FabSwingers.com forum: What do you think when people drop preferences for you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it, they must really like something about me.

They're settling for 2nd/3rd/etc best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ones ever told me they’re dropping their preferences for me so unsure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some preferences that are stated as a form of filtering and some which are hard and fast.

I have had socials with ladies who will never play with a married man, but they have 'flexed' their rules enough to meet me for a chat.

I see it as a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No ones ever told me they’re dropping their preferences for me so unsure "

I'm not saying they have to let you know, it can be told by looking at their profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I see preference as different from requirement. I bend my preferences all the time, and it can mean little or nothing, because they're things that would be nice. My requirements don't move.

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By *rebor1955Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"There are some preferences that are stated as a form of filtering and some which are hard and fast.

I have had socials with ladies who will never play with a married man, but they have 'flexed' their rules enough to meet me for a chat.

I see it as a compliment."

Unless you went on to play them then they have stuck to their rules rather than flexed them surely

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"No ones ever told me they’re dropping their preferences for me so unsure

I'm not saying they have to let you know, it can be told by looking at their profile"

Why dont you just ask them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some preferences that are stated as a form of filtering and some which are hard and fast.

I have had socials with ladies who will never play with a married man, but they have 'flexed' their rules enough to meet me for a chat.

I see it as a compliment.

Unless you went on to play them then they have stuck to their rules rather than flexed them surely "

I don't understand what you mean.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Has happened me over height, I would rather they went with a taller guy and left me alone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No ones ever told me they’re dropping their preferences for me so unsure

I'm not saying they have to let you know, it can be told by looking at their profile

Why dont you just ask them

Ask them why they waved their preferences?

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I think that people have a physical set of preferences, and a personality/mental compatibility. The second of which is far more likely with some interaction, either in real life or on a forum where they can gauge your personality.

It is tricky to box up something so complex as attraction into a few tick boxes..

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Preferences are just that. What someone prefers, rather than something being set in stone.

And, once in a while, we encounter someone who challenges our pre-concieved ideas/ preferences..

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I guess there's a difference between saying I'm horny you'll do vs while I usually go for... we've got such a fantastic connection that I really don't care that's not you and want to meet you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)"

Then, if I do not meet their rigid requirement, they are not for me.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)"

I'd consider it to be kind of sweet. I have a friend with a very specific requirement. But I know of one man she's played with who utterly misses that mark and she thinks he's so fabulous it's the one time she didn't care.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"No ones ever told me they’re dropping their preferences for me so unsure

I'm not saying they have to let you know, it can be told by looking at their profile

Why dont you just ask them

Ask them why they waved their preferences?"

Yes because normally they are only a guide after all.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

It's happen to me over my age. One lady had her age preference some 10 years younger than me; we got chatting through the forum and then met; we had a fantastic time together and the very next day she raised her age limit.

So, if you have preferences but are flexible with them you discovery something positive.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)"

I sometimes get messages saying things like "we normally only meet special women not like you, but we're prepared to make an exception". I don't entertain it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)

I sometimes get messages saying things like "we normally only meet special women not like you, but we're prepared to make an exception". I don't entertain it. "

That's how I see it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I assume a man has ignored his usual preferences over me I either think yes, I'll chat to him, or no, don't fancy him.

Why he's done it I don't know or care. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)"

I would point out to them that I'm not blah blah blah and wait for their reply.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Preferences just mean you prefer something over something else. Doesn't mean you ruled out anyone.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I hope our personalities over come these preferences.

If it's gym fit bodies and unlived faces , I stand no chance with anyone.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't express many of my preferences or weaknesses (in terms of things I find incredibly hot). They're all negotiable. My requirements are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I wouldn't really know if they had, unless something was very specifically stated on their profiles ie no brunettes, no short women etc. What sort of preferences are you talking about Op?

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"To be honest I wouldn't really know if they had, unless something was very specifically stated on their profiles ie no brunettes, no short women etc. What sort of preferences are you talking about Op? "

It's a height thing at a guess

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's a height thing at a guess"

Any preference, whether it's race, height, tattoos, endowment, body type etc.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If they messaged me and their profile said no women over size 14 or over 40 (just an example).I would message back an say I'm not for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

High priestess of penis states that "preferences aren’t set in stone. Even the most fussy people like myself will bend preferences if the person is obscenely handsome (like Morningstar) with a big dick."

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

My preferences are not set in stone. Age range 38-48 on my profile but just winked at a 36 yr old as everything else pairs up. I'm not lowering my standards in anyway.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

It's a height thing at a guess

Any preference, whether it's race, height, tattoos, endowment, body type etc."

Well I've met skinny and a dad bod but that's not on my profile. A lot of people use athelic on profiles but my idea of athelic could be different from others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it, they must really like something about me.

They're settling for 2nd/3rd/etc best."

If I didn't meet what it said on their profile ie. Age, size I wouldn't even reply, so would never meet

I wouldn't change my preference just for a meet

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

When we were meeting you wouldn’t believe how man of the people we met had shit like ‘ quality over quantity ‘ , and such stupid phrases on it .

We are the complete opposite , meeting and playing with over a thousand people over the years . So there’s half the folk we met that changed from what they wrote on their profile .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a height thing at a guess

Any preference, whether it's race, height, tattoos, endowment, body type etc."

I don't think I met anyone who was that specific!

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"When we were meeting you wouldn’t believe how man of the people we met had shit like ‘ quality over quantity ‘ , and such stupid phrases on it .

We are the complete opposite , meeting and playing with over a thousand people over the years . So there’s half the folk we met that changed from what they wrote on their profile .

Blokes generally say that because they think it's what women want to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"High priestess of penis states that "preferences aren’t set in stone. Even the most fussy people like myself will bend preferences if the person is obscenely handsome (like Morningstar) with a big dick.""

If someone worded it like that to me I’d tell them to stick their preferences up their arse!

I don’t need anyone to bend anything for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we were meeting you wouldn’t believe how man of the people we met had shit like ‘ quality over quantity ‘ , and such stupid phrases on it .

We are the complete opposite , meeting and playing with over a thousand people over the years . So there’s half the folk we met that changed from what they wrote on their profile .

Blokes generally say that because they think it's what women want to hear. "

You can have quality and quantity. There’s also just quantity....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone worded it like that to me I’d tell them to stick their preferences up their arse!

I don’t need anyone to bend anything for me."

Haha half the people who winked me have a profile that resembles that

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Is it, they must really like something about me.

They're settling for 2nd/3rd/etc best."

4th, 5th or just some lonesome lady.

Just stop moaning and get on with it, and count yourself lucky she picked you and prepared to give you a chance now don't fuck it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some preferences that are stated as a form of filtering and some which are hard and fast.

I have had socials with ladies who will never play with a married man, but they have 'flexed' their rules enough to meet me for a chat.

I see it as a compliment.

Unless you went on to play them then they have stuck to their rules rather than flexed them surely "

I imagined they were chatting with the view of the next meeting being something more.

So they have relaxed their rules by meeting even for a social, someone who is attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it, they must really like something about me.

They're settling for 2nd/3rd/etc best.

4th, 5th or just some lonesome lady.

Just stop moaning and get on with it, and count yourself lucky she picked you and prepared to give you a chance now don't fuck it up. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless they say, how would I know they have dropped their preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me my preference is tall older men. But if someone intrigues me enough I will meet shorter men as long as they are taller than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless they say, how would I know they have dropped their preferences?"

Unless they have moved their age filter I suppose x

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"When we were meeting you wouldn’t believe how man of the people we met had shit like ‘ quality over quantity ‘ , and such stupid phrases on it .

We are the complete opposite , meeting and playing with over a thousand people over the years . So there’s half the folk we met that changed from what they wrote on their profile .

Blokes generally say that because they think it's what women want to hear.

You can have quality and quantity. There’s also just quantity...."

We had an incredible quantity of quality .

We were very lucky

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Preferences are just that. What someone prefers, rather than something being set in stone.

And, once in a while, we encounter someone who challenges our pre-concieved ideas/ preferences.."

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