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"If it's on your mind, say it. I always feel less anxious when I've done the parent talk to my (grown up) children, even though they laugh at my lectures sometimes. They know my advice is coming from the right place." | |||
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"Hi all, Having seen yet again this morning another young person has been stabbed, its a scary time for our younger generation. My son (19) is off to Nottingham to see his friends at the uni there, leaving today coming back sunday. I havent mentioned anything to him yet but i have this overwhelming feeling of dread that this new stupid craze is on the increase. Should i have a chat before he leaves about being safe , hes 19 but not a streetwise kid if you know what i mean. Or should i trust his instincts to stay safe ? A concerned dad " I'd reiterate the advice you've already had. Plus tell him to stay with friends, don't be out alone, if it looks like theres trouble somewhere to steer clear and walk away. I have a suspicion there's always been knife crime, but the current wave is now headline news and making us more aware. It's also fuelling the fire and increasing the occurrences. One things for sure, there's precious little you can do to defend against a knife. I've stood in front of one 5 times and been stabbed 3. Make sure he knows he can call you any time with no fear of being judged. | |||
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"I was worried before, turn on the tv this morning and another has been stabbed, 6 in 7 days...terrible. The advice to stay in the group is very sound " That is good advice don't leave your friends on their own especially if out and been drinking. Always stick together... go home together. | |||
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"If it's on your mind, say it. I always feel less anxious when I've done the parent talk to my (grown up) children, even though they laugh at my lectures sometimes. They know my advice is coming from the right place." Mine used to say "oh mum" before rolling their eyes and laughing at my concerns. They don't laugh now they are mothers...with sons! | |||
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"OP...all of the above is excellent advice. On a less practical note, I tell my teenagers that I love them. Every day, and more than once. Maybe it doesn't count for much in this world today, but it means a lot to me, and them I hope." It will mean everything to them. | |||
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"OP...all of the above is excellent advice. On a less practical note, I tell my teenagers that I love them. Every day, and more than once. Maybe it doesn't count for much in this world today, but it means a lot to me, and them I hope. It will mean everything to them." I'm sure it does, as long as it's not in public! | |||
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"OP...all of the above is excellent advice. On a less practical note, I tell my teenagers that I love them. Every day, and more than once. Maybe it doesn't count for much in this world today, but it means a lot to me, and them I hope. It will mean everything to them. I'm sure it does, as long as it's not in public!" I'm sure it's still as welcomed, just not as openly | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct" PS..ours are in their thirties, we still worry about them at times, it doesn't go away whatever age they are. | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct" Maybe the OP is not looking for advice, as such, but rather the sharing of a major concern? | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct" I guess he's looking for the right approach maybe? Not sure your relationship with you son OP but if you want to tell him your concerns definitely tell him any other way you would talk to him about a serious matter. These stabbings are horrible but life needs to go on, we can't be hermits because of these random stabbings... it makes me mad, so mad that this is happening but we just have to keep calm and carry on I suppose. | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct Maybe the OP is not looking for advice, as such, but rather the sharing of a major concern?" He asked this "Should i have a chat before he leaves about being safe , hes 19 but not a streetwise kid if you know what i mean. Or should i trust his instincts to stay safe ?" Hence my reply. | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct Maybe the OP is not looking for advice, as such, but rather the sharing of a major concern? He asked this "Should i have a chat before he leaves about being safe , hes 19 but not a streetwise kid if you know what i mean. Or should i trust his instincts to stay safe ?" Hence my reply. " Just a scary time for any parent... | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct Maybe the OP is not looking for advice, as such, but rather the sharing of a major concern? He asked this "Should i have a chat before he leaves about being safe , hes 19 but not a streetwise kid if you know what i mean. Or should i trust his instincts to stay safe ?" Hence my reply. Just a scary time for any parent... " Very, so why communication is the key so at least they know your concerns and will try and keep themselves as safe as they can | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct Maybe the OP is not looking for advice, as such, but rather the sharing of a major concern? He asked this "Should i have a chat before he leaves about being safe , hes 19 but not a streetwise kid if you know what i mean. Or should i trust his instincts to stay safe ?" Hence my reply. Just a scary time for any parent... Very, so why communication is the key so at least they know your concerns and will try and keep themselves as safe as they can" I pray that even just one person chooses not to go out with a knife this weekend. Makes that concious decision. Makes that change. | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct" It is instinct hence my concern, there have been suggestions that i hadnt thought of. I dont profess to be the perfect parent, just a concerned one. | |||
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"The vast majority of knife crime victims are gang affiliated so you should not be overly worried. Also the fact that your son has a father that is willing to speak to him and give him sound advice further reduces the risk of him getting into trouble. Never carry a weapon to protect yourself from another weapon, I’m sure he will be fine pal. The fact you are concerned shows your a good dad and having good parents is worth it’s weight in gold " | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct It is instinct hence my concern, there have been suggestions that i hadnt thought of. I dont profess to be the perfect parent, just a concerned one. " You asked should you talk to your son...hence my reply which I stand by | |||
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"Hi all, Having seen yet again this morning another young person has been stabbed, its a scary time for our younger generation. My son (19) is off to Nottingham to see his friends at the uni there, leaving today coming back sunday. I havent mentioned anything to him yet but i have this overwhelming feeling of dread that this new stupid craze is on the increase. Should i have a chat before he leaves about being safe , hes 19 but not a streetwise kid if you know what i mean. Or should i trust his instincts to stay safe ? A concerned dad " From what I've seen in Nottingham on weekend evenings, the city centre is quite well policed. It's a student city and very busy but I've never felt scared around the pub's and bars. Heading out of the city, not a chance I'd walk around those areas. Tell him to stay where it's busy and to take a tram if he's heading out the centre. As a mother of two teenage boys, I know exactly how you feel. I'm sure all will be well and he'll have a great time. | |||
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"Hide him in a bunker until brexit happens, I am sure crime will fall after brexit." yeah right. ... I'm sure it will. | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct It is instinct hence my concern, there have been suggestions that i hadnt thought of. I dont profess to be the perfect parent, just a concerned one. You asked should you talk to your son...hence my reply which I stand by " Not just kids. Found out last week someone I went to school with was stabbed and murdered just because he didn't have a light for a cigarette. He was 45. | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct" I did think that too. | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct PS..ours are in their thirties, we still worry about them at times, it doesn't go away whatever age they are." Ruggers, my baby who you kindly offered to help when she was at uni in Derby is now 28 and married, I still worry about her and her older sisters too! | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct PS..ours are in their thirties, we still worry about them at times, it doesn't go away whatever age they are. Ruggers, my baby who you kindly offered to help when she was at uni in Derby is now 28 and married, I still worry about her and her older sisters too!" Blimey, how the time has flown. I feel old now | |||
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"It is a very worrying time, even for kids in groups, so yes a talk about it is essential. To be honest I am not sure why a parent would need advice from others of whether to do that , it should be an instinct It is instinct hence my concern, there have been suggestions that i hadnt thought of. I dont profess to be the perfect parent, just a concerned one. You asked should you talk to your son...hence my reply which I stand by Not just kids. Found out last week someone I went to school with was stabbed and murdered just because he didn't have a light for a cigarette. He was 45." I wonder what goes on in a persons head who wants to carry a knife knowing they might be going to use it. You are right , it can happen to anyone but at the moment the stabbings especially in London seem to be targeting youngsters. | |||
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"Op I understand your worries, it’s perfectly natural for a parent to feel afraid for their child’s safety. However, Nottingham is not a bad city. It’s where I’m originally from and despite living in Bedworth for the last 4 years, I still follow the local news in Nottingham as well as here. In recent weeks there have been more incidents to make you worry here in Coventry and Warwickshire than there have been in Nottingham. Just the other night a teenager was stabbed after an altercation between a large group of girls. Oh and last night a 2 year old student was stabbed in the back of the head during a robbery at his accommodation in Godiva place. I know it’s hard but please try not to worry too much " Well hes there now and no doubt will be on the lash, the original post was just voicing concerns, its a shitty time we're in, should never have to caution your 19 yr old against random stabbings. | |||
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