you feel you're on that scale...and you're always learning ,it's work in progress whether you feel more sub or more dom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sub, I don’t know how it came about just I like to hand over control in the bedroom x

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By *ister KinkyMan
over a year ago

Sussex

"Do you identify as sub or Dom? If so how do you know?

Is it a feeling? An urge? Do you need something in you to be fulfilled to feel satisfied?

What do you get out of it? "

I like to switch, but I definitely lean heavily to the sub side out of the two.

At work I’m quite a bossy alpha type male and when I walk through the front door I like the opposite. It’s more than just sexually for me though. It’s built in to me and I like a naturally dominant woman.

I enjoy the lack of control, the ability to switch off and the way it helps me balance myself out. This also translates into why I love bondage so much. I have zero control and am forced to switch off and relax because there is absolutely nothing I can do.

Very hard to explain in such a short reply, but it’s definitely a need, opposed to just a desire or want.

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By *rotica xCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow/Portugal

I'm a fully owned submissive to my Dom. The idea of a man who is confident, naturally reassuring and feeling trusting enough to know that he knows what makes me tick and gets me off is a major turn on.

With women I'm naturally Dominant, but only in the bedroom. I'm equally submissive outside but I take the reins but always and only under instruction of my Dom. I know to never put another sub in a position where she needs to use a safe word etc I just follow her energy with how her body reacts and her eyes. It's always in the eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am neither but I enjoy both types of dynamic. I’m probably best described as a switch, although realising I actually had any sub-tendencies was very much a recent revelation. However it is an area of exploration in which I’m a novice. Until relatively recently I have been quite vanilla sexually. Kink is gradually being added to as mutual exploration deepens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a switch and have identified as such for as long as I can remember. Definately feel like I'm just wired this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most things in life are grey.......

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