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"I can understand your taking offence at that, but in truth, everyone makes assumptions. Opinion is based on interpretation of known facts. there are always more facts than anyone can know (this goes for the greatest scientists and most knowledgeable philosophers as well as the most ignorant amongst us) so ALL opinions are based on certain assumptions and prejudices. The trick is not to make no assumptions, the trick is not to let our assumptions close our minds to the possibility of new information, or facts which do not fit into the regular pattern of our own knowledge......" Brilliantly said. Op, she was ignorant of your condition , that is all, one could say that it led you to make assumptions about her. On my course (counselling) we are learning to see what prejudices and assumptions we all bring to any relationship. The trick is to be aware and not let them influence our decisions. | |||
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"We all make assumptions whether we are conscious of it or not. How many of us "assume" that we aren't sure of our playmates history so choose to play safe? Yes, some assumptions can make you seem an "Ass" but it really is a very popular trait, and may be the trainers should look for another quote "I think you make a good point JJ, we have to have a starting point and we often make assumptions to get started but there is a difference between an assumption which is generally flexible and open to adjustment and judgements which are another altogether. | |||
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"Its a shame you chose to see this as a negative. By cooking a nice meal and saying you had done it yourself would in itself have changed her assumptions. " i agree, challenging assumptions is something i do every day...i have been involved with the S.O.P.H.I.E foundation in a very periphial way. We all bring assumptions to every situation, being open to having them changed is something that can change someones life. | |||
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"but it really is a very popular trait, and may be the trainers should look for another quote "And not only because it's a tired out old cliche.  | |||
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"but it really is a very popular trait, and may be the trainers should look for another quote
And not only because it's a tired out old cliche. "ooops, should have said "common" trait, not popular | |||
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"but it really is a very popular trait, and may be the trainers should look for another quote
And not only because it's a tired out old cliche.
ooops, should have said "common" trait, not popular
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"Its a shame you chose to see this as a negative. By cooking a nice meal and saying you had done it yourself would in itself have changed her assumptions. " To be fair it was the lady that ended the night not me, I am used to assumptions and now do not let them bother me. Life is short enough as it is to let things bother you. | |||
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"I don't assume anything but I do have lots of curiousity and am wondering how you read and reply to these forums/messages? "i assume he has a very clever guide dog but i might be proved wrong | |||
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"I don't assume anything but I do have lots of curiousity and am wondering how you read and reply to these forums/messages? "The nice people at Apple and the understanding people at nuance. They both do forms of screen readers. Tech is king  | |||
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"Someone once told me this to assume makes an 'ass (of) u (and) me' so I never assume anything." yes your so right xxx  | |||
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"I don't assume anything but I do have lots of curiousity and am wondering how you read and reply to these forums/messages? i assume he has a very clever guide dog but i might be proved wrong"She is very clever but crap at typing | |||
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"I don't assume anything but I do have lots of curiousity and am wondering how you read and reply to these forums/messages?
The nice people at Apple and the understanding people at nuance. They both do forms of screen readers. Tech is king "That went completely over the top of my head! Altho I am blonde and people always assume I'm thick, but to be honest, they're usually right | |||
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"I don't assume anything but I do have lots of curiousity and am wondering how you read and reply to these forums/messages? i assume he has a very clever guide dog but i might be proved wrong
She is very clever but crap at typing"does she keep hitting the pause button ? | |||
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"I don't assume anything but I do have lots of curiousity and am wondering how you read and reply to these forums/messages? i assume he has a very clever guide dog but i might be proved wrong
She is very clever but crap at typing does she keep hitting the pause button ?"That made me laugh | |||
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"I don't assume anything but I do have lots of curiousity and am wondering how you read and reply to these forums/messages? i assume he has a very clever guide dog but i might be proved wrong
She is very clever but crap at typing"sounds like me | |||
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"Last night I had a lady over for a meal (none site), one of the mom's from my daughters school. I spent the time cooking a meal, wine good music. Half way though the meal she say's "where did you get the food it is really tasty". I answer "I cooked it myself", she replies " oh because you are blind I thought you wouldn't be able to cook". The night ended soon after. The question is do you assume or have you assumed something, then thought after wish I hadn't done that" I would assume there is some limitations to what you can do cooking, although I am sure you must have adapted how you do things. I don't think it is a bad thing to not know how people with disabilities live their lives and we will probably all assume unless we have asked a question or been told. Hell I can't cook with good eyesight, so hats off to you !! | |||
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"Its a shame you chose to see this as a negative. By cooking a nice meal and saying you had done it yourself would in itself have changed her assumptions. " +1 | |||
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"PS...no I don't regret if I have assumed something and have been put right....we all learn that way." As I was told the day I was registered blind as everyone gets older their eyesight usually gets worst and most learn to adapt. As for cooking most people will cook when they are hungry enough. | |||
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"Well I'm about to make a massive assumption. I'm assuming that the 3 bottles that I have standing outside in the yard to chill, will in fact be full of cider. I'm basing that assumption on the what is stated on the on the label. It says 'Cider'. So assuming that the label is correct, things are going swimmingly up till now. I'm going to be even more daring now and will go on to assume that around 6.00 I'll be taking the top off the first bottle and consuming it's contents, assuming of course that the contents are in fact cider. Based on past experience, I'll further assume the same for the remaining 2 bottles and then I'll assume I may be pissed afterwards. I'll then go on to make an arsehole of myself, I assume." | |||
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"PS...no I don't regret if I have assumed something and have been put right....we all learn that way. As I was told the day I was registered blind as everyone gets older their eyesight usually gets worst and most learn to adapt. As for cooking most people will cook when they are hungry enough. " Tell that to Mr Ruggers, he would starve first ! | |||
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"PS...no I don't regret if I have assumed something and have been put right....we all learn that way. As I was told the day I was registered blind as everyone gets older their eyesight usually gets worst and most learn to adapt. As for cooking most people will cook when they are hungry enough. Tell that to Mr Ruggers, he would starve first !" As with everything in life there is an exception to the rule | |||
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" "I cooked it myself", she replies " oh because you are blind I thought you wouldn't be able to cook". People do this to me at times think my reading wrighting crap i cant do things as well as thay can .............. but i can if not better some things . Makes me mad at times too xx" I have to admit it knocked me sideways at first but taking time to think it over I think the lady was probably shocked that I do everyday things like everyone else. | |||
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" "I cooked it myself", she replies " oh because you are blind I thought you wouldn't be able to cook". People do this to me at times think my reading wrighting crap i cant do things as well as thay can .............. but i can if not better some things . Makes me mad at times too xx I have to admit it knocked me sideways at first but taking time to think it over I think the lady was probably shocked that I do everyday things like everyone else. " maybe she was thinking it was so fucking good xxxhow could you have done it xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx lol xx | |||
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" "I cooked it myself", she replies " oh because you are blind I thought you wouldn't be able to cook". People do this to me at times think my reading wrighting crap i cant do things as well as thay can .............. but i can if not better some things . Makes me mad at times too xx I have to admit it knocked me sideways at first but taking time to think it over I think the lady was probably shocked that I do everyday things like everyone else. maybe she was thinking it was so fucking good xxxhow could you have done it xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx lol xx" Pity she never got to the massage, there something's sight is not required for lol. Been told before how good I am at cooking, just takes me ages to prepare | |||
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" "I cooked it myself", she replies " oh because you are blind I thought you wouldn't be able to cook". People do this to me at times think my reading wrighting crap i cant do things as well as thay can .............. but i can if not better some things . Makes me mad at times too xx I have to admit it knocked me sideways at first but taking time to think it over I think the lady was probably shocked that I do everyday things like everyone else. maybe she was thinking it was so fucking good xxxhow could you have done it xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx lol xx Pity she never got to the massage, there something's sight is not required for lol. Been told before how good I am at cooking, just takes me ages to prepare" well you stay true to yourself ........... only why i can cope with things xx my spelling crap i cut pate but cant do it 24/7 | |||
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" "I cooked it myself", she replies " oh because you are blind I thought you wouldn't be able to cook". People do this to me at times think my reading wrighting crap i cant do things as well as thay can .............. but i can if not better some things . Makes me mad at times too xx I have to admit it knocked me sideways at first but taking time to think it over I think the lady was probably shocked that I do everyday things like everyone else. maybe she was thinking it was so fucking good xxxhow could you have done it xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx lol xx Pity she never got to the massage, there something's sight is not required for lol. Been told before how good I am at cooking, just takes me ages to preparewell you stay true to yourself ........... only why i can cope with things xx my spelling crap i cut pate but cant do it 24/7" Positive mental attitude does wonders | |||
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"I make loads of assumptions and generally I don’t regret many… I assume some people are married because of how they behave. I assume some streets aren’t a good place to leave my car. I assume parking next to a battered and scratched car at the supermarket may result in dents in my doors. I assume it’s not a good idea to count how much money is in my purse whilst standing next to a bunched of chavs hanging out outside the off-license. I assume a lot of people haven’t read my profile and delete their messages. I assume my mate will turn up in about 30 minutes.... and so all my bits are fresh and smooth. The trick is knowing when it’s better to make an assumption than to keep an open mind.... and vice versa." It is very true, most people assume it is natures way of self protection. Just when you invite someone to your home( and not that many get though my door) you think that they would presume that you would do the cooking. | |||
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"Shame it spoiled the night to be honest Probably a shock reaction that lead to a statement many may have said flippantly and not meaning any offence by it Somtimes we all guilty of being human xx "Be interesting Monday morning at school no doubt | |||
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"I make loads of assumptions and generally I don’t regret many… I assume some people are married because of how they behave. I assume some streets aren’t a good place to leave my car. I assume parking next to a battered and scratched car at the supermarket may result in dents in my doors. I assume it’s not a good idea to count how much money is in my purse whilst standing next to a bunched of chavs hanging out outside the off-license. I assume a lot of people haven’t read my profile and delete their messages. I assume my mate will turn up in about 30 minutes.... and so all my bits are fresh and smooth. The trick is knowing when it’s better to make an assumption than to keep an open mind.... and vice versa. It is very true, most people assume it is natures way of self protection. Just when you invite someone to your home( and not that many get though my door) you think that they would presume that you would do the cooking. " Presume? Hmmmm | |||
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"PS...no I don't regret if I have assumed something and have been put right....we all learn that way. As I was told the day I was registered blind as everyone gets older their eyesight usually gets worst and most learn to adapt. As for cooking most people will cook when they are hungry enough. " aye just considering that option now. lol | |||
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"I make loads of assumptions and generally I don’t regret many… I assume some people are married because of how they behave. I assume some streets aren’t a good place to leave my car. I assume parking next to a battered and scratched car at the supermarket may result in dents in my doors. I assume it’s not a good idea to count how much money is in my purse whilst standing next to a bunched of chavs hanging out outside the off-license. I assume a lot of people haven’t read my profile and delete their messages. I assume my mate will turn up in about 30 minutes.... and so all my bits are fresh and smooth. The trick is knowing when it’s better to make an assumption than to keep an open mind.... and vice versa. It is very true, most people assume it is natures way of self protection. Just when you invite someone to your home( and not that many get though my door) you think that they would presume that you would do the cooking. Presume? Hmmmm "So if you were invited around for a meal would you presume that the host would cook | |||
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"PS...no I don't regret if I have assumed something and have been put right....we all learn that way. As I was told the day I was registered blind as everyone gets older their eyesight usually gets worst and most learn to adapt. As for cooking most people will cook when they are hungry enough. aye just considering that option now. lol" Saturday night cooking usually ends up being a bottle lol | |||
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"PS...no I don't regret if I have assumed something and have been put right....we all learn that way. As I was told the day I was registered blind as everyone gets older their eyesight usually gets worst and most learn to adapt. As for cooking most people will cook when they are hungry enough. ha ha no chance. 100% alcohol free here. Chilli con carne methinks, quick n easy. aye just considering that option now. lol Saturday night cooking usually ends up being a bottle lol" | |||
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"oops  "Drink cider sure it counts towards your five a day lol | |||
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Drink cider sure it counts towards your five a day lol"you getting fruity? | |||
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Drink cider sure it counts towards your five a day lol
you getting fruity? "Saturday night half way though a bottle of single malt, he'll yes I am getting fruity | |||
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Drink cider sure it counts towards your five a day lol
you getting fruity?
Saturday night half way though a bottle of single malt, he'll yes I am getting fruity"correct assumption then | |||
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Drink cider sure it counts towards your five a day lol
you getting fruity?
Saturday night half way though a bottle of single malt, he'll yes I am getting fruity
correct assumption then "It is all good almost clean fun | |||
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