FabSwingers.com forum: Forum Hesitation

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

I type something out then think ‘fuck it, no one really cares do they?’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. I didn't post on these forums for months cause I didn't think anybody would really care about my opinion. That's changed though and I don't shut up now after taking the plunge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the sarcastic fabbers and the keyboard warriors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

^ this.

Sometimes the ban is so worth the freedom of speech

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

^ this.

Sometimes the ban is so worth the freedom of speech

Indeed. It's not my problem if some people cannot handle the truth. It is quite amusing when given a timeout, like a naughty kid put on a naughty step or having sweets taken away for 3 days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*pauses for thought*

Many many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Women on FAB actually get banned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

Rarely but perhaps sometimes I ought to particularly when I’m not feeling well

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Often tone down responses ... or resist

I'd never be here if I said exactly what I thought sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Women on FAB actually get banned?

Not me sir

. Never ever. Banned? What’s that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

Many times I have done that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Women on FAB actually get banned?

Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

^ this.

Sometimes the ban is so worth the freedom of speech

Indeed. It's not my problem if some people cannot handle the truth. It is quite amusing when given a timeout, like a naughty kid put on a naughty step or having sweets taken away for 3 days

I had a ban once for 'bullying'. I was completely gobsmacked because my 'comment was just this emoji

It was in response to a TV saying he was very convincing and nobody ever stared when he went out dressed in public. I thought he was joking, hence my response. Turns out he wasn't

I did pm and apologise though as I would never deliberately be unkind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Women on FAB actually get banned?

Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer

And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?).

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Yes, a fair amount. It also depends on what I'm writing and what frame of mind I'm in.

As you say though, sometimes I just think "what's the point", it's highly unlikely that even the most reasoned argument will change someone's stance.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes. More so now than ever.

But some of the posters saying yes? I thought they did a fuck load already.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Women on FAB actually get banned?

Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer

And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?)."

You are nosey aren’t you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, or I read through it all and think this thread is going to end badly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Women on FAB actually get banned?

Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer

And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?)."

Obviously not....

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Women on FAB actually get banned?

Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer

And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?).

You are nosey aren’t you? "

Perhaps he should try to get a ban to see what's it like haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Women on FAB actually get banned?

Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer

And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?).

You are nosey aren’t you?

Perhaps he should try to get a ban to see what's it like haha"

Me, never, I am friendly and nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a lot. The internet is rubbish for rational discussion so I generally defer to taking the piss or flouncing out..

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

Yeah I never used to but through fear of offending I dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never, people need to hear my opinion and it’s vital they do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, a fair amount. It also depends on what I'm writing and what frame of mind I'm in.

As you say though, sometimes I just think "what's the point", it's highly unlikely that even the most reasoned argument will change someone's stance. "

That is kind of my way about it. I don't shy away from speaking up or offering my opinion but I notice a losing battle (not that I'm right/wrong) but no amount of logic, or detailed explanation will ever change the view point or stance of the targeted party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do hesitate quite a bit, 99% of the time our threads get ignored anyway so sometimes we see something and sometimes we will comment and then see loads of replies to everyone else and not us. we see threads and see who the posters are and think fuck it there isn’t any point!.

Sometimes if we feel strongly about a subject we will comment regardless, swings and roundabouts really. We aren’t phased by it anymore to be honest lol.

Danish x

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Yes, a fair amount. It also depends on what I'm writing and what frame of mind I'm in.

As you say though, sometimes I just think "what's the point", it's highly unlikely that even the most reasoned argument will change someone's stance.

Yeah this. So often I type out a reply. Then change my mind deciding it's not worth the heartache when I get nonsense in reply.

Same with Facebook or Twitter (mostly. Had an amazingly amusing exchange yesterday that livened up my lunchtime but that's because every reply I got was more conspiracy theory nonsense then the last...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban."

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. But i think it's more because i can't be arsed to get into an in depth debate with someone. Far too time consuming

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Sometimes. But i think it's more because i can't be arsed to get into an in depth debate with someone. Far too time consuming

Better time management is the answer there. I have alloted times during the day;

8-8.45 - argue with strangers

1-1.30 - vent my spleen

6-7 - chess with pigeons

I find it's very useful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes. But i think it's more because i can't be arsed to get into an in depth debate with someone. Far too time consuming

Better time management is the answer there. I have alloted times during the day;

8-8.45 - argue with strangers

1-1.30 - vent my spleen

6-7 - chess with pigeons

I find it's very useful "

Very productive indeed. I wish i had the same discipline

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No im a gobby cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had a ban for bitching.... So does that mean everyone should be banned on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occassionally and I must learn not to bite as much. However, I believe some comments shouldn't just be ignored for an easy life as then it almost accepts that it's OK.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Frequently but it’s usually because I type something out and then think ‘no one will be interested in that drivel’ or someone has already made the point I was going to.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"Occassionally and I must learn not to bite as much. However, I believe some comments shouldn't just be ignored for an easy life as then it almost accepts that it's OK."

I’m glad you do. Yours is often the voice of reason. I’ve often read your posts and thought you summed things up a lot better than I could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Occassionally and I must learn not to bite as much. However, I believe some comments shouldn't just be ignored for an easy life as then it almost accepts that it's OK.

I’m glad you do. Yours is often the voice of reason. I’ve often read your posts and thought you summed things up a lot better than I could

Ha ha Not that well for my frequent trips off here! Just can't help myself sometimes when we are supposed to be discussing and it's like talking to a wall!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban."

You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure I should post a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He who hesitates masterbates

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

Think before I speak? No not a condition I suffer with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think with me it depends on how much time I have on my hands

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't often delete or even edit what I say - when I do it's usually because I've taken so long to type out a point that the point has already been made (and usually more succinctly) or the thread has changed tangent since I started typing.

I'll occasionally delete because I think life's too short and it's not worth getting into an argument - sometimes, especially with particularly opinionated posters, it's a question of picking your battles and it not being worth wasting your breath - although like Saffron I do think when someone is way off the mark with an opinion that leaving it uncountered is as good as agreeing with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't often delete or even edit what I say - when I do it's usually because I've taken so long to type out a point that the point has already been made (and usually more succinctly) or the thread has changed tangent since I started typing.

But if you hadn’t of agreed with Saffron, you couldn’t of said on the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

......just did, then thought fuck it......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes as already been reported by someone lol because I said I found them a 2 out 10 and got banned for bullying for 3days even though they were asking for rates out of ten

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just go with it, whatever I write usually either gets ignored or kills the thread.

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By *rinthiaMan
over a year ago

dundee

so you can get banned from here?

didnt realise this was a thing!

heres me thinking people have a sence of humour to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban.

You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher.

The young 'uns won't get that reference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban.

You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher.

The young 'uns won't get that reference.

No. I don’t understand that at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban.

You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher.

The young 'uns won't get that reference.

No. I don’t understand that at all

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Yes ..I can't be arsed to get into an argument

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup far too often

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban.

You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher.

The young 'uns won't get that reference.

Shut up godber

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I frequently change my mind because I can’t be bothered with the argument I know will follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I want to reply to a post I Will, if I don't post it's because I'm not that interested enough to spend time typing.

I haven't been on here cor a long time but when I was posting regularly I always posted my opinion regardless but never had a forum ban because you don't need to be rude to state your opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I want to reply to a post I Will, if I don't post it's because I'm not that interested enough to spend time typing.

I haven't been on here cor a long time but when I was posting regularly I always posted my opinion regardless but never had a forum ban because you don't need to be rude to state your opinion."

I liked your posts. And your outfits.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I type then delete. Sometimes a thread is set up to goad people and it’s just pointless. Sometimes people are spoiling for a fight, I’m not interested in being part of that so I don’t bother. I’m sure I’m not missing out on anything either

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Learnt to hold back especially when you realise in the grand scheme of things, completely pointless.

Had myself a nice time out from the forums and have found myself a lot happier avoiding the nonsense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time - I even start threads and then realise I don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, sometimes people just don’t get it and are condescending and judgmental. No matter what I wrote they wouldn’t understand. X

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I just type out a short reply and wait for people to engage with it. If the topic isn't full a few days later i'm likely to reply to that.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

5 days on the naughty step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I reply I feel I have to make a contribution to the thread...hmmm failed again

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"5 days on the naughty step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah thank you very much x

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"5 days on the naughty step

Sometimes you're worth it..

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Often and if I think a thread is going to get nasty or out of hand.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

Abort abort abort. Mission compromised, I say again, mission compromised, abort.

That's the noise my back button makes.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time!! Especially if the thread is getting long.... I hate being the one that kills a thread!! Have thought about deleting this one....but being brave and risking it!!

PT x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the time, and when I have commented, it usually results in a forum time out

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

I normally write something out, then think I am being way over the top, then delete it, then send it to a friend.. then post a modified version..

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Yeah I do that, normally if I wont be back to the thread and the post might require a followup.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

All the time!

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Yes. Not worth posting just for the sake of it if i don't feel strongly about the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"5 days on the naughty step

I can't believe you'd ever do anything naughty....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

Abort abort abort. Mission compromised, I say again, mission compromised, abort.

That's the noise my back button makes..... "

Haha accurate representation of my thought process when I do it

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

Abort abort abort. Mission compromised, I say again, mission compromised, abort.

That's the noise my back button makes.....

Haha accurate representation of my thought process when I do it

I wish I could add it as a key tone.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just had 3 separate instances of doing it just now. Didn't have the energy or fucks to continue a discussion (which would turn to an argument) once I'd replied to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I've lost count of the times I've hovered my thumb over the 'Post Message' button and then thought "What's the point? They're doing such a good job of hanging themselves anyway" and carried on regardless

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

Do this many times sometimes it is just not worth the hassle.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation

more often than I care to say sometimes you just have a second though and realise they are just not worth it.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"5 days on the naughty step

Sometimes you're worth it.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this too. I'm also guilty though of sometimes seeing a thread and thinking of a post but, in trying to write it off quickly, it ends up littered with spelling mistakes and then I have to send another one to correct it and then because I was rushing it ends up fucked up so I "remove post" which then puts another entry for me on the thread and then any credibility I might of had is well and truly gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve changed over time the way I post.

I try not to reply in haste, give myself time to word a response in a way that’s not going to end up in a slanging match and a timeout.

I say what I think but I’m not good with confrontation and try and steer clear of drama lamas

Occasionally I go at it full steam ahead if someone has pressed my buttons & I think I’m right, however I’m happy to admit when I get it wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All. The. Time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hesitate, but only on occasions I find myself needing to be a little assertive. Generally I just share my thoughts/opinions and tell the truth. Some of the well known forumites don't like it, but that has never stopped me.

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